Mid June and July Firecrackers Group Due June/July 2017!

[Mummafrog]

Pretty and dobby it makes my heart ache to think of you both feeling anxious and stuck like this, the protective part of me wants to say that the very fact that they make you feel even doubtful, let alone frightened, is enough to say that they don't deserve you or the baby in their lives. I hope you know that there are beautiful, kind, gentle, family orientated men out there too. I'm glad you're being careful and we're all behind you

Been feeling baby a lot less this week, it has grown up and it's under all my flab now :/ can't wait to feel it every day. Sometimes I don't even feel pregnant, just sick and sore. I have a stressy day tomorrow which is like an interview prep thing at uni and it's basically mock interviews and I don't wanna do it

My lovely parents are helping us buy this awesome corner sofa bed from ikea which I am actually SO excited about!! I'm going to make the living room really lovely and cosy before the baby comes and I'm stuck in there breastfeeding all day for a few weeks (can't wait really)

 

[PrettyInInk42]

Thanks for your concerns, everyone.

I'm not some battered woman too scared or stupid to leave, but my situation is not the most ideal. However, I will do whatever I need to to keep myself and kiddo safe. So, don't worry. I'll let you know how it goes, but it won't be for a while.

 

[Maries_s]

I haven't felt baby often and this is making me nervous. My doctor told me that movement are important but I can feel the baby for less than a minute and don't feel anything in 2 days or 3. I thought movement at 19 weeks wasn't so important and I don't remember when I started feeling my DD in full force.

 

[lesondemavie]

I'm the same Marie. I feel baby every now and again, but it's not always for sure and I go long periods of time with nothing. Still that little heart is beating strong every time I check with the doppler. Some people don't feel baby at all until 20 weeks or later, so I'm just trying to sit tight for now.

 

[DobbyForever]

Hugs sorry ladies no expertise on baby movement just that I know some ladies who barely had movement but their babies were ok.

As for feeling for me, really don't. My parents just spent over $300 on me this weekend taking me out and buying me things/the baby things/changing my low key reveal into an elaborate one. As for a man, I don't need him and he was traditionalist anyway. He wouldn't help either way and tbh I like it that way. My anxiety disorder makes me a control freak. I have an incredible job I love with a 5 minute commute and contractual start time of 8:15am and end time of 2:36, I make almost 90k/year alone, I own a two story, three bedroom condo in the Bay Area in a safe, quiet part of town, and just paid off the last of my credit card debt due to an amazing mortgage credit I receive. I'd take my life over any of my married cousins' or friends' lives any day. . But it is very sweet of you all to care so much and I don't really think he would do anything, he has built his life up too much to risk it hurting me when everyone knows it would be him. And I have been physically and sexually abused by most of my exes, and he has never once hurt me.

 

[Betty.Rubble]

Regular movement is only important after 24 weeks - and some women with anterior placentas won't feel it all the time so don't worry. 1st timers will also not feel it as early on as it's difficult to distinguish from gas!

 

[Catalyst]

I realy hope you dont think battered women are stupid Pritty? It is more complex than ppl realise and lot harder than we think to get out of that kind of relationship. If it was easy no woman would let her man beat her more than once.
But after all the posts you seem to be treading carefylly and doing what you think is best for you and baby in your situation, that is good. I hope everything goes well
And i have to tell you, I have been envying you a litle since you posted about the outfits you have bought haha. I so want to start buying things!! But we are waiting after 20w scan (today!)

Dobby - I dont think she meant you needed a man to take care of you. I know of anxiety persons that have a realy realy good men by their side. For me I dont think of a man as someone to make things easy, help me buy house or take care of me financialy. I think it more as a person to share my life with, to help race my kiddosto be healthy (not that single moms cant do that, they do a good job ) and just I dont know, a partner. It is good to be independent, and I think it is something all women should be with or without a man. I was just thinking of how nice it is to adore the baby with someone hehe "look how cute he is!" "he said the most adorable thing today" and all that mushy things

I have been having hard two weeks regarding my youngest son, first week he had the influensa (confirmed by doctors) and then last week after just 2-3 days at daycare he has streptococcus infection in this throat. Im trying to write my masters thesis (nausea, fatique and all that not been helping) and this staying at home with him has not helped. But during the weekend I took off for 4-5 hours saturday and again yesterday while DH was home. But it has been so bad for my pubic bone. These twins are making things hard for me already! haha But before I went to school to study I went to the store.. and while I was there this litle girl starts puking just 4-5 steps away from me!! And then when I came to daycare today I find out that a boy on his class has mumps!! You are supposed to have vaccination against that at age 18months and I dont know why heand his litle sister have it... we drove back home to check our vaccinationbooks and both boys had theirs (we were not sure of the age then) and also me and DH (they started vaccinate kids younger than us, then some grown up got it the year 2005 and my mum called us so we would go, my grate grandfather had them when he was grown man and he could not have kids after wich is why he adopted my grandfather).

Well I have vented, sorry for lengthy post.. but I have no concintration since my scan is later on and also I am so worried about all this sickness around me these days!!

 

[second.time]

Dobby, sounds like you're living a dream life! I'm so envious of your home in the Bay Area - such a gorgeous place to live. I have a lot of respect for single parents. I know it presents some challenges, but having a strong support system of family/friends can be just as helpful as having a partner.

Catalyst, good luck at the scan today! So exciting to find out what you're having (and to see two healthy babies, of course). Sorry you've encountered sick kids lately. I mean, I feel I sorry for the kids and hope that little boy recovers from mumps very quickly, but it's also scary to worry about a serious illness during pregnancy. Thank goodness you've had your vaccinations and don't have to worry as much.

With my first pregnancy, I'd never been vaccinated against chicken pox, and also never had it as a kid. I worried over what would happen if I contracted it during pregnancy. Thankfully everything was OK and I got my immunization before TTC my second.

 

[lesondemavie]

Cat - We had a mumps scare at a district I worked at once. Some people do not give their children the MMR vaccine out of fear that it causes autism or other injury. The child thought to have mumps was in our autism program. Ironically, I have quite a few clients with autism who have not been vaccinated. California has had some recent measles outbreaks, and recently changed some laws as a result regarding religious exemptions at public schools. Not sure what the laws are in Iceland though? You're not technically safe even if you have had the vaccine, but you probably are. The majority of us will respond well and build an immunity, but the degree to which can vary and a few of us will not respond to the vaccine enough to become immune. Those few are at risk even if they had the vaccine. My obgyn checked my immunity level with my first tri blood tests and I was super immune which was good to see. Did yours?

Betty that's so great that you can get the immunization now! I was totally a victim of those 80s chicken pox parties. I had such a bad case, and then it turned out I was allergic to calamine lotion, so it just made me even itchier!!! I was only 5, but I have very clear memories of going through that!

 

[second.time]

My mom was too scared of chickenpox parties to take us! I guess it's a mixed blessing, because that doesn't sound fun. I was just able to get two doses at a pharmacy. I did have to do it in early 2016, months before I began TTC, because I think you're supposed to wait at least a month before getting pregnant.

 

[Catalyst]

Lesondemavie - No I dont think he did check it. But I think vacciantion is rather good here in iceland, never met someone that hasnt goten their kid vaccinated, although there mustbe someone who dont. But I have heard of 1 or 2 that waited a bit, wanted them to be bit bigger before geting theyr shots, not skipped. They have also have in 2005 (when we went) and maby 9-10 years later put in the news that ppl age so and so (around my age) could come and get vaccinated cause there had come up acase in an adult. That must help, right?

So the scan went realy well They are deffinitly fraternarl! Theyr heads are not same shape she said, one is more round than the other but both normal. They are almost exactly the same size, they have theyr own sac and placentas. Baby on the left (they dont use A and B any more here, rather left and right) has its placent in front but high, has its legs high kicking the other twins feets haha, and is lying deeper and can almost look between its legs cause it is so curled up! Baby on the right is not as deep, near my stomach and placenta in the back and high. It stretches out, has its head down and low and feet high up. We got a view of four feet moving together and pushing each other... and me haha. Ohh and baby on the right has its face at baby on the lefts ass!! hahahaha
So they were not coooperative when trying to see the gender, the one stretching out kepts its leg close together so it was hard to see and the other is cuddled up in a ball so it was also hard to see. So what she thought she saw she put in the envelope but said she would not swear by it.. Hopefully next scan in 8 weeks will confirm it
We did the cake thing anyway and the layers have same color and here is a pic of it!!

 

[second.time]

Two little girls? Congratulations, catalyst! That's wonderful!

 

[Catalyst]

That is what the doc thought she saw, but she was not 100% sure so it is caususly announced on our facebook haha but I was realy shocked, was not expecting that!!

 

[Maries_s]

I'm the same Marie. I feel baby every now and again, but it's not always for sure and I go long periods of time with nothing. Still that little heart is beating strong every time I check with the doppler. Some people don't feel baby at all until 20 weeks or later, so I'm just trying to sit tight for now.

That's what I keep reminding myself but it's hard not to get worry. I did not buy a Doppler early in this pregnancy and I regret it and now I think is too late to get one knowing that soon I'm going to feel the baby.

Regular movement is only important after 24 weeks - and some women with anterior placentas won't feel it all the time so don't worry. 1st timers will also not feel it as early on as it's difficult to distinguish from gas!

That is what I thought but after doctor telling me that movement were important I freak out. I knew there were important but not so early in pregnancy.


Catalyst: congratulations!! By the description of their heads I thought that it was going to be a boy and a girl. So two girls surprised me. You must be over the moon. Girls are amazing!

 

[lesondemavie]

Aw congrats Cat! How fun! Sex of baby by ultrasound definitely isn't for sure, esp if they do not cooperate! Hope you can get it sorted soon. Too bad they can't see the internal structures, like the ovaries! I can't wait for our 20 week scan next Tuesday! Guess we'll just have to look away when they do that part of it, but I want to see everything else. It's so fascinating and fun to the biologist in me!

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Cat congrats on the two princesses!!

 

[Catalyst]

Thank you Maries I was expecting boy and girl, or even two boys. I just sure hope that she was right hahah now that we have had "this is what I saw, though I cant be 100% sure" haha and that its two girls!!
Having two boys before it would be perfect.

 

[Catalyst]

Thank you girls
I know it aint for sure, but I am going to embrace it. I said to my DH that we should celebrate.. and if in next scan something els showes we will just celebrate again

 

[second.time]

Two boys and two girls seems like such a fun arrangement for your family! But if it turns out to be three boys and a girl, or even four boys, it will be just as lovely.

 

[Mummafrog]

Ahh amazing cat congratulations :woohoo: at my 20w with my dd they were very clear they couldn't tell me for definite, they always cover their arse haha. Yes celebrate having two healthy probably girls now and if it changes that'll be a cool surprise too!

I can't wait to know and buy things.. even though I don't need to buy things.. but I will xD we have been given a big bag of clothes used for a baby boy so lots of dark blues and cars etc but I'll still use it for a girl too We have more pink/purple stuff up in the grandparents attic which we need to get down and sort through. Ahh it's all so fun.
Hubby had a dream it was a girl last night, bless him. I just have no clue this time