Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[Ready4it]

uggghhh!

 

[Lazydaisys]

Hoping for bfps for everybody. It's really not fair. I do not understand. I'm not kidding this is totally ruining my life. I've never been so miserable.

Tomorrow I have to attend a meeting at work for a family that have had their two kids taken of them for safeguarding reasons, they had so many chances to keep their kids. Now they barely attend their visiting sessons. How can I sit there and listen to their rubbish? Their childrn have been so emotionally damaged. How could they let their children get took off them? Don't they realise how lucky they were!!! Obviously they don't, no doubt they will get pregnant again and have some more.

 

[mineral123]

I am sick of my friends (who get pregnant 1st cycle) telling me to just stop trying so hard and just let it happen ... really you think I havnt been doing that for the past 22 cycles! I get told oh its obviously just not your time yet or these things happen in there own time and then when I finally do get pregnant cycle 14 I have a miscarriage and they say well maybe it was for the best or oh it must of been a bad egg and everyone forget thats just happened to me and fuss over my sister in law whos now expecting and expect me to put a smile on my face and be ok with that apparently its not a baby at 6 weeks accoring to my mother so really I dont need to greive apparently.

Just want a baby so so much so difficult watchibg people get bfps when I know mine wont be x

 

[mineral123]

Hoping for bfps for everybody. It's really not fair. I do not understand. I'm not kidding this is totally ruining my life. I've never been so miserable.

Tomorrow I have to attend a meeting at work for a family that have had their two kids taken of them for safeguarding reasons, they had so many chances to keep their kids. Now they barely attend their visiting sessons. How can I sit there and listen to their rubbish? Their childrn have been so emotionally damaged. How could they let their children get took off them? Don't they realise how lucky they were!!! Obviously they don't, no doubt they will get pregnant again and have some more.

I feel so sad for these children. Dont understand how parents can be this way ! I dont blame you for not wanting to sit through the meeting ... try stay strong as hard as it will be then come have another cry/rant on here chin up always light at end of tunnel x

 

[CareBear]

Hoping for bfps for everybody. It's really not fair. I do not understand. I'm not kidding this is totally ruining my life. I've never been so miserable.

Tomorrow I have to attend a meeting at work for a family that have had their two kids taken of them for safeguarding reasons, they had so many chances to keep their kids. Now they barely attend their visiting sessons. How can I sit there and listen to their rubbish? Their childrn have been so emotionally damaged. How could they let their children get took off them? Don't they realise how lucky they were!!! Obviously they don't, no doubt they will get pregnant again and have some more.

I also work in child safeguarding and read about this on a daily basis and sit in these type of meetings with parents too. Some days it gets to you.

 

[venapols]

I am sick of my friends (who get pregnant 1st cycle) telling me to just stop trying so hard and just let it happen ... really you think I havnt been doing that for the past 22 cycles! I get told oh its obviously just not your time yet or these things happen in there own time and then when I finally do get pregnant cycle 14 I have a miscarriage and they say well maybe it was for the best or oh it must of been a bad egg and everyone forget thats just happened to me and fuss over my sister in law whos now expecting and expect me to put a smile on my face and be ok with that apparently its not a baby at 6 weeks accoring to my mother so really I dont need to greive apparently.

Just want a baby so so much so difficult watchibg people get bfps when I know mine wont be x

next time some one says 'maybe its for the best' then slap them and say the same back... I know sometime the best intentions can come out wrong but who even thinks to say 'maybe its the best thing that your baby died'

 

[PiggieFarmer]

next time some one says 'maybe its for the best' then slap them and say the same back... I know sometime the best intentions can come out wrong but who even thinks to say 'maybe its the best thing that your baby died'

Strongly agree. Fortunately I have yet to encounter someone so fantastically stupid. The worst I got is the classic "When are you due?" when I have in fact never been pregnant.

 

[nobump]

New girl at work is pregnant and due a week before what my due date would have if 2nd ivf cycle had worked. Life is cruel.

 

[EmmyReece]

yes I know you're pregnant, yes I know 2 of your daughters are pregnant. But NO, that doesn't mean I want to hear every single little detail about what you're all planning or have bought for the babies. And I'm sorry, but when you daughter is worried about her baby because he didn't move properly for a while, why phone me??? I've never been pregnant so have nothing to compare it to, yet another dumbass move off you and yet another sign of how little my feelings actually matter

 

[PyrusEK]

Over the Thanksgiving holiday I found out that my cousin is pregnant. She and I grew up being really close, and even though it hurts my heart that I can't be pregnant too, I am super happy for her and her husband. I know they'll make great parents.

I could have handled that, no problem. But then I went to hang out with one of my oldest and best guy friends who said his wife was unable to join us because she was too hung over from drinking 4 1/2 bottles of wine on Thanksgiving day. In her drunkenness, she apparently told him she thought she was pregnant.

I let that one go assuming she was being dramatic and wasn't actually pregnant, but then I get a phone call two days later saying, well actually she really is knocked up and they're SO HAPPY they're going to have a baby.

I want to be happy for him, I really do. I'm just having a hard time because I hate his wife so much right now for drinking wine as if it's soda when she already suspected she was pregnant. In addition, she has a ton of health problems that she is doing nothing to help, while here I am, lifting weights and running races and eating all the right things and after more than 2 1/2 years I still can't even get ONE BFP.

I think I've given up on the dream. I no longer see kids in my future. I'm trying to paint a new picture that I can find gratifying, pursue and achieve some new goals, but around the holidays I just want to crawl into bed and cry at the injustice of having so much love to give and no kids to give it to while people who should be sterilized are out having five and six.

 

[wannabemummyb]

My brother and his girlfriend did their fb scan announcement today. It's their second since we've been trying, first one they fell first time, this time without trying. Whilst I'm sat here having not had a AF since August, with some faint positives but many negatives, waiting for blood tests which will probably just show I'm not pregnant!

 

[EmmyReece]

Seriously, I know you're happy you're pregnant with baby #11, but do you really need to phone and tell me about your scan and how you've got an appointment just after my birthday to find out the sex? I'm happy for you, but seriously sad for me and hubby right now as all I can do is plod on with the weight loss. Just have a little thought for other people please

 

[DBZ34]

Seriously, I know you're happy you're pregnant with baby #11, but do you really need to phone and tell me about your scan and how you've got an appointment just after my birthday to find out the sex? I'm happy for you, but seriously sad for me and hubby right now as all I can do is plod on with the weight loss. Just have a little thought for other people please

I would stop answering the phone when she calls until you have a frank chat with her where you tell her how she's making you feel. Or at least tell her pregnancy talk is off the acceptable conversations list. She's not being a good friend at all and it seems like she's consistently rubbing it in your face.

I'm sorry you have to deal with that right now.

 

[EmmyReece]

I might try and drop some hints about how we're feeling and see if she picks up on that - highly doubtful, but I don't know how to word it without sounding like a crazy, bitter, jealous cow

 

[DBZ34]

LTTTC makes us crazy, bitter, jealous cows...you're not alone. I think it comes with the territory.

 

[EmmyReece]

Thanks

I'm stuck between protecting myself and my own sanity and being a good friend to her. Yet it really feels like she doesn't give me the same consideration

Roll on tomorrow, we're at my mums for 3 nights to help out and then friday off to cheshire for the weekend, so I don't need to pretend to be all hyper and excited for her until a week today at the earliest

 

[nobump]

What a difference a year makes. Works xmas do is tomorrow. This time last year I had just had a hystoscopy torremove a polyp before starting ivf. Today after 2 failed cycles I find myself crying myself asleep thinking of what could have been.

 

[laurac1988]

*just relax and it will happen*

Seriously shut the f*ck up

 

[DBZ34]

*just relax and it will happen*

Seriously shut the f*ck up

I find myself flipping my sh*t more and more when I see that. I can't help myself. It's like a LTTTC disease. lol.

 

[laurac1988]

Same. Along with "book a vacation", "get a massage" and "stop stressing".
My personal favourite is "stop trying and it will happen". As one half of a lesbian couple I realise that if we don't try there is no sperm and therefore no baby. Stupid advice.
People need to think before they say these things