Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[venapols]

I still get frustraited when I see a 24 year old crack addict on tv that has 7 children to multiple men, most of them that she has lost custody of and is still planning on having more

seems unfair that some people who dont care or look after the children they have can so easily go on to have more and more children

 

[mytimewillcum]

Hi all! .. I need to write how i'm feeling, i'm in tears as I write this!, I just don't no what todo anymore, as you can see from my siggy I've been trying for a long time!(4 years in total first 6 month were NTNP though... I always new I wanted to be a mum at a young age, just had to find the one and I have, the love of my life, my rock infact ) ... I've just took a clomid break as it just made me feel like a lunatic, and I wasn't being monitored, every single month I get a positive opk, and do what I can to catch the egg, BUT there is no egg, bloods confirmed this to me yesterday!, it felt like my whole world come crashing down... and I keep thinking what if I could never have children?, I thought ttc would be easy, as i'm still fairly young, but how wrong was i???? I have another appointment with the doctor friday, which I no i'm not emotionally ready for, I no i'm gunna fall apart.. I no there is help out there, but i'm fearing the worst , I just feel like a failure, i've recently stopped speaking to a long term friend, because all she have done is rub her pregnancy in my face, which took her only three months to achieve, she no's how long I've been trying, and how truely hard this journey has been for me, i've broken down SO many times to her, but she still continues to ask me to arrange her baby shower!,(which I never went to because I couldn't face it, never mind organising it!!) I also get the week by week pics of her perfectly growing bump,oh and the 3D scans and recording of her baby's beating heart!.. she's actually due in 3 weeks and i'm dreading the pics!, ... I was really happy for her ,but its the constant reminder that I ain't gunna have what she has got anytime soon! It hurts FFS! back the f**K off!,..I thought she would understand being a friend for so long, (18years) and listening to me break my heart each failed month! ....I ain't the only one who see's what she is doing either,.. I guess I will just have to see what the next steps are, and pray that one day I will get to watch MY belly grow, and have a beautiful rainbow to hold at the end of all this heartache,... thanks for reading/listening, I needed to vent xx

 

[PiggieFarmer]

i've recently stopped speaking to a long term friend

That is probably the right thing to do. The people around you who know about it need to understand that this is a life crisis, on par with chronic illness or sustained unemployment. If they don't get that, better to keep them at a distance.

Good luck with your appointment and testing!

 

[Hope3]

i've recently stopped speaking to a long term friend

That is probably the right thing to do. The people around you who know about it need to understand that this is a life crisis, on par with chronic illness or sustained unemployment. If they don't get that, better to keep them at a distance.

Good luck with your appointment and testing!

'Life crisis'. That is the best and most succinct phrase I've heard to describe LTTTC. I'm going to use it the next time I'm having a conversation with someone who just doesn't get it.

 

[Miaw]

Today is a bad day.

Sometimes I wish I would just find a baby in front of my door, like in the fairytales. How amazing would that be?

Unfortunately adoption is much harder than that in real life, not to mention, a lot more expensive. Not only do you have the regular cost of having a child but slap on about 40K more. We just got our house in December so now we're saving for that. It just a slow slow slow process. Plus we're not even really trying anymore... I am drained, I just can't anymore. I just can't.

 

[nobump]

This past month has been tough with xmas and constant baby talk in work.... new borns.. soon to be parents... being told only solution to your heavy bleeding is contraceptives... was looking forward to counselling session to help talk things through.... but the heavens have opened and it's a white out. Not sure I want to drive anywhere. ..

 

[Hope3]

Stopped in a local pub and it was full of babies and toddlers. Even DH said he'd never seen so many in one place.

So much for a relaxing Sunday treat. I just wanted to get the hell out of there.

 

[Hope3]

When I say to a clinic that I want my first IVF to be with my own eggs I don't want to be told to go straight for donor eggs just because I'm 44.

I hate that clinics are so blasé about donor eggs. It's a serious undertaking that needs thought. It's not for everyone.

 

[EmmyReece]

Hate this my head is seriously mashed at the moment.

Why can't I lose weight and ttc at the same time??? Why can't I just get on with it instead of having to put everything into one thing or another???

Roll on july

 

[ttcmoon]

My MIL said, I keep losing babies because I don't love them. Means I deserve it! Now I at least know a cause of my infertility and losses. Thanks MIL

 

[PiggieFarmer]

My MIL said, I keep losing babies because I don't love them. Means I deserve it! Now I at least know a cause of my infertility and losses. Thanks MIL

Wow, I am stunned that such people exist. Congratulations on not resorting to violence (I think I would not be able to hold back).

 

[tommyg]

tttcmoon that is one of the most horrible things anybody could come out with. I think id be keeping my distance from her both physically and emotionally. That one statement would make me feel unloved by her. Hugs i bet your babies are surrounded by love

 

[wannabemummyb]

I agree with Piggiefarmer! What an awful thing to say to anyone!

 

[ttcmoon]

Thanks girls and she said this when I was in hospital with my legs up with iv fluid. I am having a very rough pregnancy after ivf and 3 prev losses. I had several years of infertility. I am in bed for last 4 months. I lost my job. I feel like a terminally ill person just staring at fans lights and four walls! I am still not sure about future of my baby.

I was venting myself. Trying to get support from doctors when she took it on herself and said this. She said I am mentally ill...she has never been on bed even though she is 70.. I am so fucked up (sorry for using this word). I need support ladies...please!

 

[nobump]

Ex sister in law is expecting her 4th... on FB talking about pram shopping and notes this will be her last so not wanting to spend lots... she is getting sterilised after this one.... frustrating to know that getting sterilised is something I will never have to worry about. Never had a BFP and never likely to.

 

[tommyg]

Ttc moon really sorry you are having to deal with this witch. I think I'd tell her to stop visiting. If she can't be supportive then she has no right to be there.
I'm not going to say I know what you are going through but people who have never been ill have no idea what it is like. I burst my appendix when I was 28, I then threw up over myself it was everywhere. I needed help in the shower. I cried when I got back into bed, I just wanted my life back. I can't imagine what it is like to know you are going to be there for 4 mths.

 

[deafgal01]

Blah, yet another pregnancy announcement. This time from my cousin and his wife, who have a daughter already so this makes it baby two for them- and did I mention, I started trying around the time they got engaged? How is that fair? They've gotten married, and had a baby, and now expecting their second? I've been married longer than them and still NOT a single baby yet, arugh!

Course, I did the polite thing and said congrats to them... Didn't say anything bad or mean.

 

[EmmyReece]

af if you're going to start then start!!! Rather than this stupid light flow to spotting!!! Getting so fed up of this now

 

[ttcmoon]

Ttc moon really sorry you are having to deal with this witch. I think I'd tell her to stop visiting. If she can't be supportive then she has no right to be there.
I'm not going to say I know what you are going through but people who have never been ill have no idea what it is like. I burst my appendix when I was 28, I then threw up over myself it was everywhere. I needed help in the shower. I cried when I got back into bed, I just wanted my life back. I can't imagine what it is like to know you are going to be there for 4 mths.

Omg. It must have been so tough for you. Huge hugs dear!
My MIL is gone. Thank God I won't have to stay with her at least during this time. Mom is here. Happy time..yay

 

[ttcmoon]

Blah, yet another pregnancy announcement. This time from my cousin and his wife, who have a daughter already so this makes it baby two for them- and did I mention, I started trying around the time they got engaged? How is that fair? They've gotten married, and had a baby, and now expecting their second? I've been married longer than them and still NOT a single baby yet, arugh!

Course, I did the polite thing and said congrats to them... Didn't say anything bad or mean.

Life is not fair sometimes. But I wonder why us? Why can't it be smooth sailing?