Moving over from the ttc after loss thread

[GI_Jane]

Our estate agent advised us to do sealed bids to get more cash but we are not greedy so decided to choose our buyers based on their position. Some of the offers came from people with homes still to sell and one was an investor with rocky finances so we chose the first time buyers with nothing to sell on a rolling rent contract with a good deposit.
Competition is hard though isn't it- we offered on a sealed bid process and offered over too but we didn't get it as we weren't on the market then- I think it depends what the priority is for the people you are buying from.
What other work needs doing to yours? Is it 3 bed? We needed 4 as DH works from home once/twice a week and a garage for his motorbike!

Greg is now going 3 mornings a week to nursery. The rest of the time is playgroups, rhyme time, a baby sensory group with singing and dancing then play dates. I'm a bit of a loner to be honest. I chat to people while I'm there but haven't made friends out side of these groups but that suits me fine. I'm still very friendly with the girls from my anti natal group and we meet up weekly.

Yes still applying for jobs. I had two initial stage interviews the week before Christmas so waiting to see if I'm through to the next stage.
I would really like to get back to work soon though, I'm running out of savings desperately and want to feel more valued that I do just being gregs mum!

Is oh being supportive of you and the emotions bobster? I hope he is understanding.

 

[Aspe]

Mack.. What app do you use? I use Ovia and fertility friend

Jane..i'd love to have a handy husband. Mine is useless lol. I had a hysteroscopy before. After I stopped bleeding, we got back to baby dancing. Conceived right after.

 

[bobster]

Jane that's very decent of you to not try and get more money. I think the first time buyers sound like a good bet. It's hard for them too when it comes to bidding. The house we have bought is fine to live in apart from the central heating but it's not been touched for years in ye kitchen especially. It's pretty small the kitchen too so we plan to extend in the future. It's 3 beds but the third room is a box room. we have a garage too and the garden is a good size. It's a nice house, I'll send a picture of it if I can find the deeds.

Interviews sound so time consuming now! Bring back the one interview and a phone call after! I tell you being a mum is the hardest job in the world! Constant guilt and challenges. I go to work for a break! It is nice having my own time as an independent person so I can completely understand why you want to get back into it though.

 

[bobster]

OH has been supportive yes. I don't talk to him that much as I actually can't tell him what's wrong as I know it's just hormones and I'm fine really. He's been a shoulder to cry on though when I need it which is what counts. I feel so tired all the time which doesn't help. Just walking to the shops this morning I felt my legs were made of lead and nearly started crying as I just feel unwell to be honest. Poor Jack isn't getting as much fun as he should be and I'm putting DVDs on just to have time out quite regularly. Poor thing

Will it be sad leaving your current house? It must be hard when you've done it up and adapted in it. Have you lived there for a long time?

Here's a picture of our new house...

 

[mackjess]

Good luck Aspe. It's a shame you can't find out the wait list. I like knowing even if it would be awhile. And 7 months does feel like forever, but it will happen. We were by ntnp for 9 months and really tried for 3. I was about to start freaking out, so I know it's easier said than done. And I use the my days app.

Mlm wonderful with the girls. How sweet it must be to have two girls so close in age. Good job on naps.

Bobster so sorry about feeling rubbish. I vaguely remember that, and not wanting to be pregnant anymore then at the end being scared and wanting to stay pregnant. Lol. The things we go through, so much easier to be a man.

I agree with Jane about the food. It was easy to make and I felt great about it being healthy. I think I'll skip cereal next time around and just add breast milk to some mashed up food to start with. I only really did cereal with Finn to try to help with his reflux but it didn't really do anything anyway.

So excited about your new houses. Daunting to do with a newborn, but you'll be so tired I'm sure it won't seem bad after its all done.

Told dh. He didn't seem happy. 3 months ago I told him a wanted a puppy and he said he wanted a baby. I could wring his neck sometimes. But I didn't talk about it much. I told him I was nervous about the tests and we could discuss more when we get results from the ob. I know he's just worried about the cost, but I know we'll be fine.

 

[mackjess]

Just saw the house. I love brick but you don't see it much in the Midwest in the US. I love our new home and I hope you both do as well. Moving was hard so I had Finns 2 year photos taken there as a memory after it sold. He was totally fine in the new house though so it was easier than I thought to get settled.

 

[bobster]

Really mack?? What are your houses made of?? It's mainly brick where I'm from. Does that sound completely stupid haha sorry.

 

[mackjess]

And now dh is all frisky this am so he must be happy. I could just slap him sometimes.

 

[bobster]

And don't worry about hubby's reaction. My boyfriend was exactly the same. He said afterwards he was just shell shocked. It took him a few days for the news to sink in and then he started to become excited

 

[bobster]

Haha you must have typed that last message at the same time as me! Glad he's feeling better

 

[mlm115]

Glad DH is coming around Mack! Seems like men just react so differently to it, oh well.

The house is beautiful Bobster! I agree about the brick, really beautiful. We have mostly aluminum siding here, but some brick.

Congrats to you too Jane on the new house!

 

[mackjess]

We mostly have wood and siding here. Some have brick around windows but it's usually just for show. I think we just make houses cheaper here.

I'm jealous of all the groups on your side of the pond. There's nothing like that where I am. How about in Florida mlm?

 

[mlm115]

I'm actually in the Chicago suburbs- wish I was in Florida! The only "group" that I do is Gymboree once a week. To be honest I haven't looked into other groups, but I also haven't heard of much. I mostly do play dates when I'm feeling like we need to find something to do.

 

[GI_Jane]

Love the house bobster. You must be so excited to put your own stamp on somewhere. Ours too will need a new bathroom and kitchen but they will have to wait. That will be the frustrating thing to not be able to afford to do what we want straight away.
It's very unusual to see a timber house in the UK as a residence.
I do love the storage you get in US homes- walk in wardrobes etc and also the kitchen faucets on a hose- they are rare things in the UK!

We have gymboree over here too mlm!

Is it private healthcare in Canada Aspe?

 

[GI_Jane]

No won't be sad to leave this house bobster, no emotional attachment. Only in it 4 years and always knew it would be a stepping stone house.
Will you be glad to get out of rented. Is a wedding next on the cards?

 

[mackjess]

Lol why in the world did I think FL???

 

[mackjess]

Jane, I thought the same when we were packing up our house. We only planned to live there 5 years and I was ready to go, but when I had to box up his room I got really sad. It worked out that his 2 year bday was between the time we sold and moved, so I called a friend to come over that week and do photos. I still love my new home and glad we moved, but totally surprised I was sad about the old place so watch out for that.

Well, no progression on my test today. Which is fine for just one day, but yesterday I forgot to test with FMU so I really did think I'd have a nice dark line today. It's dark, but still nowhere control line dark. Called the OB and left a vmail to get bloods done. Hopefully they aren't too backed up from the holidays and I can go in today for that.

Aspe has AF about wrapped up and onwards to the next cycle?

 

[mackjess]

ugh. My first appt with OB is Feb 1st. They don't do betas anymore at the lab. I'm seeing if I can just get labs done for progesterone. Last time I had to start taking that at 6 weeks. I guess I'll go buy a few more FRERs to hold me over.

 

[mlm115]

My ob didn't do betas either Mack, kinda frustrating. Hopefully your frers reassure you.

Just bought an Annabel karmel book on Amazon, thanks for the tip Jane 😀

 

[mackjess]

They did move my appt up to Jan 28th. Still not excited about that. My progesterone dropped last time at 6 weeks and I started taking it then, but the appt is at 8 weeks. Of course last time I was just 2 cycles after my m/c, so hopefully my hormones are in better shape this time. Called my GP and will see if they do bloods in their office. They do have a lab there but of course it wasn't open Sat when I went in for my cold/cough.

MLM let me know if you like the book. Jane is it a cookbook for baby food or kid food? Finn doesn't seem to really like most typical kid food, so weeknight dinners are a struggle! I need to look more in to easy to prepare ahead food that is good for kids. He seems to eat EVERYTHING at school, but is picky at home.