The POAS Addiction Support Group

[Eltjuh]

Just a quick question....if af starts in the evening but is light flow rather than spotting do you still record that as cd 1? I know you only record it as cd 1 if it's full flow and not if it's just spotting...

 

[Lara310809]

Yes, I do. I heard that whatever day you first see it, no matter HOW you see it, it's CD1.

 

[adopim]

I always marked CD 1 as the first day I saw blood whether it was light or heavy.

 

[LoveSanrio]

Yeah, same here. I never spot before AF, but with light flow I always marked it as CD1.

 

[Eltjuh]

So even if it starts in the evening yeah???
Mine usually starts in the morning so I wasn't sure! Can't wait for it to be over already so we can start trying again. Have put some CB fertility monitors in my watch list on ebay so I'm gonna see if I can score one of those cheap!

Lara, I get what you mean about not skipping dates! I was gonna skip March cause I'd be due in December, but then I thought we'll sort something out for money for birthday and christmas, we always do! And I was gonna skip May cause then I'd be due in february again and didn't want to have 2 kids born on or around the same day. But I'm not so bothered now as I just want to have another one! It's like we were trying for a girl at first aswell, so not BDing too close to O but now we do, cause I'd rather just be pregnant and have a baby than having to try for ages for the (small) chance and no guarantee of a girl. So I figured it wasn't really worth it! Just go for it as much as you can haha!

 

[adopim]

I always put it at CD1 no matter what time of day it was

As far as planning the birth month, I just wanted to be pregnant. Haha. Will probably be that way with the rest of our children (we are hoping for 4 total.... Hoping at least one will be a boy, but probably won't try a thing special)
My first (unexpected) was born in December. I was worried at first, but it's worked out just fine every year so far

 

[twiggers]

x

 

[Lara310809]

Eltjuh - I read an article about how the Shettles method (the idea that the male sperm are faster but die faster, therefore BD on the day if ovulation to conceive a boy) is wrong. It's really interesting; have a read:

https://genderdreaming.com/2013/03/the-trouble-with-timing-dr-shettles-got-it-wrong/

Basically do what you want, but realise it won't heighten your chances of getting your desired gender. I hate to think people are abstaining during ovulation, or in the run-up, in the hope of conceiving a certain gender, when the theory has been proven wrong Apparently abstinence sways pink though

 

[Eltjuh]

Yeah I know, I wasn't sure whether it would work anyway. Plus abstaining around O will obviously decrease your chances of conceiving. And I just want to be pregnant now! Not bothered whether it's a boy or girl, I would be over the moon with either one!!

 

[Lara310809]

Yeah I know, I wasn't sure whether it would work anyway. Plus abstaining around O will obviously decrease your chances of conceiving. And I just want to be pregnant now! Not bothered whether it's a boy or girl, I would be over the moon with either one!!

me too; TTC is crushing. We haven't been TTC for very long but it's not easy, however long you're in it

 

[Eltjuh]

I know! We haven't tried that long either! But it gets harder every month!
After our mc I've just been desperate! And getting more desperate every month we haven't conceived!!
We started ttc again in December cause I didn't start my period after the mc until end of november. But in December and January cycles we didn't manage to time it properly cause of hubby's meds. February we only managed to time 2 BDes properly and March was our first month of being able to PROPERLY go for it!! (BDed 3 days before O and on O day)

This month I'm planning to BD every other day from CD10 and BD every day from CD14-19 cause I usually O on CD18. But obviously I might need to adjust that as we go with OPKs and temping....

 

[Lara310809]

I can't see a progression with my OPKs; I got a positive on CD18 or something, but CD17's OPK may aswell have been 10 days away for the strength of the line. I think next cycle, if we don't get a BFP this time, we'll need to BD every other day, like you say, from CD14 or something. trouble is with two kids (one of which is up every 1-2hrs for feeds during the evening/night) and with a husband who's on shifts, it's hard to fid the time.

I can't help thinking the BDing we did this month wasnt enough. We BD the day I ovulated (but that morning I'd got a second positive OPK, and we BD'd an hour later), and the following day (6pm) aswell. Who knows...

last month was a crazy cycle (ovulated on CD6 and had a 38 day cycle). this month I ovulated on CD18 or so, and I should have around 32 day cycle, which is more "normal" for me. At least I know to expect my ovulation earlier in the month so can aim better for next time.

 

[GingerPanda]

So DH had his SA today, and I ended up not going with him.

He said the lady handed him a cup and sent him into a room full of porno mags, a porn VHS tape playing on a beat up old TV, and a vinyl couch (presumably for the easy clean-up of accidents). GROSS.

He was like "I just couldn't do it in there, so I went out of the room to the bathroom and just did it in there."

He was afraid he didn't do very well though, because he said he "only got a little bit. More than a teaspoon, but not like a whole tablespoon or anything." I was like, "Honey, you DO know that the average amount from a single ejaculation is like half to a whole teaspoon, right? Your mega loads are just legendary."

He felt a bit better after that.

 

[clynn11]

Ladies! Your convos crack me up!! My POAS addiction tapered off a bit after getting evaps on literally every brand of test known to man (even OSOMs). But... i'm back!! Lol. Took a FRER today at 7dpo, swore I saw a faint something in the case so of COURSE I had to take it out and look in true POAS addict fashion. I'm leaning towards evap.. since that's what all of my 'lines' end up being lol.

LoveSanrio- Congrats on your BFP!!!!! So wonderful!!!

 

[Eltjuh]

Looks like we might be joining in the SA conversations soon.... Just found out that hubby's meds (antidepressants) affect his spermcount, motility and quality... So we're gonna be going to the doctor's this week to see what our options are and I reckon they might do a SA aswell...

 

[GingerPanda]

Ladies! Your convos crack me up!! My POAS addiction tapered off a bit after getting evaps on literally every brand of test known to man (even OSOMs). But... i'm back!! Lol. Took a FRER today at 7dpo, swore I saw a faint something in the case so of COURSE I had to take it out and look in true POAS addict fashion. I'm leaning towards evap.. since that's what all of my 'lines' end up being lol.

LoveSanrio- Congrats on your BFP!!!!! So wonderful!!!

Evap on the OSOMs! I don't believe it! Maybe it was just detecting naturally low levels of hcG in your body. They're that bloody sensitive.

I can't tell about the current test you've posted. It's kinda dark. I hope it's the beginning of a BFP!

Looks like we might be joining in the SA conversations soon.... Just found out that hubby's meds (antidepressants) affect his spermcount, motility and quality... So we're gonna be going to the doctor's this week to see what our options are and I reckon they might do a SA aswell...

Oh no! I'm sorry to hear that, Eltjuh! They probably will do an SA, but I hope everything comes out okay! Even if his meds are affecting it badly, is there any way he can stop them temporarily, or switch to something else that doesn't affect them? I don't know if there are anti-depressants that don't...

 

[Blackrain90]

Clynn I definitely see something there, it's really early so who knows, hopefully it's the start of your BFP!

 

[clynn11]

GingerPanda- I thought that too, but had plenty of OSOM tests with NO line at all!

 

[clynn11]

Eltjuh- Sorry to hear that! Are there any other meds that he could switch to that do not affect it? Or maybe he could get a fertility vitamin to kind of boost em up?! GL, I hope the SA turns out good!

Blackrain- How have you been feeling?! You're 12 weeks already how crazy!! Getting any vibes on what your LO's sex may be?

 

[GingerPanda]

GingerPanda- I thought that too, but had plenty of OSOM tests with NO line at all!

BAH! She's a witch! BURN HER! Seriously, though. That's weird.

Hmm, still can't quite tell if that has color, but I can definitely see it much more clearly in the new pics. How many DPO are you?