Titi
Stepmom/Trying to Adopt
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Hi Yomo,
I agree completely that everything happens for a reason-and you are right, I know it's hard for a lot of LTTTCers to here that phrase, but I find it does really help me to trust that. I have found, over the years that so many things that happened to me at first that I thought were bad turned out to be GOOD-and vice versa! Without seeing the big picture down the road, you never know.
That is one of the things I am trying to focus on right now...........what am I meant to be doing in the meantime? Like I said in an earlier post-there must be a reason we don't have baby yet-and I feel like I need to find the reason instead of putting all my focus into TTC.......
I basically generally still have a pretty good attitude about this whole thing, and life in general....what gets me every time is the hormones at the end of my LP. I always get super sensitive/emotional for a few days near the end of my cycle. I could find anything really to get more upset about than normal but I guess it always focuses lately on the TTC thing b/c it is always coinciding with another cycle.
DH really eased my mind last night and was so sweet, bless him. We saw pg pics of a relative on FB that got their BFP right away and was drinking at 4-5 mo. pg. It just reminded me of that same old pitiful "why not us?" feeling, and I teared up and shared that with DH. I said, "What are we going to do?"
He said, "We just keep trying until we get pg". I said, "What if we CANT get pg? At our ages we can't just try for a decade and then find out it can't happen?" He said, "Sure we can"-so matter of factly that I said, "Every time now I see another pg lady, or a bean or a baby, I want to cry. Doesn't it hurt your heart too like that?"
He said, "I don't know-I guess so, maybe a little bit, but its really fun trying, too.".
That was the part that blew me away. Its really fun trying???? He really thinks that way??? I was like, What??? Seriously????? I thought that BD was the worst part of it! That you get worn out by the BD part/SOD, etc....."
He said, that of course he gets worn out by the end of BD but that he loves the fact that we are trying to make a baby and the excitement and wonder that it could happen any time........Isn't that crazy? Sorry for the long post-but I wanted to share that. Here I was thinking I needed to take a break soon as this can't be good for marriage all this LTTTC all the time, and thinking he hates the BD sex the most b/c it is so planned and rigid in the timing/position/lubricants, etc. etc. and I was so wrong-
I agree completely that everything happens for a reason-and you are right, I know it's hard for a lot of LTTTCers to here that phrase, but I find it does really help me to trust that. I have found, over the years that so many things that happened to me at first that I thought were bad turned out to be GOOD-and vice versa! Without seeing the big picture down the road, you never know.
That is one of the things I am trying to focus on right now...........what am I meant to be doing in the meantime? Like I said in an earlier post-there must be a reason we don't have baby yet-and I feel like I need to find the reason instead of putting all my focus into TTC.......
I basically generally still have a pretty good attitude about this whole thing, and life in general....what gets me every time is the hormones at the end of my LP. I always get super sensitive/emotional for a few days near the end of my cycle. I could find anything really to get more upset about than normal but I guess it always focuses lately on the TTC thing b/c it is always coinciding with another cycle.
DH really eased my mind last night and was so sweet, bless him. We saw pg pics of a relative on FB that got their BFP right away and was drinking at 4-5 mo. pg. It just reminded me of that same old pitiful "why not us?" feeling, and I teared up and shared that with DH. I said, "What are we going to do?"
He said, "We just keep trying until we get pg". I said, "What if we CANT get pg? At our ages we can't just try for a decade and then find out it can't happen?" He said, "Sure we can"-so matter of factly that I said, "Every time now I see another pg lady, or a bean or a baby, I want to cry. Doesn't it hurt your heart too like that?"
He said, "I don't know-I guess so, maybe a little bit, but its really fun trying, too.".
That was the part that blew me away. Its really fun trying???? He really thinks that way??? I was like, What??? Seriously????? I thought that BD was the worst part of it! That you get worn out by the BD part/SOD, etc....."
He said, that of course he gets worn out by the end of BD but that he loves the fact that we are trying to make a baby and the excitement and wonder that it could happen any time........Isn't that crazy? Sorry for the long post-but I wanted to share that. Here I was thinking I needed to take a break soon as this can't be good for marriage all this LTTTC all the time, and thinking he hates the BD sex the most b/c it is so planned and rigid in the timing/position/lubricants, etc. etc. and I was so wrong-