Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[MissCassie]

So I found out a couple of weeks ago my only just turned 16yr old niece is 12wks pregnant. And here I am on cd100 no sign of af or anything. My sister wanted to wait till we saw them at Christmas because she wanted to see the look on my face as it would be Priceless!

 

[nobump]

So I found out a couple of weeks ago my only just turned 16yr old niece is 12wks pregnant. And here I am on cd100 no sign of af or anything. My sister wanted to wait till we saw them at Christmas because she wanted to see the look on my face as it would be Priceless!

Does your sister known what your going through. If she does then words fail me. Hugs

 

[MissCassie]

So I found out a couple of weeks ago my only just turned 16yr old niece is 12wks pregnant. And here I am on cd100 no sign of af or anything. My sister wanted to wait till we saw them at Christmas because she wanted to see the look on my face as it would be Priceless!

Does your sister known what your going through. If she does then words fail me. Hugs

Yep, my sister knows everything we are going through and knows that we will be trying ivf hopefully in Jan/Feb next year. she knows we have been struggling with infertillity for man years. but thats just type of person she is.

 

[nobump]

MissCassie your sister is being a complete bitch. Nut guess you are thinking that already.

Good luck with your ivf next year.

Sorry for your earlier loss x

 

[nobump]

MissCassie your sister is being a complete bitch. Nut guess you are thinking that already.

Good luck with your ivf next year.

Sorry for your earlier loss x

 

[deafgal01]

Hate to say it but your sister is a b**** for wanting to see the look on your face especially after knowing what you've been through to try and get pregnant.

 

[DBZ34]

I just can't believe that. Seriously, what a b*tch. I'm sorry, I know she's your sister, but if she knows what you're going through and how hard it's been for you...and to want to tell you at Christmas just to see the look on your face....I just can't even imagine.

The little naughty thing on my shoulder says if she was my sister and did something like that....I'd like to see the look on her face when I slapped her for being so callous (though I probably wouldn't actually do that irl...but I'd probably imagine doing it multiple times. lol!)

 

[MissCassie]

Thank you ladies I couldn't agree more I think she is being a complete bitch about it! Makes me very angry what she hassaid. Not looking forward to seeing them both at Christmas

 

[EmmyReece]

MissCassie what a horrible thing for your sister to say and want to do. That is just so heartless and selfish

 

[venapols]

seriously struggling not to bust...

lady boasting about spending $70,000 on a party and when people started having a bit of a joke about how ridiculous the whole thing sounded (lets face it if you dont laugh you cry) the person started on ME (no one else despite the fact other people where picking on her more, I just posted the FACT that you can buy a house for that amount) about minding my own business and how I shouldn't be bitter because her husband 'works hard for her money'

WTF bitch.... people are homeless, starving, cant afford god damn medical treatments and dying and you think its fine to spend £10,000 on flowers that will die in a day and then brag about it, but of course we obviously could afford tacky, crass crap like that if only my OH worked 'hard' ffs (hes worked every day from the age of 14 so obviously its just lack of effort)

less than 1/5 of her budget would easily pay for the IVF we cant afford and a deposit on a house therefore changing our entire fucking life (and im positive it would be similar for many other people) and the deluded cow think im the abnormal one... I mean how dare we be poor

how disjointed from reality can you be... honestly starting to see why people get pushed over the edge... these perfect people want to hope they never fall off their high horse and have to walk through the crap of life like us

 

[EmmyReece]

Well, it looks like another christmas that I don't get a bfp

It looks like af is starting. I should be really happy because I've gone from cycle lengths of 163 days, to 45 days and now to (potentially) 32 days (if af starts full flow tomorrow like I think it will do), but all I can think is that it's another cycle of waiting

 

[venapols]

another 3 Christmas pregnancy announcements

 

[EmmyReece]

I need to rant and I really need to let this out otherwise I'm going to burst and hurt someone's feelings.

Of course this rant was going to be about the one person who has shown no regard for my feelings lately.

I'm sick of being made to feel like I don't know what I'm talking about when it comes to ttc, not everyone can one night and be successful, not everyone is that lucky. Yeah, I might not know things about pregnancy, labour, parenting, maybe never will, but is that an excuse to make me feel like complete and utter rubbish.

I would never dream of doing some of things she's done

• doing a pregnancy test in the bathroom of someone who's been ttc for as long as we have and then bursting into tears on them when the test turns positive, like she knew full well it would
• not telling said person to stop trying and then it'll happen
• not constantly changing the subject to my pregnancy or my daughters' pregnancies

I can't take it. I don't want to hurt her feelings. But, what about my feelings? What about my sanity?? I guess that counts for nothing

 

[MissCassie]

I need to rant and I really need to let this out otherwise I'm going to burst and hurt someone's feelings.

Of course this rant was going to be about the one person who has shown no regard for my feelings lately.

I'm sick of being made to feel like I don't know what I'm talking about when it comes to ttc, not everyone can one night and be successful, not everyone is that lucky. Yeah, I might not know things about pregnancy, labour, parenting, maybe never will, but is that an excuse to make me feel like complete and utter rubbish.

I would never dream of doing some of things she's done

• doing a pregnancy test in the bathroom of someone who's been ttc for as long as we have and then bursting into tears on them when the test turns positive, like she knew full well it would
• not telling said person to stop trying and then it'll happen
• not constantly changing the subject to my pregnancy or my daughters' pregnancies

I can't take it. I don't want to hurt her feelings. But, what about my feelings? What about my sanity?? I guess that counts for nothing

people can be so mean and completely insensitive!

A few of my mates have done the same thing. Said they were trying anf then the next time I see them or speak to them they are pregnant from the first cycle trying.

Amd they go on to say how easy it was. And that I should try all these different things. It's very frustrating.

I know exactly how you are feeling. So you're not alone and vent away

 

[venapols]

RANT

a very long post on Facebook of a friend (who has a good life, strong family and a long term boyfriend) announcing she has had an elective abortion because she feels shes 'too young' and wanting sympathy because she 'lost a child'... well, yes she did but through nothing more than CHOICE, she chose to 'lose' her child because it was inconvenience in her life (going out drinking every night)

my heart goes out to people who suffer miscarriages, still births, natal deaths etc... but im sorry you cant play the poor me card and expect sympathy when you are solely responsible for the outcome - especially not considering we would of give anything to have that chance to have another child (no matter how 'inconvenient' a time the pregnancy happened)

and why announce this at Christmas of all times... that now make 5 pregnancy announcements and one abortion announcement in a month

 

[Fern81]

RANT

a very long post on Facebook of a friend (who has a good life, strong family and a long term boyfriend) announcing she has had an elective abortion because she feels shes 'too young' and wanting sympathy because she 'lost a child'... well, yes she did but through nothing more than CHOICE, she chose to 'lose' her child because it was inconvenience in her life (going out drinking every night)

my heart goes out to people who suffer miscarriages, still births, natal deaths etc... but im sorry you cant play the poor me card and expect sympathy when you are solely responsible for the outcome - especially not considering we would of give anything to have that chance to have another child (no matter how 'inconvenient' a time the pregnancy happened)

and why announce this at Christmas of all times... that now make 5 pregnancy announcements and one abortion announcement in a month

I completely agree with you and am actually shocked by such attention-seeking behaviour. Losing a child is not at ALL the same as choosing to have an abortion.

Sorry that you had to encounter such a fb post.... Sending you virtual hugs!!

 

[EmmyReece]

I tried dropping hints today that I'm struggling, tried explaining that I feel like I'm holding my hubby back and once again the conversation is turned away from me and back to her pregnancy. Time to start backing away from her I think

 

[PiggieFarmer]

Today sister-in-law announced a pregnancy for the third time in the time we have been trying. I am supposed to say "I feel happy for her, but sad for myself." But at this point it is really just the latter. We are seeing her for Christmas. I just wish they could have waited a week to announce this: it is much easier to act happy online than in person.

 

[DBZ34]

*sigh* Went to a funeral yesterday and had one of my grandma's friends tell me she thought I was pregnant. Then ask me if I was sure I wasn't pregnant....and then tell me she understood if I was keeping it under wraps until later in the pregnancy. I told her again and again that I wasn't pregnant (to which she continued to reply "Are you sure?")...What was I supposed to say? I know for a fact I'm not pregnant because I am on my period RIGHT NOW as we speak? Show her my sanitary napkin? WTF. I'm sorry if my period bloat makes me looks like I'm expecting...But really? As if I wasn't sad enough...

 

[Onedaymumma]

I'm sooo pleased I found this forum! Sometimes really feel like I need to vent but am worried I might collapse in a mess on the floor if I do! Also worried my friends and family will soon have had enough of me going on about it!

Me and my hubby have been TTC for just over 18 months. We've now had all the tests we are likely to be offered on the NHS and everything appears to be fine. I know I should be happy about it - but I can't help feeling frustrated that we don't have an answer and are no closer to getting pregnant!

It took a while for my hormones to balance out after coming off the pill last May but since the start of this year things have been pretty consistent. And O has come down from CD 22-24 to a much more 'average' 15. Cycle length 28.

Had my HSG about 10 days ago on day 9 of my cycle. Hadn't quite finished bleeding at that point which was unusual for me. They went ahead with the test which wasn't as bad as I was expecting.
Problem is - I haven't stopped bleeding since! I've spoken to the fertility clinic and my GP who said not to worry it's 'probably fine'. So that's what I'm trying to do. But it's just so damn annoying after feeling like I was really getting somewhere with more 'normal' and regular cycles. Now I have no idea what's going on! https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/images/smilies/wacko.gif