Moms of April/May/June 2010 babies thread! :)

[Mork]

EEEEEWWWWWWW re your spiders amy!!!!! My skin is crawling at the thought!!! My cats are rubbish and dont get them!
No DH does not help in the night - well maybe for one waking once a month?! He doesnt work nights but does shifts and is therefore never home before 7.30 on working days
What do you think caused Alex to do it? and more improtantly to grow out of it???
The only thing that worked tonight was to put her in her pushchair with a muslin over the front so she couldnt see anything - do you think its ok for her to sleep in this all night??????
I bet you are dreading work tomorrow - it must be so awful having the strain of the redundancy and finding a job etc whilst also having 3 children!I dont envy you hon, but you are doing so well dealing with it xxx

 

[A3my]

sarah- I'm glad Derren has cheered you up

mork - I was on the verge of cracking up when Alex was bad, I have no idea what caused it. I thought it was teething but he's got no new teeth and I wish I knew what stopped it. Just one night he was suddenly back to bed at 7 ish, then maybe a wake at 11 but most nights not, then a feed at 3 ish - I always bring him in bed with us then as I love waking up next to him. I was up to him every half hour when it was bad and he always needs boob to get back to sleep. I know its easier said than done but hang in there. I bet she'll be fine in the pushchair all night, just maybe take the muslin away when you go to bed ? My DH has always left nights to me soI know how hard it is on your own. I hope she improves soon! does she nap well in the day? can you catch up on when she naps?

 

[Mork]

Thanks hon. Must admit by about 3am I bring her in to bed as can't physically keep getting up! she will sleep in the day but not at set times so it can be difficult to gauge. However if I get the chance I will nap! Thanks for your help, I have felt so low with it all tonight and it doesn't help I have a work meeting Wednesday which I am also worrying about!
Hope it goes ok tomorrow x x

 

[Sarahwoo]

for you Mork

When are you due to go back to work? I really hope your meeting goes well

Have you tried any sleep training? I found the 'no cry sleep solution' and 'no cry nap solution' really helpful. Oliver naps much better now and if nothing else it gave me more confidence. It might be worth seeing if you can borrow them from your local library?

It must be absolutely exhausting!!!

 

[Mork]

Thanks hon, I am off to the library tomorrow!! X x

 

[Mork]

Oh yes-due back at work mid may but have holiday to use so depending in hours won't actually be back in the office until June/July xx

 

[Sarahwoo]

Ahhhh well make sure you enjoy the time off you have left!! Are you going back full time?

 

[Mork]

I won't be going back full time-as minimal as possible if at all! X x

 

[Sarahwoo]

Yay - fingers crossed for not at all!!!!

 

[hope&faith09]

Hey all -

Hope everyone is ok. We are so stressed at the moment - Dave informed me yesterday that I needed to start looking for a job as we are so short on money. I barely spend anything I did all the finances and worked out we could afford it. I only spend around £40 on the weekly supermarket shop and now he is expecting me to get my bar job back so I will get up at 6.30 do everything with Amy during the day and then at 5 go to work get back at 12 and then start all over again?!? This just wont work plus he would earn more doing one day overtime a week (which is only like 2 hours on a saturday) than I would earn in a week. Sorry for rant I am just feeling completly stressed at the moment. And with everything with dad and planning the wedding I just cant do it at the moment.

Argh anyway I need to go and sort out lunch - we are giong to see my sis, niece, cousin and her little girl at my grannys today so it should be a nice day.

 

[Frufru]

Morning all,

Joni had a lovely birthday I think she did anyway

I am writing a big post, trying to anyway but have to pop out now so will be back to finish off later.

hugs to you all xxx

 

[maybebaby3]

frufru - glad joni had a good bday

sarah - to steve! we stayed up late last night watching a film and then chatting and at 2am i said 'god i have to be up in 5 hours' and he said 'me too' as it's a day off for him and he wanted to go to the hairdresser. well i got up got the packed lunches and kids off to nursery and school and went to town. he was supposed to meet me there but i had no call or text he's only still in bed! and it is past 2pm!

mork - hope you don't have to go back to work. i'd love to be able to afford to be a SAHM!

amy - i would die if i had big hairy spiders in my flat. having said that we have a few daddy long legs but for some reason they dont freak me out so bad. the kids like them so i am trying not to instill my fear of spiders in them.

we went to the zoo in fuenguirola yesterday and had a great time i will put some pics on fb later. when i pick dylan up from school we're off to the playground with one of my friends and her 2 kids. dylan and lauren are having withdrawal symptoms as it's been a long time since they played together then danny's supposed to be taking dylan to his first ever time at beavers - if he gets up

 

[Sarahwoo]

Maybe at Danny!! Is he up yet?!?!

HandF wow you would completely wear yourself out working until so late!! Would you be better off working on a Saturday and Sunday in the day time while Dave looks after Amy? I really feel for you, it must seem like one thing after another at the moment

I tried to talk to Steve today but I'm not sure if he really understood. He's impossible to talk to. If he thinks I'm having a go at him he gets all defensive and gets all huffy I try to explain that I'm not having a go or wantimg an arguement, I'm just trying to explain how I feel. Sometimes I think he's taken no notice but afterwards he thinks about it and it does some good. TBH I think he's mentally scared by his first marriage It was really volatile and his first wife would get physically violent etc. Anyway, I'm thinking about writing him a letter instead, because I don't want to just leave things because I can feel myself getting more and more annoyed about everything.

Right, well Steve has gone to the funeral and I'm not sure when he'll be home, so Oliver and I are just having a quiet afternoon

Xx

 

[Frufru]

Maybebaby - Officially my maternity leave ended on Joni's birthday, but with all last years holiday to use up my first day back is the 8th of June
When I stopped co-sleeping with Joni I really missed her at nights and found it really hard to fall asleep
I tried a few different sleep methods with Joni. Her main problem was she could not fall asleep on her own and could not settle herself back to sleep if she woke. We found that overall any inteference on our part, e.g. talking, patting, cuddling etc, was more of a distraction to her and ended up leaving her to cry it out. It was not a decision we took lightly and not one I would have made without exhausting other options first. However, I firmly believe it was the right decision and Joni is so much better off now. Don't get me wrong her sleep is far from perfect but she can fall asleep on her own and will settle herself back to sleep if she wakes 75% of the time. When she wakes in the night we generally leave her 5-10mins to settle before we go in and check on her.

As for Danny's lie-in You really do need to INSIST that he returns the favour.

Amy - I hate it when you lose big replies I know what you mean about the baby to toddler transition. Joni is changing and learning so quickly just now
ooooh easter egg hunt I am so excited at the thought of Joni running round the garden hunting for eggs when she is a bit bigger
Yuk about the wolfie's! I hope you had a nice family BBQ.

Muddles - 7am!!!!! I am so jealous. Joni has always been a 6am starter, I have tried earlier bedtimes, later bedtimes, blackout blinds you name it. I think she is just an earlier riser
I hope the reading at mass went well, I am sure you were fantastic

Sarah - I don't think it is too much to ask to spend one evening a week with your Steve, especially with him going in early and coming in late. I think a letter might be a good way of getting your feelings across.
So you are still waiting to hear from work tut tut tut

Mork - Ew spiders I hate them We get spiders in our house and garden that are the size of your palm and have nicknamed them 'devil spiders' One of our friends saw one run across the floor here one night and she thought it was a mouse! Thankfully we have not had any in the house for a couple of years which is mainly down to double glazing
Poor you, every 40 minutes Joni has been waking in the night as she sits up and then cries and gets really upset as she is still half asleep and so I think she feels scared/confused. We are averaging one waking a night with me out of bed for between 45min - 2 hours which is not ideal but I wonder if it is partly developmental as she is learning and doing so many new things at the moment, but possibly also a bit of separation anxiety with her starting nursery I figure we will give it a week or two and see if things change before contemplating what to try next to encourage a night of unbroken sleep!

H&F - I thought Dave was the one who wanted you to stay at home Is overtime regularly on offer for Dave? I really don't think I could manage all day with Joni and then working a job all evening where I am on my feet all night

Emera - I love the most recent pic's of Roh

Cor I am knackered today. I have worked so hard in the garden and house the last week to get ready for Joni's party yesterday. I think all that graft followed by a frantic but very fun party has sapped the last bit of energy out of me! I did a big buffet of general party food for the non-babies - sausage rolls, sandwiches, crudite, dips, party rings, iced gems, fizzy pop and so on. Joni loved having so many people, kids and babies to play with, when I took her in the garden today she looked around as if to say 'where is everyone?' My friend made the cake which was shaped like De-li from Waybuloo, it was so cute and tasted great.

Joni's crawling is super-speedy now. She pulled herself up to stand against the sofa in her room tonight to reach her bedtime bunny for a cuddle. This week she also learnt to drink from her sippy cup with no helping hands I know there is loads more but she is just learning and changing so fast I can hardly keep up with her!!!

RIghto, I would love to chat more but I am off to bed. hugs to you all

 

[Mork]

OMG spiders as big as mice?!!!!! If I get some sleep tonight it will be a nightmare about that!!!!!! lol!!!!!!!
It sounds like Joni is doing some similar things to my lo - the sitting up still half asleep, which is why i thought it may be developmental. I wonder what will work to help them and us through this?!
xx

 

[maybebaby3]

mork - owen stands up crying in the cot with his grobag on i'm so exhausted and cant even have half an hour in the bath without him waking

sarah - hope steve didnt come back too late!

h&f - hope that you can sort out the job

well am mega pissed off as according to danny he gets less sleep than me coz of his shifts! am too pissed off to write it all down and am on my phone.

 

[Mork]

Oh maybe, bless you hon you sound exhausted. I hope that the sleep training is starting to pay off for you soon as you have done so well in sticking to it. I also think you need a treat! X hugs x

 

[Sarahwoo]

Morning!

at FruFru's spiders! Joni's party sounds great! How many people did you have? I really need to get Oliver's party sorted out.

Nope still no word at all from work I am officially due back on May 1st. I could really do with the money they owe me too!!!

Well Oliver had an awful night, he has a cough again so he was coughing and waking himself up all the time. I think I got about two hours sleep and we've been up since 5am. He seems tired again now so think he might nap. Poor baby

I'm too annoyed with Steve to be able to put things into words at the moment. I was so close to taking Oliver to my parents last night. I'm not sure what I'm going to do.

xx

 

[maybebaby3]

sarah hope you sort things out do something nice with oliver and forget him pm me if you want a chat!

 

[hope&faith09]

Sarah - really hope your ok. We are all here if you need to vent. I can completly understand how you feel.

Right I will post properly later but I have to go and tidy my house as my mum and sister are coming over at 11 and the house looks like a complete tip. Why can my house never be tidy?

As for the job thing - I have applied for a couple of things but I have also insited that I take over the accounts to as my account and the joint are ticking along ok its only his account that is in debt. Argh it is so annoying. I think if we make some cut backs we might be able to carry on how we are but the cost of living at the moment is so high.

Hope everyone is ok. x x x