Moving over from the ttc after loss thread

[GI_Jane]

That's encouraging mackjess. Will you still wait to tell DH?

 

[mlm115]

Yay for darker lines! That is a good sign, although I completely understand your nerves.

 

[mlm115]

I can understand skipping this month Jane, the thought of your issue affecting a pregnancy does sound a little scary. Hopefully not much longer til it's all sorted out for you.

 

[Aspe]

Mack.... Yahoooooooo

I think we are doing everything we can too. Waiting on an appointment to get dye in my tubes now.

 

[Aspe]

Any ladies have any tips or advice for me?

 

[bobster]

Mackjess so happy that your lines progressed but like mlm said can completely understand the nerves. Progression is progression though and is a brilliant sign. Poor you it sounds like you're suffering. Hopefully the doctor will be able to suggest something safe in pregnancy (yay!) to make you feel better. What did hubby say?? You must post pics I have poas withdrawal and need a fix!!

Jane when is your appointment again to discuss results? Try not to worry. It's awful waiting for information isn't it. What did they test when they did your bloods? Was it hormone levels?

Mlm how are you getting on? What milestones is Audrey up to now? I feel like I've forgotten all their milestones now. Will have to read up again when I have him.

Aspe hope the lap and dye goes ok. I heard you are much more fertile the cycle after one as everything has opened up so my advice would just be to bd as frequently as you can during the week of ovulation. Have you tried opks? I recommend the smiley face ones.

 

[bobster]

Been feeling emotional again the last few days. Crying at the drop of a hat. It's so weird and out of character for me. I'm wondering if it is happening when my af would have started as I've had mild af type cramps the last few days but put it down to stretching. It feels just like when you are on a really bad af in terms of mood. Just flat and down. Had a better day today than yesterday though. I'll be glad when he's here and I'm not pregnant anymore as sick of having roller coaster emotions.

Maybe it's the stress of having 2 and then the house move too. The house needs quite a bit of work which we're not going to be able to do until we save a bit. I also feel aprehensive about leaving work as I enjoy my job and felt quite lonely and isolated last time I was on Mat leave. I'm sure all will be fine I think I just get overwhelmed with worry sometimes!

 

[mlm115]

The only advice I can think of Aspe is to try preseed if you haven't yet. Worked every time for me. When will you have your appointment?

Pregnancy hormones are crazy Bobster. Sorry you are feeling down. Are you planning on breastfeeding? Just wondering because that affects hormones/emotions too, ugh. What is your due date? I think it should be a nice time of year, so maybe that will help you with being able to get out of the house a bit so you don't feel so isolated.

I feel like my girls and I really hit a good stride in the last few weeks. Since Audrey is getting older, her schedule is so much more predictable which is nice. She is getting in 2 good long naps during the day, and I usually am able to coordinate afternoon naps for both girls at the same time (which I highly recommend if you are able!). I just started her on solids and have decided to make my own baby food this time around. It is so easy, I wish I did it with Norah. Audrey so far has enjoyed apples, sweet potatoes, and rice cereal : )

 

[mlm115]

Oh, and just so I don't make it seem like everything is perfect- Audrey is still waking over night, usually just once, but sometimes twice still. I have a consistent level of tired all the time now. Really hoping she starts sleeping through soon.

 

[mackjess]

Here you go bobster

 

[mackjess]

Aspe I hope your appt comes up soon.

This cycle we did 1 day before my calendar said we were in the fertile window, 2 days during the window, and on the actual day I was supposed to ov in case I was late. I didn't opk this time because of xmas craziness so I covered all the bases I could for early and late ov. Bd 4 times about every 3rd day so we weren't worn out.

I also used pre seed the first time. I was about to get more if this cycle didn't work.

At the doc now. I think they only do pee tests here or I'd ask for one. Almost all antibiotics are preg safe so I hope I get something to feels better soon.

 

[bobster]

Yay beautiful progression mack! Thanks for sharing

Mlm waking once or twice is brilliant for 4 months! And yay on the homemade baby food. I'm planning on doing the same. I was lazy often with Jack and bought jars often. Glad weaning is going well. Was she giving you signs of being ready for it or did you just try her? Jack stopped napping during the day s while ago! I miss his naps so much!

Thanks I know it's just hormones as my skin has broken out as well. It's just like an af but without the blood! Can't escape it!!!

 

[GI_Jane]

That's great progression mackjess. Are you still planning on getting bloods on Monday? Hope your sinus infection clears up soon.

Sounds like you've got it under control Mlm . I enjoyed the early days of weaning, all those new flavours and textures for them to try. I enjoyed making my own baby food too and found it was really simple. Do you have Annabel Karmel books over there? Her recipe books are a big hit in the uk.

Bobster I had full blood counts done alongside the hormone tests. The fbc came back with issues and further tests and repeats of these have shown a possible red blood cell disorder. Waiting on the appointment for the haematologist to come through.

Sorry you are feeling emotional bobster. I understand how you feel about the daunting task of getting a new house up to scratch. We decided to sell ours and are in the process of buying a house that needs a lot of work too. Most of which we can't afford to do straight away either. I couldn't imagine doing all that with a newborn so I take my hat off to you.
Will you take the full year off this time? What do you think will help with the maternity leave loneliness?

 

[Aspe]

Wow! Those are lovely double lines

Afm.. We used tried SMEP, which failed. We tried pressed, that failed. I have been using digital opks for 7 months now. I had to get a procedure last time in order to conceive our son. I always say, its because of that we got pregnant. I wish I could see how far down on the wait list I am.

 

[mackjess]

I'm going to tell dh tonight. I'm nervous. He's been disappointed when I haven't been prego, but he was saying over Xmas that Finn was going to be an only child, so I was going to talk to him about that after the holidays. I had no idea I was prego at the time so I wasn't too worried about it. Now I'm afraid he's going to freak out.

 

[mlm115]

Good luck! I bet he will be excited. Let us know how he reacts!

 

[bobster]

Yay mack good luck! Keep us posted!

Aspe maybe after this procedure you'll be in luck. If your bodies done it once it can do it again. 7 months isn't a long time although it feels like forever. Try not to worry and follow your dr's advice as they know what they are doing. Sounds like you are doing everything right to me so it will just be a matter of time and a bit of luck.

Jane I didn't know you were selling! Good for you. Is it a bigger house? Same area of different? How far into the process are you? Will take about 10 months off. Going to try and do as many groups as I can I think to keep me sane. Although I'm not keen on the slightly forced situations like that and sometimes feel a bit awkward but I think the regular group I did with Jack really helped. Jack will be at nursery 8-6 Monday's and Wednesdays so on those days it will just be me and Harry which will help me try to rest when he sleeps. Then re other days I can focus on activities to keep Jack entertained.
When is your appointment with the haematologist?

 

[bobster]

Jane is your hubby handy?

My OH is fairly handy but he's never done a lot of things that need doing and it worries me. He's also the type to get easily frustrated and is very stubborn at asking for help! He's planning on fitting pipes and radiators to save money as the house has no central heating ! I'm scared...

 

[GI_Jane]

What procedure did you have to conceive #1 aspe?

Eeek yes let us know how DH reacts mackjess, I'll bet he'll be over the moon. Have you got a digital? My DH seemed to only trust the words not the lines on a test

Having daily groups planned certainly helps me stay sane at home with Greg bobster and it's great jack will keep some continuity with nursery for a coupe of days a week. Not least so you can just focus on Harry and you. Plus the weather will be better by then and you can hang in the park in the warm sun.

We were going to wait until this coming spring to put on the market and had a coupe of agents over to value it and we got caught up in the process so put it on end of November. In a week we had 4 full price asking offers
The new place is a 1970's 4 bed detached with garage and parking and no chain but needs a lot of work. We honestly couldn't have afforded it if was in a good state of repair. So we'll do our best with the money we have to get it up to scratch gradually. But all the work is daunting.
We've just had our mortgage valuation survey back and searches are underway.
Did you say you needed to put in heating? We will need to put in a new boiler and rads but think the existing pipe work will be ok- not sure how much all that will be! But that's the first job on our list to do.

 

[bobster]

Yes it's our first job too. It will cost us about £5k in total. Your house sounds amazing! Wow loads of space. Your current house must be lovely to have 4 full price offers. How did you pick the buyer? Our estate agent made us go to sealed bids with just 2 full price offers! So we ended up paying more.

What groups do you do with Greg? Have you met friends through them? Is Greg still going to nursery for a bit of the week? Are you still job hunting?