May/June Flowers 2023

[markswife10]

Trying to catch up here haha

Sorry you have Covid @Laurabub84 I sincerely believe you and baby will be just fine. Take care of yourself, get lots of rest and fluids, and try to keep your fever down. Hugs!!

we are planning on finding out the gender. I just don’t have the patience to wait until birth lol!

Adorable bump @MrsKatie

yay for your appointment coming up @mbrew180

@3boys sorry about the GD I know that really stinks to have to worry about, especially so early on.

AFM, I’m fighting my 3rd cold in a little over a month. I had a cold after the kids got it right around my first OB appointment. Two weeks later I got another cold. Then this past weekend the kids got sick again and, of course, I got it too. Soooo tired of snot and mucus! On a good note, my morning sickness is MUCH better now that I’m almost 13 weeks. I have my occasional moments, but the all day sickness is gone. Also my chicken nugget ticker grosses me out this week lol. That’s a definite pregnancy aversion this time ready for the 13 week ticker change lol!

Not sure why it aligned like that lol​

 

[Laurabub84]

Thank you. Obviously all that matters is that baby is ok but I was hoping to not be induced this time around but that looks very likely now. She said it’s quite possible I have type 2 outside of pregnancy. Plus she did a full thyroid blood panel as she said diabetes and b12 deficiency go hand in hand with thyroid problems. I’m hoping they find something as I’ve lots of symptoms I’d love to get to the bottom of.

I hope you can get to the bottom of it all. It’s horrible when you know somethings not right and not knowing what’s causing it

My first appointment is coming up Wednesday the 16th. I don't know what all this practice does the first appointment, my practice we usually just go over what to expect and do a pregnancy test, so guess I'll see!

I got hardly any sleep last night and started gagging uncontrollably on the drive home, to where I did finally vomit a small amount into my to go back from breakfast . I gag so hard I cry but can never actually vomit, and that seems more miserable to me! I took the Zofran and B6 this morning, but finally had to just take a doxylamine in the middle of the day, but it did help!

Here for my first appointment she done my bloods, checked urine and blood pressure, weight. Then talked through history of previous pregnancy’s. Took about an hour.
I know what you mean about the gagging being worse then actually being sick. At least if your sick there’s some temporary relief. Morning sickness whether your actually vomiting or not is just so hard.

Trying to catch up here haha

Sorry you have Covid @Laurabub84 I sincerely believe you and baby will be just fine. Take care of yourself, get lots of rest and fluids, and try to keep your fever down. Hugs!!

we are planning on finding out the gender. I just don’t have the patience to wait until birth lol!

Adorable bump @MrsKatie

yay for your appointment coming up @mbrew180

@3boys sorry about the GD I know that really stinks to have to worry about, especially so early on.

AFM, I’m fighting my 3rd cold in a little over a month. I had a cold after the kids got it right around my first OB appointment. Two weeks later I got another cold. Then this past weekend the kids got sick again and, of course, I got it too. Soooo tired of snot and mucus! On a good note, my morning sickness is MUCH better now that I’m almost 13 weeks. I have my occasional moments, but the all day sickness is gone. Also my chicken nugget ticker grosses me out this week lol. That’s a definite pregnancy aversion this time ready for the 13 week ticker change lol!

Not sure why it aligned like that lol​

thank you hun. Still feeling quite miserable. It’s different to the last time I had it. This time I’m snotty, had body aches for 3 days now and I’ve got the cough whereas last time I didn’t. I think that’s what’s hardest because when I already feel sick, the coughing and gagging is harder. I’m sorry your feeling poorly for the 3rd time. It’s so miserable isn’t it. Rest and fluids is what my doctor recommended but rest isn’t an option when you already have children. I’m also the same with my ticker. I don’t know what possessed me to choose the food because it all turns my stomach. Been tempted to change it for now but I don’t think I can be bothered, lol

 

[Laurabub84]

Oh I just feel like I’m constantly complaining on here but I can’t talk to dh coz he just keeps telling me to stop worrying. I’ve tried to find baby’s heartbeat again this morning. This was the exact day I found my sons but I still can’t find it. I tried for about half hour. I really can’t get rid of the feeling somethings not right. I’m feeling no excitement for my scan at the moment I’m just scared. I want to talk to my midwife for some reassurance because I’m worried covid could harm the baby but I don’t know how to contact them this early on. I’ve read of so many women getting covid whilst ttc and it’s made their periods start only days after ovulation or cause delays in their cycles. If it can affect that then does it mean it can affect a pregnancy this early? I just wish I could hear the heartbeat. I’d be able to relax so much more if I knew for definite that the baby’s ok in there

 

[MumwithPCOS]

@MumwithPCOS oh my gosh I’m sorry, I had a response I started to type and never finished/posted. I am so sorry for the tension with DH. How are things today? It’s horrible when it feels off at home

Thanks hun everything is okay now. We spoke and he apologies and said he was being dramatic which made us both laugh. Thanks for thinking of me.

@AlwaysTheAunt Yes I remember you saying his reaction and felt for you. Yeah I think he just needed some time to process especially as I’ve been pretty slack around the house too and adds more pressure on him. Thanks hun good to know it’s not just me xxx I did say to him I get it coz if it was him that was sick with more pressure on me I’d be moody too.

@Laurabub84 oh noo make sure you got lots of Panadol for you and the kiddies in the house! Just stay cool and rest up. I’m so sorry you got it now. It’s gonna suck but I think Bub will be fine if you look after yourself. The last thing you need!!! I’m sorry you couldn’t find the heartbeat by that is why midwives don’t like us owning the Dopplers! Hopefully you’ll find it when you’re feeling a bit better xxx you’re not always complaining it’s good to know what’s up with everyone xx

 

[Laurabub84]

@MumwithPCOS i know, I keep telling myself off for using it but come the next day i try again. I can’t help myself. I’m just so desperate to hear that heartbeat, I’d be able to relax so much more. I don’t want to feel scared going to my scan. I got myself in a state yesterday and dh gets frustrated at me and tells me I always have to focus on the negatives of everything. I told him I can’t help it as I’ve had a horrible feeling from the start that somethings going to go wrong. I think because I fell first try and that’s never happened to me before. It’s alway taken over a year to conceive so it’s just felt too good to be true if that makes sense. After all the weeks of struggling with morning sickness I at least had the reassurance that all must be ok because of how sick I was feeling. Since getting this covid my sickness seems to have all but disappeared. With that on top of not finding the heartbeat I’m terrified now. I’ve got another week to wait until my scan. I just want it now so I can know if the baby’s ok

 

[AlwaysTheAunt]

Well ladies 12 week scan day for me! Thankfully only 1 little babe with heart beating away. They measured the NT 3 times and all 3 times it measured from 3.5-3.9. With my daughter they told me she was in normal range and i had a gut feeling during the scan that over 3 wasn't great. 3.5 or higher shows higher chance of abnormalities of the baby and now im super stressed/worried that something is wrong. I know they dont only go off that one scan and baby was in odd positions etc and more testing would likely be done if there is a risk. But it took us 2 years to conceive and i know we wont handle having a child that requires alot of extra care (i.e into adulthood) or alot of financial expense as I wont have a job for about another 1.5 years (we are looking at selling our rental house due to interest rates rising so rapidly though).

I'm praying the doctor calls me this week to discuss but i imagine that will only happen if something is wrong.

 

[Laurabub84]

Well ladies 12 week scan day for me! Thankfully only 1 little babe with heart beating away. They measured the NT 3 times and all 3 times it measured from 3.5-3.9. With my daughter they told me she was in normal range and i had a gut feeling during the scan that over 3 wasn't great. 3.5 or higher shows higher chance of abnormalities of the baby and now im super stressed/worried that something is wrong. I know they dont only go off that one scan and baby was in odd positions etc and more testing would likely be done if there is a risk. But it took us 2 years to conceive and i know we wont handle having a child that requires alot of extra care (i.e into adulthood) or alot of financial expense as I wont have a job for about another 1.5 years (we are looking at selling our rental house due to interest rates rising so rapidly though).

I'm praying the doctor calls me this week to discuss but i imagine that will only happen if something is wrong.

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Hello beautiful baby. I’m sorry your scans left you feeling worried. The worry is never ending isn’t it. Hopefully all your other tests and checks will come back fine

 

[MrsKatie]

@Laurabub84 i really hope you’re feeling better now. The “too good to be true” narrative is universal and it is a lie. It’s superstitious, magical thinking. I am also prone to spiraling on the worst-case scenarios because whenever you hear of something terrible happening, someone involved says “I never thought this could happen to me” so if I assume all the worst things will happen, life can’t catch me off-guard.

Here are some personal examples:
-I have 5 gorgeous, healthy children. Too good to be true, so this baby will be sick/have genetic issues OR I will lose one of my children.
-I have the best marriage of anyone I know; my husband is my whole world and the best/most intelligent human I know. This is too good to be true, he will probably die young.
-I read multiple news stories of people losing a 19-month-old daughter. My daughter is almost 19 months old, I will probably lose her soon.

this all feels insane to write out, but there it is. Your mind is trying to protect you somehow, but you cannot tell the future.the overwhelming likelihood is your baby is fine and you are allowed to just be grateful that TTC didn’t take a long time this time.

@AlwaysTheAunt oh sweetie I’m so sorry for the stress! I hope they get back to you soon. I have faith baby is ok Beautiful scan pic.

 

[AlwaysTheAunt]

Thank you both. Its been a financially stressful week so I was already emotional yesterday with stress and that just tipped me. We had a storm damage our fence in the rental, thankfully only excess to pay of $700. We had just brought a 2k water tank last week. $260 trip to the vet with the new pup. They think she has a grass seed in her vagina so we might need to do a $900 exploratory 'surgery'. Plus my car and my husbands non work car have both decided to play up right before a longish drive this weekend for a family party. So everything seemed to hit us all at once when we are already stressed about money as we've never been so tight to have to live week to week and have nothing left to try save at the end.

 

[mbrew180]

@AlwaysTheAunt I hope they can get back to you soon and that it is nothing, that is a screening tool and nothing diagnostic, so it can definitely mean absolutely nothing.

 

[AlwaysTheAunt]

@AlwaysTheAunt I hope they can get back to you soon and that it is nothing, that is a screening tool and nothing diagnostic, so it can definitely mean absolutely nothing.

Thanks. If i dont hear anything before my next apt on the 28th then I will try not to stress. I know its just screening and even after extra tests baby can be fine. Its just been a stressful week.

 

[Laurabub84]

@MrsKatie thank you, I’m feeling a little better. I’ve always suffered bad anxiety and my brain likes to run away with itself over everything. I think the covid masked my sickness for a few days because it made me feel quite poorly but it came back full force yesterday which was a relief. I have what feels like strong period pain today which is unsettling but I’m trying not to read into it. Think I’m actually feeling bloated and it’s just feeling like af pains. I have my scan on Tuesday so I’m trying to keep distracted and hope it comes round quickly. I just need to see with my own eyes that this baby’s ok. Praying dh doesn’t come down with covid between now and then because I would hate for him not to be able to come with me.

@AlwaysTheAunt that does sound stressful. It can never just be one thing can it? Hopefully things will improve for you. It’s horrible when everything needs money, and at this time of the year too. Not what you need at all.

 

[mbrew180]

Thanks. If i dont hear anything before my next apt on the 28th then I will try not to stress. I know its just screening and even after extra tests baby can be fine. Its just been a stressful week.

I know that has to be stressful and I’m so sorry that the rest of your week has been stressful. I hope my comment didn’t come off as dismissive, I was really trying to be supportive and reassuring!

 

[AlwaysTheAunt]

I know that has to be stressful and I’m so sorry that the rest of your week has been stressful. I hope my comment didn’t come off as dismissive, I was really trying to be supportive and reassuring!

No not at all! Ive told some people in my personal life and they were actually dismissive thankfully others and you guys have been supportive. Dr still hasnt rang (im unsure if the bloods are even back yet anyway). I'm secretly hoping the tech somehow measured wrong lol but I'm doing alot better today! Think i sort of needed the 2 days of freaking out to help sort the emotions.

 

[MrsKatie]

@AlwaysTheAunt, seems the only way i process my emotions these days is to flip out…
Keep us posted!

@mbrew180 how are you feeling?

 

[Suggerhoney]

@AlwaysTheAunt I had the opposite.
My 12+6 week scan was completely normal and then just as I got into 2nd trimester I had a phone call to say the blood results came back high risk for Down’s syndrome.

I was offered a few tests but they had a miscarriage risk so I declined. Was only a 1% chance but after the 4 chemicals I didn’t want to take that risk.

I did have the Harmony test and scan was great but bloods kept coming back inconclusive so was told I had to wait for my 20 week scan so they could have a good look at his heart etc.
Again everything was good
but sadly I was told it doesn’t always show in scans.

I was so so worried and in the end we booked a 4d scan when I was 32 weeks and that made me feel alot better.
I still worried tho. And we wouldn’t know for sure until he was born.

thankfully he was healthy.

but I know the worry love.
Please feel free to pm me anytime. I now my situation was a bit different but I just know that worry not knowing if your baby is completely healthy.


that screening test can be wrong. Im praying all will be well love and baby will be healthy.
It’s awful finally getting to 12 weeks and getting news like that.

have they offered any other tests yet? I mean I had my scan at 12+6 his neck measurements were 2.0, I had the scan on the Friday and a specialised midwife called me on the Tuesday.
So they didn’t hang around and that was with the NHS.
So sorry your having to go through this.
But can I say another lady had a 1 in 1 Chance and her baby was healthy.
My results were 1 in 33.
Did they do bloods too love?

 

[AlwaysTheAunt]

Thanks @Suggerhoney so far the dr hasnt rang so I'm taking that as a good sign. They did bloods too on the same day, I am unsure if the dr has looked at them or not. I have my next apt on the 28th so just going to sit tight and hope for the best for that apt! I have access to the test results online after 7 days of being uploaded so I will have a sneaky squizz this week when i can access them. If anything concerns me then I will call and try get in earlier. My birthday is next saturday so I'm trying not to stress so I can just enjoy that day. We will likely get the harmony if it comes to that then go from there.

I am feeling alot better about things though. We went to a family party friday night and it was a great distraction and mini getaway.

 

[MumwithPCOS]

Does anyone else have that severe morning sickness L. If so when did it leave for you? I have quite literally been in bed for two weeks more or less doing bare minimum. If I do half a normal days work I’m vomiting All night and all of the next day and night. It’s full on. Still haven’t gotten any blood tests as I’ve been too sick to leave the house. I am forcing myself to go in the morning tomorrow and I have two very small houses to clean that no one will be home so I can just rest in between doing things. Then I can go back to docs after my bloods get in and ask about the meds. I just haven’t been up to leaving the house. Resting up today so I can get those things done tomorrow. My yard is out of control I really need to do some mowing but I’m scared of the consequences of not being hydrated plus being sick for days after. I had my mum staying the last few days she just had surgery and I was attempting to look after her but was doing a terrible job! Can’t wait to get back to my normal self

 

[3boys]

Does anyone else have that severe morning sickness L. If so when did it leave for you? I have quite literally been in bed for two weeks more or less doing bare minimum. If I do half a normal days work I’m vomiting All night and all of the next day and night. It’s full on. Still haven’t gotten any blood tests as I’ve been too sick to leave the house. I am forcing myself to go in the morning tomorrow and I have two very small houses to clean that no one will be home so I can just rest in between doing things. Then I can go back to docs after my bloods get in and ask about the meds. I just haven’t been up to leaving the house. Resting up today so I can get those things done tomorrow. My yard is out of control I really need to do some mowing but I’m scared of the consequences of not being hydrated plus being sick for days after. I had my mum staying the last few days she just had surgery and I was attempting to look after her but was doing a terrible job! Can’t wait to get back to my normal self

Hope you feel better soon.

@AlwaysTheAunt i hope they put your mind at rest soon.

afm I had a scan yesterday and all looks good. We are having another boy and I’m so excited. He was super cute in the scan and May feels like forever away.

 

[Laurabub84]

@MumwithPCOS Oh hun that sound so miserable. I was really bad with my son. Some days the anti sickness tablets would take the edge off and sometimes they’d do nothing. With him I noticed my nausea was easier to manage after 10 weeks when the placenta takes over. With this one I’m now 11 weeks and I’m having good and bad days as opposed to everyday constantly. I think the latest I had it for was 14 weeks with dd4, but again it was more manageable after 10/11 weeks. You need to be careful you don’t get too dehydrated. Speak to your doctor or midwife about some antisickness meds even if they just help to take the edge off. Rest as much as you can. Morning sickness really is horrendous and it feels like it lasts forever and will never end, but it will hun. I’m with you and can’t wait to feel normal again and just be able to eat and drink again. I’ve always got morning sickness bad with all of mine. It’s so hard. I’m trying to take comfort in that baby’s ok because of how I’m feeling. I still haven’t managed to find the heartbeat on my Doppler and I’m 11 weeks 2 days now. I’d found my two previous baby’s by now so I’m freaking out about it. But I still have my morning sickness so I’m holding onto that hope that alls ok with baby. I know it’s so hard but hang in there. I tried taking each day at a time and on hitting the next weeks milestone. Your almost 9 weeks so hopefully in another week or so it will start to decline and be much more manageable for you. Hang in there hun and please speak to your health provider for some help with it.

@AlwaysTheAunt i hope you get some reassurance soon. Hugs

@3boys such a cute scan. Congratulations on your baby boy. How exciting

11 weeks and 2 today and I still can’t find babies heartbeat. I’m struggling to sleep worrying about it and I’m so nervous for my scan on Tuesday. I just want it here now. I’m putting the Doppler away now. It’s caused me so much stress and anxiety these last 2 weeks. I can 100% hear the placenta. It has that whooshing sound like wind through trees and my heartbeat. I keep looking around it to try and find baby but nothing. Only thing I can think is I have an anterior placenta this time. Don’t think I’ve had one at the front before but I’m hoping that’s what it is and baby’s tucked behind it and that’s why I can’t hear them. I wish I’d never used the Doppler now but I just assumed I’d easily find it as I did with my previous two baby’s, and once I started I haven’t been able to stop checking every other day in the hope I’ll find it the next time. I’m so worried