Spring Blossoms 2013 - 10 born; 5 pink and 5 blue rainbows!!

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  1. baileybubs

    baileybubs Well-Known Member

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    I think at 7 weeks I'd wait a bit longer, just in case. But I'm hoping and praying you won't have to worry about that coz you will see that gorgeous little gummy bear with a lovely strong heartbeat!! Can't believe you will be 7 weeks already, well I guess I am too but it seems to fly by in a way and drag in other ways!!
    Glad that the symptoms are all sounding good too, although poop aversion must be quite hard if you have a dog! Can your oh not do it all?!
     
  2. ladykara

    ladykara Well-Known Member

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    Hey girls, please can i join you !! due april the 10th.

    I found out at my 12 week scan back in Jan this year that my baby had died at 9 weeks. D&C showed it was a partial mole and could not try again for 6 months while i got tested. We had one week left until i was allowed to try again (couldnt wait any longer) and we managed to catch it straight away.

    most women are worried about lack of sickness and low HCG levels, im now worried about the opposite due to another being a mole, i freaked out when my MS started much sooner than expected but HCG levels dont seem too high but until my 8 week scan i will not know for sure, but im hoping for the best but prepared for the worse.

    xx
     
  3. baileybubs

    baileybubs Well-Known Member

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    Welcome lady kara and congratulations!!

    I get your way if thinking, hoping for the best but preparing for the worst. I also had a mmc at 12 weeks, baby measured 11 weeks but they never did any testing to see as I was another tiny statistic and the medical induction didn't work on me straight away and I passed baby at home after I came out of hospital!! Can I ask what is meant by a partial molar? Does that mean the baby still develops etc but has too many chromosomes?
     
  4. ladykara

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    Im so sorry to hear you went through that, no one goes to their 12 weeks scan expecting to hear that ( I suppose most have this at the back of their mind) but its always someone else it happens to, not you. I lost a baby back in 2001 and I MC at home, they did say to me if you can get the fetus and bring it in they will test it. I was in such a state then I didn't know what was going on, just sat in the bath crying while my mum was there, she must have found got it out ( good old mum) of the bath and in a plastic box. As I was losing a lot of blood I was rushed into hospital ( xmas day too) my mum must have given it to them because 2 weeks later they called us in and said it was due to a extra chromosome.

    This last one I didn't have a clue anything was really wrong, I had the worst MS in my life, I had every symptom going apart from actually feeling pregnant. I told the women when I had my scan, I don't feel pregnant but my mornings sickness is out of control. As I had a D&C they could see straight away it was a partial mole and two weeks later they confirmed it, the sickness should have been a give away but it's so rare it was never mentioned to me or even suspected. My doctor says high sickness than normal normally means twins or a mole pregnancy as the tumour brings on high levels of hcg.

    A partial mole is when two sperm enter the egg, one turns into a baby but the other turns into a tumour, it killed the baby, a full mole is when one sperm enters and turns into a tumour , so no baby just all tumour. You then have to be tested for 6 months to make sure all the tumour cells have been removed, or you may end up having chemo. I was lucky my HCG levels came down and stayed down. But I now have to kept a eye on during and after my pregnancy to make sure it doesn't come back. The chances are low to get it again but it's higher than someone who has never had it. All I can do is sit and wait....I didn't want to tell anyone but there were people I had to, people I was going to TCC with and members of my family who if it went wrong again I would need their help.
    Have you told many people yet ? X
     
  5. baileybubs

    baileybubs Well-Known Member

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    Oh dear that must have been horrible for you! I'd heard of partial mole pregnancy but never quite knew what it was that's terrible! I'm glad you are all ok now and you are going to be watched closely!

    We have told my parents, his parents and all the brothers (neither of us have sisters), and I have told my boss and other seniors at work as I work in care and it's quite physical so there's some things I shouldn't be doing. I've also told my 2 close friends, one of them didn't seem very happy or supportive though. Not figured out why yet. I didnt want to tell too many people but I know it will get harder as I get very bloated during pregnancy and get a bloaty "bump" from really early on. Last time everyone was convinced it was twins because I looked so big early on!! I'm already feeling quite bloated now!!

    It must be hard not wanting the ms so much. I keep hoping I do have it. It's so strange isn't it?! I didn't get it last time and I know that it wasnt a sign of anything wrong because in the end my body didn't even recognise the baby had passed so I think my hormones and hcg levels were fine! It's just odd the way you think after having a mc isn't it?

    When will you have your first scan then?
     
  6. Pinkorblue11

    Pinkorblue11 Mom to 6 and an angel

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    Hi ladies, may I join in too?

    I lost my son Azriel at 20 weeks due to an incompetent cervix this past April. DH had secondary infertility and we used a donor to conceive him, it hurt so very much to lose him. DH and I agreed to wait three months and then set up donations again. We've had several perinatology consults and after speaking with them and doing our own research, we felt more confident about having a transabdominal cerclage placed and even found a surgeon to place it. We would have to pay out of pocket for the procedure because our insurance wouldnt cover an out of state provider. It also meant waiting until the spring of next year to ttc but we were fine with that.

    Then, August 6th came and went with no AF..? Odd but figured I must have ovulated a little later and she'll show her face soon. After four days with zero signs of her and no temp drop, I decided to take a test to rule out pregnancy. No way it could be positive, only to see two pink lines staring back at me. My husband is over the moon, he really thought his fertility was gone. I'm thrilled too but really scared of losing this one as well. I'm trying very hard to be positive. I'm going to back to the lab tomorrow to have my levels checked for rising hcg, then my OB visit is on the 16th. My tentative due date is April 19th.
     
  7. girlinyork

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    So sad about your loss pinkorblue but soooo sweet about your husband getting you pregnant. Keeping my fingers crossed for you xx
     
  8. baileybubs

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    Hi pinkorblue!!

    I'm so sorry for the loss of your son, but congratulations on your natural BFP with your hubby. You must both be so chuffed. I completely understand your fear though. Will you still be getting the cerclage? And will you be able to take it easy this pregnancy and maybe not work? I suppose it depends what your job is on whether you would need to take time off though.

    But welcome to the thread!!

    I really need to update the first page with EDD's!! I will do that tomorrow as I can't do it on my iPhone, it's too complicated!!

    Hope everyone is feeling ok! Has anyone got a scan or appointment coming up this week? I know ttc1at34 you have a scan on Tuesday is it? Hoping it all goes brilliantly hun!
     
  9. Pinkorblue11

    Pinkorblue11 Mom to 6 and an angel

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    Thank you, girlinyork! :flower:

    Hi Baileybubs, thank you! I don't think I'll get the abdominal cerclage I wanted but the perinatologist DH and I liked best would place a transvaginal cerclage. (the McDonald) P-17 shots also so hopefully it works out and we have positive outcome.

    Congrats on your pregnancy as well! :)

    Lots of healthy 9 month vibes for all of us!
     
  10. ginny83

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    With my last pregnancy I had a scan at 7 weeks and they were able to do abdominal no problems :)
     
  11. girlinyork

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    having a wobbly today. Af due tomorrow or Tuesday and today is my would have been due date with the first loss. Scared this bean might not be snuggling in tight enough
     
  12. baileybubs

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    I felt exactly the same hun a couple of weeks ago coz ingot my BFP at 12dpo, I was so frightened it was going to be a chemical. But don't worry, that little bean is snuggling in really well and will definately stick. It's hard not to panic isn't it? Maybe try a distraction, can you go out for the day or something?
     
  13. girlinyork

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    No :( I damaged my hip ligament so I'm kind of immobile lol. Maybe I'll watch back to back disneys :)
     
  14. baileybubs

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    That sounds like a good plan hun and sorry about your hip!! How did you manage that if you don't mind me asking?

    Can I ask your advice and thoughts ladies? Apparently the nhs are supposed to allow women who miscarry reassurance scans to stop us becoming stressed worrying about another mc. My angel passed at 11 weeks and I found out at my 12 week scan. I has no idea if my baby had been growing properly and I didn't have tests done because unfortunately I ended up passing my angel at home and couldn't bear the thought of putting her in a tub and taking her to the hosptial (the nurses suggestion to me!!). I am petrified of going for the 12 week scan and seeing my baby lifeless again as the image still haunts me. I know there is nothing that can be done to stop it happening if it does but I feel if I had an earlier scan I might be able to see if baby is developing properly and if not then at least I will be more prepared. My doctor and midwife won't refer me for an early scan unless there's a problem but I've heard if you are really stressing out and not sleeping etc they will refer you to ease your mind. My oh doesn't want an early scan because he says how will it help as I will still be so worried about the 12 week scan anyway, he thinks I need to just be patient and whatever happens happens. What do you ladies think? I had nightmares about having another mmc last night and I've cried about it again this morning.
     
  15. girlinyork

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    If they really won't refer you then wait til you pass six weeks and complain of very bad cramping and back pain. The EPU will scan you. Sneaky, but your mental health is important :hugs:

    I'm always injuring my joints because they're floppy because of my condition :)
     
  16. baileybubs

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    I don't think I could do that I'd feel guilty lol!! Do you think it's even worth me having an earlier scan?

    Oh dear well I hope your oh is taking good care of you lol xxx
     
  17. girlinyork

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    Lol well I reckon you're entitled to one. The bean I lost was a week too small so that's how i knew something was wrong. If its measuring okay then you could relax more x
     
  18. baileybubs

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    Have you managed to get the Disney films going?
     
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    Not yet. I decided on playing a cute and laid back game on the Wii. Just as relaxing. :) Maybe Disney later :D
     
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    Ooh enjoy! I'm being brave and watching one born every minute! I know I'll cry!!
     

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