Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[PiggieFarmer]

Some of my favourite comments of late...

You are stronger than me! I probably would have lost my mind under such circumstance.

 

[DBZ34]

I thought I was taking it all in stride....and then BAM. Multiple announcement week. I don't know how much longer I can take this without just completely losing my mind...

 

[Myshelsong]

We are all so much more than infertility.

THIS IS WHAT WE HAVE TO REMEMBER! It is hard remembering that we are women and we are more than our inability to reproduce.

 

[Raerae513ttc]

Ok I have to join this vent! We have been TTC for 2 years. Finally got very serious and saw a fertility dr on June 30. I felt really comfortable with him and excited that maybe we would finally get pregnant! I am 32 and DH Is 36. We are beyond ready!

So the fertility dr wanted me to call when I started my next cycle so he could do blood work. Of course I started 3 days after and had all the blood work done. Everything is coming back normal, then today I get a message that I don't have antibodies for chickenpox! I never had chickenpox when I was a kid. They suggested I get the vaccine that is 2 shots 30 days apart and then I have to wait another 30 days to ttc.

I don't know what to do. I mean I have gone 32 years without getting chickenpox, but don't want to risk it while I am pregnant. I am a teacher so I was really hoping to get pregnant soon so I will have baby around the end of school. That's what I get for planning!

To make matters worse my BFF that just got married in November is already pregnant and due in December. If she says one more time I understand what you are going through I might just punch her! I think the only one who truly understands is my mom. Her and my dad tried for many years and we're unable to conceive. Instead of seeing a fertility dr they just decided to adopt, and I am so glad they did! I couldn't imagine my life without my wonderful parents.

Sorry for the long post, just frustrated and ready to start my family!

 

[MrsAM]

Hi guys

Just completed my first ivf cycle and 7 days post blastocyst transfer I have started pale pink bleeding and black and red clots....feel absolutely devastated and like my womb is defective. Just don't know why it didn't work and beginning to think I will never get a bfp. So depressed and sad.

 

[MrsAM]

And just to add again all around me everyone is pregnant my sister my sister in laws. I will knock out anyone who suggests adoption or surrogacy good for you if you want to go down those routes but I don't well not right now anyway and if I did I don't need your patronising earth mama vibes suck on it!

 

[MrsAM]

I wish I could just live in a bubble where no babies exist around me. The desire is overwhelming sometimes and the lack is actually painful.

 

[Irish_eyes]

MrsAM, firstly I just want to give you big hugs as I know exactly what you are going through. I did my NHS IVF cycle back in 2012 and approx a week after transfer I started spotting and this went in until AF arrived and I still had to do the test. Two days after our transfer my DH told me that his brothers wife was pregnant which hit hard as they were waiting on IVF for genetic purposes if that is the right term. They can get pregnant very easily but their first child has Cystic Fibrosis and they were doing the IVF to remove the CF gene to have another baby. Well she feel pg a few weeks before they were to go ahead with it.

I was pretty pissed to say the least and it was just so hard. All I can say that it does get easier. But you haven't tested yet. Are you sure it isn't implantation spotting? Hang in there.

Oh and it turned out that my bil and sil had a baby girl who thankfully didn't have CF.

 

[Hope3]

My temp dropped like a stone this morning so I'm not pregnant. doesn't seem to be in a hurry to get here though. I just want the disappointment and bad cramps to be over with already.

 

[DBZ34]

If Kate Middleton and Kim Kardashian get pregnant and have babies again before I can even manage to be pregnant with one, I going to lose it. Also, thanks Yahoo for thinking that was what I wanted to know about when I signed out of my mail today. Keep up the good work.

 

[Hope3]

This woman at work today asked me do I have any kids. I said no. She forgot that she asked me the same question a year ago. Her response then was "aren't you lucky, you can do what you want." This time her response to my no was "That's good you can go on lots of holidays".

I said nothing. More because people where I work gossip too much & I don't want everyone to know my business. What I really wanted to say was "You've asked me that already and now you're about to put your foot in it again!"

 

[Irish_eyes]

Sometimes you would just love to just tell them to f@*$ off!!!

I wish I was a bit opening with my situation because I think a few people do need to be told how it is!

 

[nessaw]

Rae I understand how you feel. Last year I found out I hadn't had the measles jab when there was an outbreak. I teach as well. So had to miss 4 months of ttc as it was a live vaccine. Did my head the world of good though it didn't seem so at the time.

 

[nessaw]

DBZ34 don't get me started on kate middleton!!!!!!

 

[MrsAM]

MrsAM, firstly I just want to give you big hugs as I know exactly what you are going through. I did my NHS IVF cycle back in 2012 and approx a week after transfer I started spotting and this went in until AF arrived and I still had to do the test. Two days after our transfer my DH told me that his brothers wife was pregnant which hit hard as they were waiting on IVF for genetic purposes if that is the right term. They can get pregnant very easily but their first child has Cystic Fibrosis and they were doing the IVF to remove the CF gene to have another baby. Well she feel pg a few weeks before they were to go ahead with it.

I was pretty pissed to say the least and it was just so hard. All I can say that it does get easier. But you haven't tested yet. Are you sure it isn't implantation spotting? Hang in there.

Oh and it turned out that my bil and sil had a baby girl who thankfully didn't have CF.

Dear Irish Eyes

Thanks for your reply and thanks for the empathy I really need it to be honest. I don't know anyone else who is going through this seems like everyone but me can get pregnant on their own thanks very much!

I am 99% sure it is not implantation spotting as it felt like my entire womb lining decided to empty itself out in one go ew sorry! There is no way in heck my blastocyst baby survived that deluge well I will know for sure tomorrow when I am supposed to test.

To be honest I just want to go onto the next step now, I think I am probably going to be one of those women whose entire life will revolve around getting pregnant and will save up all her money just for the next ivf cycle

May I ask if you have had ivf since then? Please don't feel obliged to answer.

 

[MrsAM]

This woman at work today asked me do I have any kids. I said no. She forgot that she asked me the same question a year ago. Her response then was "aren't you lucky, you can do what you want." This time her response to my no was "That's good you can go on lots of holidays".

I said nothing. More because people where I work gossip too much & I don't want everyone to know my business. What I really wanted to say was "You've asked me that already and now you're about to put your foot in it again!"

This is exactly the reason why I do not ask anyone anything about their private life. Who am I to ask whether someone has kids or not?! I did ask one lady once and she ignored it and I will never do that again. How do I know she is not going through the same pain and hope cycle that I am or perhaps as even lost her child?

Not being blessed enough to conceive naturally really has taught me an extra layer of sensitivity I never had before.

 

[Irish_eyes]

MrsAM, hang in there hun. I know how you feel about everyone else getting pregnant around you but you will find a lot of women here on BnB in the same boat and here to provide you support.

I don't mind answering your question at all, on here is were I tell all and let go. I haven't done IVF again simply because I don't have the money. So I am just trying naturally now and hoping for a miracle. I am doing acupunture and herbs and taking all sorts of vitamins and even that is a bit of a stretch on our pockets.

My DH was laid off when we were only months into TTC and was out for a full year. He finally got work doing gardening and now he is self employed but it's not great since it's really seasonal so we are never sure of funds.

 

[MrsAM]

MrsAM, hang in there hun. I know how you feel about everyone else getting pregnant around you but you will find a lot of women here on BnB in the same boat and here to provide you support.

I don't mind answering your question at all, on here is were I tell all and let go. I haven't done IVF again simply because I don't have the money. So I am just trying naturally now and hoping for a miracle. I am doing acupunture and herbs and taking all sorts of vitamins and even that is a bit of a stretch on our pockets.

My DH was laid off when we were only months into TTC and was out for a full year. He finally got work doing gardening and now he is self employed but it's not great since it's really seasonal so we are never sure of funds.

That is a shame, I hope it all works out for you both, both in terms of job security and a baby.

Did the doctors ever tell you a possible reason as to why the embryo didn't hold?

 

[Irish_eyes]

Both my embies were 4 cell. One came from an egg that was too mature. I only got two eggs and the only option was to do IVF again.

 

[Hope3]

This woman at work today asked me do I have any kids. I said no. She forgot that she asked me the same question a year ago. Her response then was "aren't you lucky, you can do what you want." This time her response to my no was "That's good you can go on lots of holidays".

I said nothing. More because people where I work gossip too much & I don't want everyone to know my business. What I really wanted to say was "You've asked me that already and now you're about to put your foot in it again!"

This is exactly the reason why I do not ask anyone anything about their private life. Who am I to ask whether someone has kids or not?! I did ask one lady once and she ignored it and I will never do that again. How do I know she is not going through the same pain and hope cycle that I am or perhaps as even lost her child?

Not being blessed enough to conceive naturally really has taught me an extra layer of sensitivity I never had before.

You're so right. It does make you wonder how many people are carrying around a secret pain, be it infertility or something else.

Why do people need to know anyway? I don't ask because I don't have to. Sooner or later if someone has children they will come up in conversation.