Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

[Lamburai1703]

Hollybush I am so sorry my love. I don't blame you for not going back for repeat bloods - I'd be the same. Sometimes you just know. I'm just so sorry that you have to go through this again.

 

[Goodgirl35]

Hollybush I am so sad to hear that you are having to go thru with this yet again. I wish that these doctors would care more for women with recurrent miscarriages. I know this makes you want to give up, BUT DON'T. When you're least expecting, it's going to happen for you.

Be strong and go get the blood work done. Demand answers.I'll keep u in my prayers. God Bless you!!!

 

[cindersmcphee]

So sorry Hollybush

 

[daviess3]

Hollybush, so soz Hun hope ur family are supporting you! I got af today!! An it's hurting stomach cramps! Feel crap!! X

 

[gdsdreams]

Hello...I am new here. I lost my first in 2005 at 6 weeks (blighted ovum). I went on to have my son, and I found out last week that I had another blighted ovum (7 weeks, 3 days). I am...feeling so many things. Right now, my doctor has me on birth control to regulate my cycle, but I am planning on waiting two months and then trying again. I have to say that I am strengthened by reading all of your stories. I did not think I could find the courage to try again, but after reading your words, I no longer feel alone.

 

[Goodgirl35]

Hello gdsdreams....

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Never loose the faith. I know it always make you feel empty after a loss but good encouragement always fills you back up. I pray that your next pregnancy is a success. Hugs

 

[Goodgirl35]

Hello Everyone!

I wanted to share something with you that I've read by Emily Barrett, Ph.d., a reproductive epidemiologist at the University of Rochester in New York. She recommends avoiding Phthalates used in perfumes, nail polishes and shampoos to preserve scent and color, these disrupt the endocrine system and can even interfere with the development of male fetuses and infants. Choose products labeled "phthalate-free or "DEHP-free.

I am glad to have came upon this and thought I'd share it with you ladies bc I'm so guilty for using perfumes, nail polishes and shampoos during my pregnancies.

 

[Chilli]

So sorry to hear your news Hollybush - you'll be in my thoughts.

Goodgirl - I read a LOT about all this sort of stuff and have been using only organic beauty products for about a year now - I figured it was an easy to change to make and might make a difference. Also avoid deoderants with aluminion in (almost all of them) - am yet to find a really good alternative but there are a few to try which do an ok job.

 

[Flowerbaby]

hollybush, so sorry to hear of your news, my thoughts are with you xxx

Well girls, progress at last, my recurrent m/c specialist has just phoned (after a week of trying to get in touch with him!)to say that he is agreeing to prescribe me with progesterone suppositries 2 x 200mg twice daily as soon as i get my BFP!!!! yaaayyyy! He said that as it is inconclusive as to whether it works or not so he has to prescribe it to me as GP is not allowed....so i have to be referred to him and will be put on progesterone within 48 hours.....there is a trial going on in the UK and Holland at the moment called The PROMISE, not sure if anybody has heard of it....its about PROgesteron in early MIScarraige and the website is www.medcinet.net/promise. Have a read of it its interesting, my specialist asked me if i wanted to take part but i said no as i just wanted to be put on progesterone without all the chewing around, also during the trial you are sent suppositries which are either real or duff and knowing my luck id end up with the duff ones, and if he is going to prescribe me them anyway then it seems pointless! Its not guaranteed to work for me but will certainly give it a go.......having 2 months off from TTC then back to it in August......

 

[LeeC]

Hi Ladies.

How is everyone. I thought I'd come back and update after being AWOL for a few days.
Things are not good here at the minute and tbh I had an absolute breakdown on Sunday, when I decided to drink myself into a stupor.
I went away for a couple of days as I thought this would take my mind off everything and stop me from thinking about the situation I am in, but it didn't really work and masking over things just made me wake with an aching feeling on Sunday, I could feel the emotional pain in my stomach if that makes sense.

Yesterday was bad, my gp called me early to see how the pregnancy was progressing with the prednisolone, so obviously I had to update her and she told me to come to surgery. When I got there I had to see a lovely male doctor, who more or less told me after this amount of losses and no children maybe I should give up and consider adoption!!!!!

I have been prescribed anti-depressants and please I do not want to hear comments about the harm this can do in future pregnancies, so I would respectfully ask that if anyone has any remarks or feelings regarding this, they keep them to themselves at this point.

After months of declining these despite my anxiety disorder brought on by this, I have accepted that I am not mentally strong enough to do this anymore without some help.

Rachel from Quenby's office called me this morning after hearing about events on Friday and we had a long chat about the prednisolone and my mental state at the moment.

She is concerned that if I start the prednisolone earlier in my cycle I could spend months on the steroids which isnt't good either.
So Quenby is going to call me Friday to see what kind of plan of action we can look at next.

I'm just feeling like I'm never going to get my happy ending and am going drive myself to the brink trying.

Does anyone have any experience of taking prednisolone earlier than BFP.

Anyway, I just needed to rant and hopefully soon I will be feeling much stronger and in a better place.

Hope all the BFP's are still doing well and my thoughts to everyone who has lost.
Thank you all for your support too, I don't know what I would do without ranting on here.
xxx

 

[lynnb]

Hi Ladies.

How is everyone. I thought I'd come back and update after being AWOL for a few days.
Things are not good here at the minute and tbh I had an absolute breakdown on Sunday, when I decided to drink myself into a stupor.
I went away for a couple of days as I thought this would take my mind off everything and stop me from thinking about the situation I am in, but it didn't really work and masking over things just made me wake with an aching feeling on Sunday, I could feel the emotional pain in my stomach if that makes sense.

Yesterday was bad, my gp called me early to see how the pregnancy was progressing with the prednisolone, so obviously I had to update her and she told me to come to surgery. When I got there I had to see a lovely male doctor, who more or less told me after this amount of losses and no children maybe I should give up and consider adoption!!!!!

I have been prescribed anti-depressants and please I do not want to hear comments about the harm this can do in future pregnancies, so I would respectfully ask that if anyone has any remarks or feelings regarding this, they keep them to themselves at this point.

After months of declining these despite my anxiety disorder brought on by this, I have accepted that I am not mentally strong enough to do this anymore without some help.

Rachel from Quenby's office called me this morning after hearing about events on Friday and we had a long chat about the prednisolone and my mental state at the moment.

She is concerned that if I start the prednisolone earlier in my cycle I could spend months on the steroids which isnt't good either.
So Quenby is going to call me Friday to see what kind of plan of action we can look at next.

I'm just feeling like I'm never going to get my happy ending and am going drive myself to the brink trying.

Does anyone have any experience of taking prednisolone earlier than BFP.

Anyway, I just needed to rant and hopefully soon I will be feeling much stronger and in a better place.

Hope all the BFP's are still doing well and my thoughts to everyone who has lost.
Thank you all for your support too, I don't know what I would do without ranting on here.
xxx

My heart goes out to you LeeC, can't imagine how you must be feeling. As for anti-drepressants & pregnancy, there are ones which you can take while pregnant, so maybe in the future when you're strong enough you can talk to you Dr about those. I'm so glad your getting help, this is such a stress situation to be in time & time again & not made any easier by unthoughtful Drs.

Sending you lots of love &

Take care of yourself hun

 

[LeeC]

Thanks Lynn.

Both my gp and Quenby's office said I would be ok with these anti d's and I don't plan to stay on them for long but I have to think of my own well being here too.
I need to keep going and this is something I will discuss with my counsellor and Quenby, everything is still very raw right now, but everyone is saying I need an exit strategy from this and I can't even contemplate this right now.

I will be ttc straight away and hopefully the medication will have me feeling much stronger and more mentally prepared.
I will increase my exercise and def NO more alcohol for me, it is evil.

x

 

[Lamburai1703]

Lee your mental health has to be a priority as if you're not feeling mentally strong enough then you simply can't embark on this journey again. You have my full support with your decision and I hope the next few weeks bring you some comfort. For what it's worth, I think you have been remarkably strong over recent weeks/months and you are a credit to women going through situations as heart-breaking as this.

Final thought - Have you considered acupuncture or reflexology? They are both very good for TTC and also have a very relaxing and calming effect. I have tried both and found them very useful. If you can find an acupuncturist who does Tradional Chinese Medicine too then maybe give it a go. I have heard wonderful things about it.

 

[LeeC]

Hi Lambs

Thank you for your kind words. I have tried accupuncture in the past but never when pregnant so definitly worth considering for me I think.
Hell, I don't have any options left now, so I'lll try anything lol...

How are you doing. I am hoping things are going well for you and little bean, and will be keeping fx'd for you xxx

 

[Lamburai1703]

Basically, do whatever makes you feel better my lovely. Have you got a "plan"? I know I have a "if we've not had a baby by the time I am xx" plan and it makes me feel better to know there is a cut off date. I know it is a bit negative on the one hand, but on the other hand I find it helpful. I always like to have a plan.

Big virtual hugs and positive thoughts coming right at you. xx

 

[LeeC]

Yeah, this is one of the things I discussed with Quenby and she sort of told me I need a cut off point so she has put it in my letter to my gp and counsellor, the plan is I will stop if I lose my remaining tube or when I hit 40 (so 2 years).
It's a scary thought though eh

 

[cindersmcphee]

LeeC just wanted to send you a big hug.

 

[9babiesgone]

so sorry leec!!! : (

 

[ruby1]

LeeC big hugs xxx I went through some horrendous days of panic attacks and dark thoughts so I know you are right getting the anti-d's to support you.

Went for a scan today - a follow up to make sure all the 'products of conception were expelled' - nice. Dr. was ranting at me for not bringing in all the bits of pregnancy sac and clots I had passed, and was cross when I told him I had buried them. Prick.
Was advising me to try again straight away. I said its not that easy. So he started giving me sex advice. Hey I know how to get pregnant you fool or I wouldnt be here. I said I meant it was hard emotionally to try again. He said no its not. You just keep going. Its very common, you cant let it get you down. Many women have sometimes 4 m/c and go on to have lots of healthy children. Yay for them I thought, not too helpful as I am sitting here bleeding. Its a mans world.
Rant over

Good news is they agreed to check my bloods to see do I need aspirin 75... I asked the nurse would it be tested within the hour - get me with all the knowledge knicked off you girls hehe - and no, it is spun, frozen and shipped off 100 miles to the big hospital for testing. Nurse says not many results show anything. Eh, you dont say - by the time they get around to testing it, its probably a solid anyway.

 

[daviess3]

Leec big hugs to you... I don't have any experience with any meds yet apart from aspirin an progesterone so I'm not very helpful to u! Sorry but I just wanted to give u a virtual hug! It's such a rollercoaster ride ttc an do what you need to Hun, let's face it there's no bloody manual an if there is none of us r in it! Xx