Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[wannabemummyb]

Af has lasted 8 days so far.....10 days last month, having a 28 day cycle makes it tough to get in enough bd! I guess i should be happy pcos has not made my af go awol but seriously one extreme to the other.

Ended up getting all teary on dh this morning, because ive been feeling positive since we started trying again but now im back to feeling its never going to happen

 

[BabyPrayers21]

Welcome BabyPrayers21, and sorry you find yourself here. I'm also 31 and just starting fertility treatments. I don't have a whole lot of advice to add, but I can relate to the frustration of doctors who think we are still young. I suppose, in some ways, we are, but I want to have more than one kid, so I don't feel like I have a lot of time to dink around!

Thank you for your warm welcome madtowngirl! I'm just happy that my ob/gyn is proactive and i've already had a lot of tests done so all the specialist will have to do is come up with a plan of action. I just hate not knowing.

I look forward to sharing my journey and experiences with you.

Prayers and baby

 

[Nysz]

An acquaintance on facebook got pregnant a week after she got married. Congrats to you but I don't need to your pregnancy posts being shoved it in my face especially when you know that I've been TTC'ing for almost 5 years.

A cousin who just had her 4th baby boy ranted on facebook that she dreamt she finally had a girl but realised that it was just a dream and cos of so, she cried. Seriously woman, seriously? You've had 4 beautiful kids and still you're complaining?

And oh, those who gave comments to me like "oh, don't sweat it, it'll come", "you just gotta be patient", "Don't get too stressed about it", mostly are those who are NOT even married yet. Thanks for the "advice". Maybe when you are married and having trouble conceiving, you'll understand.

Pfft. On a blocking/hiding rampage now in fb.

 

[Kaylakin]

Thanks to my insurance company not picking up the phone despite my calling multiple times and leaving messages with the answering service, I have to sit out a month. I was all set to start in a few weeks the injections for a fresh IVF . I need day 3 bloodwork to get approved through insurance but I missed it by 3 days because no one called me back or answered the phone. No one else cares if I have to wait another month. It's nothing to them. Is everything to me. I was counting the days until I could start, and this is just one setback after another. I've had 2 failed FETs leading up to this and it's just more bad news.. One thing after another... I feel like giving up...

 

[BabyPrayers21]

Thanks to my insurance company not picking up the phone despite my calling multiple times and leaving messages with the answering service, I have to sit out a month. I was all set to start in a few weeks the injections for a fresh IVF . I need day 3 bloodwork to get approved through insurance but I missed it by 3 days because no one called me back or answered the phone. No one else cares if I have to wait another month. It's nothing to them. Is everything to me. I was counting the days until I could start, and this is just one setback after another. I've had 2 failed FETs leading up to this and it's just more bad news.. One thing after another... I feel like giving up...

I am so sorry to hear that you have to go through this. I know right now nothing anyone can say will help. I am just beginning my infertility journey and Just waiting for my initial consult is making me crazy. However, I have made myself take my anger or disappointment and turn it into determination. I am determined to get pregnant and I will do anything it takes bumps and all. Try and channel your anger and frustration. I know waiting another month sucks but in the end you will get a sweet lil sticky bean. Focus on that. Focus on the fact that no matter all the shit you are going through it will eventually have a happy ending. I know its hard. I feel the same way but focusing on having a lil one has helped me to cope with all the crap.

Prayers and baby

 

[madtowngirl]

Imo, if an insurance company makes you miss treatment for any reason, they should be on the hook for the entire cost of said treatment.

But I'm bitter towards insurance companies to begin with. I'm sorry Kaylakin.

 

[JJKCB]

flicking channels and accidentally landed on 'one born every minute' and a women saying:

I never wanted kids, it was never my plan - I was told I was infertile and had a ovarian cyst and I was on the pill and we where using condoms but I still got pregnant... its not fair


are you fucking kidding me????

how do they do it???

but its great you told the whole world your child was an unwanted accident and your not happy about it... you are aware they will grow up to see that ffs

 

[nobump]

Argh!!!! Programs should come with may contain pregnant women warnings! Just watching Michael McIntyre oh and they anounce Holly Willoughby is pregnant, surprise number 3 baby is due!!! I don't want to know!

 

[BabyPrayers21]

Argh!!!! Programs should come with may contain pregnant women warnings! Just watching Michael McIntyre oh and they anounce Holly Willoughby is pregnant, surprise number 3 baby is due!!! I don't want to know!

Ugh I feel yah. I had to go have my CD 21 tests done and I swear every pregnant woman that goes to that practice was there this morning. I can handle one pregnant lady being around but a whole slew of them is just a bit much. This didn't really start happening to me til my doc referred me to a RE.

 

[PiggieFarmer]

I had to go have my CD 21 tests done and I swear every pregnant woman that goes to that practice was there this morning. I can handle one pregnant lady being around but a whole slew of them is just a bit much. This didn't really start happening to me til my doc referred me to a RE.

Is this at your RE? My RE's office has no pregnant women that I have noticed. (After all, you don't go to an RE if you are pregnant!) They even have a posted notice that you can't bring kids. Awesome.

 

[BabyPrayers21]

I had to go have my CD 21 tests done and I swear every pregnant woman that goes to that practice was there this morning. I can handle one pregnant lady being around but a whole slew of them is just a bit much. This didn't really start happening to me til my doc referred me to a RE.

Is this at your RE? My RE's office has no pregnant women that I have noticed. (After all, you don't go to an RE if you are pregnant!) They even have a posted notice that you can't bring kids. Awesome.

No I haven't met my RE yet. We don't go til next month and the waiting is torture. My ob/gyn ordered all the tests to be done prior to meeting the RE. I was referred because I had something elevated in my CD3 tests. I can't remember what it exactly was. I think I maybe blocked it out cuz I didnt want bad news.

 

[Kaylakin]

Babyprayers,
Thanks for your reply. I am trying to focus on working out and staying busy despite the setback. It does help to imagine a positive outcome.. And hopefully all of this crap will be worth it. I'm so frustrated because it took me 3 months for each FET at my old clinic, which is not acceptable. I wish I hadn't wasted time there, but I can't look back...just have to keep moving forward..

 

[Kaylakin]

Babyprayers,
That sucks that you have to go to the obgyn for testing first. That must be torture seeing all of those pregnant people...Are you done with your testing for now until you see the RE?

 

[Msmith9]

Best friend just informed me that her sister accidentally got pregnant... But that they are starting to get excited about the idea of having a baby now.

 

[BabyPrayers21]

Babyprayers,
That sucks that you have to go to the obgyn for testing first. That must be torture seeing all of those pregnant people...Are you done with your testing for now until you see the RE?

Kaylakin it does suck but at least the RE will have all the info and it won't prolong whatever treatment I may need. I am done testing from now til then thank goodness. We go May 21st. It's going to be a long 6 weeks.

 

[BabyPrayers21]

Babyprayers,
Thanks for your reply. I am trying to focus on working out and staying busy despite the setback. It does help to imagine a positive outcome.. And hopefully all of this crap will be worth it. I'm so frustrated because it took me 3 months for each FET at my old clinic, which is not acceptable. I wish I hadn't wasted time there, but I can't look back...just have to keep moving forward..

Yea I work out quite a bit and I'm busy with my two step kids and all there activities plus planning DH a surprise bday party. However I am home during the day which leaves me plenty of time to think.

 

[JJKCB]

bumped into my cousin earlier with her 2 kids (1 is only a baby) and shes already huge and showing off her new bump and she didn't even acknowledge me or say hello

 

[BabyPrayers21]

bumped into my cousin earlier with her 2 kids (1 is only a baby) and shes already huge and showing off her new bump and she didn't even acknowledge me or say hello

Ouch! I'm sure that didn't make you feel very good. Does she know that you have been trying for a while? Maybe she didn't want to rub it in you face? I know its hard I'm feeling worse and worse about seeing others with so many kids an pregnant. One day we will have our lil beans and they will more 1,000 times more to us because we've waited so long for them.

Thought and baby

 

[nobump]

Successful shopping trip to Ikea, only blighted by the fact you are forced to work through the childrens sections, full of kids, and pregnant women!

 

[wannabemummyb]

Another scan type pregnancy announcement and a birth announcement. Why is everyone pregnant but me? Feel like i must have been evil in a previous life