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dizzybella
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...(This is a very common theme for her. J often feels guilty about how hard mum has to work). Then she took both J and N to see a counsellor. She claimed that J was feeling very anxious about high school due to the pressure his father had been putting on him to attend CC. We have NEVER discussed high school with J. Only told him, the decision would be made by mum and dad. Nor have we ever put any pressure on him to make any decisions where he would have to choose between his parents. She still didnt make any attempt to discuss anything with DH, but chose to discuss everything with J. This is why we have had to ask a solicitor to arrange a discussion with her and her solicitor.
I dont understand a parent who can use and manipulate a child in these situations. I really feel for yous and can sympathise with you trying to resolve everything without putting J on the spot etc. Our bitchface uses my sd all the time- i feel its emotional abuse to a certain extent as some of the things she tells her is not right for a 9 year old to hear. Its frustrating cus i would love to sit her down, show her the evidence and explain how devious her mother is but like you, i would never do that. I hope all goes well with the sol xxx