March rainbows 2018

[Sweetkat]

Kirsty and Karoolia hope the spotting is nothing. My new motto in life is stay positive (I am trying anyway).

 

[karoolia]

I am keeping my fingers crossed that we are still all here past our 12 week mark and can keep each other company for the next 28 weeks or so. That would be fantastic

I knew from 3&2 (so nearly 6 weeks!) and time is draaaaaaagging

I knew from around then too (8DPO). At first I was excited to find out early, but now I keep feeling like I should be a week more than I am.

 

[maryanne1987]

Hope that's spotting stops for you soon karoolia.

Lovely hearing you sound so positive sweetkat.

My bfp was a 7dpo squinter which was my earliest bfp ever. Probably why it's dragging. Although the early bfp has caused me enough worry. Some lovely ladies on another site convinced me it would be eptopic with a bfp that early.

 

[Sweetkat]

Well we didn't decide to try (or me) until day 15 of cycle. I ovulate on date 15-17 I think. BFP was 9 days after first unprotected sex lol. So it had to be 7-8-9 days post ovulation

So to be fair the wait has been since 31 May for me, even thought BFP wasn't until the 9th of June. It was 80-90% I would get pregnant because I always do.

 

[maryanne1987]

I temp so I know I ovulated day 17 and know for sure it was 7dpo. It was only a squinter though, anyone else looking at it probably would have called it a bfn. I just know what I'm looking for. Right I need to get my positive head on and try to stop worrying. I feel like I'm having such a negative affect on DH and the kids. Need to pull myself together a bit.

 

[Sweetkat]

Maryanne they found a definite cause for your losses though didn't they? So I would have thought your chances are really good now.

Re me, fragmentation isn't treatable and causes miscarriages, so I am just hoping for the best but scared will be MMC round 4

It is treatable with vitamins and such, but my OH's got worse with those... so actually zero treatment options left.

 

[maryanne1987]

Nope, no definite cause as I've had losses since I've started treatment. It's frustrating but they have checked everything and we still have no answers. I feel like there must be something though as we can't just be that unlucky. Nothing we can do but hope for a good outcome.

 

[xkirstyx]

Everything with the midwife went well. She's not concerned about the spotting but I've to phone hospital in the morning is I get it again when I wake up and see about getting another scan to give me peace of mind x

 

[karoolia]

Glad to hear Kirsty! I'm glad you can get a scan to give you peace of mind.

Is your spotting all day or just sometimes? Mine seems to only really be happening in the morning.

 

[xkirstyx]

No mine is just in the morning as well then normally gone or just very light brown by lunch time x

 

[Sweetkat]

Maryanne, we are basically also unexplained because the drs keep saying the fragmentation could or could not be the reason. But lots of studies saying it more than doubles risk.

Has your OH had tests? He could have very normal sperm parameters on a traditional sample and have fragmented DNA. I am obsessed , but apparently in half of unexplained cases the man is to blame!

I guess all we can do is hope. It's a horrible 9 week wait, but here is to rainbows

 

[Sweetkat]

Kirsty, it sounds like the spotting is nothing. Personally I never have any but miscarry and lots of women spot/ bleed and never miscarry.

 

[xkirstyx]

Thanks Hun. I've had it was all my pregnancies so not too worried. The bleeding with my miscarriage was totally different but at the end of the day it still scary to see it x

 

[maryanne1987]

Thanks Hun. I've had it was all my pregnancies so not too worried. The bleeding with my miscarriage was totally different but at the end of the day it still scary to see it x

I hope it stops for you soon Kirsty. You too karoolia. Even though you know it's normal it must still be scary.

Yea he's had all the tests sweetkat. He's bloody mr perfect sperm it's me that's broken.

 

[Sweetkat]

OH was within range on all the traditional sperm parameters and they don't test for fragmentition in all the places I went to (because it's only normally tested if there is repeat IVF failure). Anyway, on this very specific test turned out his sperm should actually make him infertile. I read that up to 30% of men suffer from it. The test itself is like £300-£500, so most people don't bother with it.

Anyway, in case it's of use to anyone.

Maryanne, you aren't broken. Modern medicine is what's broken!

 

[karoolia]

"Maryanne, you aren't broken. Modern medicine is what's broken!"

I couldn't agree with this more! I wish unexplained infertility wasn't a thing. My aunt told me that even in her 40s when she had pretty much given up on having a successful pregnancy she still desperately wanted to know what the problem was, but no one could figure it out.

Sweetkat, I don't blame you for researching so much. I would do the same thing. I always feel like knowledge is power, even if sometimes it can cause a little more worry. It's good too to remind people that the man can also be where the problem lies. Not that it is his fault, but I know I automatically assumed that if we had a problem, it was on my end. It didn't even occur to me to think about DH.

Kirsty, I hope the spotting stops. I'm glad you aren't too worried though. I'm not as concerned about mine now that I have had a scan. I haven't seen anymore today since that first trip to the bathroom this morning. Hoping maybe that was the last of it.

 

[Sweetkat]

Half the genetic material comes from the man, and the test for DNA fragmentation wasn't even available until 2005, and even now it's only routinely done for repeat IVF failure. To me that's just crazy! How can you test half a couple and stop???

Modern medicine is a joke basically. No cure for cancer or even an idea what causes it, heart attacks and strokes remain uncured, no treatment for dementia and of course repeated miscarriages are a mystery!

 

[Sweetkat]

I have hardly had MS today which worries me. I felt sick this morning but only slight nausea since

 

[Sweetkat]

I have a scan this morning. Convinced something is wrong, so I just had to go. I think about nothing else 24/7

 

[xkirstyx]

Good luck with scan Hun.

I had a fresh red bleed last night and small clot. Turned to brown this morning. Phoning epu in 10min to try get booked in for scan