Quitting Smoking :((

[Belle20]

I would also like to point out IT wasn't an "early" miscarriage.

 

[mel28nicole]

Honestly that makes no sense. There is no placenta and the baby would not be receiving the nicotine. I also had a later miscarriage, but me quitting smoking was never the reason why. Most miscarriages happen without explanation. If you continue to smoke you will be putting your child at risk.

 

[mummytobe_93]

Hi everyone!!

I got my very first BPF on new years day, and the biggest obstacle in my way right now is SMOKING!!! I have been trying to quit before I had even found out I was pregnant, but I have smoked for almost 10 years and I am finding it really hard to kick the habit.

I successfully cut down to begin with, but now that I have found out I have precious cargo on board, the pressure is on.. I am NOT buying any more packets, but my family and my partner smoke so its really hard to escape them if I am not alone.

I am proud of myself for cutting out most of the smokes, but still cant help but feel the urge.. I feel so terrible!!!!



Is there anyone else out there who is in the same position, or maybe can offer some advice on therapy or things to try? I am literally willing to do anything!!! Cold turkey just doesn't seem to be an option for me anymore

I stopped smoking last pregnancy and ended up miscarrying so I am carrying on smoking with this one x

Sorry, how does that make sense? Why would you not try and cut down or quit this time just because you miscarried last time?

Because it was a cause of my miscarriage.

How? Most doctors agree that stress doesn't cause miscarriages. Most early miscarriages are caused by fetal abnormalities.
It's the fact you obviously can quit because you did last time but won't that is strange to me. Smoking can cause a wide range of problems in pregnancy including miscarriage so that's one for your argument.

Are you calling my midwife a liar lol? I quit as soon as I found out which caused my mc 5 weeks later. Was nothing to do with stress on myself IT was to do with dependancy as he was used to the nicotine intake.

My god people on this site are so rude. I think I would rather believe a fully qualified midwife with statistics.

No, I'm not calling your midwife a liar at all.
A lot of people say that the stress is worse than smoking for their unborn child so they decide to continue to smoke. And I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage but smoking is really bad for your baby, like really bad.
I am not bashing anyone that smokes during pregnancy... Well I'm not bashing the ones that are making an effort to quit but why would you not even try and cut down? I find it very selfish if I'm being honest, it's not your child's fault that you smoke so they shouldn't have to suffer with the consequences of that.

I have a lot of respect for women that cut down or quit even if women go from smoking ten a day to six, that's amazing but not even bothering is ridiculously selfish.

And who ever said stopping smoking caused your miscarriage and that was the only reason is probably bull.

 

[MissMara]

I've gone from smoking roughly 15-20 a day to 1-3 a day ) I'm very proud but aiming to do better..!!

Belle these people are being far from rude sweet, they are just voicing their opinion. You do whatever you like through your pregnancy, but they are right.. Even if you've never smoked a miscarriage can happen.. They happen and no body can tell you exactly why..

My doctor told me both, stress won't harm my baby, but continuing to smoke will..

In the end its your own choice

 

[BabyJayne]

I managed to quit when I found out I was pregnant first time round. I had smoked for a long time, not particularly heavy but pretty regularly. I found what helped me was to say that I was not quitting, but that my smoking was on hold until my baby born. It just felt like there was less pressure on me, and I found it surprisingly easy in the end. I said to myself that if I wanted to have a cigarette once baby was here then I would allow myself to, and that got me through the 9 months.

As it happened I didn't smoke for months after DD was born - but one night out led to buying cigarettes, and then over the next two years I found I was having a couple of cigarettes each weekend, and would smoke a whole packet if I was on a night out. But in September 2013, I switched to e-cigs for the weekends I was smoking, and by Xmas I wasn't using anything. I've not had an actual cigarette for 16 months. It can be done - keep it up!

 

[tryn4]

@ belle. I'm not jumping on your case hun, cuz I'm a non smoker so I can't judge how hard it must be to quit but you have been seriously misinformed. Your midwife should have her license revoked. You may choose to not believe us over her but I have NEVER in my life heard of quitting smoking causing a mc. Furthermore choosing to continue to smoke after you know your pregnant (because beforehand early out your not sharing blood etc with baby) is putting your baby at risk for a million problems. That being said I'm not going to wish that on you and I'm sure things could be fine but the risks are massive. Did you know that in later stages every time you take a pull off your cig your baby holds its breath? And lungs are the last to develop on a child so by smoking throughout your just not giving your little one a fair chance. Hope you reconsider your decision hun. Best of luck!

And way to go anyone who quit/cut down. I think that's awesome and what a great reason to quit!

 

[AP]

I started using an E-cig and within a few weeks I was able to kick the habit. 13 months smoke free now Keep reminding yourself of your little one. Chew gum! You can do it!

I did the same (although i wasnt pregnant) it only took 3 weeks of an ecig and i just decided not to bother anymore. it was incredibly easy - much easier than the previous times I tried to quit.

Good luck OP!

Also, in my case, I had a 27 weeker in my first pregnancy. I had stopped smoking, but i think I smoked about 2 cigs in the week leading up to her birth, it was a life changing week and she was unexpected. To see her on the vent in intensive care made me think how god awful the situation could have been had I smoked my usual packs pre-pregnancy.

 

[BabyJayne]

Belle - just really inform yourself of all the facts. Giving up smoking just would never cause a mc, while continuing to smoke increases the risk of miscarriage. It really is that black and white. It's your pregnancy and you do as you wish - but at least do it fully informed of the risks. Good luck.

 

[Aniri83]

Hi girls,

I quit smoking with "Easy way to quit smoking" by Allen Carr, he has books and a dvd(you can find it on youtube).

It really really helps, haven't suffered at all.. he just explains everything in such a good way so you really don't want to smoke anymore and he's not talking about the facts that we all know like money and health.

Give it a try!

 

[AP]

My god people on this site are so rude. I think I would rather believe a fully qualified midwife with statistics.

No-one is being rude, I know it's not what you want to hear, but they are actually trying to help you - you've been given some awful advice from a professional.Not only does it increase the risk of miscarriage but also premature birth and their odds of survival, and SIDS. It actually affects the babies growth, development and brain.
I think you need to see another midwife, she seems very uneducated and it sounds like she was giving you her personal opinion.

 

[maryanne1987]

Sorry to jump in here but I have to agree with others saying miscarriges don't happen through stopping smoking. I've seen a million doctors, midwives and fertility specialists over the 7 years we have been ttc and not one has said stress can cause miscarrige and that there is no real evidence to support the claim. When I fell pregnant with my son 9 years ago I was a smoker. I quit the minute the test turned positive, cold turkey and I was on 20+ a day. He was born happy and healthy. Even though for the first few weeks I was incredibly stressed due to nicotine withdrawal.
The way I look at it is if you sat there blowing smoke in a newborn babies face you would be called a bad mother, yet people think it's ok to smoke while their little bean is growing and developing inside them. Everything from that cig is going directly into them. I personally would never take that risk of harming my child. Part of being a parent is putting babies needs before your own. Well done to every one cutting down and trying to quit. It's bloody hard and you deserve a pat on the back!

 

[jbk]

Congrats on wanting to cut back/quit!! When I pregnant with my son I found out at 5 weeks. The moment I found out I smoked my last cigarette and quit cold turkey. Before I found out I had also a at least one or two nights of drinking. I felt regret my whole pregnancy. That feeling alone was enough for me to not want to do it at all. Happy to report my 5 year old is happy and healthy!

 

[MamaWorld]

I'm 17 weeks and still trying to quit. I smoke 3-5 cigarettes a day. I feel so guilty every time I have one. I have my anatomy scan Monday and I'm terrified that I will find out something is wrong from me smoking. I don't understand why I'm having such a hard time quitting. I quit smoking within a week of getting bfp with my first 2 pregnancies but foolishly started back up shortly after having them.

 

[Tristansmom]

I'm sure your partner/fam will be understanding about not smoking around you/in the house! Keep it up, you're doing so great.

I cut down throughout my pregnancy but wasn't able to completely kick it till my son was born, and I regret it every day. He has asthma and I can't help wondering (even though it runs in my family) if he'd have it still, if I'd managed to quit when I should have.

Some things that helped me quit - ice cold orange juice through a straw whenever I would usually have a smoke (first thing in the morning, breaks at work, etc.) It's cheaper than smoking and better for you too! Lol and using a straw helped the psychological part.

Also I did use the patch for a week or so, just when it was really really bad, but I wanted the nicotine out of my system completely ASAP as he was nursing.

Best of luck!

 

[MamaLoCo]

BELLE -
There are far more proven statistics that smoking during pregnancy can cause miscarriage and stillbirth than there are to suggest the same for someone who QUIT smoking.
I don't know if I'd call your midwife a liar but I definitely wouldn't see the same one. Did she provide test results proving that your fetus was "dependent" on nicotine?

For all you know, she could have said that to guilt/encourage you to stop smoking all together. If I had done that, I would assume they would quit smoking before their next baby, not decide it would be healthier to CONTINUE smoking.
I mean seriously...are you going to smoke in front of him/her after (s)he's born? Why not just give your baby cancer right after birth instead and watch him/her die more slowly and painfully...it's better than them having to care for you when it ultimately
kills you, right?

It just sounds to me like you're taking what she said and turning it however it suits your own needs best.

I don't even remember when I quit smoking. I started using an e-cig, loved the vanilla cupcake flavor and then I thin I had a flavor that I didn't like all that much, got sick of it, and just stopped using it. It was really as simple as that.
My husband is still having trouble kicking the cancer-sticks so I understand it's not as easy for everyone. You can be damn sure he's not coming anywhere near our baby if I can smell cigarettes on him though.

 

[maryanne1987]

I'm 17 weeks and still trying to quit. I smoke 3-5 cigarettes a day. I feel so guilty every time I have one. I have my anatomy scan Monday and I'm terrified that I will find out something is wrong from me smoking. I don't understand why I'm having such a hard time quitting. I quit smoking within a week of getting bfp with my first 2 pregnancies but foolishly started back up shortly after having them.

It's hard Hun, very hard. But your doing great. Just keep doing what your doing and I'm sure you will be smoke free before long!

 

[mel28nicole]

BELLE -
There are far more proven statistics that smoking during pregnancy can cause miscarriage and stillbirth than there are to suggest the same for someone who QUIT smoking.
I don't know if I'd call your midwife a liar but I definitely wouldn't see the same one. Did she provide test results proving that your fetus was "dependent" on nicotine?

For all you know, she could have said that to guilt/encourage you to stop smoking all together. If I had done that, I would assume they would quit smoking before their next baby, not decide it would be healthier to CONTINUE smoking.
I mean seriously...are you going to smoke in front of him/her after (s)he's born? Why not just give your baby cancer right after birth instead and watch him/her die more slowly and painfully...it's better than them having to care for you when it ultimately
kills you, right?

It just sounds to me like you're taking what she said and turning it however it suits your own needs best.

I don't even remember when I quit smoking. I started using an e-cig, loved the vanilla cupcake flavor and then I thin I had a flavor that I didn't like all that much, got sick of it, and just stopped using it. It was really as simple as that.
My husband is still having trouble kicking the cancer-sticks so I understand it's not as easy for everyone. You can be damn sure he's not coming anywhere near our baby if I can smell cigarettes on him though.

Ouch, a bit harsh don't you think? You act like she's doing herion. Most of us have expressed that smoking can be harmful, you didn't really need to go THAT far

 

[ZombieQueen]

I went through it with my first. Took me about 2 weeks after finding out to kick the habit. I had a hard time at work not bumming them.. But I just focused on other things.. I wish you luck! I know how hard it is. Oh! I also started smoking halves, then quarters to cut back. Instead of a whole one, just a couple puffs then put it out and save it for later. That way you're slowly smoking less and less

 

[MamaLoCo]

BELLE -
There are far more proven statistics that smoking during pregnancy can cause miscarriage and stillbirth than there are to suggest the same for someone who QUIT smoking.
I don't know if I'd call your midwife a liar but I definitely wouldn't see the same one. Did she provide test results proving that your fetus was "dependent" on nicotine?

For all you know, she could have said that to guilt/encourage you to stop smoking all together. If I had done that, I would assume they would quit smoking before their next baby, not decide it would be healthier to CONTINUE smoking.
I mean seriously...are you going to smoke in front of him/her after (s)he's born? Why not just give your baby cancer right after birth instead and watch him/her die more slowly and painfully...it's better than them having to care for you when it ultimately
kills you, right?

It just sounds to me like you're taking what she said and turning it however it suits your own needs best.

I don't even remember when I quit smoking. I started using an e-cig, loved the vanilla cupcake flavor and then I thin I had a flavor that I didn't like all that much, got sick of it, and just stopped using it. It was really as simple as that.
My husband is still having trouble kicking the cancer-sticks so I understand it's not as easy for everyone. You can be damn sure he's not coming anywhere near our baby if I can smell cigarettes on him though.

Ouch, a bit harsh don't you think? You act like she's doing herion. Most of us have expressed that smoking can be harmful, you didn't really need to go THAT far

Yeah, it is a bit harsh. I'm not acting like she's doing heroin, I'm trying to get through to her. If she were acting that way towards heroin, someone would have contacted the authorities by now. She knows smoking can be harmful. Everyone knows smoking can be harmful. Obviously knowing that isn't enough. Maybe a little bit of reality of things that ACTUALLY happen need to be brought up. That includes the fact that it's a lot more difficult to parent when you're stuck in chemotherapy. Nobody else here who is trying to quit smoking is THAT disillusioned so I would never say this to them. They are at least acknowledging how harmful it can be and trying to cut down or quit whereas Belle is just so nonchalantly saying it's safer for her to smoke and load her child up with nicotine and chemicals than to even try to cut down. The chances of her having a miscarriage are a lot harder if she continues than if she quits and she knows that deep down so maybe a little reality check is what it takes to get through to someone like that. What good does it do to tell someone something they already know and move on. What's the point? If you really wnt to help someone, you can't just do the bare minimum which has proven to not be effective already. It's just absurd.

 

[Belle20]

Slightly deluded there "mama coco"

You are fully aware you can be diagnosed with cancer of you don't smoke - so what about if your child has cancer?

I think to say something like that is quite disgusting and to be quite frank, if you can come out with things like that I doubt your parenting skills.

Children can be born with numerous health problems - even if the mother doesn't smoke, such as asthma.

And children born from parents that do smoke could be perfectly healthy.

I would also like to add my child is perfectly healthy with a gorgeous heartbeat flickering away on screen. However you appear to be quite cold hearted so wouldn't surprise me if you would prefer I miscarried.

I smoke 5 cigarettes a day, which isn't much compared to some - I think you have an idea I'm a chain smoker or a chimney.

My midwife is perfectly happy with me smoking 5 a day. As it's not many compared to some.

I quit for a year and don't intend to quit again and certainly wouldn't use an e-cigarette pregnant.

us as humans are not robots. Entitled to our own opinions. And trying to "get through" to someone by referring to them giving their rainbow child "cancer when born" is damn right disgusting and you should not be on this site.