Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[DBZ34]

Some people just don't respect the miracle of life or the struggle some of us go through. I read that story too and it just pissed me off.

 

[nobump]

I think she also said she had had some miscarriages at 14 weeks so was glad to know she could carry beyond that. And something about can always have another one.

Some of us can't have one, and have to wait years for treatment on NHS.

 

[madtowngirl]

Not only did my husband's cousin announce her pregnancy on FB today, I also got a freaking BILL from my insurance company for my last progesterone check. I haven't had to pay anything other than a specialist copay so far, and now suddenly they want to charge me an arm and a leg for a freaking blood draw.

I wish the universe would just cut me a break. I don't understand what horrible thing I must have done in the past to deserve this.

 

[nobump]

Yeah, baby number 2 for you! Happy for you, but please don't let the chat in work be demoniated by baby talk tomorrow!

 

[madtowngirl]

So because, like a moron, I listened to the nurses at my OB/GYN clinic, I have thrown away an entire cycle of trying. They told me to prevent this cycle, that I would be getting my hsg done this cycle. But nooooooooo, doctor wants me to do another round of Clomid, which I can't freaking do until next cycle now. I'm so freaking angry. I am so sick of doctors who won't take me seriously. I guess this baby thing just isn't meant to happen for me.

 

[Diddy2013]

rant about ranters.... (not here on another website)

a woman complaining how after fighting infertility in her ltttc whit the doctors refusing to help she has now been side swiped by her best friend and sister falling pregnant which she sure they did just to spite her

so far sounds normal like everything we have all been through and you can relate right?

until you read her ACTUAL details:

'Ltttc' for: 2 MONTHS (this is her 3rd month)
infertility: SELF DIAGNOSED (because obviously it hasn't happened yet so never will)
the doctor: WONT HELP BECAUSE ITS ONLY BEEN 2 DAMN MONTHS BUT SHE IS GOING TO 'DEMAND' HELP APPARENTLY
her sister: HAS BEEN PREGNANT LONGER THAN SHE HAS EVEN BEEN TRYING SO CLEARLY JUST TO SPITE HER

seriously FFS, there are women on that board who have been trying 10+ years, I have only been trying for 2 and im already watching people on their 2nd babies now and this woman is kicking off because 'no one could possibly know how hard it is for her because she deserves it more than anyone else after this long battle'

words, their are just no word for how STUPID and DELUDED this woman is, at 2 months your not even trying yet... it takes at least 3 months to come up with an average on your cycle (length, ovulation, LP etc...)

I came here to vent and be angry and now honestly I'm glad I'm not the only pissed off sounding person. This post particularly made me slam my palm into my forehead. Yeah 2 months is "so long." I can't even fit two cycles into that time frame. That woman is a looney toon.

While most blissfully wait two weeks to ovulate I have to wait three, and I only ovulate then thanks to clomid crazy pills!

 

[JJKCB]

frustration: well I started Oing again a few months ago (nobody knows why but im not objecting ) and have spent the last few months tracking an checking...

I have a standard 5 day MP, an irregular ovulation (anywhere from 1 week to 4 week wait) and a regular 11 day LP and my last cycle was 24 days (although irregular ovulation can change cycle length)

well now im on CD38 (week 5) at 16 DPO and a lot of pregnancy signs (no AF symptoms, allergies gone wild, high hard cervix with watery mucus *sorry*, my sciatic nerve is going mad and ive had cramping on 10 DPO etc... I never cramp not even during AF) but still no BFP at all not even a mild hint of one and yet everyone else seems to get them at 9 DPO

we tried like hell this cycle and threw everything at it (had HSG last cycle, tried every baby-making legend, tip, suggestion, BD every day a couple of time for 14 days straight except for one day and use tonnes of pre seed bought vitamins etc... just everything you can think of)

feels like my life has been on hold for 2 years but now I feel trapped in a weird limbo where in not 'pregnant' and not 'not pregnant'

whats worse is now I know I Od and am overdue Ive become a mad woman obsessed where as before I would just of thought of it as normal long cycle

trying not to get my hopes up but then I hear some people dont get positives until 7 weeks and get all excited again - whoever is in charge please take me off hold because im sick of bloody waiting for answers

 

[JJKCB]

rant about ranters.... (not here on another website)

a woman complaining how after fighting infertility in her ltttc whit the doctors refusing to help she has now been side swiped by her best friend and sister falling pregnant which she sure they did just to spite her

so far sounds normal like everything we have all been through and you can relate right?

until you read her ACTUAL details:

'Ltttc' for: 2 MONTHS (this is her 3rd month)
infertility: SELF DIAGNOSED (because obviously it hasn't happened yet so never will)
the doctor: WONT HELP BECAUSE ITS ONLY BEEN 2 DAMN MONTHS BUT SHE IS GOING TO 'DEMAND' HELP APPARENTLY
her sister: HAS BEEN PREGNANT LONGER THAN SHE HAS EVEN BEEN TRYING SO CLEARLY JUST TO SPITE HER

seriously FFS, there are women on that board who have been trying 10+ years, I have only been trying for 2 and im already watching people on their 2nd babies now and this woman is kicking off because 'no one could possibly know how hard it is for her because she deserves it more than anyone else after this long battle'

words, their are just no word for how STUPID and DELUDED this woman is, at 2 months your not even trying yet... it takes at least 3 months to come up with an average on your cycle (length, ovulation, LP etc...)

I came here to vent and be angry and now honestly I'm glad I'm not the only pissed off sounding person. This post particularly made me slam my palm into my forehead. Yeah 2 months is "so long." I can't even fit two cycles into that time frame. That woman is a looney toon.

While most blissfully wait two weeks to ovulate I have to wait three, and I only ovulate then thanks to clomid crazy pills!

yep I had to leave the forum or I was going to say something not very friendly lol

she seriously needs a reality check

their was another one the other day that I had to just walk away from that made me so mad even though ive never had a miscarriage... there was a woman saying she was miscarrying AGAIN and why is the world so cruel - well loads of people rushed to support her and someone asked 'how far gone where you' and it turned out she was never pregnant has never had a positive pregnancy test or doctor confirmation or anything and was just getting her periods and classing them a 'miscarriages'

 

[wildchic]

rant about ranters.... (not here on another website)

a woman complaining how after fighting infertility in her ltttc whit the doctors refusing to help she has now been side swiped by her best friend and sister falling pregnant which she sure they did just to spite her

so far sounds normal like everything we have all been through and you can relate right?

until you read her ACTUAL details:

'Ltttc' for: 2 MONTHS (this is her 3rd month)
infertility: SELF DIAGNOSED (because obviously it hasn't happened yet so never will)
the doctor: WONT HELP BECAUSE ITS ONLY BEEN 2 DAMN MONTHS BUT SHE IS GOING TO 'DEMAND' HELP APPARENTLY
her sister: HAS BEEN PREGNANT LONGER THAN SHE HAS EVEN BEEN TRYING SO CLEARLY JUST TO SPITE HER

seriously FFS, there are women on that board who have been trying 10+ years, I have only been trying for 2 and im already watching people on their 2nd babies now and this woman is kicking off because 'no one could possibly know how hard it is for her because she deserves it more than anyone else after this long battle'

words, their are just no word for how STUPID and DELUDED this woman is, at 2 months your not even trying yet... it takes at least 3 months to come up with an average on your cycle (length, ovulation, LP etc...)

I came here to vent and be angry and now honestly I'm glad I'm not the only pissed off sounding person. This post particularly made me slam my palm into my forehead. Yeah 2 months is "so long." I can't even fit two cycles into that time frame. That woman is a looney toon.

While most blissfully wait two weeks to ovulate I have to wait three, and I only ovulate then thanks to clomid crazy pills!

yep I had to leave the forum or I was going to say something not very friendly lol

she seriously needs a reality check

their was another one the other day that I had to just walk away from that made me so mad even though ive never had a miscarriage... there was a woman saying she was miscarrying AGAIN and why is the world so cruel - well loads of people rushed to support her and someone asked 'how far gone where you' and it turned out she was never pregnant has never had a positive pregnancy test or doctor confirmation or anything and was just getting her periods and classing them a 'miscarriages'

Lol about the woman who said she was miscarrying, yet she wasn't even pregnant. Although, I was told by my fs that sometimes you can be pregnant, but because of lining issues, you get your period on time and actually miscarry. But to be sure she was having a miscarriage without confirmation!! Some women are just a bit over the top, IYKWIM!

 

[Diddy2013]

their was another one the other day that I had to just walk away from that made me so mad even though ive never had a miscarriage... there was a woman saying she was miscarrying AGAIN and why is the world so cruel - well loads of people rushed to support her and someone asked 'how far gone where you' and it turned out she was never pregnant has never had a positive pregnancy test or doctor confirmation or anything and was just getting her periods and classing them a 'miscarriages' [/QUOTE]


WOW. Some women have no clue. I can say that a miscarriage is much different than a period... Talk to me after two rounds of Cytotec and then we can compare lol.

 

[Swtpinkbabi]

So this was how my day went; As I'm sitting at my desk praying that after these 9 dang years, just maybe it will be successful this cycle, my co-worker comes and says her granddaughter is pregnant and chickened out on her abortion this morning. I was completely dumbfounded, not that she was pregnant, I just knew it happen soon enough, but that she would attempt abortion. However she does have 3 other babies that she ran off and left with family members. She has only been living here 6 months and already created another beautiful being that she doesn't want, and here I am waiting and waiting for my one miracle

 

[Diddy2013]

So this was how my day went; As I'm sitting at my desk praying that after these 9 dang years, just maybe it will be successful this cycle, my co-worker comes and says her granddaughter is pregnant and chickened out on her abortion this morning. I was completely dumbfounded, not that she was pregnant, I just knew it happen soon enough, but that she would attempt abortion. However she does have 3 other babies that she ran off and left with family members. She has only been living here 6 months and already created another beautiful being that she doesn't want, and here I am waiting and waiting for my one miracle

I can't imagine how hard/frustrating that would have been...especially after 9 years

 

[DBZ34]

frustration: well I started Oing again a few months ago (nobody knows why but im not objecting ) and have spent the last few months tracking an checking...

I have a standard 5 day MP, an irregular ovulation (anywhere from 1 week to 4 week wait) and a regular 11 day LP and my last cycle was 24 days (although irregular ovulation can change cycle length)

well now im on CD38 (week 5) at 16 DPO and a lot of pregnancy signs (no AF symptoms, allergies gone wild, high hard cervix with watery mucus *sorry*, my sciatic nerve is going mad and ive had cramping on 10 DPO etc... I never cramp not even during AF) but still no BFP at all not even a mild hint of one and yet everyone else seems to get them at 9 DPO

we tried like hell this cycle and threw everything at it (had HSG last cycle, tried every baby-making legend, tip, suggestion, BD every day a couple of time for 14 days straight except for one day and use tonnes of pre seed bought vitamins etc... just everything you can think of)

feels like my life has been on hold for 2 years but now I feel trapped in a weird limbo where in not 'pregnant' and not 'not pregnant'

whats worse is now I know I Od and am overdue Ive become a mad woman obsessed where as before I would just of thought of it as normal long cycle

trying not to get my hopes up but then I hear some people dont get positives until 7 weeks and get all excited again - whoever is in charge please take me off hold because im sick of bloody waiting for answers

When did you get a positive test with your first pregnancy?

Do you temp?

 

[JJKCB]

first pregnancy we where NTNP at the time so I just thought it was a long cycle, I got a positive first time at 7 and a half weeks

I dont temp but have been monitoring cervix, mucus, opks etc...

 

[Hope3]

I'm really annoyed that my hubby doesn't seem to be taking the whole alcohol & sperm health thing seriously.

Here am I pumping myself full of different vitamins & not drinking when I'd love a large red wine and he goes & buys a massive bottle of whiskey which I know won't stay full for long.

 

[JJKCB]

mine finally cut back mildly after the FS told him his sperm was 'drunk' but he back to drinking again... does my head in, men just dont get it

 

[DBZ34]

Don't get me started on my DH and drinking....I had to practically shout the house down to get him to lay off three months before our IUI. Okay, that's a bit of an exaggeration....it's more like I had to nag him for a week and a half straight to get him to stop. There were some raised voices though...and some googling of alcohol's effects on sperm. And when I tell him about all the things I've started doing or given up for the sake of TTC, like alcohol for instance, he says things like "You don't have to do that". Of course I don't have to do it, I do it because I want a baby more than I want a drink. He doesn't get that though. Ugh....

 

[Myshelsong]

I am packing up my bathroom for the move and I stumbled across a Pregnancy test that I purchased when we first started trying. It has now expired .... I never even got to use it because I have never had a Pregnancy "scare".
I think it just hit me how long we have been actively trying, those things take YEARS to expire!

woe is me today

 

[Hope3]

Don't get me started on my DH and drinking....I had to practically shout the house down to get him to lay off three months before our IUI. Okay, that's a bit of an exaggeration....it's more like I had to nag him for a week and a half straight to get him to stop. There were some raised voices though...and some googling of alcohol's effects on sperm. And when I tell him about all the things I've started doing or given up for the sake of TTC, like alcohol for instance, he says things like "You don't have to do that". Of course I don't have to do it, I do it because I want a baby more than I want a drink. He doesn't get that though. Ugh....

Instead of me telling hubby that he should cut down on the alcohol (which he usually fails to do after promising he will) I thought I'd find an article proving my point and just leave it for him to read. Instead I found the opposite - https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-18407647

I wish the experts would make up their minds!!

 

[DBZ34]

Not showing that to the DH. I'll try not to worry as much, but when it comes to the IUI because we're spending all that money, I don't think I'll be able to hold back the nagging. Every little bit helps...