I'm the same as you Cheryl and cath and as time ticks by and I'm not getting any younger I am now thinking oh crap I'm not going to be a mum. Now with my neck I'm thinking shit if I have to have radiotherapy coz it is cancer and it's spread then that's at least 6 months before even trying again. I'm really crapping myself that we shouldn't have put off ttc.
You need a crystal ball don't you, we chose to get married, travel, buy a house, have nice cars etc etc before having a baby as we'd probably be skint after having children but now I wish we hadn't waited.
Oh fletch your poor friend it is hard to know what we would all do if we were in a similar situation, we all think we know, but until it happens to you you don't know how you'd react.