Long Term Trying To Conceive Vent Thread

[ttcmoon]

Ex sister in law is expecting her 4th... on FB talking about pram shopping and notes this will be her last so not wanting to spend lots... she is getting sterilised after this one.... frustrating to know that getting sterilised is something I will never have to worry about. Never had a BFP and never likely to.

I am so sorry hun. Ttc is so toll taking.

 

[BubbleOnBoard]

Hi can I join?

Not sure if I qualify to rant with you ladies as your journeys sound a lot worse then mine!!

I have two children, my daughter is 5 and my son is 4! I know how blessed I am but I'm still so heartbroken that its been a year of trying for baby number 3 and nothing!!!!

I've always fallen pregnant first month, ive had 2 normal miscarriage's and a medical d&c!

It's so hard to see everyone get pregnant accept me

xx

 

[wannabemummyb]

Another two pregnancy announcements also the girl whose baby was due just after mine is back to work after her year off for maternity.

Not so much a rant as a pity party for one. I don't always let it get to me but this time I feel like I just want to cry

 

[Myshelsong]

Is it strange to think jealous thoughts about a fictional character on tv? Mindy is pregnant on Tv and now I feel like I cannto watch this show anymore without my heart hurting.... I feel so stupid but totally ok with my craziness

 

[cstull1217]

I am so glad I found this thread. I can't rant to dh bc he just tells me "we will have a baby when it is time for us to have one, we just have to keep trying"



We have been ttc for 2 1/2 years with no results despite our efforts. my BFF and soul sister is now 9 months pregnant with a child that she never wanted. I cried for hours when she told me,but of course the baby daddy left so I am picking up the slack and helping her and will be in the room when she gives birth.
Worse even, have another friend who ltttc 5 years had the same procedure I did and has endometriosis and got pregnant, knowing I am still ttc she spent her ENTIRE pregnancy messaging me constantly about how miserable she was. Now baby is here and I get daily sometimes hourly pics of her. I'm miserable and don't know how to politely tell her to stop. You would think that having been in my place she would be a little more understanding but apparently NOT.

 

[cstull1217]

Another two pregnancy announcements also the girl whose baby was due just after mine is back to work after her year off for maternity.

Not so much a rant as a pity party for one. I don't always let it get to me but this time I feel like I just want to cry

sometimes it just sucks. When I had my ectopic a friend of mine got pregnant and had a beautiful baby girl.sometimes it gets to you.

 

[nobump]

I am so glad I found this thread. I can't rant to dh bc he just tells me "we will have a baby when it is time for us to have one, we just have to keep trying"



We have been ttc for 2 1/2 years with no results despite our efforts. my BFF and soul sister is now 9 months pregnant with a child that she never wanted. I cried for hours when she told me,but of course the baby daddy left so I am picking up the slack and helping her and will be in the room when she gives birth.
Worse even, have another friend who ltttc 5 years had the same procedure I did and has endometriosis and got pregnant, knowing I am still ttc she spent her ENTIRE pregnancy messaging me constantly about how miserable she was. Now baby is here and I get daily sometimes hourly pics of her. I'm miserable and don't know how to politely tell her to stop. You would think that having been in my place she would be a little more understanding but apparently NOT.

Try to look on the positive being an aunty is great. Some people don't have the opportunity to spend time with any children. Hopefully your time will come. But please don't ket what your going stop enjoying be part of your neice/nephews life. We have been trying for over 5 years. Time we spend with our neices and nephews is precious.

Hugs

 

[cstull1217]

I am so glad I found this thread. I can't rant to dh bc he just tells me "we will have a baby when it is time for us to have one, we just have to keep trying"



We have been ttc for 2 1/2 years with no results despite our efforts. my BFF and soul sister is now 9 months pregnant with a child that she never wanted. I cried for hours when she told me,but of course the baby daddy left so I am picking up the slack and helping her and will be in the room when she gives birth.
Worse even, have another friend who ltttc 5 years had the same procedure I did and has endometriosis and got pregnant, knowing I am still ttc she spent her ENTIRE pregnancy messaging me constantly about how miserable she was. Now baby is here and I get daily sometimes hourly pics of her. I'm miserable and don't know how to politely tell her to stop. You would think that having been in my place she would be a little more understanding but apparently NOT.

Try to look on the positive being an aunty is great. Some people don't have the opportunity to spend time with any children. Hopefully your time will come. But please don't ket what your going stop enjoying be part of your neice/nephews life. We have been trying for over 5 years. Time we spend with our neices and nephews is precious.

Hugs

most of the time I am soo thankful for my nieces and nephews both biological and adopted and I love them to pieces and can't wait to help bring my newest niece into the world. But sometimes it just gets to me that everyone around me is having babies and Im not. Selfish maybe, but my feelings nonetheless.

 

[nobump]

Not selfish cstull. Its only natural to have these feelings xx

 

[cstull1217]

Not selfish cstull. Its only natural to have these feelings xx

I know. I'm just so damn tired of the nod and smile routine with everyone else's pregnancy and babies. When is my turn?

 

[Hope3]

af if you're going to start then start!!! Rather than this stupid light flow to spotting!!! Getting so fed up of this now

I hate that. And I hate that I try to delude myself that the spotting is implantation bleeding but it never is.

 

[Miaw]

I can't deal with how pregnancy and adoption is show in media. It makes me angry most of the time because it's always an offensive situation to me because either:

-they get pregnant right after they get married

-they go trough ''infertility'' then adopt LIKE I AM SO FUCKING SORRY BUT IN REAL LIFE YOU CAN'T JUST SEE A CHILD THAT IS AN ORPHAN AND BE LIKE I WANT TO ADOPT HER AND THEN A WEEK LATER SHE LIVES WITH YOU. THAT IS NOT WHAT IT HAPPENS LIKE IN REAL LIFE. And you know after they get the baby, because yes somehow they ALWAYS adopt babies not older children. THEY FUCKING GET PREGNANT!!!

EVERY SINGLE TIME SOMEONE ADOPTS IN A MOVIE OR TV SHOW THEY GET PREGNANT AFTER!! Then I have to deal with people telling me ''haha just adopt then you will get pregnant, it always happens'' NO!!!

I can't do this anymore, I feel like I have to avoid everything around me, it's driving me insane and I yell at my computer screen or tv too often.

 

[cstull1217]

I can't deal with how pregnancy and adoption is show in media. It makes me angry most of the time because it's always an offensive situation to me because either:

-they get pregnant right after they get married

-they go trough ''infertility'' then adopt LIKE I AM SO FUCKING SORRY BUT IN REAL LIFE YOU CAN'T JUST SEE A CHILD THAT IS AN ORPHAN AND BE LIKE I WANT TO ADOPT HER AND THEN A WEEK LATER SHE LIVES WITH YOU. THAT IS NOT WHAT IT HAPPENS LIKE IN REAL LIFE. And you know after they get the baby, because yes somehow they ALWAYS adopt babies not older children. THEY FUCKING GET PREGNANT!!!

EVERY SINGLE TIME SOMEONE ADOPTS IN A MOVIE OR TV SHOW THEY GET PREGNANT AFTER!! Then I have to deal with people telling me ''haha just adopt then you will get pregnant, it always happens'' NO!!!

I can't do this anymore, I feel like I have to avoid everything around me, it's driving me insane and I yell at my computer screen or tv too often.

I'm right there with you. My faves are by far "just quit trying." "If you weren't so stressed..."because being a mom and wife is so stress free. "But you had such an easy time the first time." sometimes it's helpful to just let it out.

 

[Destiny08]

I can't stand it when people get pregnant like its no big deal. Especially if they cant even handle the first child. my friend got pregnant with her second the same month i started trying. but since having her absolutely gorgeous son (who is now 14 months old) all she has done is complain that she had her 2 kids too close together and she wishes she hadnt had the second and blah blah.

also Miaw!! I see in your ticker, you met your other half in WoW! So did I we met in 2006 and married in 2011!

 

[EmmyReece]

I'm starting to lose my patience and can see me snapping and saying something that I may or may not regret.

I'm so sick and tired of hearing the same moaning about how hard life is for a certain person, yet she seems to have no desire to actually help herself. All she does is moan about how rubbish she feels in this pregnancy (maybe her body is telling her that it's too much now), or go on that she's worried because baby hasn't moved much on a particular day, yet refuses to even phone her midwife, which in my eyes is absolutely ludicrous

Roll on tuesday so I can get her whole gender reveal over and done with and go back to concentrating on my 2ww now my body has decided to throw me a complete curveball and give me a positive opk a week after I had spotting and a day or so of light flow

 

[Regalpeas]

I just want LTTC to be over with. Every time I think I have accepted this life, this childless situation, something happens to remind me of my destiny. I breakdown. I don't know if I can take this laying down. But I also don't have the fight in me anymore, it seems.

 

[cstull1217]

Just got the call for another friends pregnancy announcement. I almost believed myself when I sounded happy for her. almost. Just gotta keep telling myself my day is coming.

 

[Tui]

Can I ask when ttc becomes ltttc? How long to "qualify" ?

Also, does that include those with rpl, or just those who are unable to get a bfp?

 

[DBZ34]

Can I ask when ttc becomes ltttc? How long to "qualify" ?

Also, does that include those with rpl, or just those who are unable to get a bfp?

I think it's over a year...I think I moved over here after 18 months of TTC.

I think LTTTC includes the rpl ladies...I mean, you're still TTC and if it's taking a long time to get a sticky bean, unfortunately you're LTTTC.

(I fall in both categories too, and I'm sorry you're here).

 

[DBZ34]

FB tells me a friend is pregnant with her third child....Three in the time I've been trying to have one. Today is one of those days I start feeling like a failure...