Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

[Lumboo]

Thanks Stardust!

How long did you all wait before TTC again? In December I just waited for one AF and then did SMEP which worked straight away.

Just waiting for my mc to start now at 5 weeks, (scan on Friday showed no sac) but think I will wait at least 3 cycles before trying again. If we do I will use SMEP again as I normally have regular cycles and it worked first time for us in January.

I was ok about it all, but now my Gynae hospital want me to go in for another blood test. Whilst on one hand it is really nice they are being thorough, (they think I may still be pregnant) on the other I feel like it is prolonging my pain and acceptance of the sad fact we have lost our baby.

I chose not to go for another scan today even though my DH wanted me to. What is the point? As long as the pregnancy is not ectopic (which dropping levels should prove when I have my bloods taken tommorow) then I don't see why I should have an internal scan with an empty uterus. HCG is still 508 so I think I will have a long wait for a complete mc.

Do you think I am being silly or can you understand what I mean?

 

[Lamburai1703]

I think you've been very sensible opting not to have another scan today and I totally understand. I hope you manage to recover well from this one and take all the time that you need. You'll get there next time honey - we all will hopefully.

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Hi Ladies,

It looks like I may be experiencing my second miscarriage. I've had 3 scans so far and it's not looking good. I will have my final one on Friday and then a D&C on Saturday. I know I don't have to tell you guys how frustrating, sad, and infuriating this is at the same time. My question is...have any of you had multiple D&Cs with your losses and gone on to have a healthy baby? I am very concerned about getting my third D&C (had 2 for the first mc due to retained product) and getting cervical incompetency, scaring, ect. I voiced my concerns to my doc and he said, "Yes, that is a valid concern." Ugh. I needed some reassuring and I thought maybe if any of you have had multiple D&Cs I could relate. Thanks for reading!

 

[hopefulmama2b]

BTW, rabbitchild, I love your title under your name. That's really how it feels sometimes!

 

[Rabbittchild]

Thanks hopeful, I feel like that most of the time. Sorry for your losses, am shocked at your Dr you'd have thought they would be alot more supportive wouldn't you? I hope the scans go as well as they can

 

[petitpas]

Hopefulmama,
I had 4 ERPCs last year (3 for the first, 1 for my second loss). But so far I haven't had a successful pregnancy (I'm freaking about possibly losing my fourth today).
Luckily, my third loss was a natural one and I was surprised at how well my body coped. At six weeks it was quite early, though.

How far along are you? Is there any chance you could try a natural or a medically managed m/c to avoid further surgery?

 

[hopefulmama2b]

I will be 9 weeks Saturday when I'm supposed to have the surgery. Since I had retained product last time and it took almost 11 weeks after my second D&C for my hcg to fall below 5 I just fear that I could be waiting another month for my body to figure out that something is wrong and even then it won't get it all out and I'll just have to get a D&C anyway. (D&Es really) I'm not spotting or anything. It's a lose, lose situation I guess.

You had to have 3 with your first?! I can't imagine. 2 was traumatizing enough. Are you having complications with this one or just nervous? I hope just nervous!

 

[petitpas]

Yup, I had continued retained tissue with the first. I had an ERPC, followed by a second, followed by ab**tion pills, followed by a third ERPC. All over three months. It was horrible because out of the blue my body would just start gushing blood and I would pass large clots. It was really difficult planning my summer life around it and trying to move on from the grief
The second loss I had a straight-forward ERPC and everything was fine within a week or two.
The third loss as I said was early, but I am so amazed that my body did such a good job. It was quick and painless. I started bleeding on the Thursday but still had a heartbeat. Friday I passed some tissue and again on Sunday. On the Monday I had another scan and my uterus was empty. Truly 'beautiful' as the sonographer said.

Maybe you could discuss a natural option with your doctor and take it step by step? For instance, give it a week to see if your body starts by itself, review with doc, then another week? That way, if you feel at any point that you won't make it by yourself you can get medication or still have your D&C? This is how I tackled things at the end of my epic first loss journey and I found it comforting to have regular reviews. In the end nothing was budging and I had long-haul travel plans so I gave up
Unfortunately, my second loss happened during my travels so that's why I opted for an immediate ERPC at the time (no point waiting on my own in a hotel room for an m/c and no chance I was getting on an 8-hour flight with that hanging over me!).

In any case, I can assure you that just because things were complicated the first time by no means are you guaranteed the same problems again. So if you are worried about another operation and adhesions (which does worry me, too), then there are other options. I hope everything goes as smoothly as possible for you, I really do

AFM, I'm 5+3 today with number four. I've had a bit of a scare this evening as I started having really bad one-sided lower back pain and then I discovered some blood in my cm I don't know what's going on yet, but needless to say I'm more than a little worried right now. It's not easy this multiple loss malarkey!

 

[hopefulmama2b]

It is really great to hear after such a tough first one that it doesn't necessarily doom the quickness of subsequent mcs. I have been worried about that, but just can't imagine it being that bad again! (ya, right!)

Thanks for the positive thoughts for me! I pray that it goes smoothly and we get some answers. The doc said that he will send the tissue to be tested for genetic abnormalities. I also have a suspected uterine septum so I'm wondering if that has anything to do with this luck I'm having. Just like the rest of you, praying for some answers and a healthy babe eventually!

Hopefully the blood turns out to be nothing of any significance and this one is a keeper!!

Have you had any tests done in the past that gave you any insight to why this is happening?

 

[Rabbittchild]

Petitpas - I hope all is well with you, I really do will be thinking of you x

to all

 

[petitpas]

Thanks, rabbitchild. I'm having a scan tomorrow morning and should know more then.

 

[Rabbittchild]

good luck at the scan

 

[stardust22]

Thinking of you petitpas. Hope u and bubs are all ok! X

 

[petitpas]

Nope. All over. The epu was shite and I ended up making a complaint. Am just about to leave and head home now.

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Petitpas. I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this again. I was rooting for you/still am! Again, sorry for your loss.

Getting ready to go for my scan in about 30 minutes. We already know what to expect, at this point praying for some answers at the end of all of this I guess.

 

[petitpas]

Oh hopeful, I'm thinking of you xxx

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Man, it's still incredibly upsetting when you know it's coming. D&C tomorrow. Just hoping for some answers sometime to give some insight into what's going on.

 

[LeeC]

Awwwww Pepitas, I'm so sorry, thinking of you and Hopeful, good luck, we all really need as much good news as we can get on here, the success stories keep us multiples going...

I've been AWOL for a few weeks from the forum as I really needed a break after my ectopic and time to recover.

Today, I had a bad day, I know, it happens... so 3 weeks after my op to remove my right tube tube and pregnancy, I went to my gp, to ask for another prescription of progesterone, which I had to twist her arm to give me, as my usual gp is no longer with my practice, we'd previously talked about prednisolone too, but NO WAY will my new gp prescribe it.

I'm gutted, I was really hoping to give this a try along with the progesterone and aspirin on a can't do any harm basis.

No sign of AF yet either, and my new gp suggested waiting a few months to try again, as she said she was worried after 6 losses about my mental health, arghhhh!!!

I'm not palnning to try til my 2nd cycle but all this waiting is driving me crazy, I just want AF so I can start to chart again and then 2nd cycle to start the progesterone from OV, shame about the prednisolone, has anyone managed to get their gp to prescribe this, without attending a specialist clinic.

Hugs and sticky baby dust to all.

Also special hugs to my 6 angels, I'm really missing them all today

 

[LeeC]

Hopeful, just a quick reply from your earlier post, my dh's cousin lives over in AZ, she had 3 mc's and d&C with each, she carried full term and has a lovely ds and is also 7 months pregnant again now.
xxx

 

[Rabbittchild]

Petitpas - am so sorry huge which can't make it better but I really wish this hadn't happened.

Hopefuly - I hope the scan was ok and if you're having the d&c that it goes as well as these things can.

LeeC - I think everyone is worried about my mental health, but only you know if you could cope with another loss, I would just do what feels right.