Moms of April/May/June 2010 babies thread! :)

[Sarahwoo]

Maybe he makes a cuppa and doesn't make you one? :say what: You're kidding? And he tells you that you're crap? I'm sorry but WHAT?!?!?! I can't get over that he would actually make himself a brew and not make you one! Selfish git!

I think I'd get to the point where I would say you think I'm a crap wife? Well since I'm so crap, so everything your sodding self. There is no way I'd be ironing his stuff. Show him what crap his - look after the kids, but don't touch anything of his. Let him cook his own tea and do his own laundry and iron his own crap. ARGH! What a dick head he is!!!!! I'm so mad for you!

 

[maybebaby3]

thanks sarah. he wont be happy til i am never getting a moment to myself from morning til night. he said that any normal woman wouldve taken the rubbish out herself he made me feel awful even though i told him i'd had a rough day as dylan is going through an awfully horrid stage at the moment and behaving like a spoilt brat when he doesnt get his way. i think any normal husband and father of 3 wouldnt sleep in til lunchtime or more every sodding weekend!

 

[Sarahwoo]

Maybe you're right, any normal husband / father doesn't do that. And any normal husband, in my book, would take the rubbish rather than have their wife struggle with it. What kind of man is he? It makes me so mad that he treats you like this, its just not right! I know Steve's not perfect (who is eh!) but he treats me like a man should treat his wife. Does he actually realise that you are his wife, and not a slave or hired help? Does his Dad treat his Mum like that?

 

[maybebaby3]

his dad and mum have a very strange relationship and arent close like my parents are. but he doesnt treat her like a slave, he does the washing up and hoovering. whether he did when he was danny's age i dont know but he doesnt now! if danny just did a teeny bit more i'd be able to keep more order in the home! i have no idea what's going to happen when i go back to work. it wasnt always like this, years ago when we first started living together we had a designated cleaning day and when we got in from work would both help to give the flat a good clean! when i brought this up he said i just wanted to get away with doing and that i wanted him to do everything whilstvi did nothing how can he say such mean things i dont usually let his horrid comments get to me these days but today i'm just exhausted from lack of sleep and being out most of the day and sorting the kids and chasing the people about the damp. it just makes me really sad as i know he can be a really nice person when he wants to. i get the feeling sometimes that i just make him angry just by him looking at me the worst thing is that it's making me an angry/miserable/less tolerant person and i have a much shorter fuse than normal with the kids and then when i lose my temper with them i feel really bad after and a really crap mum

 

[emera35]

Evening

Maybe - Just wondering but why doesn't Danny sort his own work clothes? I do most the laundry, but OH always launders his own chefwhites, he doesn't iron them, where i probably would, but its not really my problem if he looks scruffy at work I really don't see why its even your responsibility, you're neither his servant, nor his mother! You do a fab job, its not your fault you have a lazy OH who seems to need as much looking after as his own young children

H&F -

Modo - Thats crazy money for fixing a toilet flush!! Ours broke a month ago or so, OH just went and bought a new bit for £3 and replaced it in 5 minutes Love the videos of Bobby, he's adorable

FruFru - Sounds like you've been having a nice time Scary poonami though!! Maybe is right by the way, kiwi is particularly allergenic, perhaps Joni has a sensitivity to it, i know my friend can't eat it as it makes his lips itchy and feel swollen.

Sarah - Glad you had a nice day Also glad that Steve was ok about the wing mirror, accidents happen Good to hear you have enquiries to deal with

L-C - We've been through the sleep separation anxiety last month or so, i took to putting Roh in his cot, and then kneeling so my face was level with his (as he was standing up right away and just wailing) and just talking to him gently, telling him i wasn't going away, and that everything is ok. I hold his hand, and after a while he'll calm down, so then i sit down, so i'm below him, and then move to lying down next to the cot. He usually follows me. When he lies down i just hold his hand through the bars until he's drifting off. Its taken a bit of time, but now i can pop him in the cot, give him a kiss, and sit by the cot for a couple of minutes, then i just leave the room before he's asleep. He often cries for 5 seconds when i go, and if he carries on after that i go back in to show him i'll always be there. He seems alot better now, and is usually quite happy to play with his bears for a few minutes and then go to sleep


Thanks for all the advice/thoughts about breastfeeding everyone I'm really unsure about it all still... I don't really know how i feel about it. From a personal point of view, i'm both really upset at the thought of stopping, it nearly makes me cry when i think if not doing it anymore, but i'm also feeling really impatient with it and sort of feeling like i don't want to do it anymore. Roh is absolutely fine on bottles, and is quite happy to have them, equally he'll happily breastfeed if he's in the mood. However, he's not a "boobie baby" in the sense that i know he wouldn't be fussed if i stopped tomorrow, he'd be quite ok with cups and bottles. He does suck for comfort a little, but only if he's really tired. In fact if he isn't feeling tired he'll generally refuse breast or bottle, but he'll drink some water instead I don't know, likely right now isn't the best time to decide seeing as he's ill and i'm feeling worried about him as it is.

Poor Roh, i don't really know whats going on. He's had this viral rash for about a week, he had a few temperature spikes on Monday and Tuesday, but the main think i'm feeling worried about is that he's been refusing solids since Monday. He's still having a little milk and lots of water, and will eat the odd rice cake or some banana, but overall he's barely eating anything. He was all sicky the last couple of days, but not seriously, just like spitting up amounts. His poos have been bad for a few days, like smelly Today though we had our first ever full on poonami (tmi here!!) At breakfast he pooed, and then started crying, I thought he was fussing about his breakfast, so took his bib off, and there was poo coming out the top of his sleepsuit, and then when i took his tray off i could see it all running down and filling up the feet of the sleepsuit!!! I had to just grab him and run to the bathroom and strip him and turn the shower on, it was literally everywhere Poor thing, he was really upset. He's obviously not right, but the thing is, i don't know if its the lack of eating causing the funny poo, or the funny poo causing the lack of eating He's been getting difficult to feed for a week or so before this, so now i just don't know if he's ill, or if its a control thing or what He stole half of OHs croissant this morning, and ate a slice of toast tonight, when he thought it wasn't his, as OH was pretending to eat it. But if i put him in his highchair and either triy to feed him or give him fingerfoods, then he just won't eat. He's been soooo tired and lethargic today, really not himself as he has no energy. I don't know what to do

Doesn't help that i'm still feeling rubbish, but hey, i'm kind of not thinking about it as i'm more focused on Roh. Argh, its so worrying being a mum!

Roh is 10 months tomorrow though! How did that happen?

 

[Sarahwoo]

Wow - Happy 10 Months Roh!!!!!!!!!!!

Emera wow, that is a serious Poonami, poor Roh! (and poor you!). What has the Dr said? Its so hard when babies can't tell you whats wrong isnt it? Like you say, its hard to know whats causing what. I think I'd def have him back to the Drs, and if they give him the okay, whats your health visitor like? I know a lot of them are a bit rubbish, but it might be worth having a chat and just seeing what they think? If they talk rubbish, you can always ignore them. I know a lot of ours are a bit rubbish, but I've met a couple of really good ones too, so you never know?

I can imagine it must be a huge worry though, poor little thing. Def push it with your Dr that you want to make absolutely sure that there is nothing medical that's affecting his appitite. Bless him, I hope he's feeling better and eating well again soon

I still giggle thinking about your OH been a chef and still eating Roh's custard on his pasta I passed your custard recipie on to my mummy friends today, I think they are keen to follow your blog too I took extra savoury flapjack for the other babies and they loved it!

 

[Sarahwoo]

Emera just thinking about it, have you tried feeding him somewhere else? Like somewhere you would normally play and not eat? Just to make it more of a game?

 

[maybebaby3]

emera - poor roh (and you!) with the poonami!! if you take him to the dr they should do a stool sample if you're worried. if he's ill i wouldnt worry about the loss of appetite so long as he's drinking loads.

 

[Sarahwoo]

Oh, and Maybe, seriously I can't say how much he is out of order. I honestly don't know how you put up with him, he just doesn't treat you right at all

 

[emera35]

He is drinking lots of water, and some milk, although not much. I know he's got a virus, so i guess until that clears up then its not really worth going back to the doctor, as i know they will just say its linked to that. I spoke to my health visitor today, and she said not to worry unless he stops drinking. Sarah, when Roh did eat today it was on OHs lap, not in the highchair. Thing is, i'm sort of reluctant to just let him eat where he wants, if its a control thing, then i'm not sure that letting him be in control is such a good thing, iykwim? At the end of the day though i just want him to eat, because its awful seeing him so tired out

 

[Sarahwoo]

Yeah I get what you mean there. Its so hard! Its really catch 22 isn't it? Poor little thing! I guess just keep trying and see how he gets on, I hope his virus goes away soon at least then you'd have more of an idea what the problem is. Poor you though, its just so hard to know what to do I imagine

 

[maybebaby3]

emera - happy 10 months roh

 

[A3my]

sorry if this is a bit rushed, I was trying to do it while Alex napped but he's awake and wants to play lets bang the computer

maybe - i felt the same when I got bfn, just remember how worried you were when you thought you might be preg. you never know what the future holds sorry top hear Danny is being a pillock (sp) again you so deserve better

sarah - nightmare about Steves car glad you found the mirror! good news you've had some enquries

LC - thats good you didnt put on weight! I still feed Alex to sleep so I havent notice nightime separation anxiety but he's got worse with it in the day

modo - ouch for the plumber and your wallet! love the clips of Bobby on fb

frufru - poor Joni, glad she liked swimming. Hope your nights continue to improve

H&F - hope you're ok

emera- sorry to hear about roh, that must be really worrying. I hope he is better and eating properly soon. Happy 10 months Roh

Alex went to nursery for 2 hours yesterday and it went fine except the start when one of the staff took him off me (she meant well but i'd rather have settled him first) - he screamed blue murder. But by the time i picked him up he was fine. He's had a little sleep and a snack. i spent the time walking at the beach with my mum.

I had lunch with a friend yesterday which was lovely. today we are waiting for ASDA to come before babyclub. Hope you're all well xxx

 

[Frufru]

H&F - I hope you manageto have a proper talk with Dave and get the support you need

Sarah - the massage does sound good doesn't it! Mothers Day is the 3rd of April this year.
Yay for the new top (size 10 ) and a lovely day with your friends.

Maybebaby - good to know about kiwi's I am cutting them out from today to be on the safe side.
Danny How flipping rude and unreasonable. He sounds like a lazy selfish man. I think you need to stop doingthings for him point blank so he realises how much you actually do for him. He is a grown up so let him iron his own uniform for a start. If he doesn't make you drinks, don't reciprocate either. If you're making dinner and he wants something extra, like the naan's the other day, tell him he can go and get them then.

Emera - there is no hurry to make a decision about BF. Once you stop it is not something you can easily start again so you need to be sure that you are entirely comfortable with your choice. I spent over a month deliberating my own situation, looking back with retrospect I should have stopped much sooner as Joni and I were both much better off when we stopped. However, for the sake of my own peace of mind I had to know that I had given it absolutely everything I could before I was able to stop.
Happy 10-month-a-versary to Roh
So sorry to hear he is such a poorly boy I would take him to the docs and get him checked out. The only reason I have not taken Joni yet is because she is still eating and drinking adequately.
I am glad that Roh is starting to settle better for you. Could you get an inflatable mattress for his nursery floor if you are still ending up in there a fair bit?

Amy - Yay for another good nursery experience and a nice walk for you I hope the ASDAman doesn't keep you waiting too long and you enjoy babyclub.

Unfortunately the spoiler issue has not improved Joni woke at 12am with a lovely spoiler just for me and then took over an hour to go back down and continued to wake on and off all night. I think I jinxed her sleeping by telling everyone she had started going through to 5 Oh well, it was nice while it lasted I won't give her anymore kiwi and have started giving her foods we know bind her up, like weetabix, to see if it makes a difference. We are off to meet my BIL & SIL for lunch in Bury St Edmonds tomorrow as we have not seen them for a while. I am really looking forward to it but abit concerned about Joni's spoiler activity. I figure 3 changes of clothes should be enough right?

I forgot to say last night that I have had cause to break out the arnica cream, but for me not Joni I was putting some stuff into the car at the supermarket yesterday and was rushing as Joni had done a leaky poonami while we were out I was completely distracted and managed to open the car door into my forehead It really hurt! I even had to check my head in the car mirror to make sure I was not bleeding before I went home. I have to say my head looked dreadful last night but several applications of arnica have done wonders

Best go and do the washing up and sterlising. Have a nice day all. And Maybebaby - no chores for Danny's benefit!

 

[modo]

Frufru: Good to hear from you hon Sorry to hear that Joni woke at 12am What a lovely present for your friend! I am sure she loved it Sorry to hear about the poonami Lucky that your Mom was around Bobby has been making two (sometimes 3 if he is chugging water) food filled yucky poos a day See how you do without the kiwi because it might be disagreeing with her.

H&F: Hope you are ok hon

Sarah: No problem. How about I send you this one I have it in different colours? I really like it for poo control no leaks ever and a very trim nappy I am glad Steve was fine with the wing mirror It was an accident and they do happen I can't believe your friend had a 13 lbs baby I am totally wincing just thinking about it! Well done for getting back into size 10

Maybe: Sorry Danny is being a jerk again I agree with Sarah and Frufru

Emera: Neither of us are very handy We would have done far worse damage if either of us tried it ourselves Well done with your sleep training Re in the poonami I hope Roh is ok Happy 10 month to Roh!

Amy: Thank you hon Glad Alex was fine at nursery hon

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Paying 190 pounds really did suck but we had np alternative. The other bathroom is next to Bobby's room and we were waking him everytime we used the bathroom during naps and at night. They were the only people who would come the same day (they actually came an hour after my phone call) but I still can't believe how much it cost to replace a bit of plastic

Bobby has been unhappy today and I think its because of teething. At lunch I had to take him out the highchair because every time he would start crying everytime he put something in his mouth I gave him some teetha and we sat and played for a bit and then tried lunch again. He was fine that time

 

[emera35]

Well the doctor thinks that Roh has a gastro-intestinal virus, which is pretty much what i figured, poos are still scary, but at least i managed to get Roh to eat a bit of banana and weetabix for breakfast, and he's had a bit of toast, veg puree and yougurt for lunch too Also he's breastfeeding enthusiastically today for the first time in ages! I have my fingers crossed that he might slowly be on the up, he's definately not himself, but the food seems to have given him a bit more energy, as he spent a while crawling about and playing this morning, instead of spending all day cuddling me with his head resting on my shoulder, which is what he was doing yesterday. (although it worried me, as it was so not him, i secretly have been enjoying the cuddling bit of him being ill ) The doctor said to give him just baby rice, but i don't have any, and Roh has never liked it anyway, so i doubt he'd eat it

FruFru -Ouch to your head! and i have empathy on the spoiler activities! I wouldn't dare take Roh out the house at the moment, not after the feet filling incident!

Modo - Poor Bobby with is teething sounds like you'll need to use the Teetha a bit before each meal at the moment

Amy - Its so good to hear that Alex seems to be enjoying nursery I reckon Roh would love it if i had to take him to one, he's so outgoing I think nursery is definately something thats harder for us than it is for them. I know my mum cried for days when they first dropped me off at boarding school when i was 6 years old, i was like "yeah ok, bye!" and ran off to play with the friend i'd made on the taster weekend

 

[maybebaby3]

emera - poor roh! it sounds like he's on the mend tho!

amy - glad alex is enjoying nursery!

frufru - glad the arnica came in handy for you! ouch that must've hurt!

h&f - how are you?

well danny is in great spirits today and being nice (though am still waiting for the playpen he was supposed to get after work. he forgot if i forget something he moans but i just put up and shut up to keep the peace) sometimes i think i've married a jekyl and hyde person

i'm annoyed with my mil as i found out that at break time she's been giving dylan vitamin tablets without asking me i couldnt say anything when i found out this afternoon as dylan was there and i dont like him seeing tension between adults but i am going to have to say something to her. i'm such a wuss as i hate confrontation!

 

[emera35]

Maybe- Thats pretty bad that she's been doing that without telling you, what if you'd been giving him vitamin supplements too? There are a few vitamins that children really shouldn't have too much of, not to mention that an excess of vitamin c has a laxative effect, which could be bad for him. Gosh, that makes me quite annoyed for you actually! You definately need to say something when you get the chance. Glad Danny is having a good day, he does seem very erratic, it must be so hard not knowing which mood he'll be in when you get up for the day

Roh napped for 3 hours and was really perky when he got up, he ate a little bit for dinner, and also managed to find half a ricecake on the floor which he ate before i could stop him not sure that eating old food off the floor is ideal for a delicate stomach oops! Oh well, not much i can do now, except clean up better! The place is a mess as i'm napping with Roh at the mo, i'm still feeling rubbish as my infection can't be treated until the results come back on monday Right, better get bedclothes and bath sorted so OH can do bath time, as Waybuloo is nearly finished.

 

[hope&faith09]

Hi all -

Again sorry for not catching up properly.

We are just working through one thing at a time ... the first is my feelings that I am a rubbish mum. Basically at the moment Amy want everything she shouldnt have, she goes from the tv, to the fire to the coffee table etc etc, I tell her no and she crys and I have tried to distract her and play with other things but at the moment she doesnt seem to like me. Whenever I try to cuddle her she pushes away and just doesnt want to beheld by me. I dont know what I am doing wrong, am I an awful mum what can I do I just want her to love me.

 

[maybebaby3]

h&f - please dont feel you are doing anything wrong!!! you are not! babies try to assert their independence when they realise they are a seperate person to you!!! it is normal that they cry when you take them away from 'exciting' things like plug sockets, tv etc! she is pushing you away not because she doesnt love you but because she just wants to be her own little person and explore everything. please please please do not think that you are a crap mum or doing anything wrong and never ever think that amy doesnt love you! believe me she does and you have to remember that. the first time dylan said he hated me broke my heart but i know he didnt mean it he just didnt know how to express his anger/frustration any other way and that is what amy is going through, the way she is showing you she is not happy is by pushing you away. kids push you to the limits i know you are doing a great job.

i feel awful about bitching about danny yesterday as he's just taken dylan and owen to his mums for an hour so i can relax here (well i'm going to clear up a bit and then watch some tv and have my dinner!) why he blows hot and cold i dont know men! maybe i'll never know