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Pip - I feel the same about the boy girl thing. I am worried about disappointment too.

Happy halfway heva!

Eve - your bump is massive and perfect! So jealous!
 
I bet you have nothing to be jealous of Emmea!!

Okay so rant time! I have been trying to get Chris to give up smoking since we got pregnant with Saraya and he tried half-heartedly a number of times but never really put his ass into it. So then this time he said he was def giving up and we went to boots and he signed up on the smoking cessation program which is 12 weeks and they give you free nicotine replacement therapy [you choose patches or inhaler or whatever you want]. So he got the inhaler, quit on Saturday and used it but didn't like it because it wasn't really like smoking. But his mum, who is my best friend, for some reason doesn't want him to quit and always makes excuses or offers him cigarettes or tries to convince him to keep smoking - I have NO idea why she does this? So he goes to work today and he just rang to tell me that he had a rollie this morning and that's only 1 cigarette and it was really small and blah fucking blah and how amazing is he that he can go a whole day on 1 cigarette and that he feels better if he has rollie stuff or cigarettes there then he will be calmer and won't freak out as much. His mum smokes rollies more than regular cigarettes so I'm pretty sure she gave him the rollie this morning. I'm so angry that he can't just give up and put his ass into it. Why does he always cave and have 1 only to try and justify it to me as to how good it is that he's only had 1 when he knows that EVERYTIME he does this the cycle is the same, he has 1 today then tomorrow he has 2 and so on until he's smoking again. Am I being unreasonable? I quit cold turkey when I got pregnant with Saraya, I started again when she was in hospital when she was a baby and then I quit as soon as I found I was pregnant with this one. Cold fucking turkey. It's not that hard?
 
I went cold turkey a long time ago and I really don't get why parents of children smoke these days. If you did it, you have every right to be angry at him! He can do it too. Cold turkey with patches if he needs.

You must remember that week one is the easy bit. If he can't go three days he isn't trying. Give him some motivation - tell him for every cold turkey day he can do something like put aside a fiver towards something just for him.

Put your foot down!:)
 
Agree I stopped as Simon quit from 40 a day full strength to nothing so I did as well. Can't imagine smoking now although I wasn't a heavy smoker in comparison to him. Do the reward thing.

Bump is lovely Aaisrie :happydance:
 
My backache is back :( I think I could be like this until birth!
 
It wouldn't work putting my foot down - Chris has that child rebellion thing that if you TELL him to do something he'd automatically do the opposite just to annoy you!! So I worked that to my advantage and told him tonight that I knew he was gonna be back on them by the weekend and that he was doing the same thing he always did so he told me he was gonna prove me wrong LOL I'm just so frustrated because I did it twice and he just doesn't seem to try at all.
 
Pip are you sure it's coming from your back only wondering if it could be your pelvis?
 
Definitely my back hon :( can't bend forward or back. I had it once before when I reached for a tent that was blowing away but once it went it never came back if you know what I mean. I just think because my ligaments are all stretchy from being pregnant it's making it worse. Going to bed to watch one born every minute now.

As for tell DH to stop smoking it would never work for me either. ANY suggestion has to come from him or it's not entertained. I just have subtle ways now of getting him to think it's his idea :rofl:
 
Definitely my back hon :( can't bend forward or back. I had it once before when I reached for a tent that was blowing away but once it went it never came back if you know what I mean. I just think because my ligaments are all stretchy from being pregnant it's making it worse. Going to bed to watch one born every minute now.

As for tell DH to stop smoking it would never work for me either. ANY suggestion has to come from him or it's not entertained. I just have subtle ways now of getting him to think it's his idea :rofl:
 
Awww pip - you sure it isn't a disk ?? You should see someone. I hope you feel better soon!

I just want to demonstrate the idiocy of my husband - he phoned me up to tell me that his colleague has just got back from Thailand and given them each some intimacy gel which has the same effect as Viagra. The cheeky stupid little boy of a man suggested we try it!! He wants to put illegally smuggled Thai drugs near my cervix ! Can you believe it?!

Why do I have to have such an idiot for a husband :( why does he think it is ok to tell me he wants to use this kind if stuff? :sob:
 
Emmea because he's a man. That is the only answer I can give to that. Their brains are in their balls and they can't think of anyone but themselves!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL

Pip definitely sounds like you need treatment for that, like Emmea said it could be a slipped disc?

AFM - He had another fucking rollie... WTF? I mean seriously day 3 of not smoking is day 3 of "only having 2" and he STINKS of smoke, like SO much stronger than a normal cigarette.. then he put Saraya's pjs on and SHE smelt of smoke [which YES I made the point of saying loudly enough for him to hear!] FFS.... GAH THIS IS REALLY PISSING ME OFF... Can he not think of the damage he is doing to his child/ren?!?!?!?!? Fucking selfish git... of course I would LOVE to be able to smoke... it's highly enjoyable and a wonderfully lovely guilty pleasure but HELLO I DON'T BECAUSE I'M PREGNANT AND A FUCKING MOTHER?!?!?!?!?
 
Don't worry about being disappointed about gender- my husband and I both really wanted boys and REALLY didn't want girls- it took us about 3.5 seconds to change our minds when we found out :)
 
ugh emmea and eve - what in the world!! Sometimes I don't understand people at all :dohh:

No-one will be smoking near my child. OHs dad is a smoker but he's been told already. His granddaughter lives with him... I do worry about the state of her lungs, she's had a lot of chest problems lately.
 
THanks ladies, I'm off work today I had such a rubbish night and to top it off I have the worst sore throat I've had. I've had it for three days now I never get sore throats. So I thought sod work they can do without me for a day or two so I'm having today and tomorrow off as I have a midwife appointment anyway tomorrow. I'm going to talk to her about my back. I'm sure it's not a slipped disc as my Mum had one and she's talked me trough it and it got completely better last week but if it carries on or the midwife refers me to the doctor (she's based at my doctors) then I'll book an appointment. I was wearing a pair of boots yesterday which have no cushioning to them and thinking back the first time I had this I had them on as well. So maybe it's that???
 
Sequeena he NEVER smokes around her, he has to go outside and I used to be super strict about the "20 minute rule" but I've become lax the older Saraya has gotten. It's just so frustrating because he sees me as some evil person trying to take HIS enjoyable thing away... hello I stopped!!

Pip that definitely sounds like it could be a culprit!!! I'm glad you're taking the day off though, hopefully it'll give your back a chance to rest!
 
Aaisrie said:
Sequeena he NEVER smokes around her, he has to go outside and I used to be super strict about the "20 minute rule" but I've become lax the older Saraya has gotten. It's just so frustrating because he sees me as some evil person trying to take HIS enjoyable thing away... hello I stopped!!

Pip that definitely sounds like it could be a culprit!!! I'm glad you're taking the day off though, hopefully it'll give your back a chance to rest!
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Ahhh I see, I have a friend who has the 20 minute rule too x
 
It's what the MW and Dr's recommend it's to do with 3rd hand smoke which is the stuff on your hands etc that is passed by touch... it's just gross... even though I LOVE smoking when you don't smoke the smell and everything is gross!!
 
Just phoned the doctor and they don't have an appointment tomorrow so have to phone in the morning or tonight to make an automated one. I could have seen the duty doctor tonight but Simon has parents evening and no way can I handle Sam there on my own. I have to pick him up in an hour and I'm worried about getting him in the car. Maybe the childminder will do it for me. Bloody back it's getting me down now.
 
Pip they didn't have an emergency appt? I think you need one urgently...
 
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