The 'chit chat' thread

[WILSMUM]

sorry i've not been around much girls - just trying to get on and keep busy.
My cousin just told me shes preg (7 weeks) so I'm with you girls in jealousy stakes! Its not just that shes preg that gets me but that shes obv got preg by accident - shes only been split with her hubby a few months, got straight together with this other guy and now shes preg by him and they're not even living together, shes still at her mums! It took us over 2 years to conceive Ailsa and then 6 months to conceive our angel boy so its not something that come easy to us. But also I'm jealous that she feels she can announce it and start telling people so early - if I do have the privilege to fall preg again I doubt we'll tell anyone (except parents) before the 20 week scan now.

 

[dancareoi]

sorry i've not been around much girls - just trying to get on and keep busy.
My cousin just told me shes preg (7 weeks) so I'm with you girls in jealousy stakes! Its not just that shes preg that gets me but that shes obv got preg by accident - shes only been split with her hubby a few months, got straight together with this other guy and now shes preg by him and they're not even living together, shes still at her mums! It took us over 2 years to conceive Ailsa and then 6 months to conceive our angel boy so its not something that come easy to us. But also I'm jealous that she feels she can announce it and start telling people so early - if I do have the privilege to fall preg again I doubt we'll tell anyone (except parents) before the 20 week scan now.

Hi, haven`t been around for a while as been to disneyland paris - now back feeling all relaxed.

I think I am OV today - 7 days earlier than anticipated so no idea what`s going on this month.

got EWCM on thurs, but couldn`t BD as in same room as kids! Positive OPK saturday when we got back but too tired to BD!!!

Managed to BD last night and this morning!!!

think we`ve missed the chance this month, but i actually feel quite relaxed about it all and nowhere near as stressed as I was last month. We`ll see what happens and move onto next month when we might have a bit more time!!!!

i feel the same as you anouska, if we are lucky enough to get PG again we will try not to say anything for as long as possible, especially to the kids.

Hope everyone else is doing ok.

 

[WILSMUM]

i can't decide whether to tell Wil at the same time again (after 12 week scan) or not if we're lucky enough to conceive again. On the one hand it would protect him if anything went wrong again but on the other if something did go wrong again and I had to go to hospital then we would have to tell him anyway. I guess its somethign DH and I will have to discuss if it happens for us.

 

[dancareoi]

Think I have OV today, but not quite sure - no temp rise this morning, but i think temp rises day after.

Did give DH the night off, but have just txt to say we should BD tonight, just to make sure!!!!


On a different note, my 2 year old started nursery today - he had a great time and didn`t want to leave when i went to get him!

Felt weird going to collect others from school without the pushchair!

 

[Pinkorblue11]

Thinking pretty much the same thing here too, if we're lucky enough to get pregnant again. I'm thinking of not saying anything family or friends until it's obvious. for you wilsmum.

Crossing my fingers for you, dancar!! That's great about your 2 year old's first day, glad he enjoyed it!

My dad called last night and had to deliver sad news, my favorite aunt only had a few hours left. She passed away this morning. I hope Azriel has found her and is keeping her company..

 

[Sj bornAsleep]

Hi Tayla,

My Name is Nicola and I am 22 years old.

I hope you don't mind me joining, I am new to this website
On the 3-3-2012, I had my little man at 20 weeks + 1 .
I am distraught but I would love to talk to other ladies that went through the same thing. Im sure as the rest of you, you didnt think it was possible or that it would never happen to you. ANd the fact you are passed the 12 week mark you think you are safe. However not ladies
Tonight is not a very good night for me as TTC is not happening for me.
But add me or PM me. Would love to talk.
This thread is a great idea. You go you
xxxxx

 

[dancareoi]

Thinking pretty much the same thing here too, if we're lucky enough to get pregnant again. I'm thinking of not saying anything family or friends until it's obvious. for you wilsmum.

Crossing my fingers for you, dancar!! That's great about your 2 year old's first day, glad he enjoyed it!

My dad called last night and had to deliver sad news, my favorite aunt only had a few hours left. She passed away this morning. I hope Azriel has found her and is keeping her company..

You can take comfort in the thought they will be together, holding hands and looking after each other - they are not alone

 

[dancareoi]

Hi Tayla,

My Name is Nicola and I am 22 years old.

I hope you don't mind me joining, I am new to this website
On the 3-3-2012, I had my little man at 20 weeks + 1 .
I am distraught but I would love to talk to other ladies that went through the same thing. Im sure as the rest of you, you didnt think it was possible or that it would never happen to you. ANd the fact you are passed the 12 week mark you think you are safe. However not ladies
Tonight is not a very good night for me as TTC is not happening for me.
But add me or PM me. Would love to talk.
This thread is a great idea. You go you
xxxxx

Hi Nicola, welcome to our group and so sorry for your loss.

We have all had similar experiences and it is good to share things with people that have been through the same thing.

Sorry TTC is not working. We tried TTC for forst time last month after our loss in Jan (I am now 40 so time is against us) Anyway no luck for us, but I had got myself into such a state and so worked up about it, that i think that did not help at all.

I think I have missed for this month as we were away until Sat and were sharing a room with the kids, so couldn`t BD when i got EWCM.

I know it is so much easier said than done, but try and relax and chill out. You hear so many stories about people trying and nothing happening and suddenly when they stop thinking about it, it happens.

I do feel more chilled this month. So i am hoping i can keep feeling like this and hopefully something will happen.

Once again, welcome to our group and i look forward to chatting further

 

[WILSMUM]

Hi Nicole and welcome - i lost my angel boy on 10/03/12 at 18 weeks and AF has just got me again after 2 cycles of ttc. I don't think my heart or head were really in the right place those last 2 cycles but am feeling more optimistic to start really properly trying now. It has always taken a while for myself and my current Dh to conceive, first time was about 12 months and I miscarried at 5/6 weeks, another 12 months and we conceived again and now have a very beautiful and healthy 18 month old and then it took us 6 months to conceive our angel boy. Everytime it seemed to happen when we relaxed and stopped trying quite so hard and just dtd because we wanted to not because it was the right time to make a baby.

What ever you want to talk, rant or vent about we're here to listen and help when we can.

 

[yellowyamyam]

Hey everyone,

Just when I thought things are looking better and I am better, BAM! *sigh* I finally went to see my GP yesterday to inform her of my miscarriage. I made my appointment last week. When I went to the surgery yesterday morning, I was told I was assigned to a new GP as my usual one had left. I just wanted to get it over and done with. 5 minutes at most!

Came calling my name was a young doctor, about my age - 30 and she was PREGNANT. About 5-6 months, maybe. I was like ... c'mon! I've avoided human interactions since my 2nd miscarriage, especially with pregnant ladies. I have confined myself to the house and only go out when necessary. It was my counsellor who told me to do little things, start with seeing my GP. "It's a good place to start" she said. Oh ... VERY GOOD PLACE TO START, INDEED.

So I kept my face straight and stared into her eyes and her office while informing her of my miscarriage. I didn't really want to go into details but she kept asking questions! It was hard not to notice her bump. I tried very very best not to cry but in the end, tears started rolling down because the questions kept coming! I felt like telling her - everything is in your screen. just read my history. Of course I did not. I answered all her questions with a straight face.

I practically ran out of her office when it was over. Then I started crying while walking home. I just felt situation was so cruel to me. I wanted to get better, be positive and then ... so what now? I'm back to square one. I can't even imagining going out to the shops anymore.

 

[dancareoi]

Hey everyone,

Just when I thought things are looking better and I am better, BAM! *sigh* I finally went to see my GP yesterday to inform her of my miscarriage. I made my appointment last week. When I went to the surgery yesterday morning, I was told I was assigned to a new GP as my usual one had left. I just wanted to get it over and done with. 5 minutes at most!

Came calling my name was a young doctor, about my age - 30 and she was PREGNANT. About 5-6 months, maybe. I was like ... c'mon! I've avoided human interactions since my 2nd miscarriage, especially with pregnant ladies. I have confined myself to the house and only go out when necessary. It was my counsellor who told me to do little things, start with seeing my GP. "It's a good place to start" she said. Oh ... VERY GOOD PLACE TO START, INDEED.

So I kept my face straight and stared into her eyes and her office while informing her of my miscarriage. I didn't really want to go into details but she kept asking questions! It was hard not to notice her bump. I tried very very best not to cry but in the end, tears started rolling down because the questions kept coming! I felt like telling her - everything is in your screen. just read my history. Of course I did not. I answered all her questions with a straight face.

I practically ran out of her office when it was over. Then I started crying while walking home. I just felt situation was so cruel to me. I wanted to get better, be positive and then ... so what now? I'm back to square one. I can't even imagining going out to the shops anymore.

Hi Zoe, life sucks sometimes.

things will get better, you know that. I know what it was like in the early days, you think you are getting a little better, then something hits you again and you feel you are back at the beginning.

I wrote a thread a while back headed ` 2 steps forward, 1 step back` basically saying you get a little better, then get knocked back again, then get a little better again.

Eventually you will get there, but it is a slow process.

I know it`s early days yet, but maybe the thought of TTC again soon, may give you some hope.

 

[yellowyamyam]

Lisa, I had the TTC thought few days back but I am really scared. I don't think another cervical stitch on me would help seeing how the last one did not. My consultant's appointment is in two week so perhaps he could shed a light in next step to take.

I was reading about surrogacy and adoption. It didn't feel right. I know DH really wants his own and he wouldn't give up on this unless there were no other options for us to take. For surrogacy, to have a stranger carrying our child just seems ... I don't know ... if only I have a sister. I was thinking of asking a very close friend, whom I've chosen to be my children's godmother but she is a very strong Christian. I am not sure if she is open to this.

I DON"T KNOW !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Pinkorblue11]

Huge How do you feel about a transabdominal cerclage, Zoe? There might some specialists in your area that have a lot of experience performing them.

Hi Nicola, welcome aboard!

 

[dancareoi]

Lisa, I had the TTC thought few days back but I am really scared. I don't think another cervical stitch on me would help seeing how the last one did not. My consultant's appointment is in two week so perhaps he could shed a light in next step to take.

I was reading about surrogacy and adoption. It didn't feel right. I know DH really wants his own and he wouldn't give up on this unless there were no other options for us to take. For surrogacy, to have a stranger carrying our child just seems ... I don't know ... if only I have a sister. I was thinking of asking a very close friend, whom I've chosen to be my children's godmother but she is a very strong Christian. I am not sure if she is open to this.

I DON"T KNOW !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi Zoe, i think the best thing to do now is to see what your consultant says, he may have options that are available to you to ensure you do carry a baby full term.

They know what the problem is, so they will have ideas on how to deal with this. Don`t give up hope yet.

Thinking of you and sending lots of hugs

 

[yellowyamyam]

Hi all

It has been really quiet! So ... anyone pregnant yet?

My appointment is tomorrow noon. Am all nervous. Have played several scenarios on my head - my reactions towards the consultant. He gave me hope and all ... *sigh*

So what's up?

 

[dancareoi]

Hi all

It has been really quiet! So ... anyone pregnant yet?

My appointment is tomorrow noon. Am all nervous. Have played several scenarios on my head - my reactions towards the consultant. He gave me hope and all ... *sigh*

So what's up?

Hi Zoe, I too thought it was a little quiet!

how are you doing? Let us know what the consultant says, hopefully he will give you hope that all will be ok.

we have TTC for 2 months now and nothing - i am a little wworried to be honest because we have always got PG straight away before. I have to remember though i am now 40 and everything you read for over 40`s is all doom and gloom!!!!

I went to hospital last week for the results of all my tests and there is nothing wrong, which means my MMC was probably just one of those things rather than a treatable medical condition, so at least I don`t have that to worry about.

I just want to get PG asap but it appears it won`t be so easy this time!! I`ll give it another couple of months and then might go and have a chat with my doctor to see if she has any ideas.

Look after yourself and let us know how you get on tomorrow

 

[Pinkorblue11]

Zoe~ Sounds promising, good luck tomorrow!

Dancar~ I really hope you get your bfp this month!

July 2nd and 3rd are donation days for me so we'll see if July is a bfp month.

 

[dancareoi]

Zoe~ Sounds promising, good luck tomorrow!

Dancar~ I really hope you get your bfp this month!

July 2nd and 3rd are donation days for me do we'll see if July is a bfp month.

 

[Pinkorblue11]

Zoe~ Sounds promising, good luck tomorrow!

Dancar~ I really hope you get your bfp this month!

July 2nd and 3rd are donation days for me do we'll see if July is a bfp month.

Thanks and same to you!!!

 

[yellowyamyam]

It was greatly disappointing. We didn't meet my consultant but one of his colleagues. He didn't seem to have read my file before seeing me so I had to explained from the 1st miscarriage to the 2nd and what had happened. He said with the 2nd pregnancy, the course of actions they took was the general one that usually works, but of course there are exceptional cases like mine.

He said it is advisable to wait for at least 2-3 cycles before TTC again just to let the body settles itself. He didn't offer new options or results. I stared at him blankly and got a bit annoyed. I sort of like snapped at him and said "so what then? Trial and error on my babies?"

He excused himself to call my consultant who is his boss. Said I could make an appointment to see him in 2 weeks' time to discuss this matter in detail. I asked about transabdominal cerclage, which he asked his boss too. He said it isn't advisable for my case because though it isn't conclusive, my miscarriages were more cause by bacteria infection so with the abdominal thingy, should I get another bacteria infection, there wouldn't be anything they could do and it is much harder and slower to remove the stitches.

He also suggested an option that in my next pregnancy, he can see me starting at 8 weeks, do the antibiotics and Progesterone and weekly cervical scans but try to delay the stitch as late as possible to avoid introducing more bacteria. BUT with that said, I was already measuring 1.5cm cervical length with funneling in my 2nd pregnancy. I was only 12 weeks then!

I feel we have no options. NONE.