May Munchkins 2019

[Hoping4numbr3]

When I got pregnant with my son I was more scared about trying to breastfeed again then I was about the birth. The bleeding nipples oooo that pain lol I am a wuss. I will have to suck it up this time! I will be staying home for the first year (probably longer) with this baby since day care is 1600 a month where I am at and that is just ridiculous lol. So breast feeding will save me money!

 

[xSweetTartx]

Oh I would die if my son did that! He is turning 5 and is still such a cuddle bug. I'd be a wreck if he ever chose his daddy over me. My daughter though was a daily betrayal for a while! I was constantly with her. Feeding her, caring for her etc, and she always chose my husband at the end of the day. That little booger wouldn't sleep unless she was in my arms but daddy is the best.
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I hope that your husband is feeling better tigs! I absolutely love your name choice!
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Right there with you, Hoping!!!! Affording my son's Preschool is difficult enough. Relieved that he will be in public school this Fall, but I am sure that my daughter will be ready for Preschool soon.

Daycare has never been an option though. It is beyond expensive here as well and I always see horror stories on the news. So it's a combination of being too expensive and my personal paranoia. Plus, if they have a bunch of other babies to watch, I can't imagine that they would take care of my children the way I would want.

I have been home with the first two and I will do the same with this one. I am lucky to be able to do so.

 

[Hoping4numbr3]

@xSweetTartx Yes! I agree. All those little babies and you are going to charge me that much for what? To watch them sleep mostly? haha no I can do that. I am kind of sad about losing my own money though if that makes sense. I am not really the best at using someone else's even if it is my Husbands lol. I like to be able to do what I want!

 

[flou]

DH is the stay at home parent in our family. He has always worked for himself but his work isn't regular. I'm the one with a steady income and I earn enough to support us. I'm a teacher so I have the school holidays off so DH works more when I'm off. I think this has definitely been the best thing for our family and we are lucky that we are able to work it that DS gets at least one of us all the time. I did find it really hard to leave DS when he was a baby and I had huge mummy guilt about leaving him when he was so young even though his daddy was looking after him. I still find it hard after a school holiday and I hate it when I have days when I work long hours. But I do love having my own independence and being able to work.

 

[xSweetTartx]

Me too. I was working at the start of this pregnancy, but things happened. lol I am still taking a few classes this semester though. I do not want to fall behind my estimated graduation time. My mother says I am crazy, but my husband is all for it. He says I am his super wifey.

It has been hard to transition back to being a stay-at-home mom for a while though. I know I will go back to the workforce when I am ready, but I miss it a lot. Not just the income, but the adult conversations and interactions.
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That is so awesome for you, Flou! My husband works from home and looked after the kids for me before I transitioned over. It was nice because he finally understood why I was always tired.

What subject do you teach, if I may ask?

 

[Hoping4numbr3]

Yeah I do not know how I feel being a stay at home momma soonish. I have been working at my company for 6 years and get paid pretty decent for what I do. I feel like if I end up staying home I wont be going back until they are in Elementary school and then who will want to hire me with that big of a gap in working? I also like having my own money and no one to question what I am doing with it lol. I guess I better get over it.

Notice I said "They" since DH and I are considering having a 4th to even out the 3..crazy or what? LOL I told him well if that is going to happen it wont be long after this baby girl is born so that way they can get to elementary school pretty quickly together bahaha

 

[BellaRosa8302]

I hear you ladies. I'm a teacher too, flou, but I'd give just about anything to be a SAHM. My DH refuses to move though, and that's really what it would take. Our mortgage/utilities/bills are too high for me to just quit without making a drastic change to our lifestyle. I'd be willing to move, but he's not. It gets harder each time I go back. Daycare really is our only option. It sucks.

On a happier note - I'm 20 weeks now! And I have my scan tomorrow afternoon! Will keep you ladies updated

 

[flou]

Sweetart I teach teenagers Biology and Chemistry. I hate it when doctors, midwives, nurses etc find out that my specialism subject is Biology. They start talking in "proper" names for things as if to prove to me that they know what they are doing. Sometimes its quite funny.

Bellarose what age children do you teach? It is hard balancing a home life and a work life during term time. I do like working and I love teaching (wish I could just teach rather than deal with the bureaucracy in education and demands from above!)but would love to reduce the amount of days I work. But its just not feasible.

I can't believe I am 24 weeks today! I have an appointment with my ob tomorrow to discuss whether I can opt to have elective c-section. This is because I had an horrendous birth experience with DS which ended in me having an emcs. Im just hoping they will let me.

 

[xSweetTartx]

I find it works out for me because my field is always looking for more. There are not enough of us.

Honestly though, if you have a good work reputation and good references, you should be perfectly good to go. Just be honest in future interviews if they ask, they will get it.

My husband also joked about a 4th, I told him that I will book his vasectomy.
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Aw D: I am sorry Bella, congrats on being 20 weeks though!!!! I am looking forward to Sunday as it will be my V day!!!! 24 weeks! I love it. Definitely let us know about your scan.
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That has to be fun! I favor Biology, it's a core subject for any medical career. I am a Veterinary Technician and my doctors do the same thing. In fact, even my Dentist! I will never forget when he found out. He was trying to explain something to me and I said, "buccal or lingual?" He about cried in happiness.

Congrats on getting to your V day!

 

[BellaRosa8302]

Flou - That is funny I teach K-5 ESOL (English to Speakers of Other Languages). Most of my kids speak Spanish but there are a few other languages in there too. I work with 96 students at the moment. YES - I agree. I love the kids themselves, but not the politics of it. Also, the behaviors get worse every year I teach in a high-needs urban public school. Despite mostly loving my job, I'd still take being a SAHM any day

Sweet - LOL @ #4! I'm actually kind of leaning toward having a fourth.... I keep reading that 3 kids are stress and 4 kids are more go-with-the-flow. And I'm getting super excited about having another squish to love soon! 2 boys & 2 girls would be ideal

As for my scan.... well, it mostly went well. But I did have an issue. I have to go back for another appointment at another facility to have another scan done. First off, the more minor thing (at least to me) is that I drank a little too much water and my bladder was a little too full.... so even after she asked me to use the bathroom a bit to see if it would ease up, it was still too full. So she said that my uterus was contorted around my bladder, which was probably the issue, but that the measurement between the placenta and my cervix was minimal... meaning when I go into labor and my cervix dilates, we can possibly have an issue with my placenta getting in the way, bleeding, etc. So, they're going to check on that and make sure it was just my overfull bladder.

The more concerning thing is, they found what they called a calcification in baby's abdomen. I was told it is not a tumor, but since it's not 100% "normal" they want the specialists to look at it. I was told not to worry, the doctor herself said that her own child had a few calcifications in her bowel and by the time she was born they were gone. I can't help but worry anyway, and cried after I stepped out of the office, and another few times last night. Just very down - of course it could be much worse, but I just wanted the "perfectly healthy normal no problems" diagnosis to come out of the scan. Got some gorgeous shots of baby waving and he/she had his/her hands near his/her face too - was adorable (well, as adorable as you can get on a scan). Hope everyone else is well!

 

[BellaRosa8302]

Update: I go to a high risk facility on Wednesday. I'll keep you ladies posted as to what happens. I'm assuming an ultrasound and appointment, but I truly don't know what to expect.

 

[flou]

Good luck Bella. I hope all goes ok. And I hope the calcifications do go as the pregnancy progresses. I too have a placenta close to my cervix so have a follow up growth scan in March. However, after my appointment with my ob, he has agreed to me having an elective c-section. We talked at length about everything which happened during DS' birth and he agreed this was the best option for me. So I am booked in at 39 weeks which means, as long as it isn't postponed, or I go into labour before, I will have my little boy on the 30th April. It feels kind of weird knowing a real potential date for meeting my baby!

 

[BellaRosa8302]

Thanks, Flou. Sorry that you're going through the same with the placenta/cervix situation, but glad you've come to a decision you're comfortable with

 

[Hoping4numbr3]

@xSweetTartx I have heard this "V" day mentioned several times but didn't know what it meant. LOL I had to look it up but ooo yay! 3 more weeks for me.

 

[BellaRosa8302]

I don't think I realized v-day was so soon! I thought it was closer to 28 weeks Very cool though that we're almost (if not already) there!

 

[BellaRosa8302]

Just a couple of pics from my scan last Wednesday

 

[flou]

Lovely scan pics bella!

 

[keepinitreal1]

Hey guys! Sorry I’ve been MIA, but I’ve been following just to make sure everyone is OK.

Everything is fine over here, I’m now 25 weeks and counting down the days to 3rd tri. I’ve had the morphology just before Christmas and I’m scheduled for my next scan on Friday.

Our boy has been kicking the life out of me for the past two weeks or so. With my first pregnancy, I had anterior placenta so the moves were quite more subtle and it’s amazing to see now what I’ve been missing

The only problem I’m having is with SPD which is really flaring up and making it difficult for me to stand, walk or even lie down properly. I’m asking for a scan of the pelvic bone on Friday to see if I’ve got a crack/diastasis or anything else serious going on or if this is just something I’ll have to deal with for the next 3 months or so. It’s only about 25 work days before I start my maternity leave (it’s 28 days before due daye + I have to use up my entire yearly leave which is about the same number of days) so I’ll probably be more comfortable once at home.

Have any of you started shopping and other arrangements? We’ve only bought the bassinette, linens and some other smaller things and I’m freaking out that I’m leaving everything for last minute I’ve got the lists, but I simply don’t get around to spending 2+ hours in a store and picking everything up...

Have a great Sunday and take care of yourselves and your bumps!

 

[xSweetTartx]

I love the scan pictures! I also hope that you get answers soon!
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I hope that everyone continues to progress wonderfully!!
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I am just a little jealous, flou! C-Sections are scary, but it is nice to know when your little one will be here safely! It looks like you will be the first of us to meet your little one.
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My V day was on Sunday and we had a bit of a special dinner for it. I know it may be silly, but our baby officially being considered a person is pretty cool You never want anything bad to happen to your little one, but it is good to know that they are considered viable and would be saved in an emergency.

I am really sick right now though and it sucks! I have been having fevers and my throat is very sore. Options for medicine while pregnant are so limited!

 

[BellaRosa8302]

Sweet - Hope you're feeling better soon!!! Awesome about celebrating V day! Love it I hope that we do something similar in my family