Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[Bma11]

I had to block my SIL from appearing on my newsfeed because she has no identity on there anymore

This!!! Times one hundred!!!

Why is it that people with children can't talk about anything but their kids any more?!?!? I'd love to be a mother but if I'm lucky enough to have that happen one day surely that won't be all that I am!

Totally agree with you guys. When ppl change their profile pic to their baby and just post everything about them I'm like ok so now you ARE a baby??? I get that you don't have much else going on for the first few months but come on. You have to have enough awareness that not everybody is as fascinated by your LO as you are and that in fact ppl would be much more interested in YOU.

Hhaa, this totally made me laugh!! "Ok so now you are a baby?" I think the same!!!

 

[lilyV]

had my first appt (rant in my ttc journal).

- my ob/gyn's office didn't send over any test results to the fert clinic that my DH and I had
- fert specialist did all these tests and scheduled a whole lot more. like, fuck. I'm so pissed. I feel like the tests are for people w serious probs. i'm doing an endo test in 2 days. I'm going on diagnostic cycle monitoring every other day. blood work. lose 30 lbs. DH is getting 3 s.a. even this his first was perfect.

fuck fuck fuck!!!! I wanna quit this shit as I feel either every test will now magically come up as problematic or as perfect. either way, feel like there's no hope and if there is, it's small and far, far, FAR away. Hating this. I don't want to tell our families but then I do so they know to leave me along bc I'm super peeved to be changing up my lifestyle for TESTS. why can't I just get preggo like so many other women out there?

 

[tamithomas]

Dear friend of mine.. I know you guys got pregnant by accident and now barely make it each month by working 50 hours a week... how dare you use that as an excuse to have friends over and drink a 40 oz of Rum while the baby is in the next room barely 3 months old! You have no clue how your friends reaction is to alcohol and could potentially be putting the baby is serious harms way. Your baby deserves better. You're the living stereotype of teen parents.

Disclaimer: Stereotype meaning I know not all teen parents are like this, I have major respect for those who step up to the plate

 

[Ltruns33]

I'm thinking of taking a short hiatus from Facebook. I can't handle it all, and I know my husband gets tired of me being hurt and upset by every other "OMG we're pregnant!" Statuses. I just break inside with each one. The pictures of kids don't bother me that much, but the updates, the pics, the bump pictures etc all really break me. At the life stage we are at (28ish) it's happening more and more. Then, it seems like more people announce on days when AF shows up?!? No kidding, today was day 1 for me, and 3..three people announced today!! Wtf? It doesn't eat me up- except that initial 5-10 min I allow myself to be a brat. But it's happening more and more and it's making me bitter and judgmental. So I figure FB is doing more harm than good for me right now. Gotta protect myself and I don't want to just defriend everyone do I'm going to have my husband change my password and not tell me. But I swear, I want to put up a status that says "hey, please don't announce/show your baby crap everywhere out of respect for those who are struggling trying to concieve" instead I'll just vent on here so I can avoid being sharp with people I care about and coming across as bitter!

 

[tamithomas]

I'm thinking of taking a short hiatus from Facebook. I can't handle it all, and I know my husband gets tired of me being hurt and upset by every other "OMG we're pregnant!" Statuses. I just break inside with each one. The pictures of kids don't bother me that much, but the updates, the pics, the bump pictures etc all really break me. At the life stage we are at (28ish) it's happening more and more. Then, it seems like more people announce on days when AF shows up?!? No kidding, today was day 1 for me, and 3..three people announced today!! Wtf? It doesn't eat me up- except that initial 5-10 min I allow myself to be a brat. But it's happening more and more and it's making me bitter and judgmental. So I figure FB is doing more harm than good for me right now. Gotta protect myself and I don't want to just defriend everyone do I'm going to have my husband change my password and not tell me. But I swear, I want to put up a status that says "hey, please don't announce/show your baby crap everywhere out of respect for those who are struggling trying to concieve" instead I'll just vent on here so I can avoid being sharp with people I care about and coming across as bitter!

This is why I made a new account on Facebook and pretended that Facebook locked my old one so I was "forced" to make a new one. The one I have now I have refused every invite from the parents that i know do this or just never zip it about their kids, it feels so much better.

 

[ickle pand]

I hide people from my news feed so I don't have to stumble on their 15th update of the day about how hard it is to be pregnant, but I don't need to unfriend them and can still go and read how they're doing if I'm in the right place.

I've also worked out what my fb announcement is going to be when we finally get there. I'm going to include how long we've been trying and what we've had to go through to get there and there won't be any pictures and I'm also going to say that I'll be keeping all the pregnancy updates off fb out of respect for our friends who's had similar struggles or just don't care that we're expecting. I'll set up a baby blog and people can go there if they want updates.

 

[ChartsNHearts]

I've also worked out what my fb announcement is going to be when we finally get there. I'm going to include how long we've been trying and what we've had to go through to get there ... I'm also going to say that I'll be keeping all the pregnancy updates off fb out of respect for our friends who's had similar struggles or just don't care that we're expecting

That's a lovely idea

 

[ickle pand]

Thanks. I stole it from someone else though lol!

I had one friend who was happy she could "finally announce" that she was pregnant before she was 4 weeks gone. And it's not like she'd been trying for years and that's why she was so pleased, she'd only been with her bf for 6 months. She then mentioned her pregnancy every day for 10 days so she got binned before I went insane.

 

[nobump]

My doc asked me to go see him after our appointment at private clininc... clinic said that I need to get an AMH test, thought he would just arrange it, but no he needs to wait on a letter from the clinic! Argh it all takes to long!

 

[Kamsmom2009]

How about the people that post constant updates on facebook about their baby bump/bitching about pregnancy symptoms/their pregnancy? Does anyone think this is okay or am I the only who is irritated?

Amen! It's sad when friends complains of the pregnancy symptoms and I've been on clomid 11 cycles now and still no BFP!! I would give anything to be glued to the toilet right now. Ugh

 

[ickle pand]

Thanks. I stole it from someone else though lol!

I had one friend who was happy she could "finally announce" that she was pregnant before she was 4 weeks gone. And it's not like she'd been trying for years and that's why she was so pleased, she'd only been with her bf for 6 months. She then mentioned her pregnancy every day for 10 days so she got binned before I went insane.

And now I feel like a bitch because she gave birth today 5 weeks early. Baby is fine but only 4lbs 14oz. A quick scan through her timeline shows she was posting throughout the labour so I'm glad I hid her.

 

[tamithomas]

Thanks. I stole it from someone else though lol!

I had one friend who was happy she could "finally announce" that she was pregnant before she was 4 weeks gone. And it's not like she'd been trying for years and that's why she was so pleased, she'd only been with her bf for 6 months. She then mentioned her pregnancy every day for 10 days so she got binned before I went insane.

And now I feel like a bitch because she gave birth today 5 weeks early. Baby is fine but only 4lbs 14oz. A quick scan through her timeline shows she was posting throughout the labour so I'm glad I hid her.

4lbs 14oz and 5 weeks early? that was what I weighed when my mom gave birth to me and only gave birth 3 days early

 

[ickle pand]

Lol! That seems tiny to me. Babies in my family are all over 7lbs lol

 

[tamithomas]

Seriously life,we need to talk... this is some cruel joke right? A friend of mine who humped everything that moved for the past 10 years, suddenly decided to find a girlfriend 3 months ago... he's going to be a father in 7 months! I usually don't rage over BFP's, I usually am sad yet happy for the couple. But this one took the cake. I got angry instead of sad. A guy who doesn't know what steady relationship is if his life depended on it gets to have the most precious gift in life yet many of us go empty handed. Such a cruel joke. This is why I don't believe in natural selection.

 

[lilyV]

I'm so sorry, tami... try to remember there are a whole lot of other good things you've probably been handed in life, or made for yourself by your own means... *hugs*

with regard to your last comment... hmmmm.... natural selection as in survival of the fittest?

 

[tamithomas]

I'm so sorry, tami... try to remember there are a whole lot of other good things you've probably been handed in life, or made for yourself by your own means... *hugs*

with regard to your last comment... hmmmm.... natural selection as in survival of the fittest?

No, natural selection as in who does and doesn't get to breed lol. But you're right though, to remember the good things in life. It just makes no sense whenever I hear someone not even looking to be a parent or has zero capabilities of being one manage to get it so easy. One of them days I guess

 

[lilyV]

definitely. one of these days. fx

 

[xxMrsMcKxx]

So happy i found this forum as there's nobody around me that understands the sheer emotion that comes when TTC.

I know they say when you're TTC all you see if pregnant people and babies everywhere - but seriously THERE IS!!. Fed up with everyday seeing new posts on FB about someone else who's expecting, or someone else complaining about their pregnancy because they feel 'fat'. Believe me women - you are not fat. To me you look like the most beautiful woman in the world and you don't understand how much my heart sinks when i hear you complain.

 

[lilyV]

welcome, mrs mckxx!

 

[nobump]

Hubby just said he think that by the time we get to the front of the que on the NHS he'll be too old for kids!
OH 48 ME 37