She's tried 2 different psychiatrists and none of them have been helping her. I honestly don't know what they're telling her
Other than she shouldn't take people's rude/hurtful comments to heart because it's her problem, not theirs. She doesn't understand that sometimes you have to tell people that that was hurtful and that you'd appreciate it if they didn't do/say that again
She constantly tells me to do this any time e.g. DH says something a bit hurtful and I tell him not to say that. She says it's because it's my issue and I shouldn't burden my DH with any of my issues
She seems to think her psychiatrist's advice to her can be used for everyone else, not seeming to realize that his advice is pertaining to her and may not be applicable for everyone else or in all situations
The problem is how to bring it up because I'm not sure she realizes that she has self-esteem issues. I'm not even sure she'd be open to help or honesty either. Just see her reaction when me or anyone else tells her that her criteria and method for finding men is flawed and she needs to do something else - she just clams up and keeps on doing the same thing and continuing to complain about her men troubles. Sometimes I'm not allowed to have a problem. I remember New Years 2013 when she came over to get ready with me. I started talking about how I was a bit sad that I wasn't pregnant yet. Her reply in a teary voice: "At least you
have a husband and
will have children, I'll
never have a husband or children!" I was so annoyed because I was looking for support and here she was, taking center stage....again!
I don't mean to sound cruel, it's just that I can't stand her crying over these loser men when numerous people have told her to change her crieteria and where she finds them but she does
nothing to try our advice and see what happens. Which makes me doubt she truely wants help or wants to change
Think I need to tell her we don't want to hear about her man troubles because we've given her great advice on how to find a nice guy but she refuses to try it.