Stopping BCP to TTC***Updates & Progress/Noted Changes Since Stopping BCP***24BFPs***

[Ms Elizabeth]

Turtle!!! Been thinking of you! Best of luck for you and your scans. Positive thoughts! I'm trying to think up the right words, but I'm so in awe of your amazing strength and courage, determination, just everything! Wishing you all the best!

You ladies on here are amazing! Such strong women! Look out world!

 

[Turtle0630]

Thank you, ladies! MsE, you give me too much credit. Honestly, DH and I have already decided that we're not doing IVF. Which very well might be the category we fall into. He's not sold on IUI either but will do it if I want to. At least he's not against it like IVF though. We're both very open and willing to do adoption (if we can afford it!) and I asked him if he'd rather do adoption over IUI...he said probably so. So...if they tell us IVF, looks like we'll be looking into adoption. If they tell us IUI, looks like we'll be really talking things over and having to make a decision on which way to go.

*Side note...that in no way, shape or form means I'm against IVF for OTHER PEOPLE. I think everyone has different ideas of what they are willing to do when it comes to infertility. I'm not willing to do IVF but am willing to adopt, whereas I know a lot of people are the opposite. Some people are willing to do both. It's just such a personal decision to decide what's best for each person/couple. I just don't want anyone to think I'm not supporting the choices they make for themselves!

Charlie, I'm excited to hear how your appt goes next week, good luck! Where did you go for vacation?

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Well darling....I just love your attitude. which ever method you select...it will be the best one for you guys! Does insurance help with iui or ivf? I can't believe adoption is $$$$! You open your hearts, your home....why your wallet?

 

[Turtle0630]

Unfortunately my insurance does not help cover IUI or IVF at all...which is actually a battle I'm in the process of kind of fighting with them now honestly. They're paperwork says they cover infertility treatments, but when I called them they said they don't. They said "what we really meant was infertility testing"...and I told them that's what they should have said then. (funny enough (not in a haha way), when I had my HSG which IS testing, they also denied that). I got in touch with my broker on how that's legal and she said it's not. So I'll just have to take any denied claims to the state insurance commissioner and go from there. I hate insurance.

OMG, adoption can be crazy expensive! I know it costs a lot but I had no idea how expensive it could be. I have a friend who recently adopted and she said the adoption itself (not including lawyer fees, home visits, background checks, or their consultant) cost $32,000!!! Holy shit!!! We definitely cannot afford that. I do understand though that that's through an agency, and that there are cheaper agencies out there. Also, through a foster home system, it's cheaper. And, there are income grants allowed (which I think we would definitely qualify for!) plus you get a huge amount back as a tax credit at the end of the year. But still! Who has $32,000 laying around?!

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Dear lord! !! That much? ?? That is the most backwards thing ever!!!!

I'll start a spare change jar for you

 

[Turtle0630]

Haha, thanks! That was my reaction too!!! I knew it would be expensive as hell, but I was thinking, I don't know...maybe half of that?! There's no way we could afford that. So we'll have to see what all the options are out there....

 

[DannaD]

Thanks ladies!! I'm trying to keep calm this cycle, last time was soul crushing because I thought "how could it NOT work with everything we've done?!" Haha... But I know IUI has at best a 20% chance of success, so it could take a while.

At least I seem to be responding to my Femara regimen, and to have a good luteal phase. My lining is good too. All I need now is patience. I know it will get easier this Spring and this Summer, time goes by faster and I'm happier overall during those seasons, while I'm borderline depressive in the middle of Winter.

Hi Turtle! I'm hoping your DH's SA was just a bad batch, and that his number will be fine next time. A bad SA should always be repeated, it can depends on so much stuff! Time, temperature, etc.
I know how hard it is to have to contemplate IUI and IVF, adoption as well. I've been reading a great book about a woman's journey through all that (she ended up adopting, and even that didn't go smoothly) and it's helping me a lot to see that all those emotions I have, issues with my SO and my mood and my life, are completly normal and even to be expected through all this. Also that there's a end to this journey; it might not be the end you thought you'd get when you started TTC, but it will be your end and it will be perfect for you in it's own way.

I love you ladies, we deserve happiness and we'll get there : )

 

[patienceiav]

Turtle! Missed you

Your update.... Just wow, I feel so many emotions for you right now there are so many natural things to try to increase swimmers though, there's even some regular vitamins, for Fertilitea have a man version, Verilitea i think that may be at least worth trying to increase his count before trying IUI if it's also expensive? Like do 3 months trying stuff to help his count, do the SA again and see if you'll have better chances alone or with IUI?

My friend spent a year in the adoption process, but now has a bubbly 2 year old who called her mummy from day 1, she wouldn't trade it for the world

 

[CrazyCharlie2]

Geez who knew adoption would be so costly!! I have everything crossed for you lovely ladies!

I'm still my fertile window and I think we might BD tonight, but honestly, We've not bad since we got back from our trip and the amount of relaxed I feel is amazing. I think taking this cycle easy was the best thing I could have done.

 

[patienceiav]

Relaxing months feel so gooood

How is everyone ? Had a nice visit to a bonfire yesterday evening to celebrate Walpurgis night, went to see the new Avengers film, totally mind blown *_*

 

[CrazyCharlie2]

How was Advengers??

I gardened all weekend. Totally didn't BD at all when I should have, but its OK because we aren't really trying this month. I'm going to move my appointment with my Dr back a bit I think. I'm enjoying this time off a lot.

 

[DannaD]

I spent the whole weekend outside too! Amazing weather! I love spring and summer, time to take out those sun dresses I love hehe.
Yeah Patience, how was Avengers? I love Joss Whedon so I'm sure it's great!

 

[CrazyCharlie2]

Well, I rescheduled my appointment, I feel much better about it. Lol. Guess I wasn't ready to jump right back into finding a way to get me knocked up lol.

I asked hubby last night if he had a timeline as to how long he wanted to keep trying. It's something I worry about because he's much older than I am. But he said no and that we just have to keep trying and that it would happen. Made me feel a lot better. I think at the appointment we will talk about what's next and what needs to happen. Then I think I'm going to put it on hold and focus on losing weight. I have come to realize that I can't lose weight and try for a baby. I just can't. It's not working. So I think that might be my plan. We will see. 😊

How is everyone doing? How was your weekend?

 

[patienceiav]

I find it to be goosebumps kinda good i've always been a huge geek but never a comic book nerd, but I do love all the Marvel and DC films/tv shows !

That sounds nice Charlie you take the time you need, hubby sounds fine and your uterus isn't going anywhere ! Maybe you're a bit like me now, it's like, trying alone didn't work, trying with help didn't work, yeah IVF would be great but it's not right for us right now, i'm actually able to say now that i'm happy to not have a kid it's the only way to stay sane ! I ofcourse would die of happiness if i somehow managed to get a sticky but i'm so happy with life right now i don't feel the need for a baby any more. TTC became more of an obsession and i'm glad i'm not like that any more !

I had a nice weekend, and started my new job monday which I absolutely love so far i've been working daytime this week so i'm very much looking forward to finishing my trial period and going over to evenings next monday ! Customer service always has its ups and downs but generally I think it's a great job and I love the place

What i've been doing health wise lately is to have a giant monster smoothie for breakfast, in mine I have 2 avocado, 100g mango, 2pears, some kale and a bit of non dairy milk, and I can drink that over the course of an hour or 2 and stay full till lunch yummo !

 

[DannaD]

I'm still as obsessed as ever. I can't go a few hours without thinking about getting pregnant, having a baby. It seems like I'm daydreaming of winning the lotto, like it probably will never happen to me, but that would be so amazing... know what what I mean? Some days I really think it's impossible, I'll never get my BFP, I'll never be that lucky. Pregnant women and moms are in this VIP club I so wish to join but can't.

I like your attitudes though ladies, I'm not doing myself any good thinking about it all the time but I can't help myself, always calculating cycle days and possible due dates and how big my belly would be at chrismas, etc etc etc.

Health wise I've made big changes in the last 2 months, I started a low-GI diet and so far so good. That smoothie sounds yummie Patience. Awesome about your new job! Is it in the same field you were in before?

Charlie do you have a lot of weigh to loose? You look lovely in your profile photo. Low-GI is great for loosing weight btw, and quite easy to follow I think

 

[patienceiav]

It's taken 20months of ttc to give up Danna, you're allowed your hope I've just lost mine I do still imagine my due date etc, I was 100% sure something happened last month since I made it to 12dpo on my own, but as usual nothing stops af! I refused to test but it does make me wonder more if I have chemicals or not. It just feels like every time I test I get the af so I refuse to do so any longer!

GI diets are good I try more for no obvious carbs instead of slow carbs like GI and then pile on the fat from avocado, coconut products and other things ^^ paleo/caveman diets are also popular it's amazing how much less bloated I get if I avoid carbs!

 

[CrazyCharlie2]

Danna, it would be beneficial for me to lose 50lbs or more 60 would be ideal. I've gained 23lbs since we started this journey, just from getting stressed every period that showed up or didn't show up and eating my emotions. I really don't eat a lot so the amount of weight I've gained is ridiculous. So I'm going back to the gym and I'm working on being paleo again. I lost 17 lbs last time I did it and that was without working out. Still not sure how I feel about going for further fertility treatment. I so badly want to get pregnant naturally, but I really feel like I can't. *shrug* right now I'm going crazy because my boobs were hurting more than normal, but it's calmed down significantly today like almost gone. Which makes sense because we really didn't try this cycle. I'm always hopeful though. But AF should be here in a few days.

 

[DannaD]

My breasts are hurting a lot this cycle too. Earlier today I wipe and there was a streak of red blood in my CM, now I think last cycle was just lucky LP wise and AF is gonna start too soon

Losing 17pouds is amazing! I personally think that when it comes to loosing weight diet is more important than exercise, in the beginnings anyways.

Patience, so far my regime hasn't helped my bloating at all, I look pregnant! Maybe I should go all the way to paelo, I'll see in a couple months :s

 

[patienceiav]

Aww I hope that's not what you think it is Danna, how's it looking today ? Any more spotting or just the one off ?

I haven't tried paleo myself, i'm more trying to be vegetarian leaning to vegan low carb high fat the more carbs and shit I eat the more I get the pregnant belly bulge, it's gotten bad enough for me to really have pushed my diet during the week (still bad on weekends but it's an improvement) it's already doing better I think generally if none of us ate anything that didn't have ingredients ie fresh produce/meat etc, we wouldn't need funny diets, but that's too hard for me at least ! i love high fat diets (people are so scared of cuz of calories but healthy fat is really good for you, low fat products are actually just chemicals and sugar and are really bad!) people think high fat = burgers which is actually high carb *argh* d

Ladies my weird thought for today...I really really REALLY want a boob job. I've been so unhappy with my boobs vs my pearshape figure since I was about 13 and all the girls in my class exploded with C cups and I didn't make it past A cup till I started getting old and fat I always promised myself it'd be a post breastfeeding treat and have waited and waited to be able to TTC, then waited and waited and am now a couple of months off 2years TTC and starting to give up....i've so often put stuff off "just in case" or "what if" but really if I keep putting things off incase of babies and it turns out it just won't happen i'll be even more bitter I think....

I'm just worried about BF with implants, most likely it wouldn't cause huge problems but could undo the boob size increase thanks to milk production.... and sods law i'd get knocked up as soon as I do them but if I DON'T do them i'll probably never get a sticky, cuz that's just sods law...

I don't really know where i'm going with this it's just weighing heavily on my heart at the moment, it's a huge cost but i'm sick to death of my boobs and realistically it'd be better for us to not have a sticky till hubby has found work with his new studies, which he won't be finished with for 2years if we get a bfp during that time then we'll be fine with it but won't be looking at Dr help till then.

Sigh ! I'm sad

 

[DannaD]

It was just one time. This morning my cm had brown tint to it but it was probably from that time yesterday.... We'll see :/

I totally understand about the boob job. If it's something you've wanted for a long time, and it will make you feel sexy and more confidant, I say go for it! Plenty of girls BF with implants, and there comes a time when you have to stop living your life in relation to TTC.