Things I cannot say out loud....

[BrokenfoREVer]

Nats. Hope your okay.

Lettuce I'm sorry about your cats. I'm thinking about getting rid of one of mine ):

Hope your okay Ozzie

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I just hate my parents knowing about our money issues and getting fucking lectured. My credit card company found their number on my account and called them and I'm getting moaned at because of it. I'm so fucking sorry I'm not fucking perfect

 

[Natsku]

Your credit card company phoned your parents??!!

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Yup. Both of them did. And they have my international numbers too. My parents' number wasn't even on one of the accounts. They had to go find my dad and my brother and call them and then I got told about it. Yeah. My life is kinda crap right now.

 

[Natsku]

Can they even do that?Surely its not allowed?!

 

[Sparkes]

What the fuck Ozzieshunni....I would be kicking off. Big style.

OH: I know you have been out with us all day, but do you have to make it sound like such a chore? I want a break too to go out with my friends, except you don't see me sitting here whinging like a little girl to try and get my own way. I swear to god I already have two children sometimes

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

Oh Ozzie. That abso sucks! They need to realise you're all grown up now & can take care of your own issues without a lecture.

I'd be furious with the company & tbh furious with my parents for thinking they could have a go at me.

 

[Lettuce]

Is that even legal to phone your parents?! Surely not. I'd be raging!! And even if they phoned they should never have mentioned what it was in connection with. That's disgraceful.
Ah broken, it's so hard but I'm not sure what I can do about the cats, I feel like such a bad person.

 

[tanya]

My mil got a call the other day saying there was a parcel waiting fr me and could she tell them my address, it was a debt cpany fishing for my details she told them to get bent, they've been ringing me four or for times a day ever since, I usually decline the call but I've answered to tell them to fuck off, there's not even anyone there, there must be a machine set up to hassle me. Fuck them.

Fil has been told today its confirmed kidney cancer that's spread to his lungs, he has large masses on both but he's too weak for treatment so we are all upside down waiting to speak to an oncologist tomorrow.

 

[Lettuce]

oh Tanya, I'm so sorry. Maybe they can build him up a bit to have some treatment. It's so crap. xxx

 

[tanya]

He doesn't know where he is at the mo, his lucid moment seem to be getting further apart, apparently the dr told him he had cancer this morning and he forgot, mil asked the dr for an update when she got there and she said "don't you know" they don't seem to believe us how out of it and confused he is.
Hopefully they can get him up to the point where he can have treatment but I dunno... I don't know what to think or do.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I know. I was told by one company it should have NEVER happened as the number wasn't on the account and they had to go into my dad's to get it. They never said what it was about, but they called like three days in a row!

 

[Natsku]

so sorry Tanya

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

Tanya I'm so sorry.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Tanya I'm so sorry to hear that.

 

[tanya]

Thanks ladies.
Bad news I'm afraid, it's terminal and there's nothing they can do, they're speaking in terms of upto three months. Macmillan are involved now and they are being brilliant but the only hope left is that they can get him comfortable enough and not have him in pain, Macmillan have taken over his care and told the drs to get him off morphine coz he's off his head, they've started weaning him off it already but tonight he's so confused and upset that he's convinced himself that it's a fake hospital and they're all lying to him. Dh and I are going to see him tomorrow but Flynn isnt, he's too confused and has been threatening to beat up his bil today so were keeping Flynn away till he's more lucid.
The hospital and Macmillan are working together to set up a plan to send him home, there's nothing they can do at the hospital so they are sending him home to die, we have to plan a meeting at a hospice for him to go for respite coz mil I disabled and is gonna struggle to look after him.
I can't cry. I have to be strong for everyone. I mustn't let them see how upset I am coz they all need support.
You ladies are the only ones I can tell that I'm dying inside and I don't know how to tell Flynn that there's only a 2% chance that his grandad will survive to see his second birthday.
Luckily he's too young to understand.

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

Oh Tanya, I'm so so so so sorry for you & your family.

We're all here for you hun, but please remember that you need support too & your DH needs to support you as much as you support him.

Big big big big I'm sorry...I don't know what to say to help

 

[tanya]

I don't think there is anything that could be said.
Mil is devastated, it's their 40th wedding anniversary soon, they're soulmates and we've always joked that one couldnt function without the other.
He's going to need carers when he comes home, I'm qualified and worked in care for more than ten years, it's apt that I volunteer to do a lot of it. Im not sure how i feel about that, I cared for my dad for years as he died of heart disease, I am fully capable of doing thae practical day to day care that he needs (I can even administer injections and do stoma care and catheter care if he ever needs one) I'm not sure how I will deal with it psychologically.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Tanya

My MIL passed from cancer not even a month after DH and I got married She never saw Alex, but I know he has someone up there looking out for him. You never know though, people defy the odds all the time Sending good thoughts and lots of love to you and yours.

 

[Natsku]

Huge Tanya