Moms of April/May/June 2010 babies thread! :)

[maybebaby3]

frufru - sounds like a busy day!

h&f - how did the fitting go? your menu sounds lovely!

sarah - sorry that the other mums are not making you feel more welcome. erin is always snatching things off owen and i have to keep on top of her. you'd think that at a group like that mums would be more on top of their kids. i'd be mortified if erin did something like that and would definately have words with her. kids need to learn to share.

emera - how awful that on top of all that has happened there are so many unanswered questions. so sad thinking of you

well today i took erin to see the preschool at dylan's school where she'll be going in september. she'll be fine i'm sure, though i cant say the same about some of the other kids who were crying even though they were with their parents! i can't imagine what they'll be like in september when they are left on their own.

we went to town and i bought dylan mario kart for the wii and an extra wheel for erin to play too. then we met up with my MIL and SIL for a drink. then we went food shopping and have cleared up a bit though i never manage to get on top of it all i am starving as am waiting for dan to get back in an hour (at 10pm) to eat. i started on my diet again as i have put on 2kg hoping to lose them quick! danny also wants to lose some weight so we're doing it together!

 

[Sarahwoo]

I just watched the first eposide of season four of 'True Blood' . . . . downloaded from America obviously (it aired over there last night). WOW!! Its brilliant, I know a few of you like True Blood . . . . well you are in for a treat! I can't wait to see eposide two!!! I've fallen in lust with Bill and Eric all over again! (I can't choose between them )

Maybe I never seem to get on top of the house work either, there is always something that needs doing

 

[Mork]

Hey all,
Not much to report-except that my brain is melting in all this heat!!!
Emera-hugs xxxx
Sorry no individual replies-its too hot to think!
xx

 

[modo]

We went to Walkers & Explorers today, we haven't been for a couple of weeks. I didn't know any other mums and tbh they weren't all that friendly The kids all seem to be a fair bit older than Oliver so the mum just sit about chatting and the kids get on with playing and running about, but they don't seem to really keep an eye on their kids if you know what I mean? Like Oliver was playing in the rolled oats (thats where I got the idea ) and there was a little girl playing in them too, Oliver was right the other side of the tray and was playing with some little cars and stuff and the little girl started shouting NO, NO at Oliver and snatched the toys off him, every time he picked anything up he was snatching it off him, even though he hadn't been playing with them. She was shouting really loud so Oliver got a bit upset so I picked him up and we went and played with some other stuff. I know kids get like that but surely her mother should have been watching and should have come over and told her to share? I ended up leaving early in the end, we wanted to see Steve before he went to work anyway and we just weren't having all that much fun. It such a shame because baby club was great, all the mums were really friendly, but the mums at this group all seem to know each other and didn't even say hello. Hmmm, we'll see, maybe if we keep going it'll get better

Sarah I have had similar experiences in the playgroup we have been going to. There was a little girl riding a rocking horse and Bobby was watching her. When he tried to pull himself up on the horse the little girl tried to push him over No one seemed to notice. I sat him on the floor with a pile of toys and he was playing happily until another little girl came a long. She would snatch any toy Bobby picked up, so I had to move him again. Fortunately she didn't shout at him so he didn't get upset but again no one noticed.

After asking some other Moms of younger toddlers it seems that in our group you are not supposed to say anything to the child and just move your LO away. I guess that doesn't bother me but I always watch Bobby and make sure he doesn't take any toys from anyone else. But the parents of the older children don't seem to do that and it really bugs me

 

[Frufru]

Discipline in baby groups is a hard one

I think I am lucky with the groups I go to as most of the parents are quite vigilant. However, there are some times when their parents can't see what they are doing. If its an older child that can understand what I am saying I will intervene, but if its a smaller toddler like Joni then I will often just move Joni to another set of toys. I have been going to the group for more than a month now so I have managed to talk to most of the parents, even if its just to comment on the weather, and figured out whose kids are whose

When I randomly start chatting to other parents I do find the ones with toddlers close in age to Joni are much more talkative. The parents of the pre-school children seem a little less interested and seem to stick together in groups with the other pre-school parents. Ah well

Love love love true blood and am now soooooo excited about S4.

Well Joni is pulling down my pants and nipping my bottom with her chilly little hands so I guess that her way of telling me I am done posting

 

[maybebaby3]

modo that sounds awful. i definately think that parents should teach their kids to share. i don't see why you should have to move bobby if he was there first

well i can't post long now as the kids are painting at the table and if i look away for too long there's bound to be a mess!

 

[A3my]

Hi everyone, sorry for the quickie

emera - huge for you and your family. The unanswered questions must be terrible

sarah - i hate it when mums ignore their children completely. Poor Oliver

modo - sorry you and Bobby have had similar experiences to sarah

frufru - cheeky joni pinching your bottom!!

H&f - mmmm the menu sounds yummy!!

Mork - my brain also melted

maybe - I can never ever get on top of the housework, it makes me want to tear my hair out!!

I've been so busy on the ward and doing my coursework. I was off yesterday though and took the children to the beach for tea. The sea was out so we had a great time but I got really sunburnt on my back love to you all x

 

[Mork]

Re baby groups - we go to a few different ones and it does seem that the older toddlers are just left to get on with it - i am constantly moving t away from children almost running over her hands with their trikes! I so hope I dont turn into one of those mums in about 6 months time!!! lol!!!! xx

 

[emera35]

I've had a really similar experience with toddler groups. All the mums just hung out by the free coffee and biscuits, ignored me and let their kids run riot basically. Roh was pushed over, shouted at and had everything he was trying to play with snatched off him. I've not been back to that one again, maybe i'll take him when he's a bit older and can snatch back!
The one we go to regularly is really nice as its a baby and toddler group, that used to run on tuesdays and fridays, but then they split it to be more for toddlers on tuesday and more for babies on Friday. All the babies on friday are starting to toddle a bit now though, and there is alot of newborns arriving on tuesdays as the mum's there have their second children, etc. I just take Roh to either one. Its a small group and the mum's are nice

Work has been helpful, i think its best just to stick to my usual routine, its helping me take a break from feeling sad. I'm feeling ok, i'm a touch worried i'm bottling everything up, but then equally, i'm sick of feeling miserable, so maybe i just need a break from it

 

[Sarahwoo]

Emera you just need to do what feels right at the time - don't worry

It sounds like all toddler groups are the same it was just like you have all said - the mums sat drinking coffee and the kids running riot One of the girls I made friends with at baby group is going to be there next week so that should be better - I'm going to speak to her and see if she found it the same. I think maybe we'll only go when they go too, her little girl is a month younger than Oliver so they are at a similar stage. I might look and see if there are any other groups. I know the library has one, I don't want to not go to any but I don't see the point in going if we don't enjoy it, I'd sooner just get together with another mummy friend.

We had a nice day, Steve's son came up, Oliver loves him We went out for lunch which was nice though for some reason Oliver was in a really funny / grumpty mood, though he wasn't tired, I think it might be his teeth. He banged his head throwing himself about got a big bump Do the other babies do the throwing themselves about thing?

Amy when do you start your new job? Did you hear from the job you really liked?

I think its raining again, hopefully it will freshen things up a bit! I hope it's not raining tomorrow though, I really need to walk into town.

Xx

 

[emera35]

Sarah - The group at our library is really nice, they just sing songs and read stories. Roh loves it, although i do have to hold him down for the entire session because he is so desperate to eat the books! He gets soooo excited about the stories though

 

[Sarahwoo]

Sarah - The group at our library is really nice, they just sing songs and read stories. Roh loves it, although i do have to hold him down for the entire session because he is so desperate to eat the books! He gets soooo excited about the stories though

That sounds much better!! I think I'll pop into the library tomorrow and find out when their group is Oliver likes to eat books too so I've been avoiding the library as no book is safe but it sounds better than the playgroup!

 

[L-C]

Hi

Lots of emera, glad you are able to use work give yourself a break and distract yourself.

Sarah and Modo - boo to the naughty mummies who let their babies snatch, I've only been to one and was shocked by the poor children who latch on to you because their mummies aren't paying them any attention. There always seems to be a couple.

Frufru - love Joni for pinching you bottom that's so funny and cute.

Maybe - I never seem to get on top of the housework with one! I love that Danny has finally made himself useful by doing nothing

H&F - lush menu, room for another one??

Will has really been struggling with the pesky molars, and we only have one through

In between he is being gorgeous though, he scrunches his whole face up and grins very cheekily. He has walked half way home from town this morning, waving at the planes - love him! He refused , his morning sleep again today but luckily went down after lunch, so I could finally get the washing out.

I'm sat crying into my cup of tea watching baby hospital, doing a quick post, whilst Will is asleep.

 

[L-C]

Amy sorry hun - tea at the beach sounds soooo nice, I'm jealous xx

 

[maybebaby3]

just back from the beach! it was glorious and not as stressful as i though it'd be with 3 little ones on my own! my friend did come with her son though so there was an extra pair of eyes/hands but she left earlier than us! now going to put dinner in the oven and bath my lovelies! will post again later when i have more time to myself!

 

[L-C]

mmmm the beach sounds lush, it's been a bit changeable here today and I had a friend over who has really bad morning sickness so most of the afternoon was spent inside.

anyone else find it really hard when their lo is being challenging because of teething. I know it's not his fault but it tough going....

Hope you've all had a lovely day xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Sarahwoo]

L-C yep the teething is really hard work - Oliver is just really grumpy on the bad days and its so, so draining! Temper tantrums are really hard work

We ended up going over to a friends in Leeds for a coffee and Oliver had his tea there and was really well behaved I'm trying to get him to go to sleep now and he's having none of it - he always takes ages to settle on Apprentice night

 

[modo]

I am totally into the apprentice! I am recording it to watch tomorrow

 

[hope&faith09]

Hey all -

Argh I amm having a bad week- one wedding dress that is too big, one bouquet that is horrible, one reception venue who are being very awquard. But my mother is coming across tomorrow to help me sort some bits out! This will probably sound really weird but I feel like you should all be coming as I know you all so well and seem closer to you guys than I am half my friends!

I had the same thing with the toddler group - I was completly ignored by all the other mums and it made me feel awful - I think I will try another one but I am not going back to the one I went to last week!

Hope everyone is ok x x x

 

[maybebaby3]

h&f - we will be there in spirit

sarah - hope oliver settled for you. we had 1 waking and i gave him nurofen as i suspect teething, though we've had no new teeth since he was 8 months old and cut 8 in 2 weeks!

LC - teething is awful. i hate it when owen is grumpy. i find going out takes his mind off it a bit though!

well i was going to tackle the huge 4 piles of ironing but i am tooooooo tired! i made dinner for when danny got back from work and have washed and hung out 2 loads of laundry and have a 3rd load in the washing machine. i think i may fall asleep on here i think that an early night is calling me