MAY we all be blessed with baby! May 2013 and beyond (BFFs Seeking BFPs)

[newbie2013]

I think it is slowly sinking in that we're having a boy. Still seems weird. Dh is getting over his initial disappointment and getting used to the idea. He's trying out the names we're currently considering and coming up with others, which is good because I don't LOVE any of the ones we've got so far. Good thing we've got time to think!

Profwife, it does my heart good too

 

[melann13]

I think I was partially CONVINCED ours was a girl because of the Shettle's method, even though I know it's not AT ALL proven, it's supposed to be like 70%, and considering we DTD 3-4 days before O, I figured that certainly we would be one that it held up for. That little Y sperm was a tenacious little bugger!
DH is finally able to feel him moving too which is helping with the bonding. We also had a talk about distribution of responsibilities, (He's AMAZING, I just don't always communicate what I need until it's through tears). So I have Saturday mornings all to myself now, so sleep in, work, whatever. He even played with her in the three season room for an hour this morning so I could sleep without hearing them (he knows I wake easily if I hear her) and then took her to the park and some errands, so I'm at a coffee shop and sewed her a skirt this morning and got some work done as well as just enjoying my alone time. I ADORE my daughter, but Im' home on Monday Wednesday Fridays with her for the summer and when I'm "in charge" all day on the weekends too, I get tired. He's been really stressed lately, and I think it actually does him good to be forced to just sit back and play with her instead of focusing on his to do list.

 

[pathos]

Congrats on team blue! I was very happy to see that tiny little okra on screen but husband was shocked. DH pats my belly calls this bean, khaleesi. I hope he wont have gender disappointment again. I am 13+2 =), some 6-8 weeks to learn if we decide to know.

Name is a big issue with us. Husband and I are from different countries, but we live in Germany. So it has to be a name that at least Germans can pronounce somewhat right and has a nice meaning preferably in both of our mother tongues. If not i want a fancy name of from lord of the rings.

It seems that my fatigue is a result of hypothyroid. I was with grave's disease for 15 years and it miraculously disappeared before i got pregnant. I prefer thousand times hyper to hypo. I cannot get out of bed.

Clandie, i rarely use our stroller. Babywearing is amazing. First six months, it is better to use stretchy wrap slings or woven wraps or ring slings. Babies like this skin to skin connection, tight womb feeling and movement. I wore L and went outside, it made me feel better to be outside. I do not believe in colic but i believe in not babywearing colic and crying.

Slings can be tricky at first but one learns quickly. As a carrier I used an American brand, Boba 4g, that comes with a new born insert. That one is very easy to wear and very easy to adjust compared to wraps but its fabric is not soft. There are woven carriers, wraps, and mei taies - all are different. Beware it is additive like cloth diapering. There are thousands of tutorials and babywearing celebrities out there. I like to follow "wrap you in love", website, facebook, youtube.

 

[newbie2013]

The name is a problem for us for the same reason. Dh and I are also from different countries and while we live in his country now, we may not forever. I also was to give his English speaking relatives a name they can easily pronounce. Dh is also Muslim and we want a name that suits but won't cause too much discrimination in the West should our kids choose to go to university or live in another country. He'll have Mohamed as one of his middle names (unless we can alter the naming convention here slightly) because that is his grandfather's name, but middle names are used much in Australia.

I have a friend bringing me a mobi wrap from the USA next week, which I hope to use for the first few months but after that it It's likely to be too hot too wear for both me and baby. Also, he'll be in day care and the nanny will want a stroller too walk him around the school. I wouldn't want anyone else too wear him except us and close friends/relatives.

I'm almost half way there! Hard to believe... I need to book my flight week scan but keep forgetting.

 

[pathos]

Good luck newbie, boys name in those criteria are very difficult.
We opted for secular names, and came up with Levin. Actually it is a Turkishized version of Arabic Lawn? (paint, color), but it is also a very popular German/Dutch name. Some think its Jewish but nope, Levi is Jewish. My husband's name is Ömer (Omar) and yep he was named after his grandfather. I am lucky that his side had no such expectations from us.

One thing I did was to look up all the constellation and star names. They are actually all Arabic. If it was not a girl's name in German, we were to name him Anka (phonenix). Everybody can say Paul Anka hehe.

 

[dannycarr]

That's great.

 

[kksy9b]

I love coming back in here and seeing all your great updates!

Congrats on team newbie and melann! I Dont have a girl so can't speak to that experience, but having a little boy is just amazing. There is such a unique relationship with a boy and his momma (much like dad/daughter I would imagine). Its part of the reason why I'm hoping for a second little boy this time around!

Athena- how are you doing hun? Are you still on bed rest?

Clande- you are getting so close now! Have you been having any labor signs?

Profwife- how are you doing hun? That's great you were able to go med free for a few days (awhile ago...sorry...I'm so behind!). Are you still going to counseling? I hope it is helping

Momwithbabies- I've been thinking of you and hope you are okay

Rae- how are you doing?

Pathos- I hope ypu are feeling better now! My first tri was miserable and I think a lot of it was from having a toddler to chase after too

I'm sorry if I missed anyone, I'm on my phone and so going off memory (which is sketchy at best these days lol)

AFM, I am 19 weeks now! MS went away for 3 weeks but had been back in action for the last week...sigh. If it's still bad by my next appointment I may see about anti nausea meds. There have been several times that it has just knocked me on my butt. I have too much to do this fall to be laying on the couch! The stretching/cramping is much worse this time around too. I am growing so much quicker than last time so my skin often feels pulled tight. So all in all, its been hard physically. However, I have been feeling baby move everyday for the last week and for the last 3 days is strong enough to feel from the outside. It ia definitely helping with bonding and helping me get through the hard bits easier. I have my scan next Thursday the 25th but will stay team yellow (hopefully!). We are now 100% on our names. Claire for a girl, Calvin for a boy. All the 'C' names are coincidental lol (DS is Charles). I think that's it on my end! It feels like its going so slow but I'm sure the back half will just fly by!

 

[ClandestineTX]

I'm good! Thankfully no labor signs yet! I was released from glucose testing by my specialist on Friday, no more four times a day - just fasting levels a few times a week to make sure there's no increase. Baby is estimated at 4 pounds 15 ounces as of Friday (32w), he's very active. I've been working with a doula on exercises, stretches, etc. for birth preparation - collecting things for my hospital bag. We received one of our car seats from one of my relatives last night (via Amazon). I am excited and still walking daily and trying to do what I can to keep my pelvic bones moving and not so uncomfortable. Thankfully, midwife, doula, and chiropractor all agree they aren't out of alignment, so soreness is not concerning.

And I have two agencies that look like they are moving toward firm job offers - Hubster has started applying both places, they both know they are in competition, both know (and are not bothered) about my pregnancy/ due date/ possible start date - so all crazy, but all good!

We had been infertile long enough that we had a girl's and boy's name at the ready, no family names for boys (same names overused by both sides), named after authors in this case. Girl's name would have been a scientist for the first and my mom's middle name for the second.

 

[kksy9b]

That's great about getting the carseat and starting to pack a hospital bag! Pretty sure I was 39 weeks before I even made my bag list lol

Awesome news about the job offers! When do you think you will hear back?

 

[ClandestineTX]

I could not wait until 39 weeks, LOL. I am a type-A planner, I would start to get all twitchy if I waited that long (Hubster is much more shoot-from-the-hip type and would have no problems winging it, LOL).

I technically have both jobs - one is contingent on paperwork that takes over a month and the other has to complete their hiring process. They both know I am considering the other. I am trying to stay objective, but really leaning toward one - I'm just not comfortable withdrawing from the other without being 100% sure I am definitely through all the hoops. It should take about another month for the process to be finished. It's just how my industry works.

 

[kksy9b]

I am totally a planner as well. With the way my work was at the time, by the time I got home, i was too exhausted to even think about it. So as soon as I was on my maternity leave at 39 weeks, I got it together (though DS made me wait another 3 weeks so wound up with plenty of time lol). Team yellow so far is going great because we haven't hit our scan date (next week)....but I'm already a bit anxious about being able to have everything ready without knowing....

That is really wonderful that you have two great opportunities that you get to pick from! I think i remember from awhile back that you would be having to move for a new job. is that still the case or did something come up close to where you live now?

 

[athena87]

I am off bed rest and at my appt on Tuesday she checked me and I'm 3 cm and 75% effaced. She doesn't expect me to make it to my next appt or the weekend for that matter.

 

[melann13]

Clande, you have me so curious about your names now!! I kind of like the name Phineas for a boy, but as a neuroscientist, I kept help but think of Phineas Gage...
My daughter's middle name is Jo as our moms are Joan and Joann. This little boys middle name will be my dads name.

 

[momwithbabies]

Thank you for all of the supportive comments. They lifted my spirit!

Love all of these updates. Looks like there are lots on team blue! My son is my best friend, hands down. I can't believe he's a 6th grader now! He started middle school last Wednesday! I hope I can always have that special relationship with him, but of course I also realize he's becoming a teenager. Lots of mixed emotions with his momma, for sure! My daughter started 3rd grade!!! Man, time goes so quickly.

I think boys names are the most challenging to pick out. I had a girl and a boy named picked for my first pregnancy, but I would have been stuck if my second one was a boy! I would say to just go with your gut, and there's no shame in waiting until you see your little one.

Some of you are almost to the finish line! So excited for you all!

 

[ALiKO]

Hello ladies,

Geesh I feel like such a blast from the past lol . It is amazing to see this group still active and kicking after all these years. I haven't been able to read up much but I just want to say congratulations and h&h9m to everyone who has gotten a bfp which looks like quite a bit of you since last time I checked in a few months ago!

Afm, so much has happened since the last time I checked in but for starters I just recently had a huge international move and just simply had no time.

But now that I'm a bit more settled hubby and I are finally ready to fully start ttc! Currently 1dpo and super anxious! Feels like I'm literally trying for my 1st again.

 

[newbie2013]

Aliko! Great to hear from you! Good luck with ttc... Welcome back to the waiting - haha! Hope you don't have to wait too long.

 

[ALiKO]

Thanks newbie

And congratulations! Your having a January babe how exciting! January is all about fresh starts and new beginnings so what a perfect time to welcome a new lil bundle.

I'm really hoping it doesn't take as long as the 1st time. I tried on and off for about 6 months b4 I got my 1st bfp. Good thing about now is I have a 2 year old to distract me and keep me somewhat sane lol

 

[newbie2013]

Wow! Aliko! I can't believe Hana is two! I remember her being born... so happy for you. Inshallah, this time will be quick.

 

[gabbygabz]

Aliko inspired me as another blast from the past to chime in. I've been popping in now and then but wanted to officially say congrats to everyone!

Surprise of all surprises we are actually also back in the expecting category after getting a super shocking BFP in May so baby girl #3 will be due in January to join the twins. Turns out even after IVF the first time crazy things can happen naturally.

Anyway, hope everyone keeps doing great and I will keep following and cheering along!

 

[melann13]

Yay Gabbygabz!!
My surprise BFP certainly took me longer to come to terms with... since all the anticipation and longing hadn't been there (we wanted another but were planning to TTC this fall). Other than feeling like crap for 1st tri, I think it took until 17weeks or so for me to really start thinking about this baby once he comes... Certainly VERY much loved and wanted, just different this time around. Plus, when you're chasing a toddler, everything else is put in the back of your mind.

We MAY have a name! Super randomly came up this past weekend as we were on a road trip and had A LOT of time to talk in the car. I like old fashioned names (daughter is Felicity), that are also uncommon, but not so novel that no one knows how to pronounce or spell them.
We were thinking Micah, though that's not very uncommon, but it just wasn't sticking for me. I came up with Emmett this weekend, and it seems to have more staying power in my mind. I looked up famous Emmetts once DH said that he really liked the name and re-discovered that it's Doc Brown's (from Back to the Future) first name. Now DH thinks it's absolutely amazing and wants his nickname to be doc, which is only made slightly more amusing by the fact that I am a "doc" (PhD), but since I'm not an MD, no one in my personal life every calls me Dr._____. My students do certainly, but outside of the university walls, I never hear it...
Anyway, we'll sit with it for a bit and see if we still like it. We won't share it with anyone IRL until he's born.
I also always joke that it has to be a name that sounds fitting for a bald guy as male pattern baldness comes from the maternal side and my dad has been bald since 27yrs old He'll have my dad's name for his middle name as well.