Moms of April/May/June 2010 babies thread! :)
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LC that was really mean of your friend. I'm sure will is fine. My friend was worried about her son's. Speac but hes 4 now and fine!!!
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LC,, just to say, F is fully formula fed now, and still doesn't sleep all that well. Roh was sleeping through by 4 months on just breastfeeds. So anyone who says formula = sleep is talking bollocks! If babies sleeping was to do with parenting skill, then F would sleep, because Roh did, right? 
You are doing great, and your friend is insensitive! Your kids are not the same as other people's kids, or the same as each other, and no one else knows them like you do, or understands them like you. They also don't know what it's like parenting them! Maybe if you gave your kids to someone else to parent them, they'd do a better job, and maybe their kids would be easier for you, but at the end of the day, that's not how it works, and we all just do the best we can by our children. I find there is little benefit in me comparing Roh to other children. He's clever, and quick to grasp things, but he has literally never drawn a single thing without getting angry within 30 seconds and throwing the pens/pencils on the floor. Kids younger than him can draw circles and even numbers or the letters of their names. There would be zero chance of Roh doing that! He can't reliably count to 10 when asked, but i hear him whispering when organising his toys and he counts perfectly. He has a big vocabulary and speaks well, which is great, but he's a total maniac, really hard to manage around other children and very boisterous. He wouldn't know the alphabet if you threw it at him, and he HATES music and dancing and just shouts at you to stop if you sing, except for a very small selection of songs, 
So yeah. I'm sure the things Roh is good at and bad at are totally different to the things that all the other May "babies" here are good and bad at. That's how it works.
As for Ava sleeping. Pfff, there is no answer. I seriously doubt its anything to do with food. Its probably nothing to do with teeth.
Babies just do phases. Some phases they sleep and smile, some they stay awake and whinge all the time, what can you do? She'll get there in her own time. You can't force babies to sleep sadly. I'm sure its nothing you are doing that is stopping her from sleeping. generally it seems that mostly what stops babies from sleeping is themselves, and nothing else. How lovely that your friend has been blessed with 2 good sleepers, lucky her. It does mean that she's not really in a position to offer advice on the subject though, seeing as she's never had any experience with a bad sleeper, eh? 
Big hugs to you! I hate when friends accidentally make you feel like crap, don't let it get to you! 
You are doing great, and your friend is insensitive! Your kids are not the same as other people's kids, or the same as each other, and no one else knows them like you do, or understands them like you. They also don't know what it's like parenting them! Maybe if you gave your kids to someone else to parent them, they'd do a better job, and maybe their kids would be easier for you, but at the end of the day, that's not how it works, and we all just do the best we can by our children. I find there is little benefit in me comparing Roh to other children. He's clever, and quick to grasp things, but he has literally never drawn a single thing without getting angry within 30 seconds and throwing the pens/pencils on the floor. Kids younger than him can draw circles and even numbers or the letters of their names. There would be zero chance of Roh doing that! He can't reliably count to 10 when asked, but i hear him whispering when organising his toys and he counts perfectly. He has a big vocabulary and speaks well, which is great, but he's a total maniac, really hard to manage around other children and very boisterous. He wouldn't know the alphabet if you threw it at him, and he HATES music and dancing and just shouts at you to stop if you sing, except for a very small selection of songs, So yeah. I'm sure the things Roh is good at and bad at are totally different to the things that all the other May "babies" here are good and bad at. That's how it works.As for Ava sleeping. Pfff, there is no answer. I seriously doubt its anything to do with food. Its probably nothing to do with teeth.
Babies just do phases. Some phases they sleep and smile, some they stay awake and whinge all the time, what can you do? She'll get there in her own time. You can't force babies to sleep sadly. I'm sure its nothing you are doing that is stopping her from sleeping. generally it seems that mostly what stops babies from sleeping is themselves, and nothing else. How lovely that your friend has been blessed with 2 good sleepers, lucky her. It does mean that she's not really in a position to offer advice on the subject though, seeing as she's never had any experience with a bad sleeper, eh? Big hugs to you! I hate when friends accidentally make you feel like crap, don't let it get to you! Hugs Amy and Maybe hopefully you will both get the support you so deserve from your OHs.
LC what a mean friend, all kids are good at different things and they all do things at different rates doesn't mean anything, try not to take it to heart. Formula doesn't mean they will sleep, babies sleep through when they are ready. Both mine have been ebf and O fed around 12 times a day and still woke at 11pm and 3am for a long time, and even at almost 1 he still woke for a feed around 3am! I know with O we found he HATED sleeping bags, and like Sarah's Oliver he hated having his feet contained in a babygrow (even now he takes would much rather be duvetless and barefoot). K feeds 6/7 times a day, and hasn't woken at night since 9 weeks, oh and she was 2lbs heavier than O was at birth so I would have expected her to need more milk. She is very contented and loves nothing more than to sit/lie and look all around her, O wanted to be held all the time and was far more clingy and we have done nothing differently yet they are quite different kids with sleeping/feeding/character. I very much doubt that it is something you have/haven't done that is stopping her from sleeping.
Emera that house looks amazing, hope you get it. The garden makes me think of the secret garden, I can just imagine Roh having a whale of a time exploring it.
Sarah glad you had a good time at playgroup.
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Sorry if I missed anyone, it's late and I should be going to bed.
LC what a mean friend, all kids are good at different things and they all do things at different rates doesn't mean anything, try not to take it to heart. Formula doesn't mean they will sleep, babies sleep through when they are ready. Both mine have been ebf and O fed around 12 times a day and still woke at 11pm and 3am for a long time, and even at almost 1 he still woke for a feed around 3am! I know with O we found he HATED sleeping bags, and like Sarah's Oliver he hated having his feet contained in a babygrow (even now he takes would much rather be duvetless and barefoot). K feeds 6/7 times a day, and hasn't woken at night since 9 weeks, oh and she was 2lbs heavier than O was at birth so I would have expected her to need more milk. She is very contented and loves nothing more than to sit/lie and look all around her, O wanted to be held all the time and was far more clingy and we have done nothing differently yet they are quite different kids with sleeping/feeding/character. I very much doubt that it is something you have/haven't done that is stopping her from sleeping.
Emera that house looks amazing, hope you get it. The garden makes me think of the secret garden, I can just imagine Roh having a whale of a time exploring it.
Sarah glad you had a good time at playgroup.
Hi Mork
Sorry if I missed anyone, it's late and I should be going to bed.
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Well we had a horrid conversation last night. he wants me to get rid of the baby tho. He says its a disaster and nothing good can come from it. He wouldn't even come to bed the last 2 nights. He hates me for not wanting to get an abortion. He says its nothing yet, just a ball of cells, not alive 
he says that he hates himself for hoping i mc or wanting to have an abortion but that that is the best thing and that this family wont stand the strain of another baby. im hoping he will come round eventually but I don't know. I feel so anxious and awful and stressed. Part of me thinks that he was trying to stress me out so I will have a mc from the stress. I slept so badly and have a stiff neck and now have to go in to work 
he is pinning the blame on me saying that women who don't want to get pregnant dont get pregnant. I feel like crap. Sorry for ranting!
Mork - Owen is still bf
he says that he hates himself for hoping i mc or wanting to have an abortion but that that is the best thing and that this family wont stand the strain of another baby. im hoping he will come round eventually but I don't know. I feel so anxious and awful and stressed. Part of me thinks that he was trying to stress me out so I will have a mc from the stress. I slept so badly and have a stiff neck and now have to go in to work he is pinning the blame on me saying that women who don't want to get pregnant dont get pregnant. I feel like crap. Sorry for ranting!Mork - Owen is still bf
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Ok so he just this minute called me and said that although this baby has been a mistake that we will get through it 
he said that he called as he didn't want me thinking awful thoughts all day at work and that we will talk about it later
he said that he called as he didn't want me thinking awful thoughts all day at work and that we will talk about it later Oh maybe what a roller coaster you are on, I hope he has now seen sense and will start to come round to the idea. Have you bf whilst pregnant before hon? If not prepare for some tenderness in the next few weeks xxxhugsxxx
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LC - I hope he is turning a corner. He said he confided in his dad and his dad was really happy about the baby. He told his dad he was thinking about abortion and he said not to be stupid!
Mork - no I haven't bf when pregnant. I'm a bit worried really. Ideally I'd like Owen to wean.
Mork - no I haven't bf when pregnant. I'm a bit worried really. Ideally I'd like Owen to wean.
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We shall see! I got in from work and he was asleep so not spoken! Going to take Xmas tree down now! Sooooo insanely tired tho!
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for you maybe, things will be fine I hope he knows he's got some serious grovelling to do!Muddles Oliver was just like your Oliver, absolutely hated sleeping bags. He will snuggle under covers now and likes to be cosy when he's falling asleep, but kicks them off when he's actually asleep.
We saw my friend today and her little girl who's a month older than Oliver. She's self employed too so it's lovely to get together and compare notes
She's on her own with her little girl and her house is SO feminine, it's so cute! We had a lovely time and went out for lunch, it was fab
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I'm exhausted! Just taken down Xmas tree and lights and decorations. Mil came round so she took kids out whilst I did it! Going to sneak in a cheeky cuppa now if I can!
So pleased you are getting a more positive response maybe
I hope you had that well deserved cheeky cuppa!!!!
I wonder if Owen will self wean - i sometimes think t never will!!!!!
Sarah-sounds like you had a lovely day
Everyone else - hope you had a lovely day too and your little ones gave you something to smile about (I've had a hard day with mine but i am smiling to myself now at something cute they each did today that reminds me why I love being a mum )
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I hope you had that well deserved cheeky cuppa!!!!
I wonder if Owen will self wean - i sometimes think t never will!!!!!
Sarah-sounds like you had a lovely day
Everyone else - hope you had a lovely day too and your little ones gave you something to smile about (I've had a hard day with mine but i am smiling to myself now at something cute they each did today that reminds me why I love being a mum
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Mork - what's it like tandem feeding? My breasts are super ouchie at the moment!!!
Well I think he is accepting the idea of this baby. Definitely not liking it tho! He actually made a joke that the only good thing about me being pregnant is being able to dtd without condoms men! Then last night when we had gone to bed Owen started crying and he was really pissed off saying 'I can't believe we have 3 more years of this' really angrily. We shall see how he is today.
Well I did a normal cb this morning and the line is much darker than the one I did on Saturday.
Well I think he is accepting the idea of this baby. Definitely not liking it tho! He actually made a joke that the only good thing about me being pregnant is being able to dtd without condoms
men! Then last night when we had gone to bed Owen started crying and he was really pissed off saying 'I can't believe we have 3 more years of this' really angrily. We shall see how he is today.Well I did a normal cb this morning and the line is much darker than the one I did on Saturday.
