Sorry, I've just got to vent and see if I'm being unreasonable here. When I was put on disability and bed rest at the beginning of my pregnancy, we decided to move in with my husband's parents to try to save money, since I wasn't working. His sisters made comments like, "Why are they having a baby if they can't afford it then? They are making poor life choices." Needless to say, I was TOTALLY offended. Anyway, fast forward a few months... My baby showers aren't until I'm 34-36 weeks along. I'm a very type-A personality and like things to be organized and not rushed, so my husband and I have chosen to purchase a lot of the things we need for baby ourselves, instead of waiting for family to get them at the shower. Plus, I don't want to wait until I'm 36 weeks along to start washing and setting things up. I'm sure by that point I won't have the energy. Well, his sisters and some of our friends are freaking out about this saying we need to wait for the showers. They said that people would rather buy the baby gifts than to get us gift cards. We are trying to be nice by not ASSUMING people are going to buy everything for us. Having this baby was our choice, and we want to be responsible and take care of him ourselves as much as possible. We just got married in June, so people just bought us wedding gifts, so we thought we'd give them a break. Apparently they're offended by this...? People get pissed off if you ask them to buy a gift, and people get pissed off if you DON'T ask them to buy a gift. Jeez, there is no winning with these people.