Moms of April/May/June 2010 babies thread! :)

[maybebaby3]

ugh i see him fast asleep in bed whilst i am running around doing chores and looking after the kids and i just want to beat him over the head with something!!! or throw a bucket of water on him! but that would wet my bed! i just dont understand how he cant feel bad sleeping all the time whilst i take care of everything

 

[Sarahwoo]

Maybe, you need to really, really put your foot down with him!

 

[maybebaby3]

i think i'm married to the laziest man on the planet! he got up 12.30, showered and sat on his own in the kitchen having a coffee and now is watching tv in our bedroom whilst am getting kids ready to go out

 

[L-C]

Hi Sarah glad you had a nice holiday!!

Maybe !!! Not sure what to say, you are a saint I would have properly flipped by now.

Oh gosh what a day, went to the in laws and Will was soooooo grumpy! Seems to be getting past the worst of the pox and straight into teething, poor thing.

I did have a right result at Sainsbury's yesterday and bought him loads of stuff to occupy him though including a bouncy castle and it's great!! only £14to. Also got him an inflatable car ball/sand pitt/paddling pool for £4.50, he loves them

 

[maybebaby3]

lc - great bargains and great pic

we had a nice afternoon with dan's uncle and aunt and cousin and his girlfriend who are over in spain for 2weeks from london. we spent the afternoon by the pool which the kids loved and then on the way home we stopped for tapas. am having a cuppa before bed now and dan is asleep on the sofa

 

[hope&faith09]

Hey all -

I am so annoyed I really have to let off some steam bbut I bet Amy will be tugging at the computer before I finish typing! Well Dave went on this 'stag do' I cried before he left - I tried to explain why would he want to go away with his 'friends' when we never go away as a family and doesnt he understand that actually I would like to do the activities he is doing and that the weekend is my break and its only two weeks before the wedding and the only time I can actually plan is either when Amy is in bed or when he looks after her and everything needs doing by Friday - before my sister and niece arrive as after that it will be impossible! So anyway he went well he has then barely contacted me all weekend - I told him to come back last night as they have no activities so we can have a day today as its our last opportunity before the wedding but no he txt me saying it was rude and that he would be home some time tomorrow afternoon - what?!? Where are his responsibilities - I understand maybe I am over reacting but I just feel like a doormat. He had an ultimatum last night come home or face the consequences - he isnt home and I have told him not to bother showing his face. I am so angry with him.

Right sorry for ranting I just needed to get it all out before I blew up!

Now I will try and catch up properly!

 

[maybebaby3]

it's unfair that he's gone for the whole weekend when he has a baby. if he were a man with no children i'd say oh well and just grin and bear it but he has responsibilities and he needs to face up to them. it's unfair that he has just disregarded what you asked him. other women would not have even let him go for a night let alone a weekend. he needs to step up to the mark and be a husband and father. you're getting married in 2 weeks and he needs to show that he is taking his responsibilities seriously. he just expects you to accept all he does and that is not on. marriage is a team and you need to work together and compromise. you were willing to compromise by letting him go for 1 night but instead of being grateful he has just done what he has wanted. men are more selfish than women i think. we do the lion's share of childcare, chores etc and it is not fair. danny is still in bed as he always is and i am looking after the kids on my own as usual, with dylan and erin fighting with each other, as usual, in between trying to get jobs done (and taking 5 mins out to come on here whilst having breakfast )

talk to him hun as he needs to realise that this is not acceptable behaviour. you're not a nanny, cook, his mother, in 2 weeks you'll be his wife and you need to be working together to create a nice future!

 

[hope&faith09]

Maybe - thats exactly what I am at the moment - a doormat, childcare, cook, cleaner - I think he is happy with the situation as I put out occasionally so he doesnt need anything else. I am so upset this morning but I need to get out the house so I think I will take little miss out for breakfast.

 

[maybebaby3]

thats a good idea! i find getting out helps! i am in a similar situation as he does nothing round here on a day to day basis! he's great with diy and painting but that's once in a blue moon but i think he thinks those things exempt him from doing daily chores! i even had to take out the rubbish yesterday even though i had done my back in! i had to wait til he got up out of bed at midday to do it as wasnt going to leave the kids here with him asleep even though the dump is 100m away! he sat having a coffee whilst i lugged 2 bin bags to the estate rubbish dump! things will never change!

 

[maybebaby3]

well we've come to my parents for a bbq and just finished eating and danny says to me 'im going to go and do a few things' i said 'what?' and he said 'i dont know maybe go for a swim or something' so he's gone off and will come for me in 3hrs or so! wish i could do that when we went to my in laws!!! he's spent all morning in bed and cant be bothered to spend the afternoon with his family! we've only been here 2hrs!!!

 

[maybebaby3]

texted him and he's not answering

 

[maybebaby3]

sent another text and still no reply it's going to end up being my fault for sure somehow

 

[hope&faith09]

maybe - I am having exactly the same, I havent heard off Dave all day. How does he think this behaviour is ok. I dont know when he is due back so I am making dinner for me and Amy whilst she is having a nap - the front door is locked and the curtains are shut. As far as I am concerned if he wants to go away for the weekend he can go away for the entire weekend. If he comes near me at the moment I will blow. I really hope everyone is ok x x x

 

[maybebaby3]

h&f - i'm so annoyed! he could at least answer my texts! when he doesnt it's coz he's pissed off with me for something! he's had a lie in til midday today and yesterday and now he's pissed off to god knows where! how can they be so inconsiderate? .

 

[hope&faith09]

I told Dave to get home last night - the least he could do would of been to come back this morning but no - no sign of him and at the moment the wedding isnt going to happen. I havent stop crying all day he has just been such an arse.

 

[maybebaby3]

h&f - i'm so sorry he's being so crappy so close to the wedding i could kill danny too

 

[maybebaby3]

just got a text off him saying 'let me know when you want picking up' no reply to my question of where be was/what he was doing!

 

[maybebaby3]

h&f - did dave get back?

 

[Sarahwoo]

H&F I'm sorry Dave has upset you

Maybe I'm sorry Danny upset you too

I hope you have both had a nice day anyway and that everyone else has too!!

We bought a new TV yesterday, ours as starting to do wierd stuff (like the screen was all dark until it warmed up and things) so I think it was on its way out. Steve's been wanting a 'Smart' TV so he ended up buying an all singing all dancing Smart TV with 3D and all that. Its nice, Steve is madly in love with it but to me its a TV I watched True Blood though and the quality is better . . . . Eric looked YUM! Steve is spending every spare moment messing about with the different things it does (internet, etc - I have no idea really ) but its keeping him quiet I do find the whole wearing funny specs to watch 3D thing quite amusing though - but I can see it ending in tears if Oliver gets hold of the 50 quid a pair 3D glasses

So apart from TV obsession we've had a fairly quiet day, Steve did a bit of DIY which I'm hoping he'll finish tomorrow.

Oliver has got another molar (so thats three now) and has another just about to pop out so he's been a bit clingy and tearful today, bless him! He seems to cope with the teething pretty well though. He had started sleeping through too, but the past few nights he's had a few night wakings. When we were on holiday he slept in one day until 10.20am I told Steve that if it was the sea air, we were moving to the coast but I think it was just all the excitement and new stuff building up and leaving him tired out, poor baby! It was lovely though - Steve and I were both in shock

Oh, I know what I've been meaning to ask, what baby bath, shampoo etc do you all use? Ive always used Johnsons but Oliver had been getting quite upset skin - little pimples on his face that went really dry etc, so I changed to more 'natural' stuff and he's been SO much better. I will need to buy some more soon and I just wondered if anyone had any recommendations?

xx

 

[emera35]

H&F and Maybe - Sorry your men are being so thoughtless and annoying

Sarah - In the bath i use either just a few drops of lavender oil, or i use green peoples baby lavender wash/shampoo if i'm washing Roh's hair (every 3rd night, unless he's rubbed loads of stuff in, which happens pretty often ), and for a treat i use earth friendly baby bubble bath. As far as any creams goes, when Roh's skin is bad (like his dad he has really sensitive skin and gets eczema type rashes really easily) i use just the stuff the doctor gave us, which is really good to be honest, and very simple. Otherwise i use the berts bees baby lotion, because it smells yummy and is still really gentle! I used to only use olive oil when he was really little, which was good for his skin, just a bit oily!

I've heard bad things about Johnsons from a load of places now, infact when i went to the doctor about Roh's skin it was the first thing she asked, was i using Johnsons If its that common that it irritates babies skin, you think they'd change the formula?



Went to watch the Red Arrows display today, it was really nice, Roh seemed to really enjoy it and was bouncing about and pointing and shouting at the planes I love it, they are great

I'm finally feeling a little bit better today, i feel like i have a little more energy, hope it keeps up!

I'm a bit worried about being able to sleep tonight though, its my dating scan tomorrow, i'm soooo nervous Plus i foolishly booked to do Roh's jabs tomorrow before work too, eek, i think i'm actually more worried about that than about the scan!