Stopping BCP to TTC***Updates & Progress/Noted Changes Since Stopping BCP***24BFPs***

[Charmed86]

Patience - it was over an hr earlier :/ I looked at a temp adjuster that said I should put it in around 36.64c!

I've had a few things weighing on my mind lately & OH would be embarrassed if he knew unwashed discussing this, but there's no one else I can talk to really. He has problems keeping an erection when he's stressed or not feeling up to the deed. Which is fine, normal I suspect! But it makes ttc so stressful for me. I am not supposed to tell him when I'm ovulating to reduce pressure on him.. but then he always figures it out as I want to BD more. He won't make the first move, he rarely seems to initiate sex so I'm kinda stuck really! I've spoken to him about it & he's promised to try to initiate it more often, but then he's initiating when he's not really in the mood & it's a no go. We tried to BD the day before & day of O this month, but he couldn't keep it up. I'm so upset. He's offered to see a Dr, but I'm so worried about drugs they might give him and if they diagnose some sort of ED then I worry that will mess with his head more! I've just been looking up IUI & might put it across to my GP if this carries on past 6mths. I'd love to hear some thoughts on this!

Eta Thank you MrsH xxx

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Mrs hudson....I'm stalking your recipes now. Giggle

 

[patienceiav]

Charmed, got hubby aggro so can't sit n reply properly but big hugs, will reply soon xx

 

[MrsHudson]

MsE I alternate every other day with crock pot dinners, so I cook one day two meals, and then none the next. It helps a lot because sometimes I'm beyond drained to cook.

Charmed I'm sorry!
Unfortunately I don't have experience with that, but as you know I have my own issues in my sex life and sometimes it can be hurtful. In your case, I'm sure he feels embarrassed and that's why he doesn't want to initiate it. If I were you/him I would encourage him to see a doctor. There's not much else that could help, I don't think.

again!

 

[patienceiav]

The exact same thing happens for us, to a T! There's not much you can do about it, it's just a pressure thing rather than an actual ED I believe that's why I stick to my "always at +opk" thing and the rest is up to the mood i tend to conceive when we bd 1 day before or on ov so I don't worry so much about the run up!

 

[CrazyCharlie2]

OK I skimmed through just to catch up lol.

MsE so glad you're back! We missed you too!!!! And eeeek! Super exciting your BFP is darker!!!

Mrs H I prefer wine Hahaha. Glad you're feeling more upbeat.

Happy anniversary charmed! Sorry your DH. 😞 that's gotta be frustrating. Mine doesn't like to be more than once a week so he only initiates on weekends lol. I initiate the rest of the time. He may want to see a Dr just to make sure there isn't an issue.

Cdex glad you're feeling better!!

 

[patienceiav]

Charmed you should totally adjust your temperature btw that would put it even higher!

 

[patienceiav]

Oh and IUI sounds exteemely tempting, I'm planning on pushing for it with my Dr! If hubby is game that is, hopefully they can just take loads of his swimmers and save them, if he has to donate every month we might as well just bd! I think it's a great idea and is proof that once is more than enough since I guess they only do it once a cycle!

 

[Turtle0630]

Hello again, ladies!

Charmed, happy anniversary!!! Do you guys have any big plans to celebrate? I'm sorry that you got a bfn today. It's still really early though, so don't count yourself out just yet! I'm sorry about the "issues" that you and DH are having as well. I don't really have any experience with that so I can't really give any advice. But my best guess would be that it's probably just a mental thing. I don't know if that would make it more difficult to treat or not. I don't think it's a bad idea for him to go to the Dr though and have it checked out, just to be sure! Well, not have "it" checked out per say, but tell them about what's going on.

MsE and MrsH, I love cooking in my crockpot whenever I actually get around to doing it! I always say that I want to use it more often and I tend to forget. My goal is to REALLY use it more this fall/winter though!

I'm doing pretty good, thanks for asking! Since I didn't use opk's or temp this month at all, I've just had it in my head for some reason that this month doesn't really count. Like I have to pull out the big guns to make it happen or something....even though our timing was just fine. I will say though that that's helped me so much this month, as I haven't been obsessing over it AT ALL for the first time since ttc. I haven't symptom spotted once and you know what? I feel just fine. Funny how many symptoms you can talk yourself into having by just looking for them. I am 9dpo today and I did have a tiny bit of spotting but it's so barely there. Just a tiny bit of light brown on the tp when I went to the bathroom. So I marked it down as spotting, but it's not full on spotting yet if that makes sense. However, it's just right on time for me. I usually have a 12-13 day lp (one cycle I had 7 days but thankfully that was only one) and I usually start this anywhere from 2-5 days before AF. So, this would be right on time to give me my 12 or 13 day lp. I'm not surprised one bit! And for some reason, not even really disappointed! I mean don't get me wrong, I would be trilled to get my bfp!...I just think truly convincing myself that it's not going to happen this month will be softening the blow once AF does arrive!

 

[MrsHudson]

Turtle I think that's a good approach though. At least with the not symptom spotting. I totally overdid all that this month and it wore me out. I am going to chart better next month but I'm going to try and be less of a freak about it next month.

I have two crockpots and when I get really lazy I alternate them every night.

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

charmed....have you tried talking to him during DTD? you know what guys like to hear.

 

[patienceiav]

Turtle how do you know when you ov for sure? Pains and such? I admire you for ignoring it all while we froth over everything still can't wait for your af to be due to see what's what which day will you test?

This is gonna be one restless nights sleep I can tell, please send the deep sleep faeries my way! Scared of a temp drop! But also can't wait to wake up, it's a bit like xmas

 

[Turtle0630]

MrsH, this is my 5th cycle and I've tried so hard not to symptom spot each one, and failed miserably each one. And I've been so convinced each cycle that I am. I don't know how I've managed not to this month, but it's been great!

Patience, thanks! Again, I really have no idea how I've managed not to obsess, but I'm really hoping I can continue to do that each cycle that I come to! Yeah, I get O pains and that's how I know for sure when I O'd. I might be off by a day (I might actually be 10dpo instead) but I'm pretty confident on when it was. And the cm helped confirm it. It's been right on with the pains on the cycles I have temped too. Honestly, I'm trying to not test and just wait for af to arrive. We'll see if I hold out or not. So if she's not here by Thursday (Tuesday would give me a 13 day lp again), then I'll test. But I really, really don't think that will be happening.

Haha, I know what you mean with temping! Towards the end of your cycle (or just after O), seeing that new temp really does feel like Christmas morning! I would always get so excited to go to bed, just to wake up and see what it was!

 

[twinkie2]

wtbam-are you frickin serious!? Steak & BJ day! That is baby's due date, please tell me you are kidding, if baby is born that day, I will never be able to forget that

Congrats MsE!!!

MrsH-going to stalk your board!

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Thx twinkie. Tomorrow AF will not show up. Nope...not answering the door...don't knock AF.

 

[CrazyCharlie2]

Ladies.....I NEED A BABY IN MY BELLY!!!!!!!!!

 

[patienceiav]

Charlie i really hope you get one soon! Is there anything else the Dr will do than just give chlomid and check you O'ed?

 

[patienceiav]

Turtle I'm in awe of your level headedness it's always fair to test if af doesn't show on time!

Well my temp is totally borked today, I woke up at 3.45 but couldn't temp cuz hubby gets up at 5, I then laid in bed, wide awake, till 4.45 when he got up and I took my temp, and adjusted it. It's meant to be right when you wake up so not accurate at all today! Wonder if i can get back to sleep for those last 2 hours..

Edit: got to sleep again, when I woke up I was sweating like mad but my temp was even lower than when I took it before 5am totally discarding it for today!

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Awww charlie....I'm sending you every positive baby dust wish in world.

Come on little swimmers, these are the most amazing ladies I know! Please visit them in mass quanity soon!!! I believe most are available in the next two weeks! So start swimming!

 

[patienceiav]

Baaahhhh I can't sit quiet any more!

I got a v v v v faint line last night, countdown to pregnancy ruins the original images so it's visible only on the invert, but this morning I didn't see anything coupled with my madly conflicting temps I'm going crazy today!