Chelsea, I'm sorry you've had a hard time too. You're completely right. We're not doing this for comfort or anything. We're doing it for babies. And as long as we get one at the end, it'll be more than worth it. Nobody ever expects real problems, just the usual aches pains and hormones. It's come as a bit of a shock to me how much else can happen, what with the bleeding through first tri, fluid on the kidney, going back to back, breech and back again. It's a wonder we come out of it with any sanity left! I hope the road gets less bumpy for the both of us and our LOs
xx
Erica, I think/hope that once your hubby gets more involved in the pregnancy he'll start to understand that it's not as easy as it looks and you will be limited as to what you can do. It's hard for the men to grasp exactly what's happening to your body at the start. They tend to forget because they can't really see that much of a change. But as your bump grows and gets in your way and you walk up stairs and end up out of breath, and he goes to your scans and sees the little arms, legs and nose of an actual person inside you, sees her/him kicking you to bits... thats when he'll realise that maybe he's asking too much.
My other half had no idea how much being pregnant took its toll on the body until his best friends wife couldnt get up 2 flights of stairs in our old house without being pushed from behind (she had severe SPD). Since then he's been good as gold with me.
Working in the animal place does sound nice to start with, but as you say, it'll be too warm for long walks, you'll be too uncomfortable... not to mention driving 40 minutes each way. That'll be bad enough after a while I'd imagine! (Although I dont drive so I dunno how much bump gets in the way... but if your feet swell and your hips hurt, it won't be comfy.)
I hope you both do come to an agreement though, or you find something that'll tide you over that doesn't involve too much travelling or walking. I don't think it's a good idea to force yourself into something that you won't be comfortable doing xx
As for me... Well. I am officially a paranoid moobag.
I DID feel a massive movement last night. I knew I didn't imagine it. But he didn't go breech. He just decided that sunny side up was more comfortable so he rolled over.
The big lump I assumed was his head was actually his knee. He's somehow now back to back with one knee jutting out under my ribs. Surely that can't be comfortable but there you go. It means I'm c-section free at the moment, although obviously being back to back means I will probably have a pretty uncomfrtable labour and might not be as active as I'd hoped. But really, an episiotomy and epidural is better than surgery.