The One Year Strong Ladies!

[HappiestMom]

Went to the gym last night..did about 15 mins on the bike and then walked a few laps with hubby and it totally drained me lol...course it was late and all...it felt good to be active but once I got in bed I was out of it... hubby had promised me "cuddle" time if I went with him...and then once we got home he had to diddle around and do all kinds of stuff of course..and then!!..he gets into bed..and turns on a movie...Hall Pass..I was like..wow..you seriously think Im gonna do you while you watch a movie about guys that get a week off to cheat on their wives...and while there are all these girls bending over....dancing around...while the guys talk about their asses and boobs...yeah..dont think so...I mean he knows how I feel about stuff like that..so idk what he was thinking... so after about 30 mins he put something else on...and then...2 mins later...he was like..well..Im too tired now....and I was like..yeah..sure..of course you are...werent too tired with all the little college girls prancing around on the screen..but when its something else then your too tired.....I mean..even on a good day I know I cant compare to them...but now being preggie and just feeling like he thinks Im blah...that definitely doesnt do anything for my self esteem...I swear he is such a dumbass sometimes...

I just ordered the german girl outfit..now I just have to hope he doesnt piss me off too much before it gets here lol...

 

[CottlestonPie]

Men are rubbish sometimes. I'm still waiting for my birthday loving!
On my birthday he was like "yeah I've eaten too much I feel really bloated"... Last night he was too stressed coz he can't switch off from work in the evenings. Grr.

Keep trying to remind him that one Toby is here there won't be much of a chance to dtd... But he doesn't seem too fussed. Sigh.

 

[Spunky]

Sorry ladies! My husband would have sex everyday if I felt up to it! Once or twice a week is as much as I feel up to though...

 

[CottlestonPie]

I'm lucky for once a fortnight at the mo. Which is annoying. He should be happy I even feel up to it but he's never had a high drive so I guess I should be used to it by now.

Gah... Taking a break from the ironing. Sooo boring.

 

[HappiestMom]

cottleston..I feel for you lol...they just dont seem to get it...

and spunky..lol...you're lucky...mine would prolly do it more if I always initiate..but if I expect him to do that then it never happens..and its not fun if Im doing all the work all the time.... idk if hes just selfish or lazy..or both...lol...

 

[Spunky]

It's nice and all to have it when I want it, but I feel obligated to give in a lot as I know he goes without a lot. Can't complain, but I feel a little bad when I keep getting groped but will play sleep to not have to put out.

 

[CottlestonPie]

Hee, I think i might've done that a couple of times I have to be honest.
Not sure if I dreamt it but I *think* DF was trying to get frisky the other night, grabbing my hips and that... But I was asleep, he woke me up and I went straight back to sleep.
That's the thing... I want it often, but the timing has to be right. I love my sleep. If you wake me up you can sod right off. But before I fall asleep in bed at night I'm well up for it!!

 

[CottlestonPie]

Side note: he would KILL me if he found out I was discussing our sex life on the Internet

 

[HappiestMom]

ha ha..lol...I just tell mine..would you rather me tell the girls online..or our real life friends and my mom lol..that shut him up..I think he understands that I have to talk about it with someone lol..

I just get turned on too easily..now sometimes when I am just totally exhausted..specially being preggie I just cant no matter how much I want it...but otherwise if he tries he gets it...the problem is he just never tries..or never tries at the right time he'll wait till like...midnight or later...and Im just out of it and cant even move

 

[CottlestonPie]

Haha yea that's a good point! Pretty sure he thinks I discuss it with my mum anyway!!

I might have to start reminding him that sex can help for labour/cervix stuff. That might actually get me some tonight since he's off work and is convinced Toby will arrive tomorrow. but I'm like you... After a certain time, that's it. I'm comfy, I'm sleepy and I'm not moving for anyone lol

 

[Spunky]

I don't think my husband would be amused that I discuss our sex life, but like you said Katherine, I think he thinks I already do it anyways.

Once I'm asleep there's no sex, there's no waking me up cause I'd be pissed if you could even manage it. That's what was hard about 1st tri, I would go to bed so much earlier than he would. I've foudn the same is true for him though, if I try the groping my hand gets hit away and he's even moved to the couch to get away from me! (He was almost sleep walking at the time, can't blame him.)

Good Luck getting your men ladies!

Katherine - I can't believe you're so close! Are you ready? I'm getting more and more nervous now that I have Gestational Diabetes (as they may want to induce, or I could have a large baby that has complications when born). LOL, I'm worried about after the birth, and my husband is worried about the actual birth but not after. At least we can reassure each other?

 

[CottlestonPie]

Bums, I just wrote a nice long reply and my battery died!!

Short answer is er, not at all ready lol

All the necessary stuff is washed and ready, newborn clothes are done (0-3 clothes aren't though!) and the Moses basket is ready and stuff... So I guess we've got the basics sorted but the place is still kinda a mess from moving house and decorating.
I'm the opposite of you I think in that I'm worried so much about the birth that I'm finding it hard to focus on getting things ready for afterwards. I'm scared of back labour... And ive actually packed hospital bags ready for a ceasarean just in case (I've got this fear of it taking so long that I'll need an epi which will slow it down and there will have to be interventions)
Check me out, I'm like little miss positive lol!

Ah well, hopefully it'll all be a worry for nothing and I'll come back with a nice easy birth story so as not to scare everyone haha

Do you get extra monitoring for your GD? Is there a higher risk of induction?
I'll be honest, I don't want to be induced either but I think it'll get to a point where I'll do anything to get him out! I'm almost at that point now.

I'm so glad we've got this forum for support, I think I'd go mad otherwise

 

[CottlestonPie]

Hahaha my uncle just popped round my birthday card... I haven't got dressed or even bothered brushing my hair today. He took one look at me and was like "holy crap!!"
I clearly look as good as I feel!

 

[DaretoDream]

Sorry ladies! My husband would have sex everyday if I felt up to it! Once or twice a week is as much as I feel up to though...

I'm with you spunky. I'm so tired during the week after working that i just never feel up to it- but all i would have to do is say the word. So we make sure we get all our action in over the weekend this way we are both nice and relaxed and it's more fun that way.


Sorry for any girls that feel blah about being pregnant- because my DH always tells me how beautiful i am even more so now that i am pregnant, and the way he looks at me is so amazing, i wish everyone could have that. I think i feel better being naked while pregnant then i do normally!

 

[CottlestonPie]

Yeah I just got rejected for some cop tv show. I give up.

 

[Spunky]

Katherine - I don't know that I get more monitoring, just different. I have the same amount of OB appointments, just a few more dietician and diabetes specialist appointments. Then because of James' ultrasounds, we have had a few more of those + a couple of appointments with a fetal specialist.
The GD does make me high risk, and if it gets out of control they'll talk induction/c-section. If I keep my numbers where they've been then they said they'll let me go as late as 42 weeks with no intervention.
I'm not nervous about labor unless I'm induced. Then I'll be a little more concerned as those I've known that were induced had epidurals. And I'll probably end up with an epidural, but like you said I'm worried about it taking longer and possibly have more complications ending up ina c-section anyway (my cousin who has a 1 year old was induced, then epidural, then c-section). I am confident that if I go into labor naturally I'll kick it's ass (though as it gets closer I'm sure I'll be less confident )

DaretoDream - yeah, mine only gets it on the weekend. Since I told him this is the only time he'll get it he makes sure we fit it in in the weekend My husband also tells me how beautiful and sexy I am, I'm finding it harder to believe since I've been getting bigger though. On our BabyMoon there was all kinds of mirrors in the bathroom and I saw myself getting out of the shower and I was like Can't believe how much my body has changed!

 

[HappiestMom]

apparently the sex came with a price...I started bleeding everywhere last night prolly during sex but noticed it right when he pulled out...I actually thought he finished in me and as you all know that never happens..so I was surprised..reached down to get it so it wont get on the bed...and brought my hand back up and it was covered in bright red blood....it was horrible...I went to the bathroom..turned the lights on and saw it and just totally freaked out....and then there was a huge quarter sized clot in the potty too once I had rinsed off and it looked horrible..I know it wasnt the baby but I just could not stop.. we are heading there now and hopefully they will do a scan and just let us know the baby is ok and if its my uterus or my cervix or what..I'll update as soon as I can...

 

[CottlestonPie]

Oh hun I'm so sorry... Any bleeding is terrifying
I have everything crossed for you... Hopefully just an irritable cervix. Please keep us updated xxxx

 

[sparklebunny]

Oh gosh, that must have scared the life out of you. I'm sorry, hope it's just an irritation like Cottleston said. Let us know how u are. Xx

 

[Spunky]

How scary! Hope you're ok!