Things I cannot say out loud....

[Emmy1987]

OH - why is it that if you're exhausted during the night feeds I tell you to go back to bed and get some sleep, but you NEVER return the favour?! I was up and on the go from 5am yesterday until midnight, I did over five hours of driving and I'm EXHAUSTED.

And you just asked me to finish winding cause you can't do it. You'll probably get back in bed and go to sleep now.

Fuck off.

 

[Lettuce]

Jennifer.... The nipple is NOT a chew toy!!!!!

 

[Kalah]

To OH

Thats it. Enough is enough. I'm done. I cannot keep having the same fight with you day after day, so I won't be having it again. I love you more than life, but you have really let me down. I will do all the baby care for our beautiful daughter. I will see her smile and giggle, coo and babble. Your "I can't feed her, she doesn't like me doing it" excuses have worn too thin. Have you ever thought that the reason she doesn't like you feeding her is because you have no patience, give up as soon as she spits a bit out, and hand her back to me? Who the feck do I get to give her to at 4am, when she's fidgeting and spitting it out? No-one, so I get on with it. Next time you wake her up because you've "not had a cuddle", over stimulate her and then pass her to me to calm her down and get her to sleep, I will slap you. I swore she would not grow up as I did - with a father who made her feel that the TV/computer/news etc was more important than her, but I guess that's what's going to happen as you're either too stubborn or too ignorant to change. If it wasn't for the fact that e-mails/skype and FB are the easiest way for both my family and best friend to see LO from hundreds of miles away, I would cancel the internet, but why should I suffer because you're too obsessed to moderate your time on it? You are 37, not 17. And quit with the "I'm a crap father" whinge. I never said that - I said you are a bloody lazy father. You would make a brilliant father if you actually got off your arse and did it.

And I should not have to tell you 4 times to stop touching me up. Once should have been enough. I have not had my post natal check yet, and have a hole in my wound the size of a drawing pin head. I do not want sex at the moment, and quite frankly, after how you've been acting, you'll be lucky to get it at all. Next time, I will carry throu my threat to sleep on the sofa. And don't you EVER dare moan again that I am not paying you enough attention. If you pay me and your daughter some attention, maybe I'll bother paying you some. But, what's that, sorry? Oh yeah, you're too busy on FB.

I really needed to get that out....

Could have written all that myself!

 

[Kalah]

to OH - When I get so fed up with you and tell you I'm not sure this is working out and I'm not sure I want to be with you anymore don't reply with "fine if that's what you want go back to america and be homeless, you'll probably have your baby taken away too"
Not very reassuring!!!

Oh and FFS check yourself into the mental hospital again!! You seriously need to be there, I'm not joking at all or being mean you really really need help you are not ok! You keep saying it yourself that you think you should go back there and that you're really not ok so do it! Don't think for a second I won't try to find a way to have you put in there myself, you have problems and I'm sick and tired of them making my life hell.

 

[chichestermum]

dear birthing ball, stay the hell still while i attempt to sit on you! its also not ok for you to decide to stay still and then once i get into a comfy position make me lose my balance and throw me off the back of you! believe it or not, legs a kimbo up in the air with my back and head stuck on the pillows i put on the floor for safety is not a comfy or easy to get out of position!
i know its your fault and next time i will take a knife to you!



ETA: i suppose i can say that out loud, sure id look a bit mental, but who doesn't on a birthing ball lol

 

[MrsPOP]

Dear LO - I'm sorry I'm such a terrible mother.
Dear DH - I'm sorry I'm such a terrible wife.

 

[chichestermum]

Dear LO - I'm sorry I'm such a terrible mother.
Dear DH - I'm sorry I'm such a terrible wife.

im sure your not terrible at either of these things hun
im sure your a great mummy and a wife can only be as good as their husband xxx


ETA your LO is such a cutie, that pic is amazing! each time i come on this thread it makes me smile! xx

 

[Kalah]

Dear LO - I'm sorry I'm such a terrible mother.
Dear DH - I'm sorry I'm such a terrible wife.

im sure your not terrible at either of these things hun
im sure your a great mummy and a wife can only be as good as their husband xxx


ETA your LO is such a cutie, that pic is amazing! each time i come on this thread it makes me smile! xx

I second all this!

 

[Lauki]

Dear LO - I'm sorry I'm such a terrible mother.
Dear DH - I'm sorry I'm such a terrible wife.

I'm sure your brilliant at both of them . Don't let anything get you down!!
!

 

[MrsPOP]

Thanks guys. Just having a really low day

 

[chichestermum]

Thanks guys. Just having a really low day

we al have low days, and were all here to support each other on those low days and of course here to rant to
xxx

 

[Lettuce]

MrsPOP, I had a really bad time about 4weeks pp, I was ready to take j back to hospital and give her to them- sure they'd do a better job... I thought she hated me.


Then she learned to smile.... It saved me no one will be a better mother to your child than you. You mean everything to her!
As for being a good wife... Hell, you've given him a beautiful daughter! Of course you're a good wife! xxxx

 

[Lauki]

When Soph started to be a bit more content and aware it became much easier for me. And like Lettuce says, when they start smiling it brightens your whole day!
We all have bad days, but you have plenty good ones coming!

Btw Lettuce, still waiting on pics of Jenny !

 

[Lettuce]

I know! I'm a terrible mother! going to steal the laptop and upload some... xx

 

[Mizze]

Mrs POP

Its freakin hard at the start - I look back now and marvel. And you have had you LO's health to worry about too so

We all have crap days but it does get easier -honest - different and still totally consuming but a bit easier. xxxxx


Mizze xxx

 

[Ozzieshunni]

MrsPop

 

[HungryHippo]

Dear LO - I'm sorry I'm such a terrible mother.
Dear DH - I'm sorry I'm such a terrible wife.

I feel the same every now and then.

 

[HungryHippo]

To MIL:

Stop asking Madison if she was a "good girl today". She isn't even two weeks old. There is no possible way that she wasn't a good girl.

You can lie and say that you quit smoking, but when you come home smelling like Bath and Body Works, it's obvious what you're trying to cover up.

Don't bitch about not getting to hold her enough!!! Especially when you haven't asked to hold her today, I'm not just gonna hand her to you because I want to hold her! She's MY kid, I carried her for 41 weeks and if I want to hold her 24/7 I will!!!!

Quit telling me every time I walk by that I'm such a good mom and you can't believe it. I know I'm a good mom, I try really hard. Not only am I sick of hearing it, but what, did you think I'd be a bad mom????

No, you can't hold her right now. It took me an hour to get her to fall asleep, and I'd rather you not wake her up!

If you didn't live with me, you wouldn't get to see LO every single day. Don't take advantage of that.



Right this second, I'm onthe couch and Madison is sleeping in my lap. MIL has been staring at her for the last 10 minutes. GET A FREAKING LIFE, and you see that I'm angrily typing on my phone so stop trying to talk to me.




She drives me nuts

Oh, the part about wanting to hold her after she's fallen asleep....why don't people get this?!?!?

 

[cowboys angel]

Neurologist:

Fuck you. It sucks that just cuz of our low overall income, you can push me off to the side.

A couple months!? I might hear from you in a couple months due to what insurance I have!?

Fuck you

 

[MrsPOP]

Thanks lovely ladies I feel a bit better. Alice has been smiling for quite a while, although everyone says it's wind I know it isnt always as she's so alert and you can tell she recognises me and DH. She's wonderful, truly wonderful.

I think it's just the aftershock of the heart thing from Wednesday.

Plus I feel bad like in that I don't feel I'm doing well as a mum. DH is doing so much of the care and he's looking after me so well and I feel guilty. I should be doing more and te house is a disgrace. I can't keep using the post op recovery excuse, because I'm doing really well (except for the slightly open scar).

I also think I'm moopy because I tried to initiate some Naughty-Time and DH didn't want to. It's because he was scared of hurting me and because of my scar (which is healing really well and covered by a dressing) which is totally understandable...but I feel really fat and ugly and it didn't help.

*slaps self* I just need to suck it up and get on with it.