PG again with your 4th, 5th, or even 6th child?

[crysshae]

Ok, so I have a question that is perfect for those with large families.. Did DH seem to become less and less excited with each subsequent BFP? I mean I know nothing will ever be as special as your first but do you expect them to be just as excited each time?

Reason I ask is, my oldest two boys are not mine, they are DHs from a previous marriage and my 4 year old is mine from a previous marriage so technically my DH and I only have one DS together and that is the 2 year old so this is our second together. Now I don't know if it is because deep down inside he didn't really want another baby or if it just isn't exciting to him anymore like it is to me but he didn't really act happy at all.. kinda made my hormones go crazy and I had a breakdown.. just wondering if I am the only one.

I have a feeling that he is not really excited because he assumes it will be a boy since he has already produced three...

Mine didn't seem overly excited when I told him, but it was the little things he would say that let me know he was thinking about it. Before our BFP, he mentioned a maternity shirt he wanted to buy me. After the BFP, he would say things about names, or ask how will we do with this and that, or show me cute photography ideas of babies. That let me know he was excited. It just doesn't take over their world like it does our's...I think. We are so into TTC and watching our cycles that it has taken over our world before the BFP even arrives, and it's on our minds 24/7. They still think about everything else more than we do when TTC or pregnant.

 

[CountryMomma]

Now that I think about it I guess you are right crysshae. My DH has said stuff about names and where the baby is going to sleep and he can't keep his mouth shut about it to his friends.. he keeps telling everyone! lol I guess guys just have their own way of being excited.

 

[crysshae]

Awww. That's good. Definitely sounds like he's excited if he's telling everybody.

 

[Whitesoxfan41]

I thought my husband was completely underwhelmed for a couple weeks. I was hormonal enough to bitch at him about it even. Yesterday he said "I had an epiphany at work tonight, I'm having a baby!" I was like, okay. . took ya long enough. It's like it took that long to even sink in. HUGS!

 

[CountryMomma]

I thought my husband was completely underwhelmed for a couple weeks. I was hormonal enough to bitch at him about it even. Yesterday he said "I had an epiphany at work tonight, I'm having a baby!" I was like, okay. . took ya long enough. It's like it took that long to even sink in. HUGS!

Aww how cute! I'm sure it was quite a shock to him as it is his first!

 

[allforthegirl]

Welcome to the new momma's. I will add you to the front page when I get home. I am camping with the fam. We considered ourselves lucky the bugs weren't too bad in the city then we came here.

Counrtymomma I too have four boys but they are all mine. One is my current dh's. I too am praying this one is a girl. I too have a good feeling but I know in life we don't always get what we ask for. To answer your other question mine wasn't all that excited too the first time we saw the BFP but we lost that one. So the second time I was expecting the same reaction but he gave me a really big grin like he was actually happy. But I agree with crysshae men just don't jump up and down for days like we do.

Wannabubba thanks I am excited too!!

I too have a question for you momma's of many. Anyone else feel like their abs down low are very tender?? Even to touch it is not overly painful but sore. Does anyone else feel like this??

 

[wannabubba#4]

Welcome to the new momma's. I will add you to the front page when I get home. I am camping with the fam. We considered ourselves lucky the bugs weren't too bad in the city then we came here.

Counrtymomma I too have four boys but they are all mine. One is my current dh's. I too am praying this one is a girl. I too have a good feeling but I know in life we don't always get what we ask for. To answer your other question mine wasn't all that excited too the first time we saw the BFP but we lost that one. So the second time I was expecting the same reaction but he gave me a really big grin like he was actually happy. But I agree with crysshae men just don't jump up and down for days like we do.

Wannabubba thanks I am excited too!!

I too have a question for you momma's of many. Anyone else feel like their abs down low are very tender?? Even to touch it is not overly painful but sore. Does anyone else feel like this??

My abs are tender too -I thought it was due to me continuing to do my pilates -but then they weren't tender before lol

And as for DH not being as excited , Country momma your hubby is telling people already -I would say he is excited lol - my DH has been told its a secret for a bit, and he initially had said he will need to tell someone lol but then since then he has said NOTHING about it haha -think he is waiting til its time to tell others then he can be excited too. I think it is a protection mechanism in case anything goes wrong and also just because he isn't carrying the baby and doesn't feel the bond growing like I do

xx

xx

 

[allforthegirl]

My symptoms are leaving me for some reason. I am praying it is nothing. Can't help but be worried.

 

[wannabubba#4]

My symptoms are leaving me for some reason. I am praying it is nothing. Can't help but be worried.

Hopefully your body is just getting used to the extra hormones now -

 

[CountryMomma]

I think DH is excited and scared too, its like "wow we will have 5 kids!" I am sure he is happy just having trouble letting it out..my hormones have just made me an emotional wreck this time around...

 

[crysshae]

My symptoms are leaving me for some reason. I am praying it is nothing. Can't help but be worried.

It's normal for symptoms to go up and down. I think wannabubba is right. Your body is just getting used to it. And....you're out doing something, so you don't have as much time to dwell on the symptoms either.

 

[tryn4]

Hi girls, I dont know what happenned but I am not getting notifications for this thread. So I wanted to post again, How is everyone doing? Myself my vomiting did begin finally, it's nowhere near as bad as my previous pregnancies, but I am getting swollen ankles which is disturbing me. So I went to my gp and check my blood pressure. Everything a-ok. So thats good. I am anxious to go do my 1st u/s on Jul/9th.

 

[wannabubba#4]

Hi girls, I dont know what happenned but I am not getting notifications for this thread. So I wanted to post again, How is everyone doing? Myself my vomiting did begin finally, it's nowhere near as bad as my previous pregnancies, but I am getting swollen ankles which is disturbing me. So I went to my gp and check my blood pressure. Everything a-ok. So thats good. I am anxious to go do my 1st u/s on Jul/9th.

I kind of wish we had early u/s here too - I need to wait until end of August lol -for my 12/13 week combined test /scan

I might look up private scans lol - although when to go -too early and wont see anything -then weeks 7-9 on holiday and then 'almost at NHS scan date so probably not worth it ???

mmmmmmmmmmm going to price it up now -be my 40th birthday prezzie to myself lol

 

[tryn4]

Over here they give u a first scan whenever u discover your pregnant. Or within a couple weeks. If its early they do intervaginal scan. I had one at 3 weeks with my first..u could see something lol so tiny, and my uterus was small at one end bigger at the other. Then we get another scan at 16-20 weeks. That one is the regular on your tummy one. That's pretty much it I suppose unless u are high risk.

 

[allforthegirl]

That's weird I'm in sask and you don't get any u/s until 12 weeks here unless something is suspected wrong. Wonder if it is just the Dr you have. Haven't heard of other friend out east either having early scans. Most I've talked to said they have to wait. That's cool that you do though.

 

[ladyluck8181]

Hey ladies, I went to the dr's on Friday morning. Told him all my worries about the fact I've had x-rays, been taking naproxen, cerazette and that I have no idea how far gone I am. He did try to get me in to the EPAU immediately for a scan but they said no because I have had no pain or bleeding so I just have to wait for an appt to come through the post

I am a little disappointed as I really wanted to get a definite dating on this pip and to make sure everything is ok.

I am feeling sick occasionally but I'm not sure if that is psychosomatic because I have seen two lines lol.

ETA; he has had me book in with midwife, just got to wait for a call now.

 

[wannabubba#4]

Over here they give u a first scan whenever u discover your pregnant. Or within a couple weeks. If its early they do intervaginal scan. I had one at 3 weeks with my first..u could see something lol so tiny, and my uterus was small at one end bigger at the other. Then we get another scan at 16-20 weeks. That one is the regular on your tummy one. That's pretty much it I suppose unless u are high risk.

Here we get a first scan at 12-14 weeks - its combined with blood tests to give accuracy regarding some chromosomal abnormalities as well as accuracy for dating; then 20 weeks the anomaly scan where all the organs and blood flow in the heart etc can be seen... so I suppose I just have to wait lol

Would be nice to get 3 scans, early just to see if there is a bubba in there haha, but I would want the 12 and 20 week ones too -with my first 3 babies, we only got early 7-8week scan then nothing else if there was no complications seems really prehistoric now haha

xx

Just seems so long away

 

[gatormom2tots]

Haven't been here in a few years since dd#3 was born and she just turned 2 this month.

Expecting number 4 around Feb. 14, waiting for 8 week scan on July 12 for official date.

I have 1 Ds and 2 dds and would love another son. Though honestly a girl would be easier due to all the pink stuff we still have!

And I must say this 1st tri is creeping by. I'm off for the summer (teacher) and time goes by so much more slowly when you are not working.

 

[gatormom2tots]

And I obviously need to change my sig!

 

[tryn4]

That's weird I'm in sask and you don't get any u/s until 12 weeks here unless something is suspected wrong. Wonder if it is just the Dr you have. Haven't heard of other friend out east either having early scans. Most I've talked to said they have to wait. That's cool that you do though.

Couldn't be the doc. I have a new one this time. My old obgyn is very very old, close to retirement. His office is also quite a ways downtown. So I decided to go with one in my neighborhood recommended by my best friend. I don't know one person here who had a specific wait for their first u/s. Definitely the 2nd though. As a matter of fact I have never seen a 12 week one. The first is to date the pregnancy anyway & confirm it. That's too bad that so many of you have to wait