The Beanstalkers (formally ttc buddy?)

[Lisa92881]

Oh honey I'm so sorry, reading that just made me cry. After all you've been through, you just can't catch a break. Like Kasi said, maybe it was a fluke. I know it's hard, but try to keep positive. There are ways for you to get that dream baby!! Keep us posted.

 

[raelynn]

Thank you all for your support. I need to call the fertility specialist today but it is really hard for me to work up for it. I just don't know how we're going to be able to take it if the results come back the same (which is usually the case). My husband was really upset when he got the news and the only way I could cheer him up a bit was to say "You never know maybe the retest will come back better". It is really hard to see him upset and also see our baby chances becoming even less likely along with it. I'm so glad I have this place for support because this is heartbreaking and since we're hardly telling anyone that we're trying there isn't anywhere else to vent or cry to about this.

 

[Lisa92881]

OMG! Thank you Clomid!
https://i1231.photobucket.com/albums/ee514/Lisa92881/1325109732.jpg

 

[mk8]

Thank you all for your support. I need to call the fertility specialist today but it is really hard for me to work up for it. I just don't know how we're going to be able to take it if the results come back the same (which is usually the case). My husband was really upset when he got the news and the only way I could cheer him up a bit was to say "You never know maybe the retest will come back better". It is really hard to see him upset and also see our baby chances becoming even less likely along with it. I'm so glad I have this place for support because this is heartbreaking and since we're hardly telling anyone that we're trying there isn't anywhere else to vent or cry to about this.

Im so sorry to hear youre down rae. Feel free to come here and vent! Best of luck with the retest. Huge virtual hug!

 

[mk8]

OMG! Thank you Clomid!
https://i1231.photobucket.com/albums/ee514/Lisa92881/1325109732.jpg

Yay lisa!!!!! I hope this is it for you!

Im still waiting to o on clomid. Cd13 and line is darker so will see tomo. Though i think i od on my own before so not sure if this will help. Heres hoping eh?

 

[Lisa92881]

OMG! Thank you Clomid!
https://i1231.photobucket.com/albums/ee514/Lisa92881/1325109732.jpg

Yay lisa!!!!! I hope this is it for you!

Im still waiting to o on clomid. Cd13 and line is darker so will see tomo. Though i think i od on my own before so not sure if this will help. Heres hoping eh?

Hope you o soon, and we can be in the TWW together!

 

[kasigirl]

OMG! Thank you Clomid!
https://i1231.photobucket.com/albums/ee514/Lisa92881/1325109732.jpg

That is so great Lisa! how Exciting that you might have a cycle within 30 days! LOL This is fantastic news!

 

[Lisa92881]

I knowww!!! AAAAH! I just did another and it's even more positive - test line is darker than the control. I will probably ovulate tomorrow, which will result in a nice 32 day cycle....imagine that?!?! Or even better - a BFP!

 

[raelynn]

That is so awesome, Lisa! Congrats!

I made an appointment for our SA retest on Friday. They gave us the at home kit so we can collect it comfortably. Talked to DH tonight and we discussed our options if worst comes to worst. He is willing to undergo some of the more invasive collection methods if it comes to that before we move to donor sperm. I'm pleasantly surprised. I didn't know how receptive he would be to doing any of these procedures. But, we'll have to wait and see if any of this is even an option for us.

 

[gueyilla1985]

OMG! Thank you Clomid!
https://i1231.photobucket.com/albums/ee514/Lisa92881/1325109732.jpg

Yay for clomid!!

 

[KendraNoell]

What about adoption?

 

[raelynn]

What about adoption?

Adoption is an option but a last resort for us. We really want to have a biological child. Also, adoption is a very long and expensive process (I've already looked into it some) so we're hoping we'll be able to explore other options to conceive first. As long as I am able to ovulate, we could also use donor sperm but hubby wants us to see what options are available for him first since, ideally, he'd like to be the biological father. If our second SA comes back the same, we're probably heading down the IUI/IVF route either with successful retrieval from hubby or a donor. So, it is a bit scarey but we're obviously willing to go through a lot if it gives us a chance to conceive.

 

[Lisa92881]

Forgive me for asking a probably silly question...if the results come back the same, how do they harvest sperm from your husband??

 

[KendraNoell]

Is it possible he has sperm but that he's just not ejaculating it?

 

[raelynn]

Kendra got it right. Sorry in advance for the TMI but this is what I've found/been told so far: If the results come back again with no sperm present, he has to go through a series of tests to determine whether he is just not producing sperm or he is producing them but not ejaculating them. They'll do a physical exam, blood testing, and ultrasound to see if they can find any blockages. If they do, they can go in with a needle or surgically to try to find some for IUI or IVF. Right now we're hoping it is just retrograde ejaculation which is a condition where the opening to the bladder doesn't completely close up and the semen backs up into his bladder and is expelled in the urine. DH has noticed that his urine is foamy after we BD so that could be a sign of retrograde ejaculation. If that is what he has, they can treat the urine so they can harvest viable sperm from it to again use for IUI or IFV. That seems like the easiest to diagnose and the least invasive so if our results come back the same we are hoping and praying that is all it is.

 

[Lisa92881]

Wow, the things that doctors can do. That's amazing. Well it sounds like you may ha e a relatively easy fix. I'm praying that is the case!

 

[mk8]

Rae, agree with Lisa that science is too amazing. It will happen Rae, I know it will. It's good news that your dhs urine is foamy, does seem to be retrograde. Fingers crossed its an easy fix!

A positive story to give you some home.. Hubby's colleague is gay and married his partner. They longed to be parents but never thought it was poss. Well they are now proud parents to a little boy, the biological child of one of them (friend donated eggs and a surrogate in USA carried him.) they're about to have another where the other guy will be the biological father. As my husband says to me... If two gay men can have their own kids, so can we.

 

[Lisa92881]

What a nice story mk8!

 

[KendraNoell]

Aww that is a great story.

Rae, I am hoping that is the case for your hubby. I have heard great stories about IUI and the like so I am hoping you will be one of them

 

[Lisa92881]

Happy New Year girls!!!

I hope 2012 has great things in store for all of us!!!