The Over 35 Newbies and not so's :)

[hinkybinky]

Hinky hun. . . Just wanted to pop on to say I'm sending you positive thoughts x x
I've not tried the dopler again as I thought I'd get a bit obsessive with it but I can see how it can reassure you.
Put your feet up and rest as much as possible! . . . Have you still no pain? And no red blood is a good sign.
I really do hope everything turns out ok x

No pain, but I didn't have last time either. What I'm holding on to is that last time the bleeding began quite suddenly on the Monday, was red straight away and by Tuesday was heavy. This is nothing like that bleed - obviously there's no point in comparing, but so far I have only had brown / pink 'wipes' and nothing on a pad

Luckily my two team colleagues know about this pregnancy, and the previous mc, so I will let them know what's happening and they will hopefully be able to support me in taking it easy. Easier said than done in the last week before Christmas at a primary school!!

Thank you for all your concern x

 

[hinkybinky]

I suddenly thought, what if I start to miscarry on Christmas Eve or something? Had just about come to terms with waiting for 12 week scan, but then thought it might all start to go wrong over Christmas and that will be awful, especially since hardly any family even know I'm pregnant. So I've decided that not knowing is not an option.

I've just found a Babybond slot at their Brighton clinic at 17:10 tomorrow, which will mean 1hr15 drive each way, but then at least we'll know. At least this way, if it's bad news, I'm in control and won't be just waiting.

Fingers crossed for me please

 

[EverythingXd]

Oh Hinky, sending positive thoughts your way - please please try to put MC out of your head I'm so glad you've booked a scan for tomorrow, it will be well worth the money and time if it puts your mind at rest over Xmas. Please let us know how you get on, I'll be thinking of you x

 

[starlight2801]

I'm out of the 1st tri worry stage but now having irrational thoughts about whether baby will be born alive and healthy. Can't wait to hold him safely in my arms.

I hope the Doppler gives you some comfort Hinky

Absolutely same here Everything. I do feel some comfort that I've made it to third tri but I'm having irrational thoughts too

Hinky I also hope you find comfort with your Doppler. I guess I didn't know how lucky I have been with both the GP's and EPAU in my area.

No more bleeding is a very good sign too xx

 

[hinkybinky]

More bleeding here today some is now red with clotting. Not feeling this is going to be a good outcome. Can't face calling EPAU again only to be told I'm not bleeding enough yet, so we'll keep our private appt this afternoon. Not holding out much hope now though. Just want to get today over with.

 

[EverythingXd]

Hinky I'm so sorry to hear that I'm still keeping everything crossed for you that the bleed has been caused by something else, I can only imagine what you are going through right now though. Hoping to hear some positive news from your scan later on and we're all here for you

 

[starlight2801]

More bleeding here today some is now red with clotting. Not feeling this is going to be a good outcome. Can't face calling EPAU again only to be told I'm not bleeding enough yet, so we'll keep our private appt this afternoon. Not holding out much hope now though. Just want to get today over with.

Aw Hinky I'm so sorry you're going through this

Thinking if you with my fingers and toes crossed for a good outcome xx

 

[Rowan75]

aw big hugs hon - so sorry you are having to go through this x

so frustrating when you get dismissive advice from the epac - with my first pg we ended up travelling a fair way for a private scan as they just dismissed me

Im so hoping for a positive scan for you hon - big hugs xx

 

[dan-o]

Good luck for your private scan. Hoping it's a SCH like mine was, I had very heavy bleeding with it, much worse than AF. My EPU were great and slotted me in for a scan within 24 hours, but once I got past 12w the NHS didn't want to know, so we ended up doing the same as you at 16w! Thank goodness fr babybond!
Will be thinking of you this afternoon xx

 

[ChelliBelle]

Oh sweety, I am hoping that your scan has a positive outcome.

 

[hinkybinky]

Thank you so much for all your positivity, it has really helped me get through today...

They could not have been nicer at babybond. Crappy news though, I am sorry to say. No hb found and measuring only 8 weeks. Will be booked into tomorrow for d&c on Tuesday hopefully.

At the moment I am just relived to know and not have an uncertain Christmas.

Can't believe we have to try AGAIN though, seems really unfair. Will be seeing GP after Christmas to rule out anything causing this to happen. For now am just going to get this bit over with, and then do my best to enjoy Christmas with my gorgeous boy - in hindsight, he seems like a bit of a miracle considering the difficulties we're having making another one!

 

[starlight2801]

Oh Hinky there are no words for how sorry I am to here your news.

I am however pleased that you managed to have this scan today so you don't have the uncertainty hanging over you at Christmas as may have happened if it was left to the NHS

I don't blame you for feeling what you're going through is unfair (I think its unfair that you're going through this again too) and I wish you lots of luck in TTC a sticky bean very soon.

I will also be thinking of you Tuesday and I hope that you and your family have as wonderful Christmas as you can in these circumstances.

Massive xxxx

 

[dan-o]

Oh hinky, I am so sorry, that's awful news, you poor thing

 

[ChelliBelle]

Oh Hinky, i'm so very sorry. It is unfair hun, after all you've been through.
I really don't have the words.
and as you said you have your little lad who you can cuddle and he can give you some comfort.
My thoughts will be with you on Tuesday. Big Big

 

[EverythingXd]

I'm so sorry Hinky, that's awful news

It's better to know now than to have had the worry hanging over you, at least you can grieve I'm not sure whether it would be better for your GP to find a reason this keeps happening or not, but often finding a reason will mean you will also be able to find a solution. I hope you get your sticky bean really soon hunni x x

 

[Rowan75]

ah crap so sorry hon

really sorry you're having to go through this again x

aye maybe worth seeing if you could get referred to a mc clinic some of my friends have has good results from seeing specialists

big hugs and hope tues goes as well as it can do x

 

[hinkybinky]

Hi, little update: I mc naturally at home this afternoon, was really painful but quite straightforward really (having read loads of horror stories!) and much nicer than being in hospital. They are referring me to recurrent miscarriage clinic so in the new year I think we will continue ntnp but with hopefully a bit more care and attention when I do fall pregnant again.

I must apologise for hijacking your pregnancy thread , please carry on talking about nice things; I will watch with interest

Hope you all have a great Christmas with your families and bumps, and I will be reporting back with bfp news as soon as I can, and in the meantime I will lurk shamelessly

Love to all xxx

 

[EverythingXd]

Hinky you are no hijacker! This thread is for all of us to keep in touch and share our updates no matter what stage of the journey we are at. I understand that you might need a break from us, but please know that we are always here for you

Does the natural MC mean that you definitely avoid a D&C or will they examine you to make sure it was complete?

I know it's probably a cold comfort, but on a positive note you do seem to conceive quite quickly so hopefully the recurrent mc clinic will be able to help you with making sure your next bean is sticky

If you do decide to take a break from the thread, I wish you and your family a lovely Christmas and New Year, and look forward to hearing from you soon x x

 

[starlight2801]

Hinky you are no hijacker! This thread is for all of us to keep in touch and share our updates no matter what stage of the journey we are at. I understand that you might need a break from us, but please know that we are always here for you

Echo this Hinky

This thread isn't exclusively a pregnancy thread and is only in a pregnancy part of the forum because we needed it to go somewhere.

You're very much part of the group and we'd love to still here about your NTNP and what happens when you are referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic in the new year.

Equally we'd understand if you do want a take a break but please, please don't think that you can't post or that we're not interested xxx

 

[hinkybinky]

Thank you ladies I have a scan on Christmas Eve to ensure everything is clear, but I am pretty sure it is as there is no more pain and just minimal bleeding now. Am feeling surprisingly philosophical - I don't think we'd got excited or talked about "when the baby is born" due to previous losses, and only a handful of people knew, so at least there's not that crushing disappointment and having to untell everyone.

Don't worry, you have not heard the last from me! Have a happy Christmas all xxx