On the road again... a place for women getting into the TTC groove again.

[Starry Night]

iluvmyhubby - I think that is so great that you are pursuing adoption and foster care. There is such a need for good, stable homes with loving parents. It would be wonderful to grow your family this way alongside some naturally.

I would like to adopt some day but it is very expensive. There is public adoption but I'm not sure I'd be open to getting a teenager or a kid with very troubled histories (I've been so sheltered I wouldn't know what to do with it). We'll see how I feel in the future. Right now I don't feel open to fostering because the thought of my child being taken to a new home without warning and without being able to keep in contact would be too hard. I do admire those who do it, though.

Well, I bought a basal thermometre today. AF should arrive this weekend or early next week. I'm curious to see what I will discover.

 

[ilovemyhubby]

thanks! it should be fun. DHS adoption is free, and u get to fill out a paper saying what ages and level of disabilities you are comfortable with. you would obviously probably wait a LOT longer for a baby, but we are looking for under 10yrs, but keeping an open mind to slightly older... with the fostering end, it will be hard to say goodbye, but i feel like its important to have a safe place for kiddos while the parents are getting their lives together. it can also be an awesome oppurtunity to minister to the birth parents and maybe help them find a new life in faith and Gods love. and what a better way to show people Christ's love!!!selflessly loveing and caring for their children and forgiving them and showing them how to be washed clean.... awesome =) i dont think i would want to only foster, but we have enough room for 2 and a child under two yrs, and we have an entire nursery, sitting unused, so what a great way to use it for now. we want a big family and im already almost 30 and after what happened with ligia, i feel like it will releave a lot of the TTC stress. its just not gunna be physically possible for me to birth 5 children at this point in my life, even if i had normal cycles, which i certainly do not. we found this great organization through our church called "the call" and they are a ministry that works with families from the church and we did all our training through them and they help us work with DHS and are there to answer any questions and provide a support system with brothers and sisters who feel called to be a part of something like this. pretty cool stuff. hope you all are doing well =)

starry: happy temping =) i hope it helps you out! cant wait to join ya!

 

[jssmprime29]

This is my first time that I will be trying for TTC. From the past few months me and husband is trying but nothing is happening. I really and tensed and worried what the problem is and whether i will be having a baby or not.

 

[Topanga053]

iluvmyhubby- Hi! I used to post in this thread a lot and am now just stalking occassionally. Anyway, I was poking around this morning and saw your post about adoption. I just wanted to say that I really, really admire your faith and your attitude! You sound like such a beautiful, lovely person! More people in the world should be as generous and kind hearted as you are!

 

[RedWylder]

Hi Topanga! I miss having you around. I hope all as well as can be in your world.

 

[Topanga053]

Hey Red! I miss you too!! Things are going well with me. I've actually moved over to the PAL boards, but everything is very much one day at a time. (As evidenced by the fact that I still refuse to change my signature, lol.)

How have things been with you???

 

[Left wonderin]

Hey Red! I miss you too!! Things are going well with me. I've actually moved over to the PAL boards, but everything is very much one day at a time. (As evidenced by the fact that I still refuse to change my signature, lol.)

How have things been with you???

Hey Topanga how are ya girl I'm with ya no tickers no signature , one day at a time is the only way to go well for me anyhow great to see ya x

 

[Left wonderin]

Can I . Ask do you have news

 

[Carybear]

Congrats Topanga! We do miss you around here...

Left, how are you feeling these days?

Lovemyhubby, I second Topanga... You are a wonderful addition to this thread...

Starry, how are ya feeling?

Red... How are things going with you?

What's up kungfu?

AFM... I heard about this big meeting they're having about adoption... It is about 60 minutes away from me at a church I used to attend when I lived there... It is for foster kids who are waiting for forever families... I think I'm going to talk to DH about going...

DH and I had a talk the other day... When I got pregnant in November, I had just started these shakes for weightloss... They were really healthy... I stopped them after the mc.. Now, for almost a month I've been drinking veggie/fruit smoothies and my cycle has returned to normal.. (I'm still bleeding on cd4 which is wonderful since they've mostly been 1-3 day cycles with only one day of actual bleeding..) so... What do you think? Do you think it's just random or does it have something to do with it?

 

[Left wonderin]

Hi Cary that's wonderful about your cycle it sounds like things finally are getting back on track for you with AF . The shakes can only be helping The adoption meeting sounds exciting and worth checking out . One day I have always said I will foster I come across so many amazing kids every day that need there forever homes or stability in their lives .

I am 11 weeks today , I still feel exhausted and really sick most of the evening . The gagging also continues !!! Have also started waking twice a night needing to pee .. I'm doing great

 

[ilovemyhubby]

thanks guys thats sweet, but i really just feel like im answering his calling for our family.
im so super blessed with such an awesome supportive husband and he is really excited and i know he is gunna be such a great father figure. he is so sweet with children.

cary: i wouldnt be surprised at all if the smoothies were helping out a lot. ive been taking lots of vitamins and trying to eat healthy, cause that is what helped me ovulate the month we concieved. i was eating loads of wild rice and spinach and veggie stirffrys, also lots of pumpkin and sunflower and flax seeds and many many nuts. its hard now that we live in the states again to avoid all the delicious junk food that we missed while we were in china, but i really wanna start making veggie smoothies too. what do you put into yours?any great recipes for us? do u use a blender or a juicer?
that meeting at your church sounds awesome =) i know there is lots of need for people who want to just support foster families by making dinners for them or babysitting, taking kids to doctors appointments and stuff too.

jssmprime: dont worry if you have just started trying, sometimes it takes some time... i will be praying for you and all of us to get preggo soon!!! maybe we can all be bump buddies!

 

[Carybear]

Great Left! I'm so glad you're tummy is feeling sick! where else can you say that and have it be a good thing happy 11 weeks

Lovemyhubby.... I use a ninja... I've heard you shouldn't combine fruits and veggies but I do... I use a large whole carrot, a large handful of spinach, one kale leaf, one banana, a handful of mixed dole frozen fruit (peaches, mango, pineapple, and strawberries) and a handful of blueberries... I use the simply orange - orange/mango juice and a little almond milk for he liquid. Then I mix it all up... There is no added sugar in the milk or juice... Just a bunch of natural sugar from the fruit.... I like it a lot! And I'm finally back on track....

The meeting at the church is just an informational type meeting so I'm hoping DH might want to go... I guess we will see

 

[Starry Night]

Cary - I think watching what you eat would certainly help with your cycles...especially if you have PCOS. I have heard that good diets and exercise control all the symptoms of that (weight gain, excess hair, etc) as well as fertility issues. I think avoiding the really processed stuff is another factor (which is sooo hard!)

Topanga - Hi there!! :wave: Good to see you again. I thought I saw you in the PaL and it just made me sooo happy. Have been crossing my fingers for you ever since!

afm - just truckin' along. I made myself wake up "early" this morning at 8:30. It was so hard. Yeesh. I hope my body gets used to the more reasonable routine soon.

It's funny, but now that I'm pretty much for sure in the TWW I'm not feeling pregnant at all. Nor am I getting AF signs. My whole cycle has been going back and forth between AF feelings and pregnancy symptoms. It still wouldn't shock me if I hadn't ovulated at all. First cycle jitters and all that. Trying to focus my anticipation on our trip coming up in a month. Also, just over a week until I FINALLY see the OB.

 

[ilovemyhubby]

NICE! i have a ninja too!!! they are great! that sounds yummy, im gunna have to get some good smoothie stuff in the next couple days and get going with it. i like that you use almond milk too(im lactose intolerant) thanks for inspiring me!
oh i stumbled on this thread i made a long time ago in the TTC forum called "eating your way to baby" where posted some recipes with fertility superfoods and liver clearing stuff to help with my hormone stuff.when we lived in china we learned a lot about chinese medicine and they really focus on liver cleansing which can be super helpful for fertility. it is kinda funny,i bumped it, shamelessly, lol, but there is an awesome recipe for fertility granola i made that i forgot about and im gunna make some of that tomorrow if i can find some good honey... mmmm homemade granola is yum...
hope you get to go to your meeting, let me know how it goes

starry: when i got pregnant with ligia, i didnt feel pregnant at all, not till maybe week 10 even... so theres still hope, im praying for ya girlie! where are you going on your trip?

 

[Starry Night]

We're going to the Mall of America. It will be a nice getaway for just the two of us.

I am starting to think I will put off testing until Saturday. We're going for lunch with someone on Friday and even though I am expecting a bfn I will probably still be all mopey. And being 12dpo would give me an even more accurate result. I'm not sure yet. It all depends on my patience. ha ha

 

[ilovemyhubby]

isnt there a rollar coaster in that mall?!!! that should be fun! so much shopping!!! im so ready for a getaway, there is a town near us that has hot springs and they built bathhouses that you can go sit in the hot tubs of mineral water and im hopin i can talk my hubby into taking a day off so we can have a date day there, he has been working too much lately

if u can wait that long to test u r stronger than me!
i can be a bit of a POAS addict....

 

[Topanga053]

Thanks everyone! I've really missed all of you too. Even though I don't post on the boards as often as I used to, I think about you guys all the time. It's amazing how the women here become like a family.

Cary- those shakes sounds delicious!! I have some that I make w/out veggies. It's fresh fruit, oatmeal, fruit juice, yogurt, and milk and they're so yummy! Hopefully those shakes continue to help your cycles regulate and lead to another BFP!!

It's funny, but now that I'm pretty much for sure in the TWW I'm not feeling pregnant at all. Nor am I getting AF signs. My whole cycle has been going back and forth between AF feelings and pregnancy symptoms. It still wouldn't shock me if I hadn't ovulated at all. First cycle jitters and all that. Trying to focus my anticipation on our trip coming up in a month. Also, just over a week until I FINALLY see the OB.

I hate how our bodies trick us. I complain to DH all the time that we should just KNOW when we're pregnant. There should be like a little alarm that goes off! When I got pregnant with my MC, I was driving in to work the first day of my period (I had gotten a BFN a couple of days earlier) and suddenly just *knew* that I was pregnant. I took a test to confirm it, but there wasn't a doubt in my mind that I was pregnant, even though I'd never been pregnant before and didn't know what it was supposed to feel like. When we were TTC after the MC, I kept expecting to feel that way again. And a couple of cycles I was CONVINCED that I was pregnant because I had symptoms, but I wasn't. The cycle I got this newest BFP, I had NO symptoms and frankly was convinced that I wasn't pregnant. I really only took the test because I was going to work the day AF was supposed to come and I knew that I would cry if AF showed at work, so I took a test before work so I could cry at home. I got the FAINTEST line and all I did was stare at it for like 10 minutes. I kept telling DH, "I think there's a line. But that's not possible. That's not a line, is it?" I made him take me to the store to get a digital because I didn't believe it. That was the only cycle where I had absolutely NO symptoms and was entirely convinced that it was gonig to be a BFN.

I don't trust my body at all anymore!! Loads of symptoms and BFNs, then no symptoms and a BFP. It's so frigging ridiculous!! We should be able to predict this stuff! It would make the hell of TTCAL after a loss SOOO much easier if there wasn't all of that guess work.

 

[RedWylder]

So how far along are you Topanga? I hope this is your rainbow!

 

[Topanga053]

I'm 12+1 today. So far everything has been great, but it's definitely still one day at a time. Thanks so much for the well wishes! ...I really hope I'm not triggering anyone here by talking about it. So sorry if I am.

How are things going with you, Red??

 

[ilovemyhubby]

i for one am super happy for ya topanga! im praying for a happy and healthy 9months and a beautiful birth for you too!