Shit shit shit. [update pg 20]

[rjb]

They don't let me go out even just with friends because they know I'll try to see him.
Plus none of my friends can drive so even if I were going to go against them I couldn't.
But to be honest other than when I snuck in my FOB I've never gone against them.

 

[fantastica]

Are there busses where you are?
They really can't just keep you and your LO housebound, and isolate you from everyone (not even just FOB). I really hope your chat goes well with them, or otherwise would seriously suggest getting legal help, your lives are going to be awful hun...it's different if you're still just 'you' but as a mum this will end up driving you mad, they'll try and influence everything you do with your daughter, it must be so hard for you xx

 

[aafscsweetie]

This is obviously a really tough situation because of your age I so wish you were just 18 so you could tell them to fuck off and you could do what you want to do. There has to be something that can be done. I really hope you can talk to your parents and just reach some kind of middle ground, like maybe supervised visits (by them) where your FOB comes over and can see Hudson.

 

[rjb]

This is obviously a really tough situation because of your age I so wish you were just 18 so you could tell them to fuck off and you could do what you want to do. There has to be something that can be done. I really hope you can talk to your parents and just reach some kind of middle ground, like maybe supervised visits (by them) where your FOB comes over and can see Hudson.

I would be perfectly happy with that.
But my parents are sort of extremists, so it seems unlikely that they'd allow it.
But maybe. That would actually be fantastic..

 

[rjb]

No, no busses either

 

[aafscsweetie]

Well, legally, FOB has a right to see his baby (unsupervised!), so maybe you could tell your parents that if they don't let even the supervised visits occur, then he could get a judge to legally force your parents to allow him to see the baby (which isn't a bad idea- if you get the chance to talk to him ever again anytime soon, I would suggest that). Do FOB's parents know that he has a daughter? What do they think about the situation?

 

[rjb]

I might tell him that. I wanted to avoid that, but it may have to happen.
His mom knows, but to be honest idk how she feels. She kinda stays outta his life
(talk about opposite ends of the spectrum)

 

[fantastica]

^^ That could be an option, get FOB to go in for access etc., they can't stop it...especially if when it comes to court (or however it works over there) you say you're happy for him to have it too xx

 

[Gwizz]

Thats a good idea

xxxx

 

[aafscsweetie]

yeah, getting FOB to pursue legal action is really the only way this will ever get better, I think. I'm sure he's not on the birth certificate since your parents didn't want him to know, but a simple DNA test would prove it, and the DNA test would be court ordered, so it would be illegal for your parents not to allow it to happen! i really hope it all gets sorted out becca... I can't even imagine

 

[rjb]

I doubt my parents will ever forgive me for this :/
I just hope they don't make life hell for me because of it.

 

[aafscsweetie]

Just prove them wrong in life, hun. I know they think that you having a baby at 15 ruined your life, but when you look at adelaide's beautiful face, what is there to really be sorry for? She is beautiful, regardless of how old you were when you had her. She is innocent and should not be punished for what your parent's think was a mistake on your part. Like I said, just prove them wrong. Continue to do well in school and go on to college and graduate. Give adelaide the best life you can You are a great mommy and your age has nothing to do with that. xxx

 

[jenniferannex]

oh hun what an awful situation. you definatly need to get some control back like the girls have said, yes your young at 15, but your a mother now. your parents are being really unreasonable about the FOB, how can they stop him from seeing his child its just wrong.
i really hope you can sort things out hun and you arnt a rubbish mother, you sound like your doing whats best for Adelaide, your a brilliant mum. xx

 

[x__amour]

Do what makes you happy, Rebecca. Do what is best for you and your little girl and everything will work out in the end!

 

[AriannasMama]

Do whats right for you and your little girl now. If what that is doesn't make your parents happy then screw them. No one is perfect and you shouldn't have to try this hard to make them happy. If FOB is stable and a good guy now then he should be able to see his daughter, I can't believe your parents don't want their granddaughter to have a father.

 

[annawrigley]

Okay, I'm confused. You said in another post that your parents decided what to call your daughter, and now you're saying she'd take your daughter away for talking to your daughters father. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

This may be harsh. But you need to grow up. YOUR MOTHER CANNOT LEGALLY TAKE YOUR DAUGHTER FROM YOU. If she even tries to withhold your daughter from you, you can call the police. Quit letting her have that much control over you and YOUR child. Its seriously sickening. You can talk to the father if you want. Even if he used to be a douchebag. He IS the father. Seriously!

I hope you really take advice.

We've given you all the advice we can, but we can't physically make decisions for you. If you want your daughter to be around your father, that is up to you. No matter what you are thinking. What is physically stopping you from calling your FOB and telling him to have someone come pick you up? Nothing. Its all because your parents "won't allow it".


Well... as a parent yourself. Do not Allow your daughter to grow up without her father.

Why are you so rude? A little tact wouldnt go amiss especially as the OP is obviously very frightened and in a horrible situation.

 

[jenniferannex]

Okay, I'm confused. You said in another post that your parents decided what to call your daughter, and now you're saying she'd take your daughter away for talking to your daughters father. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

This may be harsh. But you need to grow up. YOUR MOTHER CANNOT LEGALLY TAKE YOUR DAUGHTER FROM YOU. If she even tries to withhold your daughter from you, you can call the police. Quit letting her have that much control over you and YOUR child. Its seriously sickening. You can talk to the father if you want. Even if he used to be a douchebag. He IS the father. Seriously!

I hope you really take advice.

We've given you all the advice we can, but we can't physically make decisions for you. If you want your daughter to be around your father, that is up to you. No matter what you are thinking. What is physically stopping you from calling your FOB and telling him to have someone come pick you up? Nothing. Its all because your parents "won't allow it".

Well... as a parent yourself. Do not Allow your daughter to grow up without her father.

Why are you so rude? A little tact wouldnt go amiss especially as the OP is obviously very frightened and in a horrible situation.

Wss ^ the thing is no one knows what we would do in that situation. It's easy to say do this do that, but when your the one that's in it, it's not that easy.
Like Anna said she's scared and needs support. At the end of the day they are her parents, she loves them. Like we all do. If she just shouts all the odds she could end up having no home etc, she doesbt want to fall out with them abd the problem is shes trying to keep everyone happy, think you need to see what she's going through with abit of sensitivity.

 

[annawrigley]

Hun my heart really goes out to you, what an awful situation to be in. I had a quick google on the laws in Georgia and whether your parents would actually be able to take your daughter from you, but I didn't find much. I hope its not true though? It sounds very unrealistic to me but then again, I don't know what the law is like there. Is there anywhere you can get free legal advice? I really do feel for you, I don't know what to suggest. I'm scared for you tbh, and I'm sorry to say this because I know you love them but your parents sound like horrible people (or your mother at least, since you said it's mainly her). They are treating you like a 6 year old, yes you are young but you are not a baby. And you are a MOTHER! They cant order you around your whole life. I hate that they are doing this to you, its so unfair, and its clear how unhappy all of this is making you. I just wanna help you out of there! Its a really unhealthy atmosphere for you and your daughter to be in They cant control your every move!! Its ridiculous. I dont know if you realise but your parents are actually emotionally abusing you by bullying you and threatening you with taking your daughter away.

The only thing I can relate it to, and I know my situation is totally different so please don't think I'm trying to say I know what you're going through, is when Noah was first born and I came home from the hospital and went to my mum's house. FOB came to visit which she wasn't happy with, so I went to my flat where my dad was (he owned it), he also wasnt happy that FOB was there so i ended up going to FOB's house for a few days and fell out with both my parents. It was awful, even though I think they were in the wrong disapproving of FOB seeing his newborn child, I hated upsetting them. It only lasted a few days but it was terrible so i cant imagine you going through it on a day to day basis.

I dont know what else to say, I hope you can find a way out because its really not healthy you staying there xxx

 

[17thy]

Okay, I'm confused. You said in another post that your parents decided what to call your daughter, and now you're saying she'd take your daughter away for talking to your daughters father. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

This may be harsh. But you need to grow up. YOUR MOTHER CANNOT LEGALLY TAKE YOUR DAUGHTER FROM YOU. If she even tries to withhold your daughter from you, you can call the police. Quit letting her have that much control over you and YOUR child. Its seriously sickening. You can talk to the father if you want. Even if he used to be a douchebag. He IS the father. Seriously!

I hope you really take advice.

We've given you all the advice we can, but we can't physically make decisions for you. If you want your daughter to be around your father, that is up to you. No matter what you are thinking. What is physically stopping you from calling your FOB and telling him to have someone come pick you up? Nothing. Its all because your parents "won't allow it".


Well... as a parent yourself. Do not Allow your daughter to grow up without her father.

Why are you so rude? A little tact wouldnt go amiss especially as the OP is obviously very frightened and in a horrible situation.

Like I said, what I said was going to be harsh, but I'm not going to sugar coat it. She needs to do what she needs to do. And if I was in this situation (which I wouldn't be in the first place because my personality isn't as meek as hers and there is nothing wrong with being meek) but I would tell my mother to straight up f*ck off if she thought she was going to stop me from letting MY daughter see her father. I would walk RIGHT out that door and wave goodbye. If her mother is showing that much disrespect to her, then why should she show any respect to her mother?

I too have been in a similar situation. But with my dad instead of my mom. My dad never let me go anywhere, do anything. I NEVER went against my father, I always did what he asked, stayed with him, etc... When I got pregnant, I left him a note while he was at work, packed my bags and LEFT with my boyfriend. LEFT. He called the cops on us (because my boyfriend was already an adult and I was still a minor) and we broke out some money and got married a week later.

And you know what? My father was SO mad. He cussed me out the night before my wedding. But he GOT OVER IT. And I'm sure your parents would too rjb.


So anna, please don't act like I have no idea what I'm talking about.

 

[jenniferannex]

Okay, I'm confused. You said in another post that your parents decided what to call your daughter, and now you're saying she'd take your daughter away for talking to your daughters father. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

This may be harsh. But you need to grow up. YOUR MOTHER CANNOT LEGALLY TAKE YOUR DAUGHTER FROM YOU. If she even tries to withhold your daughter from you, you can call the police. Quit letting her have that much control over you and YOUR child. Its seriously sickening. You can talk to the father if you want. Even if he used to be a douchebag. He IS the father. Seriously!

I hope you really take advice.

We've given you all the advice we can, but we can't physically make decisions for you. If you want your daughter to be around your father, that is up to you. No matter what you are thinking. What is physically stopping you from calling your FOB and telling him to have someone come pick you up? Nothing. Its all because your parents "won't allow it".


Well... as a parent yourself. Do not Allow your daughter to grow up without her father.

Why are you so rude? A little tact wouldnt go amiss especially as the OP is obviously very frightened and in a horrible situation.

Like I said, what I said was going to be harsh, but I'm not going to sugar coat it. She needs to do what she needs to do. And if I was in this situation (which I wouldn't be in the first place because my personality isn't as meek as hers and there is nothing wrong with being meek) but I would tell my mother to straight up f*ck off if she thought she was going to stop me from letting MY daughter see her father. I would walk RIGHT out that door and wave goodbye. If her mother is showing that much disrespect to her, then why should she show any respect to her mother?

I too have been in a similar situation. But with my dad instead of my mom. My dad never let me go anywhere, do anything. I NEVER went against my father, I always did what he asked, stayed with him, etc... When I got pregnant, I left him a note while he was at work, packed my bags and LEFT with my boyfriend. LEFT. He called the cops on us (because my boyfriend was already an adult and I was still a minor) and we broke out some money and got married a week later.

And you know what? My father was SO mad. He cussed me out the night before my wedding. But he GOT OVER IT. And I'm sure your parents would too rjb.


So anna, please don't act like I have no idea what I'm talking about.

she is 15, she lives with her parents, she has no money, no job, no where to go if shes kicked out, where would you expect her to go with a baby and maybe she has abit of respect for her mum? telling her mother to f**k off is the completely wrong way of doing it. she doesn't want to fall out with them.

That is not the way to resolve this, im sure you wouldn't like your child to tell you to f**k off, that was just useless advice to give, and completely the wrong way for becca to do this. yeh she wants FOB to see hudson, but she obviously wants hudson to see her granma and grandad, whats the point of gaining FOB just to lose grandparents