Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[tamithomas]

Merry Christmas to me, AF just showed. :: I'm so upset.

Pretty sure I'm in the same boat with cramps and hot flashes just no actual AF yet but surely around the corner. Due on Friday. So thankful I'm staying home alone with DH for the whole holiday this year. Wouldn't be able to handle my family's million and one kids around. At least you're not alone in this

 

[LillyTame]

Finally hit the one year mark

Feeling so bah humbug right now.

I love checking on my BnB ladies and seeing new BFPs or pregnancies going well but each post leaves me with an ache in my gut and heart and head!

 

[madtowngirl]

Thanks for that, tamithomas. I was really hoping this would be your month, too.

LillyTame, I agree, it's hard sometimes. This is the most supportive place I have found so far, but it is sort of bittersweet when others get their bfps. I have found that I am much happier for the ladies here, though.

Prior to this year, I never really noticed how kid-centric this whole Christmas thing is. Every Christmas episode of TV series is "oh we're totally pregnant," and tons of commercials feature announcements or pregnant women. It seems to be rare that a happy, child-free couple is featured. Thanks for rubbing salt in the wound, network television!

 

[DAISYPRENCESS]

First round on clomid and I feel that AF is on her way .

 

[wannabemummyb]

I feel like lttc makes me a person I don't like..... Another pregnancy announcement on fb and I'm happy for her as she's had multiple mc but also I feel jealous and a little bitter that it's not me! That is not the sort of person I am normally and it makes me sad.

We are planning a holiday with our in laws in September and despite knowing how desperately we want a baby and being one of a handful of real life people who know about the latest mc, she jokingly told me not to get pregnant before the holiday! I felt like a red hot poker had been shoved through my heart - I know she meant nothing by it but my fear is I probably won't be pregnant by then and it means I would be moving onto 5 years lttc. Sigh

 

[sugarpi24]

im not really in the christmas spirit all of a sudden...it just hit me and its depressing...i see all these pictures on FB of kids opening presents and everything...and it sucks! AF should be here soon so that doesnt help either.

 

[Myshelsong]

Santa didnt bring me a child .. Is it weird that I hate Santa a little more this time around?

 

[PusherLuvGirl]

Hey ladies!

I am a newbie here and I've read through some of your posts. I have PCOS and have been TTC for a little over 2 years now and it's most definitely frustrating that's it hasn't worked. My OB put me on Metformin and fertility drugs so hopefully Jan 2014 will bring us all good news. Keep your heads up ladies. Our little blessings will come.

 

[wannabemummyb]

Not quite ttc related but my dad was meant to be coming to us for boxing day......this is the first year ever i've not seen my dad on christmas day.....but he can't come now as his village is flooded and its near impossible to get out

Wasn't looking forward to christmas for reasons aforementioned and now this!

Also add to this a bout of insomnia

Oh happy holidays!

Hope you all survived the children centric day yesterday

 

[PyrusEK]

I'm not sure Santa is paying much attention to the LTTTCers this year.

I deactivated my Facebook a few months ago, and it was a fantastic decision. I don't think I could handle that news feed right now.

Wannabemummyb- I hope everything turns out ok with your Dad! Storms and flooding suck.

 

[madtowngirl]

Wannabemummyb, I hope all is well with your father. I've been thinking about flou and Pbl_ge. I know they are on break, but I hope they are okay.

 

[nobump]

Yeah I,m happy for you, but why announce it by changing your profile pic to your scan.

 

[tamithomas]

So fed up of mothers who have been there done that being condencending. In another forum I'm in there was a discussion about birthing and was trying to explain to a man how birthing is like as repeated what I've been told is the best answer so that men can understand I answered "from what I've heard" which is the pooping theory and I got the usual from a Mother "it certainly was not like pooping but I guess you wouldn't know" followed by the usual unless you've been there rhetoric.

So fed up, child rearing is not an exclusive club!!!! Would you say the same to childfree midwives who've attended hundreds of births? Yes, you're a Mother but that does not make goddamn holier than thou with the only rights to speak about child birth. Get off of your high horse and take that silver spoon out of your back side

 

[Myshelsong]

I hate this year. I just pulled my back out so I am bed ridden and my period is starting .... Oh the humiliation ...

 

[JJKCB]

So fed up of mothers who have been there done that being condencending. In another forum I'm in there was a discussion about birthing and was trying to explain to a man how birthing is like as repeated what I've been told is the best answer so that men can understand I answered "from what I've heard" which is the pooping theory and I got the usual from a Mother "it certainly was not like pooping but I guess you wouldn't know" followed by the usual unless you've been there rhetoric.

So fed up, child rearing is not an exclusive club!!!! Would you say the same to childfree midwives who've attended hundreds of births? Yes, you're a Mother but that does not make goddamn holier than thou with the only rights to speak about child birth. Get off of your high horse and take that silver spoon out of your back side

not being rude but yes I would say that to the midwife lol, if you havnt experienced something you cant accurately describe it... its obviously not your fault but its the same when a man tries to tell you what a period feels like - it always feels like people are putting you down when they say its like 'pooping' it is very much a completely different feeling (unless you poop from your front in a straight line reaching up to your rib cage) and im yet to meet any woman who had a natural birth who has ever compared it to pooping

 

[tamithomas]

So fed up of mothers who have been there done that being condencending. In another forum I'm in there was a discussion about birthing and was trying to explain to a man how birthing is like as repeated what I've been told is the best answer so that men can understand I answered "from what I've heard" which is the pooping theory and I got the usual from a Mother "it certainly was not like pooping but I guess you wouldn't know" followed by the usual unless you've been there rhetoric.

So fed up, child rearing is not an exclusive club!!!! Would you say the same to childfree midwives who've attended hundreds of births? Yes, you're a Mother but that does not make goddamn holier than thou with the only rights to speak about child birth. Get off of your high horse and take that silver spoon out of your back side

not being rude but yes I would say that to the midwife lol, if you havnt experienced something you cant accurately describe it... its obviously not your fault but its the same when a man tries to tell you what a period feels like - it always feels like people are putting you down when they say its like 'pooping' it is very much a completely different feeling (unless you poop from your front in a straight line reaching up to your rib cage) and im yet to meet any woman who had a natural birth who has ever compared it to pooping

Was that really necessary? This is a vent thread hence venting. I shouldn't have to defend my vent or feel belitted on here of all places. Did not expect the "unless you've been there" here as well. No I was not being put down for the description, I was being put down for not having been there so having no right to describe it bs.

ps if you start your sentence with "this may be rude but" chances are it is.

 

[DBZ34]

Very true, Tami. You shouldn't have to defend your vent....because that's what you're doing, venting.

I feel like it's not about not knowing what it's like, it's being told that you can't know and I hate that crap.

I got told I wouldn't know about taking care of a baby once (because I don't have one of my own) and I totally went off. Mostly because my mom was a single mom and I took care of not one, but two of my siblings from newborn on to school age. I did the night feeds and getting up at all hours (I spent my junior year of high school as a zombie), the swaddling, the diaper changing, getting them dressed, the singing and the reading bedtime stories...It was like my mom and I were living in a domestic partnership where I was the stay at home mom and she worked. I did pretty much everything because I knew how tired my mom was and it was the least I could do to help her. I know more about diaper rash cures than I should considering I have no kids of my own. So excuse me if I take offense to someone telling me I wouldn't know because I don't have kids of my own. it's hurtful no matter how you mean it.

We all have our own experiences and it's not for anyone else to belittle that. Even if we haven't been there, done that.

 

[madtowngirl]

Thank you for reminding me that I'm infertile, cruel world.

 

[wannabemummyb]

Another bfn and af is still awol. So annoyed my body has gone back to being irregular, it took two years to get me regular; hoping mc hasn't sent my body into a tailspin

 

[Kayotic]

not being rude but yes I would say that to the midwife lol, if you havnt experienced something you cant accurately describe it... its obviously not your fault but its the same when a man tries to tell you what a period feels like - it always feels like people are putting you down when they say its like 'pooping' it is very much a completely different feeling (unless you poop from your front in a straight line reaching up to your rib cage) and im yet to meet any woman who had a natural birth who has ever compared it to pooping

I've never compared it to pooping, but I have compared it to gallstones! In fact, I had gallstones WHILE laboring. (and my whole pregnancy and 10 months after birth) and I can not tell you which is worse. They're both up there in level of pain.