On the road again... a place for women getting into the TTC groove again.

[RedWylder]

Cary that is so frustrating! I honestly feel that some doctors just don't know that much and it sounds like your doc is only giving you half answers. I prefer doctors that want to get to the bottom of things. If I were you, I'd consider a second opinion. I had one doctor look at my progesterone and say that my levels were "normal" but then I had my midwife tell me that while normal, they are on the low side of normal and this can actually be causing my miscarriages. See how interpretation makes a difference? I don't like that your doctor isn't giving you the full picture.

 

[Starry Night]

Sorry, Cary. I hate when doctors give half-answers or just shrug off your questions. At least the test results you did get were encouraging. I hope the next test shows you have good egg reserves.

I'm almost tempted to join you as a newbie in temping and charting. Even if I can just get a better idea on what is going on so I have something to share with the fertility specialists when I get there.

 

[RedWylder]

Temping and charting tells you soooo much about your body and cycles. I would totally do it if I were you! I loved doing it for a while but just know that it can make you crazy and also makes time feel like its passing so slow.

 

[Carybear]

Thanks everyone... AF started today... No warning... No cramping... No spotting beforehand... Just went to the bathroom and there it was!

The good news is that I am back to a 30 day cycle and if I'm back to normal, then I should ovulate right around cycle day 15... The bad news is... Well the witch arrived... I'm at peace with it all...

Starry... Want to be newbie temping buddies???? Lol....

 

[Starry Night]

Cary - sure...I talked with DH about it and he doesn't think it's crazy so I may just try it. I'll have to pick up a basal thermometre when we go into town on Monday as AF should be due sometime next weekend. I would only do it for a few months just to see what my body is up to. Now I have to do oodles of research on how to do it properly because I find it so confusing. And I definitely don't want to temp vaginally because no way am I sticking it up there while on AF. Gross.

But I refuse to do OPKs. Too costly.

I'm glad you are back to your normal 30 day cycles. That's a plus. Sorry that AF caught you.

 

[ilovemyhubby]

sorry the witch got you cary ....i second left wonderin... fertility friend is your friend. if u guys have any questions or confusion lemme know id be happy to help. i really enjoyed seeing my cycles in a graph. it all made more sense... good luck! cant wait to start the chartin again. praying it is soon, tired of waiting for AF......

 

[Starry Night]

I was just on Fertility Friend's website and I am so intimidated! I wanted to run for the hills! ha ha And I don't want the whole internet to see my chart. I'd want it just for me.

 

[ilovemyhubby]

you dont have to put ure real name on there... if u dont want anybody to know.. basically i just started a chart and started temping on the first day of my period. u click on the date u want and add ure temp and if u want u can track cm and all kindsa stuff, i just did temps mostly. u can get pretty detailed about it if u want tho. i always just set an alarm for earlier than i could wake up naturally and took my temp (kept the thermometer next to the bed) u wanna do it before getting up or talking or drinking anything cause that will change ure temp... u want to get at least 6 hours of sleep before u temp and take it at about the same time everyday... there are some tutorials on the fertility friend site that might be helpful to look at, it seems a bit daunting at first but after the first couple days it will be no big deal at all. theres also a search on there where u can compare ure chart to other peoples or search for what a pregnant chart looks like or annovulatory or w/e there are lots of options. anyway dunno if that was helpful...

 

[Starry Night]

I'm such a bad sleeper. I often suffer insomnia or one night I can get up 3 times to pee. Well, I'll just have to see what happens.

 

[kungfubabe]

I'm such a bad sleeper. I often suffer insomnia or one night I can get up 3 times to pee. Well, I'll just have to see what happens.

Same. I suffer from a bladder condition, so I always have to get up multiple times to pee. So I could never work out how I would manage temping. Hope you and Cary find it useful, as I know lots of others have.
Sorry the witch got you Cary.

 

[Starry Night]

Had a horrible panic attack today in the middle of church and had to leave. I could hardly breathe and my hands and feet went a purply red. It was scary. It took me awhile to calm down. I am still a little on edge. Normally my panic attacks come across as nausea and feeling ill so I was not expecting this.

 

[Carybear]

I'm so sorry Starry... What a scary experience... Sending

AFM... I'm not sure im going to temp this month... It's a little late to start as I don't have a thermometer and tomorrow is already cd3... I've also chosen to not go any further with testing...

The woman who announced that she was pregnant with #6 right after I miscarried... And then had him the day after my due date... Brought him to church today... I think she was wondering why I didn't stop by and ooohhhh and awwwww over him... Just couldnt do it today... Then another woman I know couldn't wait to give me pink m&m's to tell me that she was having a girl... Went to a training last week and sat right next to the pregnant girl (didnt know she was pregnant until she moved and I saw her belly...)

Well.... Sigh.... And of course AF was kicking my butt today... Some days...

 

[RedWylder]

Cary I never tested until AF was over so you still have plenty of time. I've found that during AF your body is still readjusting hormones anyways and can give mixed signals. It's not too late!

Starry I hope you are feeling better. I know that panic attacks can mimic Symptoms of a heart attack and can be quite scary.

 

[Carybear]

That's good to know... I guess I'll get a thermometer today...

Well it appears that AF is back to normal... I had no spotting before the actual flow started, though it did start out light, and I'm on to cd3 and still bleeding... Since the mc by cd3 I was just spotting with only 1 day of real bleeding... And that was more clots than actual flow... I really felt like this month I was going to get back to a 30 day cycle and AF started at exactly 30....

Normal is good....

 

[Starry Night]

Cary - I really hope this is all a sign that your body is getting its act together to make a baby! And I'm sorry you're being tested with all those pregnant ladies...especially while on AF. I can sympathize with not pursuing testing. It sounds like it can be really stressful.

afm - feeling mostly better. My IBS has been flaring up though so I have been getting stomach cramps--especially at night. I find my depression and anxiety are often worse when my IBS flares up. My depression is also messing up with my sleep patterns. I slept until 11 this morning. Yuck. I feel disgusting. I used to always get up at 8 and felt like that was sleeping in. Now I struggle to get out of bed at 10. I need to get strict with myself and force myself to return to a normal routine.

 

[Carybear]

Routine is a good thing... I can sleep in for the next two weeks, but was up at 7 today...

I started bleeding Saturday night... And am still bleeding heavy today...if it is like normal, then I should keep bleeding for another day or two... While I'm not happy about AF.. It is a relief to have things back to normal...

 

[ilovemyhubby]

starry : im sorry u r suffering with anxiety and ibs. it is no fun. i have had the same kind of problems too. its been a few months since my last panic attack, but it is so scary. feels like you are dying. i usually get mine at night though and i get ibs cramps really bad at the same time and it feels like contractions and i start flashing back to the birth. i hope u are feeling better. i went to a therapist for a while who specialized in anxiety and post traumatic stress and it helped me out a lot. im also super blessed to be able to be a stay at home wife, so if im feeling an attack coming i can spend all day praying and meditating and it seems to help keep them away.

we finished our training for our DHS adoption/foster stuff this weekend =) im really excited, really felt God calling us to give our time for these children who want families, and for us to have an outlet for all the motherly/fatherly love we have to give! we are looking to adopt a sibling group of 2 and foster a child under 2yrs for now until we get a bigger house =D i still pray we will be blessed with children from my own womb, but i will love our adopted kids just as much and cant wait to meet them.

hope you girls are having a great day!

 

[Left wonderin]

starry : im sorry u r suffering with anxiety and ibs. it is no fun. i have had the same kind of problems too. its been a few months since my last panic attack, but it is so scary. feels like you are dying. i usually get mine at night though and i get ibs cramps really bad at the same time and it feels like contractions and i start flashing back to the birth. i hope u are feeling better. i went to a therapist for a while who specialized in anxiety and post traumatic stress and it helped me out a lot. im also super blessed to be able to be a stay at home wife, so if im feeling an attack coming i can spend all day praying and meditating and it seems to help keep them away.

we finished our training for our DHS adoption/foster stuff this weekend =) im really excited, really felt God calling us to give our time for these children who want families, and for us to have an outlet for all the motherly/fatherly love we have to give! we are looking to adopt a sibling group of 2 and foster a child under 2yrs for now until we get a bigger house =D i still pray we will be blessed with children from my own womb, but i will love our adopted kids just as much and cant wait to meet them.

hope you girls are having a great day!

Hi just thought I'd share my sisters story with you , after Tcc with unexplained infertility for 12 years they decided to foster a sibling group long term . There were 3 a boy 4 , girl 2 and boy 13 months ......... Fast forward 16 years , they have been adopted and my sister feels that the years of heartaches all led her to meet THESE children she did go on to have 4 other children about 5 years after the three joined her family . Her last miricle was a natural conception at 42 !! After 22 years of Tcc !!!!!! Her family now stands at 7 !!!

 

[ilovemyhubby]

LW: aw that is precious!!! im so glad to hear that thank you for sharing! i cant wait to see what God has in store for us. I just know it will be so rewarding and fullfilling. soooo super excited. i know it might be a wait till our home is opened tho, we still have to do a home study, but my husband wants to build their beds himself and so it will give us some time to do that and get ourselves ready to have our family grow i just know that since our loss God has really been telling us to go and obey the scripture and do the DHS thing, he has put people in our path, foster parents and grown foster children and caseworkers to share their stories of the beautiful love and healing that comes out of adoption and fostering. i am not gunna stop TTC tho, because i think we are supposed to make some children too, but i think it will help me a lot when im pregnant too, give me something to take the focus off of worrying for the baby(im sure ill still worry some) thanks again for that sweet encouragement!!!!

 

[Carybear]

Wow.... Lovemyhubby that is awesome!

Left, what a wonderful story... I am open to adoption, but it just seems so expensive... Ill have to look into what you're doing love....