The 'chit chat' thread

[Miss Mitch]

hi ya,

My friend finally gave birth to a baby girl yesterday. So I've been solely in charged of her 2.5 year old. Surprisingly, she has been behaving really well without the parents around!

Anyway, I visited my friend and baby Stacie in the hospital today and it killed me. Of course I controlled myself really well but it just killed me. I was to have my own little one this early June and someone decided to take him away from us.

I'm not doing really well on my own but I am still strong enough to put on a front in front of my friends. Sad isn't it?

Is it cruel of me to keep thinking that I will loose the bean in me soon? I have almost 0 confidence of its survival, really. Do you believe in self-fulfilling prophecy? When you keep thinking something is going to happen, it will... but yet, I really don't dare or know how to be positive. It is as though I am waiting for something to happen; bleeding especially. I keep having the same image in my head that in my 1st scan, no heartbeat detected.

Perhaps I rather I loose this bean in this 1st trimester to natural causes rather than losing another in 2nd trimester after knowing this bean has survived the odds but MY BODY kills it. Stupid useless cervix and the bacteria in me!

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

p/s: I feel your frustrations for not able to get the results you need, Tayla. Annoying people!!! Lisa, yay on holidays. That will definitely cheer you and family up.

to you hun! You have done a great thing for your friend, you've been through shit of your own and yet you have still out someone else before you in the 'baby' stakes, thats something to be applauded in my opinion! No, I don't think your mad/crazy/silly for those thoughts, I KNOW I will be exactly the same, I suppose its 'natural' for angel mummies

 

[WILSMUM]

sorry i've not been around much, it was my sons b'day party yesterday and my mums been up for a few days soo been pretty busy here! Next week will be quieter as he's away with his Dad!

I got a text yesterday reminding me I have a mw appointment tomorrow so that was nice!!!!

 

[Miss Mitch]

sorry i've not been around much, it was my sons b'day party yesterday and my mums been up for a few days soo been pretty busy here! Next week will be quieter as he's away with his Dad!

I got a text yesterday reminding me I have a mw appointment tomorrow so that was nice!!!![/QUOTE]

Wow, hope you're ok hun! Sadly, think that happens quite often xx

 

[dancareoi]

Zoe, i think you have been really brave - I wouldn`t be able to look at a baby now. There is a girl in my zumba class who is in my zumba class on a monday. i kept looking at her baby and felt sadness it wasn`t me and then anger it wasn`t me. Then i kept thinking when i was PG i hardly moved cos i was worried aboout doing something to harm my baby and there she was prancing up and down - so unfair.

I know exactly how you feel being PG after a loss - it was the same for me when i was expecting my little boy - it was constant worry - especially when i had extreme bleeding at 7 weeks due to a blood clot - i worried until the day he was out in my arms - it`s only natural.

Anouska, i remember after my first MMC getting a call from the hospital to book an appoinment -the woman felt terrible when I told her i didnt need it - i think she phoned the day after it happened.
This time i got something through the post about some sort of baby product or something, can`t remember exactly - luckily nothing else has come since.

Although i did have to unsubscribe from the bounty website cos they were sending emails about now you`re x weeks PG.

Tayla, we are not alone!!!

Hope everyone has a good Easter weekend, could do with the weather picking up though.

 

[Miss Mitch]

Yeah, I had my pampers freebie pack delivered a few days after Olivia was born, that was quite a smack in the face. Yes happy Easter and happy birthday to me on the 9th! xx

 

[dancareoi]

Yeah, I had my pampers freebie pack delivered a few days after Olivia was born, that was quite a smack in the face. Yes happy Easter and happy birthday to me on the 9th! xx

Yes, Happy Birthday to you - hope you have as good a day as you can

 

[Miss Mitch]

Well i'm off now ladies, no work till Tuesday so I will speak to you all then, love to all! xx

 

[Miss Mitch]

How are we all after a nice long wknd? Weather was pants, but what more do you expect bank holiday wknd! lol xx

 

[dancareoi]

We are in Wales and as you say the weather was pants - peed down all day yesterday - improvement today, but certainly not beach weather.

Hope you had a good birthday.

 

[Miss Mitch]

We are in Wales and as you say the weather was pants - peed down all day yesterday - improvement today, but certainly not beach weather.

Hope you had a good birthday.

Surprisingly, my birthday was much better than what I expected. Kept thinking 'I should be pregnant' so didn't make any plans, just did things last minute, strangely made me feel better! Whats the forecast for the rest of the week in Wales? xx

 

[WILSMUM]

Been busy here with Wils b'day party and then his b'day and our business launched today - hoping the rest of this week will be a bit quieter!

Whereabouts in Wales are you dancareoi? Wil is away in Cardigan with his Dad for this week.

Weather has been awful here as well - really wet the last couple of days!!!

Hope you had a good b'day Miss Mitch, not looking forward to mine this year as its 6 days after our baby was due!

 

[dancareoi]

Tayla - the weather today has been quite nice, one shower this morning and the rest of the day has been quite sunny- I think the rest of the week is going to be about the same, so can`t really complain.
Glad your birthday was ok.

Anouska - we are in south wales in Saundersfoot near Tenby. - good luck with your business.

i think I have mentioned to you that i am going to see this professor on 2 may - well i have tried to get an earlier appointment, but there are none available.
however, the lady that works in the clinic and books the appointments phoned today to say nothing earlier, but will call if it comes up.
Anyway I asked her if we would be seeing professor quenby when we go on 2 may, she said no. the first appointment is to get history details and take bloods - these results take 4-5 weeks and then they make an appoinment for you to see the professor about a month after this! i was not too happy about this because it is putting things back even more.
Had a good chat with this lady. Most of the people that go have problems with recurrent miscarriages so want all the tests - they are testing for sticky blood, which is basically checking for problems with the immune system that attack the baby - but i don`t think this is my problem as i already have 3 kids.
Anyway, Racheal said as i am different from others, I could see Professor Quenby first - they will also take blood that day too. We would still have to wait 4-5 weeks for blood results and professor quenby then write with the results. Then within a week, we would go and see a member of her team if there is a problem.
We have gone for this option and it is only 2 days after original appointment, so we are going on 4th may.
to me this is a better option, we can have a good chat with her and hopefully whatever she says will put DH mind at rest and he can then hopefully decide to TTC again straight away. However, if he wants to wait for results it is just going to be more of a wait and I won`t be happy as yet again the goal posts will have been moved.
Anyway, we will see what she has to say - only 3 weeks and 3 days til we go!

 

[Miss Mitch]

Ooh Anouska, what business have you started? If you don't mind me asking!
Hope Will had a great bday!

Lisa that sounds promising, and 2 days extra is nothing really considering the wait you have already have? Is OH just waiting on whatever the doc says? xx

 

[WILSMUM]

My husband is a floor layer by trade so we've started up a flooring company with him doing all the hard graft and me doing the admin/books! We went for a limited company rather than him being self employed as it works out better for us financially!

Lisa bet yr glad u phoned and had a chat with this woman - would have been awful if you'd turned up and found out then that you couldn't see the professor!! And 2 days is nothing in the grand scheme of things! really hope it all works out for you xXx

I think AF is on her way for me! Had some pink cm when I wiped a couple of days ago but today I've been having blood when I wipe - nothing on a pad atm tho!

 

[Miss Mitch]

Have you ladies seen the certificates of life/soul certificates that a lady on here does? They are beautiful, she does them free of charge in her spare time, what a fab girl! Phones the hospital again today, the woman is on holiday AGAIN so I spoke to her secretary, who basically just says the same as her, the must have their resposes written down! Bloody joke. How old is Wil Anouska? Are you going to try again or leave it a while? xx

 

[yellowyamyam]

Another hurdle for me, ladies. Tested positive for Strep B. I thought I had thrush but confirmed today it is Strep B. Not advisable to take antibiotics because baby is still forming. Possible for bacteria to travel into uterus because of weak cervix from miscarriage.

Life is simply awesome.

 

[Miss Mitch]

Another hurdle for me, ladies. Tested positive for Strep B. I thought I had thrush but confirmed today it is Strep B. Not advisable to take antibiotics because baby is still forming. Possible for bacteria to travel into uterus because of weak cervix from miscarriage.

Life is simply awesome.

Oh huni I don't know much about Strep B, but what have the doctors advised? How far are you along with bubba? xx

 

[Miss Mitch]

I've had the call, Olivia's PM results are in. App next Thursday with consultant who 'looked after me' (who I never saw? Only when I lost Olivia, not 2 days after when I went back to give birth?) to discuss results. I've wanted this for so long but I feel sick with nerves now.

 

[WILSMUM]

Wil is 7. Yes we are going to try again - we've dtd a few times since i stopped bleeding and not protected.

Oh No hun bless ya - what rubbish. Fingers crossed for you everything will be OK xXx

 

[WILSMUM]

oh god yes I can imagine so glad they've finally got it sorted! I'm dreading the day we get that letter or phone call to invite us back to the hospital <hugs>