Things I cannot say out loud....

[Lettuce]

Maybe it's just that he's been a giant cockwomble that's made you feel that way just now... Or maybe it's just cos girls are just better! (except mils) xx

 

[Kalah]

Not sure Kalah, just wanted to offer

Thanks
Sometimes I wonder if it's just because of the things that have happened to me in the past making me less interested in men, which it probably is, but it's frustrating!
Honestly I think to myself every day trying to decide if I really want to continue being married. I've always been the type that likes to be alone, not stuck in a relationship with any person, so it's hard adjusting this and I keep wondering if getting married was the right thing to do.

 

[cowboys angel]

Not sure Kalah, just wanted to offer

Thanks
Sometimes I wonder if it's just because of the things that have happened to me in the past making me less interested in men, which it probably is, but it's frustrating!
Honestly I think to myself every day trying to decide if I really want to continue being married. I've always been the type that likes to be alone, not stuck in a relationship with any person, so it's hard adjusting this and I keep wondering if getting married was the right thing to do.

I understand. My whole life I've had to hide "that part" of me. Now that I'm with someone that doesn't care and is okay with me exploring that part of me, I'm worried that I'll lose interest in him at some point.

And I KNOW things from my past and have lessened my interest in men. I love my OH, but for the most part, I avoid men, I won't talk to them, etc.

 

[Kalah]

Not sure Kalah, just wanted to offer

Thanks
Sometimes I wonder if it's just because of the things that have happened to me in the past making me less interested in men, which it probably is, but it's frustrating!
Honestly I think to myself every day trying to decide if I really want to continue being married. I've always been the type that likes to be alone, not stuck in a relationship with any person, so it's hard adjusting this and I keep wondering if getting married was the right thing to do.

I understand. My whole life I've had to hide "that part" of me. Now that I'm with someone that doesn't care and is okay with me exploring that part of me, I'm worried that I'll lose interest in him at some point.

And I KNOW things from my past and have lessened my interest in men. I love my OH, but for the most part, I avoid men, I won't talk to them, etc.

Me too! I go a step beyond avoiding them though, if any guy (other than an old man or child) says anything to me (other than do you have the time, or has X bus came by?) I'm just a complete and utter bi**h. I can't help it..well maybe I could, but it makes me feel good

Just yesterday I was in asda and went to the pharmacy counter to get co-codamol (tylenol 3 in the US). Now I get this stuff about once a month, it's enough for 3 days so it's a nice occasional break from my constant pain, anyway the guy comes up to the counter and he's indian so his skin was kind of light brown. I am not a racist at all, but the person who held me captive was light brown skinned so now every time I see a man with that skin tone I can't help but feel nervous and anxious and a little scared. He started asking me a bunch of questions like my age, what I need the medicine for, etc.. and he was actually being quite an ass about it all. I've never been asked anything other than "what other medications are you on" (which he forgot to ask!) So the combination of him looking a way that I don't like and his being an ass I had to put all my energy into not going completely psycho, I actually wanted to jump over the counter and strangle him. It was really bad.
Just to reiterate though I'm not racist at all, it's only that particular colour of skin on men between the age of 20/early 30s with big-ish eyes that make me feel uncomfortable.

 

[Lettuce]

That's totally understandable, of course you would feel uneasy/threatened around people that looked like your captor, what a terrible thing to happen to you
Perhaps you have become more attracted to females as you feel safer with them after your ordeal. Sorry, shouldn't be trying to analyse, you've prob had all that. Just huge xxxx

 

[MissFox]

I have men issues also but mostly I wonder a lot if I made the right decision to get married. Its a bitch thinking about all the time

 

[Ozzieshunni]

DH: again you have made me so pissed off with you. I'm getting sick you fuckwit. I'm up every night so you can get some sleep for work but I guess you also forget the lie in I let you have last weekend. Guess what? Never again.

 

[jvbaby]

my turn and i really need this.........

to my hubby's family
no you cant come over whenever you want with out calling and be loud when you see that the baby is asleep, and continue to speak in the same tone after I "ssshhhhh'd you"

when you say you're coming alone or if we invite you over don't bring other people

stop buying my baby clothes, he has tons that hes growing out of

no you cant take my baby to get professional pic done, i want to do that

and yes my baby is a big bf baby get over it

oh and one more thing stop kiss/slobbering on his face/cheeks

to MIL

stop putting my baby's face close to your breast, you had 8 that you bf get over it your time has passed, and no its not cute if he turns toward your boobs.

stop trying analyze or say that "by saying this or doing that means..."

to my dad

no the baby doesn't need water, he only needs my milk

yes i will always buckle my baby in his car seat even if he's asleep, and i don't care if you're sitting in the back with him i want to have a safe baby.

and no i don't want to take my baby to crowded places and if i keep a cover over him its to keep flying germs off him, or hes asleep and will stay asleep when its dark, if you don't like it leave

and yes the baby will sleep in the car when its moving, don't ask to stay in the car with the baby while its stopped for me to be quick at the store because i know he will start to cry and you just don't seem to get that, and when i get back to the car you're like man he wouldn't stop crying.... when i F'n told you so.

and i don't care what your friends say about babies, i'm raising him how i want

i feel a lot better now!!!!

Thanks

 

[lindseymw]

To DH,

When you come in from nights, please please can you try & be a bit quieter, i.e not slam doors & bang up the stairs so you wake the kids up. & when I've been up til after midnight, then back up again at 4am for an hour, can you just come in & go to sleep, you are seriously not getting any sex from me.

 

[NewMummyx]

to OH:

yes I put the light on at 4am this morning, LO had a dirty nappy and i dont have night vision goggles so get the look of anger of your face right now!
You have NEVER done a nightfeed or offered to get up with LO in the morning so I can have a lie in so dont fucking tell me about how you need your sleep for work, i havent had a decent sleep since LO WAS BORN!!!

 

[ablacketer]

to OH:
I hate you for not being able to hear the baby in the night, especially since he is in his crib IN OUR ROOM!

it would have been nice on our aniversary if you had let ME sleep in with the baby for 30 minutes or even by myself instead of you getting to before I went to work and you were off. and when I told you it would be nice if you would get Rylan from the daycare once in a while so I could just come straight home, rolling your eyes and laughing at me then getting pissed that that pissed me off and yelling "happy f**king anniversary" and THEN not bothering to get the baby on the one day that it would have really made me happy to do so is not going to be forgiven any time soon.

and instead of doing the things you WANT to do for me, how about you do the things I ASK you to do. yes its nice that you did something I didnt ask you to do, but its totally undone by you not doing the things I ASKED you to.

 

[divadexie]

OH - why the hell should I get up out of bed and make you a coffee and iron your shirt while you get to have an extra 10 mins in bed? You move about and squash me that much in the night that I am still as tired as I was when I went to bed, when I wake up!
Also, I HATE HATE HATE ironing!!!!!!! And if it wasn't for the fact that my friend has said she will do some ironing for me if I walk her dogs, I would be taking it to the bloody launrette. I wouldn't mind it so much but I have to iron you 2 trousers and 5/6 shirts a week and what do you ever do for me?


Dear Friend yes you have only had you dog since december and he had NO training before that but that was 8 months ago and tbh he isn't much better now! He is not very fun to walk. I would not be doing the walking if you had not asked me the huge favour. Please get ontop of his training when you get back

Other friend- when I send you a text is because I either dont have time or dont want to be on the phone, so don't phone me every time I text, just write a reply back! Also the last thing I want to do at 10pm is be on the phone for over half an hour, even after I keep saying I have stuff to do.
If your new dogs whine as much as these foster dogs do, Im not looking after them once a week it drives me mental.

 

[MummyinJune]

I got some more
-He is not crying bcoz hes got wind! hes crying bcoz he has none and hes hungry so stop trying to get him 3 burp!
-oooh pls do not put ur fingers in his mouth!
-He is screaming - he has been screaming 4 ages GIVE HIM 2 ME he wants his mum!!!
-I am NOT going to go and get his hair cut now he is only 7weeks old he is fine!! stop saying it
-Stop saying he looks like my 2nd cousin just coz hes (Threw marage) ur 2nd cousin 2 he looks NOTHING like him hes the double of me when i was a baby
-i am not treating him like a 'plant' I do take him outside and when i cant get out the windows open hes getting plenty fresh air i dont need 2 be outside 4 a few hours every day!
-Yes his hands r almost always cold the rest of him is fine so stop saying it every time
-Leave him hes sleeping!
-Stop rolling ur eyes when i say hes reconising me!
-dont play with him when im trying to put him 2 sleep!
-Just bcoz he has hair he does NOT look like an old man!!!!
-I want him back coz i want a cuddle - yes ive had him all day but he is MY son and i want a cuddle now that hes awake !!

 

[shambaby]

to fil:

no, hayden cannot play with your packet of pills. yes it does make a great noise, and i'm sure he would love it, but no, he can't have it. and don't hold it out in front of his face and tease him when i have said no. moron.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

How is it right in his mind to let a 10 month old play with a packet of pills???? Does he know how dangerous that is? Some people.

 

[Kalah]

How is it right in his mind to let a 10 month old play with a packet of pills???? Does he know how dangerous that is? Some people.

I let my LO shake around my pill bottles
I watch her while she does it though and they're childproof, but yeah she would tear open a packet!

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Bottles are totally different because most have childproof caps You could try dried beans or rice in a bottle as well

Most of DH's pills are in packets so I've already told him when Alex starts crawling and walking those will need to be locked away.

 

[Daisygirl82]

I got some more
-He is not crying bcoz hes got wind! hes crying bcoz he has none and hes hungry so stop trying to get him 3 burp!
-oooh pls do not put ur fingers in his mouth!
-He is screaming - he has been screaming 4 ages GIVE HIM 2 ME he wants his mum!!!
-I am NOT going to go and get his hair cut now he is only 7weeks old he is fine!! stop saying it
-Stop saying he looks like my 2nd cousin just coz hes (Threw marage) ur 2nd cousin 2 he looks NOTHING like him hes the double of me when i was a baby
-i am not treating him like a 'plant' I do take him outside and when i cant get out the windows open hes getting plenty fresh air i dont need 2 be outside 4 a few hours every day!
-Yes his hands r almost always cold the rest of him is fine so stop saying it every time
-Leave him hes sleeping!
-Stop rolling ur eyes when i say hes reconising me!
-dont play with him when im trying to put him 2 sleep!
-Just bcoz he has hair he does NOT look like an old man!!!!
-I want him back coz i want a cuddle - yes ive had him all day but he is MY son and i want a cuddle now that hes awake !!

I can relate to almost everything you wrote. Especially the last one. Why is it that we never get to hold our babies when we are around other people. Especially grandparents.

 

[Kalah]

Bottles are totally different because most have childproof caps You could try dried beans or rice in a bottle as well

Most of DH's pills are in packets so I've already told him when Alex starts crawling and walking those will need to be locked away.

Yeah I accidentally left a packet of paracetamol out once where I didn't think Kili could reach and she got hold of it and already had one of the foil seals nearly all the way open before I got it back from her! Way to scare me!

 

[shambaby]

as i said the man is a moron. it was a foil packet, not even in a box. he thought it was ok because it was 'only throat sweets'! ok, so it might not be hard drugs, but there must be some kind of drug in there. and can you say choking hazard? muppet