Moms of April/May/June 2010 babies thread! :)

[maybebaby3]

h&f - i am so glad dave has been trying to make it up to you.

Danny and i had a chat and i think things are going to be better. he is going to help out more (hopefully!) when i go back to work and says that our family is the most important thing to him and he's not going anywhere.

 

[A3my]

hello lovely peoples!

maybe - was really sorry to read you were so upset I'm glad you've talked things through and I hope its a turning point

H&F - I'm so pleased Dave apologised for the way he acted I always find flowers help

emera - what a lovely scan pic I'm glad to hear you're starting to feel better too

sarah - I'm glad you had such a fab holiday and great days out since you've got me thinking I should start collecting christmas pressies too

modo - I really want a getaway break too I wanted to go camping in France again but financially we couldnt this year. I hope we can get away next year.

mork - "almost there" = very boring. I passed my return to nursing practice course and have almost got my registration back - just need some character reference forms signed. Hope you're ok

well I've felt a bit wierd lately, Kerry kept his job at Pfizer in the end which is great for him but killed my science career dead so I will be going back to nursing and start my job in 4 weeks I've been really worried about what it means for our future as Kerry is very financially driven and my huge salary drop will create such an inequality between us... sorry rambling now but its what split us really when we broke up 6 years ago. It made me question our entire relationship...I'm not sure how I feel anymore... but I hope things will settle over the next 6 months odd.

 

[maybebaby3]

amy - huge it's not your fault you'll be taking a pay cut. he should be grateful for the fact that you have managed to get a job given the job situation these days. i'm glad that he managed to keep his job. does that mean that you get to keep your house in the end? who knows maybe one day you'll be able to go back to a job in the science sector.

it's getting really quiet on this thread lately!!!

well today i am off to town to meet a friend (he's dylan's godfather and was danny's best man) for coffee and hopefully a spot of lunch. danny just got back from night shift at 7am but is hoping to join us for lunch as james goes back to the UK tomorrow (he's in the army there) so this is the last chance we get to see him for a while! tomorrow is my sister's bday. i got her present yesterday but forgot a card so i shall pick one up today.

 

[Sarahwoo]

Morning everyone!

We only just got up!! Olivers sleep is a bit all over the place atm, while we were on holiday I kept his routine really well but since we got home its gone a bit crazy I'm hoping that we'll get back on track now Steve is back at work. Not that I don't love been able to sleep in until 10am, but I need my evenings to get my work done!

Olivers babbling has really changed in the past week or so. He 'talks' ALL the time and its gone from more of a babble with the odd word thrown in (like bababababaab type thing, with different intonation ) to sounding like he's speaking French Its so cute and quite funny, they are really, really conversation sounding noises but just not in English

We went to my parents yesterday which was nice, other than that we didn't do much. Just a spot of shopping. Everytime I leave the house at the moment I spend a fortune, I really need to stop!!

Amy I'm glad Kerry kept his job, but I'm sorry that it means going back to nursing for you Have you spoken to him about the money and your concerns? How have things been between you lately?

Maybe I hope you have a good time!

Right, off for breakfast

 

[hope&faith09]

Morning all -

Just a quickie from me as Amy is super demanding this morning and I am trying to get a load of tidying up and cleaning done before the wedding ... I dont know why but I am desperate to have a tidy house before the wedding. It wont happen of course as my house is a continual mess!

Anyway - just wondering what do you do with your little ones when your at home ... I am thinking Amy isnt stimulated enough and that I am not paying her enough attention but I am not really sure what else to do with her.

Right I need to go clear dust and re do another shelf.

Also could someone unteach Amy to say no - all I get at the moment is umm no and she shakes her head. hmm!

Hope everyone is ok x x x

 

[Sarahwoo]

HandF when we're at home Oliver has some time playing by himself while I'm in the same room answering emails etc, he always let's me know when he's had enough At the moment I'm trying to do some work so he's watching Thomas and playing with his toys while I send some emails. Then we do things like play outside, feed the chickens, bake (he has a little bowl and a spoon and I put a bit of flower in it ), play with playdoh, paint, read books, play with his toys, things like that

 

[maybebaby3]

sarah - its funny how they suddenly start talking! owen says about 30-40 words now i think! he speaks english mainly with a few spanish words chucked in there for good measure like 'agua' (water) when he wants a drink!

h&f - owen plays with his toys and dylan and erin. i also feel that i dont pay him a lot of attention sometimes. i try to take him out every day. we go to the playground or beach or town. i havent been as brave as sarah and tried painting or playdoh yet though the older 2 love it!! he'll be going to nursery 2 mornings a week from oct/nov so he'll get extra stimulation there!!

got to go clean a smelly bum! will carry on later!!

 

[Mork]

Hey girls,
I also let T have some free time, we read books, play with her toys, she 'helps' me with chores, we sing nursery rhymes, go for a walk, play in the bath, bake-well actually she sits and watches me whilst i probably bore her rigid!!!lol!! today we tried some new jigsaws but they were a little over her head as she just wanted to eat them!!! Bit like when we have tried colouring!! Itoo would love some new ideas, especially as i am trying to pack as much in as possible before it all changes and i have to leave her 2 days a week so having a meltdown about that-dont know how i am going to do it
Anyway, hope you have all had a good day xx

 

[maybebaby3]

mork when are you going back to work? i'm back full time 2 weeks today

we had a lovely day. we had a nice meal with james and a few other friends and my mum and MIL were kind enough to keep the kids for a couple of hours so we could eat in peace Then later this afternoon i took the kids to a playground by the lighthouse with the twins from erin's nursery and their mum. it was soooooooo hot though! it is baking hot here! past 9.30pm and it's still over 27deg outside!

 

[Mork]

Oh maybe Is it easier doing it with your third? I just dont know how i can leave t with someone else for that long - i just worry that anyone else wont be able to soothe her like i do if she gets hurt, get her to eat when she is being fussy, and if truth be known i dont want anyone else having the closeness that i have built with her since she was born sorry, i am worrying so much about it all
xx

 

[emera35]

Mork - I think its totally normal to worry about leaving your baby for the first time, i bet every mother who has ever left their child has worried to some extent. Certainly to start with Try not to panic too much though. Firstly its something that you'll both get used to after a short time. Secondly, no one is ever going to come close to Mummy!!! And thirdly, T might have trouble settling, but i'm sure as soon as she gets used to the new people, surroundings and routine that she'll really benefit from the stimulation of spending time with someone else. Plus, you'll get all the big cuddles when you see her at the end of the day...well...OH gets those, i occasionally get noticed when i get home from work!

H&F - Some days i feel like i barely do anything with Roh, he'll just play with his toys, or roam about the house. We often do his jigsaws together, they are his favourites at the moment, and he gets really stressed and whines whilst he tries to get the pieces in, then when he manages it he bounces and grins and claps. We do the chores together, he loves helping with the laundry! I do try and do activities sometimes, we do scooping and pouring with porridge oats, i haven't risked playdough yet, as i am sure Roh would eat it all, however salty i made it. Same with paints and crayons. My SIL gave me a good tip though. I got some big sheets of coloured paper, a big chunky paint brush, and then we paint with water. It makes the paper go darker, Roh seems to like it, although i suspect his favourite bit is throwing the water everywhere and then drinking it Its a good alternative to paints though and lots less messy Other than that we play chase alot, and any day its not raining too much we'll go to the park and run about, feel the leaves and the trees and say hello to the people and dogs there. Oh, and we've also started playing hide and seek recently, Roh LOVES that

Sarah - Nice lie in!

Maybe - Glad Danny talked to you, hope things improve

Amy - Are you able to talk to Kerry about your concerns with the money situation, or rather his views on it? I can't help but think it will help in the future if he knows you aren't thrilled about not being on an equal footing either. Its not like this was your decision though, and like Maybe said, it could be so much worse, i know alot of people end up not being able to find any work in your situation. As undesireable as it is, its lucky you could fall back on your nursing. I hope you can find some compromise about it that he'll accept


Had a fairly quiet day here, Roh is very amusing at the moment Work has annoyed me by telling me i can't take the holiday i had booked for the start of september. My FIL has already booked and paid for the holiday, so i think there will be some issues there. I booked the time off 4 months ago, i just don't see what the problem could be. My boss said something about full time staff had booked time off too. I feel very second class. I'm annoyed!!!! I know i booked the dates first, because there was nothing else in the book when i wrote it in. I have a meeting on monday. Think i'll end up really kicking off if they don't change there minds!

 

[Mork]

Thanks hon, I know you are right but i am not good with change and so you are quite right i am sure i am making it out to be worse in my head than it will be and really I am very lucky that i wont be working ft.
I would be so annoyed with work if i were you! Grrrrrrrrr!!! I think you should give out in your meeting! Hope they eat humble pie in the end xx

 

[A3my]

maybe - I love that Owen throws in some spanish! Glad to hear you had a lovely day! I wish we could have some of that heat - it was drab, raining and 19 degrees here today thanks for asking, I'm hoping we get to keep the house. Kerry said at first that we had to move but I've worked out finances and convinced him to give it a trial six months.

sarah - I've noticed a change in Alex's speech too - he really tries to copy me. And he chats away like I know what he's on about He says Daddy properly now, its so cute and lovely for Kerry when he gets in from work as Alex puts his arms out and says "Daddy". He says emily too.. just no Mummy or Holly :hissyfit: I am also the same with money, I keep popping to the supermarket and spending a fortune I found it so hard to talk to Kerry about things and bottled it all up for months. Things were awful between us for weeks but he made me talk and it was a turning point

H&F - How do toddlers just know when to be demanding (i.e. when you are really busy!)

Mork - in all honesty I dont find it any easier leaving my third but I promise you get used to it. I focus on the positives for when i go back to work (again!), I think its good for Alex to go to nursery and spend time with children his age. I also think its good for him to spend some time without me (as much as I want to spend every second of my day with him) because he is sooooo clingy he screams if he cant see me and I want himto develop in confidence and lastly when you pick them up at the end of the day its just the best feeling

I also let Alex play with playdoh etc, I havent tried baking yet - fab idea Sarah he likes to have little bits of time playing by himself, he also plays with the girls. His favourite place to be is the garden, as soon as we come downstairs he stands at the back door whining to go out

 

[A3my]

I was so slow posting I missed you emera! Thats awful about the holiday just ridiculous! I would kick off if they dont change their minds! Thanks for your nice post I do feel very fortunate that I have nursing to fall back on, as much as its something I dont want to do I really want to provide some stability to the children and if we can stay here and in our home it makes it worthwhile

 

[emera35]

Amy - I know what you mean about a family home. I'm starting to get really itchy feet living in this flat. We've lived here nearly 8 years now, and its really home. I've never lived anywhere this long before, as all through my childhood we moved every 2 years, usually to a different country! I really want for my children to have a proper home, as in, when we retire and want to downsize and they are like 30 and moved out etc. they are still going to say "nooo don't move, thats our home!" That kind of home. I love this flat, but its no family home. Its ok with the 3 of us, but as Roh gets older, and with another little person too, we are definately going to outgrow it here. I sort of feel like i wanit to move right now, so i can get settled. But as we want to move to Devon closer to family i can't really afford to do it until i'm at least on maternity leave, as i can't go changing jobs now! Not that i plan to go back this time I'll just set up my business once we move

 

[maybebaby3]

mork - it is completely normal to think that way but rest asssured the mummy/baby bond will not be broken! it doesn't really get easier with the 3rd but it's a case of needs must! i have to go back to work to make money so i try to think of it in the way that my family needs me to go out and earn money. i'd be a SAHM in a heartbeat if i could afford it though!

emera - surely work can't do that especially as you have a holiday booked and paid for. i'd go on sick leave if they dont give it to you!

amy - hope all goes well in the trial period

right, off to watch the rerun of eastenders!

 

[maybebaby3]

emera - i want a bigger flat but we cant afford it. prices here are stupidly expensive!

 

[emera35]

They are really expensive here too Maybe, but if we move to Devon, its more rural, and therefore cheaper than city prices, so we'll get more for our money

 

[L-C]

Hello

Mork - T will be fine, I still hate leaving Will, although like the others you do get used to it and finally I am able to concentrate on work now. It's only taken 4 months lol. Our nursery is great and he seems to love it. The problem I have is that one friday in 5 I work a late and we are paid up for the day and so I should take him and have a day to myself but that really does feel wrong.

Emera - that's dreadful I'd be so annoyed!!

H&F - I know what you mean, Will always has a morning nap and so I always make sure I take him out and do something just for him in the afternoon. The rest of the time he "helps" me do jobs, generally means stops me from doing them lol.

Amy - that's great that Kerry kept his job, I know how you feel taking home less, but that can't be helped and least you are contributing!! I really hope things settle down and pick up for you, and that you can keep the house xx

Sarah - wow 10 am that sounds great! Will slept in until 7:30 am and I thought I was spoilt ha ha

Maybe - owen's speach sounds great and spanish too, I'm so impressed. Will is a little lacking in that dept. I know he can and think he just doesn't typical bloke lol I have a funny feeling it'll all come in one go. He can mimic me and a read a whole book rolling his tongue it's very funny.

We went to Dawlish Air Day today, it was great and Will loved the planes, luckily the rain held off but it was more like autumn. And the red arrows couldn't make it - gutting as they would have been the best bit. We had a great day none the less. Will refused to sleep until 4:30 pm for half an hour, luckily he went to bed ok tonight. I has far too much energy.

We have the in laws round tomorrow, for a meal which should be interesting with no kitchen. It goes in next week - phew!! It's been an interesting couple of months, camping at home.

Sleep well all xxxxx

 

[maybebaby3]

LC - what are you serving the in laws if you have no kitchen?