March rainbows 2018

[karoolia]

Thanks ladies. I was getting so anxious and upset last night that DH went to the hospital and chatted with the emergency doctor who was on. It turned out that he knew him well and the doctor was a really nice guy who said to bring me and that they would be ready when we got there (finally paid off to have a husband in training to be a doctor).

They were so nice to me. Vastly different from my last experience. Things got really busy just as we were finishing up and we ended up waiting hours for the Rhogam (anti-D) they wanted to give me, but it was definitely worth it.

I even have baby pictures! They aren't close up, but you can still see him/her!

 

[xkirstyx]

I'm really kicking myself for not asking for a pic at my last scan. I was just so overwhelmed I totally forgot to ask!

 

[karoolia]

I'm really kicking myself for not asking for a pic at my last scan. I was just so overwhelmed I totally forgot to ask!

Oh, I didn't think to ask either. The Emerg doc was just really nice and brought them to me on his own. I was really happy because the tech who did the scan didn't let me see the screen at all.

 

[Sweetkat]

Hope you are all ok ladies. 8&4 here and wish I could be past 12 weeks and know that everything is ok.

Hope you all had a good weekend

 

[Sweetkat]

I have a shot of the screen which dr at the hospital made me take to calm me down and 2 pics from the last ultrasound. You can't see that much at this stage - at 12 weeks it already looks like a proper baby

 

[maryanne1987]

Tell me about it. It's dragging. Not even 6 weeks till Wednesday. I don't want to wish the pregnancy away and not enjoy it but I just can't wait to get past 19 weeks.

Can I ask your opinion ladies. I'm having a wobble over when I've booked my scan. My scan at the moment is booked for a week Saturday when I will be 7+3. But now I'm so worried that I'm considering changing it to next sat when I will only be 6+3. But not sure if it's a good idea when in my last two pregnancies I've havent seen a heartbeat at week six and had a week or two of limbo. I know I couldn't deal with that again but I keep thinking the private clinic machines are better than the epu machines. If you were me what would you do?

 

[xkirstyx]

I would stick with 7 weeks hun unless you really need reassuring. The stress and worry of not seeing a heartbeat makes you feel 100 times worse. But I had my scan I was meant to be 7 weeks and baby was measuring exactly 6 weeks and seen heartbeat x

 

[xkirstyx]

I just want 1st tri to hurry up and be over. I can't wait for my 12week scan I know baby is doing good! All the spotting I get really stresses me out

 

[Sweetkat]

I went at 6&3 with second MMc - could tell from then it would be an MMc as baby measured week and a half behind.

Third MMC also went at 6&3 and there was a hb but first reaction at EPU was that baby measured 5 weeks. She then said 5&6. At 7 weeks it was 2 days behind and at 8 weeks I was told everything was perfect but that was trisomy 21 miscarriage. I have no idea whether the baby did measure a lot smaller because of trisomy 21 or whether that was a coincidence.

This time I went at 6&6 and measured 7&1.

It's so hard to know what to do. I am having a paranoid day today and convinced this is going to be another miscarriage

So hard being pregnant without knowing if there is a baby at the end of it

 

[maryanne1987]

All my babies measure behind at the start but catch up later so I'm thinking that's another reason to wait for the scan. I'm just having a wobble tonight and I'm thinking the worst. These next few weeks till the scan are going to be hard.

 

[karoolia]

maryanne, I measured 6+5 last night and could see a heartbeat, but if you are measuring behind a few days it might not be visible yet. I would probably stay with the slightly later date if I could stand it. I'm actually considering going for my 10 week scan closer to 11 weeks since I know my O date puts me a few days behind. I want to see a proper 10 week baby so I don't worry.

 

[Sweetkat]

Yes I think if at 6&3 you are measuring 6 weeks then even with transvaginal ultrasound they might not see HB yet.

 

[maryanne1987]

Thanks ladies. I'm gong to wait. My last two children measured almost a week behind at my first scans, and I was told I'd likely miscarry both so I'm not going to put myself through that again. By 10-12 weeks both had caught up and then measured slightly ahead so waiting till 7+3 is a safer option. I'm just feeling really paranoid. A scan wouldn't change anything though i guess. If baby isn't sticking around the thats just the way it is. Ugh why is this so hard.

 

[Sweetkat]

Maryanne totally understand how you feel. I am suffering from major paranoia and I am even considering going for a scan tomorrow, but I know that even if he scan is ok that's not a guarantee everything is ok

With my DD my first scan was 11&5 and I am exactly 3 weeks away from that - so I just need to get through roughly 20 days. Which seems impossibly long... and if it's another MMC I have got a long wait ahead before I can TTC again

 

[maryanne1987]

First tri is so hard after you have experienced a loss. I'm not even 6 weeks till Wednesday but it feels so much longer. Wish time would stop dragging. I have PTSD and I can feel the anxiety starting to kick in again, I've worked so hard to overcome it but at the moment I feel like I'm fighting a losing battle.

Hope the next few weeks pass quickly for you Sweetkat. Is that your next scan or do you have one before that?

 

[xkirstyx]

Spotting again this morning also got booking in with midwife so I'll speak to her about It this afternoon. Can't wait to be out of 1st tri!

 

[Sweetkat]

I think I am going to go at 9 weeks (Wednesday this week) to give blood for panorama and for a scan, then go to early pregnancy unit at 10 weeks (in 9 days).

I don't have a date for my 11-12 week scan as I haven't booked it. Have had to cancel twice now so just too terrified to book it

 

[maryanne1987]

Hope all is ok Kirsty?

I know the feeling sweetkat. Should really book my midwife appointment but too scared too. Might wait till after my scan.

 

[karoolia]

I haven't booked my first scan yet either. It should be around 10 weeks so I really need to call soon, but I just hate the idea of having to show up if something has already gone wrong.

I'm sorry everyone is struggling with first tri. I'm glad I'm not alone in these feelings though. I had some more spotting yesterday and this morning. I'm trying to ignore it since it is probably a result of all the poking the other night when I went for the emergency scan.

Kirsty I hope the midwife appointment goes well and that you can have any questions/concerns addressed.

maryanne, I think you are right to wait for that scan. You wouldn't want to scare yourself unnecessarily by going a few days too early.

sweetkat - I think you are doing great. I'm sure it doesn't seem that way, but you are getting through first tri and doing what you can to reassure yourself as you go. I don't think anyone would expect any more than that. I hope the next 20 days fly by for you (for everyone actually).

 

[Sweetkat]

I am keeping my fingers crossed that we are still all here past our 12 week mark and can keep each other company for the next 28 weeks or so. That would be fantastic

I knew from 3&2 (so nearly 6 weeks!) and time is draaaaaaagging