March rainbows 2018

[karoolia]

Yes, I suppose chasing three kids would keep you pretty busy! This is my first so I don't have many distractions. I work, but things tend to slow down in the summer. I spent most of today just waiting for people to return phone calls and emails.

 

[xkirstyx]

How's everyone doing today? My nausea is so so bad today I feel horrible! I'll not moan about it disappearing again lol

 

[maryanne1987]

Im still ok ish. Impatient and anxious for the next scan and being snappy with everyone. I feel really faint though all the time. And I'm so so thirsty no matter how much I drink

Sorry to hear your not feeling great today Kirsty.

 

[Sweetkat]

I have mid level nausea and am soooo bloated I look 6 months pregnant.... waiting for my 12 week scan appointment to come through.

 

[karoolia]

I'm feeling good today. Felt a little queasy in the morning, but nothing since breakfast. I'm beginning to relax about the morning sickness now that it has come and gone a few times, but I still feel more secure when it is present.

I had a dentist appointment today and had to tell them I was pregnant. I kept telling them that my appointment was still 3 weeks away so I may have already miscarried and just not know. I also had to tell them that I was pregnant and miscarried in April. It turned out both the receptionist and the hygienist had each had miscarriages. I know they're common, but it still catches me off guard that so many women open up about it once I tell them.

 

[Sweetkat]

I never tell anyone I am pregnant or that I have had miscarriages. Only babyandbump

I think nausea does come and go all the time and it's normal.

 

[maryanne1987]

I'm quite open about mine as I found it was very healing for me. So if anyone askes me how many children I have I say mum to 3 but many in heaven. It's really helped me with feeling like my babies are not forgotten and to show that they are still a big part of who I am. I've always had a very positive response like you did karoolia with so many people opening up about their own losses too. I think it's absolutely a woman's choice if she wants to share her losses but it's so sad that so many women feel they can't share as it's still very much something that's socially unacceptable to talk about.

 

[Myshelsong]

My nausea was horrible the other day but pretty ok today. Which is good I guess. It leaves me terrified although I know is totally normal. I had a really rough sleep last night so hoping for a good old nap before I finish up some work I have been avoiding.

 

[karoolia]

Sweetkat, no one, but my husband and doctor know I am pregnant now. I haven't told a soul this time and didn't last time either. To be honest, I actually hesitated to tell the dentis, but I know my mother had trouble with her gums during pregnancy so I figured I should.

I will talk about my miscarriage though. For some reason it is a lot easier to talk about how it happened then it is to tell people that I am pregnant again. I have actually become very used to talking about the miscarriage. To the point where I have mentioned it casually in front of people (friends/acquaintances) who we hadn't told then realize when I see they horrified face that I should have eased them in or something.

 

[xkirstyx]

I still find it really hard to talk about my mc. It hit me really hard and still upsets me if I think about it. I would of been due 17th sept. We are going to Disneyland Paris the start of sept to get away and hopefully not think about it too much. Then when we get back I'm going for my gender scan x

 

[flou]

My nausea has generally been very on and off. And I was starting to get worried as I hadn't really felt sick for days, but then today I have had really bad nausea, but it seems to have eased off this evening. I seem to be reassured by having it but also glad once it passes! I am still really tired. I feel that I don't really ever wake up properly and as a consequence already have baby brain.

I am open to talking about my miscarriages but I struggle to because even though my first miscarriage happened 5 years ago this coming November, and I have had a successful pregnancy since, I still find it upsetting to talk about. But if someone brings up miscarriages or asks me upfront if I ever had any probs conceiving DS, I will tell them my story.

I will be 6 weeks tomorrow and it is the time when I have had both my losses, so a little nervous. We still haven't told anyone yet. I think we will tell my parents at the weekend. My mum was a massive support to me when I went through both my losses and if anything like that were to happen again I know I would need her support again. We will probably tell DH's family when we see them in late August. Close friends we will tell after my 12 week scan. And everyone else will just find out as my bump grows.

 

[flou]

Kirsty would have been due date are so difficult, and kind of bittersweet if you are pregnant again with another at the same time. I remember going for a midwife appointment when I was about 25 weeks pg with DS on the anniversary of my second loss. I got to hear DS's heartbeat and I cried. To think exactly a year previously to be miscarrying to then hear the heartbeat of my rainbow.

 

[karoolia]

Kirsty I love all things Disney! I have never been to Disneyland Paris, but would love to check it out. I have been to Disney World a few times now as an adult (never went as a child) and I have always had such a great time. DH and I went last fall for their food and wine festival and it was one of our best vacations. I'm sure you will have a great time. Besides there is nothing like a vacation to help reset your brain.

After every major family/friend death and even after my mc I went on a trip. Not always anything big, but just somewhere new where I could explore and I have always found it very healing.

 

[maryanne1987]

We are hoping to do a Paris trip soon. ive been to Disneyland when I was a child but need to take the children. My eldest is autistic though so crowed places are difficult for him, sodoes make it difficult but we will find away around it.

Is everyone here finding out gender or do we have any team yellows?

 

[xkirstyx]

My son is in the middle of getting checked for autism and if you have a child who has it you go to your dr to get a note saying he has it and Disneyland gives you a autistic card that allows the child plus 4 others to skip the lines and get straight on the ride but it won't let you on some rides that are classed as not suitable. Just google it and it will tell you all about it!
We have been 4 times now. We just went in June lol. It's my happy bubble place. If anywhere will take my mind off anything it's there. (You also get a pregnancy fast pass card)

 

[maryanne1987]

I didn't know that. Thanks Kirsty. He's pretty severely autistic and has mental health issues as well as mobility issues so it does make going anywhere so difficult but don't want him to miss out. He's 11 and we have never succusfully managed a holiday. Will definitely look into it as could do with a break.

I'm so so sad tonight. Wish this wait was over. I so hope baby 2 makes it

 

[xkirstyx]

Defo check it out Hun.

How long till next scan now? I'm sure baby2 is cooking nicely in there. I know it's so hard to stay positive though xxxx

 

[maryanne1987]

Next Saturday. Feels like forver away. If I could afford it I'd be there tomorrow but then I know I'd still be in limbo then. It's not long enough to see which way this will go x

 

[flou]

I hope you get a good news on your next scan Maryanne.

We are planning to find out the gender. We did with DS at our 20 week scan and luckily he was quite happy to show us. It was a good job we wanted to know! I am hoping team pink but I really wouldn't be disappointed if it was boy.

 

[karoolia]

maryanne, I was also going to mention that you would be able to skip the lines. My younger brother is physically and cognitively disabled. He was diagnosed as partial trisomy 13 (pretty rare to actually have a baby born and live with that). My mother looked into Disney World when we were young and found out that they would make it as easy as possible to take him and still have him and the rest of us enjoy the experience. He never got to the point where he would understand though so we never went.

DH wants to be team yellow. I am neutral on it so we'll probably be yellow. I want to know out of curiosity, but we'll be moving shortly after baby is born so I won't be painting a nursery or anything. I'm also not a huge fan of all blue or all pink for boy or girl. Mostly because I was bombarded with pink as a child and hated it haha. I do think knowing the sex of the baby would help me bond better though. I think it will feel more real if I can think of it as he or she instead of it. I've been keeping myself pretty guarded from bonding so far and don't really want that to continue throughout the whole pregnancy. We'll see what we end up doing I guess.